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how can i change for guys?
ok so, i know there are a lot of questions out there like what do guys see in girls, or the opposite. well thats sorta what im getting to here. im 15/f and im having so much trouble here, and i need some real advice, not just a stupid answer. i know this is wierd, but ive only had one boyfriend, and it was elementary school for a long time but i dont really count it, because we didnt kiss and stuff, i mean come on i still thought boys had cooties. but i feel really out of place at my school and with my friends. they all have had boyfriends and i havent even had my first kiss. i dont think im that pretty but im not like hideous. im friends with guys but when i start having feelings for them, they like my other friends and it hurts everytime. guys see me as more of a friend, not a girlfriend. i give such good advice to my friends on there relationships, but i dont get why because im not experienced at all. and it just hurts me so much because im helping other people and not getting in return. i try to tell my friends, but they go oh your pretty, youll find someone. they dont give me any advice at all. and i dont know i think theres something wrong with me because no guy really likes me, theres nothing really special about me or anything.
my real question that needs to be answered is what can i do to make guys want me, like what do guys look for in a girl. how do i catch guys attention. ijust feel like theres no guy at my school right for me, even though i know i dont know them all. i just dont know what to do, i feel so bad for myself because im a sophomore and i havent even had my first kiss. and i dont know anymore. i get so sad because my close friends know, and they make fun of me behind my back. i think they feel bad for me but they dont know what to say. they invite me to movies but they always have guys there and there all make out and stuff. and i just sit there.
some please help me i dont know whats wrong, i need to change so guys like me. sorry its long, thank you so much if you read all of it
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Alright.
In high school, guys are too immature to well control their urges and to be decent relationship partners (for the most part)
High school also only lasts 4 years. Then you will go off to college, where you have exposure to a large number of people who are not immature little brats. You do not want to spend the next 4 years changing yourself to be someone you arent for guys who wont matter less than a month after you graduate.
Be who you are. It will be important to you later.
Also, check this out.
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This is called a "coy smile"
This is possibly one of the most potent weapons in a woman's arsenal. With a little tweaking it can range from cute to incredibly sexy. You dont have to wear skimpy clothing or change anything about yourself to be able to use this to run a guy over like a freight train.
Attraction is all about body language. A woman who is conscious of her body language can manipulate a guy (we're actually pretty easy once you start figuring it out)without saying a word.
And besides, itll be much more useful in the long run to learn to manipulate men than it will be to change yourself for a kind of guy you wont be dating in a few years.
Try it. Practice that smile in a mirror until you are confident you can throw it out there without looking goofy and without having to watch yourself to know you got it right.
Then flash it at a guy.
9/10 times it will stop a guy in his tracks. I learned that from a GF I had in high school myself, she would do it to guys just to watch someone walk into her locker, it was hilarious.
But yeah. Smiling. Slight contact, these things can bring interest. Finding an excuse to touch a guy's arm, chest, neck or face is always good. One of the most effective ways Ive seen it done is a girl telling a guy to close his eyes, and pretending to pick an eyelash off his face. He's never going to know there wasnt one there, but when you lightly pinched at him to "get the eyelash off" his heartbeat is going to quicken a bit ;-)
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omg. you are like a sister from another mister. NO JOKE...yes, i COMPLETELY understand where you are coming from. I haven't ever had a boyfriend or my 1st kiss. i'm 14/f..and i'm a SOPHMORE. SO I CAN RELATE. YOU are not the problem. the guys you meet are. See most guys are interested in breasts,butt,sluttiness. But then again, some boys like a girl, that isn't slutty or stupid. And you're one of them. Most guys are blind to a girl's inner beauty and their wonderful personality. You probably are just meeting or hanging out with the same types of guys like i was doing. You need to broaden your horizons..and when you meet a guy just flirt and have confidence, AND DON'T FORGET TO SMILE [guys love that..TRUST ME]..And there is a guy for you at your school..you were seeing but wasn't really looking. But don't worry,becuase what happened to me was, a guy that i never expected to like, is now talking to me and he's about to be my boyfriend. The point is that once a guy you like, and he likes you back. You will feel so happy and wonderful. You'll feel head over heels even though your not in love..lol...It's just the best feeling that i've ever had in a long time, and i'm sure any girl loves that feeling too.
HOPE I HELPED
***HERSHI WISHES HUGS AND KISSES***
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girl you dont need to change
just be yourself but dont give all your feelings out
if a guy cant accept you for who you are then f*** them
nice guys look for a relationship someone truthfull and funny and sweet
which girls are naturally inclined to being [lol]
but jerks come along every so often and you know what they want [sex] just be your self and keep talking to guys one will come along trust me i know cuz i was in your shoes not too long ago =]
good luck ♥christina
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dont change for ANY guy.
just flirt a little. but dont be a slut.
be yourself, soon enough, someone will find you
xx tiffany
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