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I'm 17/m
at the beginning of this semester we got this new guy in our class. he calls himself and emo and wears skinny jeans and even eyeliner. he doesnt have many friends. I started talking to him and hes actually really nice and i think i'm starting to get feelings for him?! i think about him all the time when im not with him and when i am i sometimes just feel like kissing him and taking him into my arms. i just dont know how to handle this. I'm pretty much the only person he talks to but i dont think he's gay coz he always checks out girls. ive never had feelings for a guy before so im not used to this. ive never had a real girlfriend and never had deep feelings for anyone except for him? hes not really manly and seems like he often needs protection. hes also pretty like a girl. so do i feel attracted to him because of that? i think im falling in love here.
im really scared to tell him how i feel coz it might ruin our friendship. im his only friend and hes always happy to see me i mean he never smiles except for when hes talking to me. does that means something?
i dont even CARE about what others might think. hes just more important
i need advice FAST (link)
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Actually, I think you might be putting too much pressure on yourself to determine whether you are gay or not, as time may have already told you.
I think it is really endearing to see how sensitive and protective you are with him. It sounds as if you enjoy being around him, so just be. Your relationship will evolve to what it is meant to be, whether close friendship, just acquaintances, or a much more intimate relationship.
I believe people are put in our lives for a reason, and it sounds like this relationship is something that you both can learn from. Keep on being his friend, he will help you with your boundaries, be patient, keep on not caring what others think (I am sure he thinks this is your best quality), and you will learn a great deal about yourself.
And please don't fear being gay, fear not being you.
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So my boyfriend plans to come over to my house and I guess meet my parents...but see, the thing is, they don't know I have a boyfriend.
I think that they suspect it because I've never brought guys to my house before, because I've never wanted to have to deal with it.
Anyways, I want to tell them he's gay, so they think that I just have a gay friend so he can come over all the time.
And it would be totaly believable that he's gay, cuz he is kinda metro haha. (link)
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First off, forgive me, but from your question I can't tell if you are a girl or a guy with a boyfriend meeting your parents.
If you are a guy, I have some great advice for you... If you are a girl, sorry.
I lied to my parents about my boyfriend for 6 years!! I, too, told them that my friend was gay, and when they asked if I was gay I was like "No, GAAAHHDD", kinda like what Napolean Dynamite would say. At the time I imagined that this scenerio would be much better than dealing with my parents reaction to hearing that I am gay, not to mention accepting the fact myself. I threw my boyfriend under the bus but he didn't mind because we were (and still) in love. But my mom felt that there was some "guilt with association" and being that she was a complete homophobe, she thought that just by being friends with a gay person I must like gays, "others" would think I am gay, and I would soon be converted to "the dark side", using my words not hers.
Those 6 years were very tense. My relationship with my parents got much more worse because I felt it was them that kept me from sharing the most beautiful, exciting thing in my young adult life which was my love for my boyfriend. My older sister got divorced twice from complete losers during those six years and she recieved complete support, both emotional and financial, from my parents. This made me even more angry and resentful. My man is not a loser and I am in Love with him and Love is incredible, why should it matter who you fall in love with? Why can't they accept me? Why do they force me to lie? This is bullshit! But, and this is big, my boyfriend helped me to see, that my lies to my parents were just catching up to me. I didn't give my parents a chance to accept me because I didn't want to deal. They didn't force me to lie, I was forced to lie to cover up the lies that I chose to lie about. My parents were completely in the dark, and I was making them out to be the bad guys, even though they were both homophobes.
You see, when I came out of the closet, I took the ethical high road. The road was VERY bumpy because I had lied to them for so long. At first my mom felt vendicated because she predicted that "this guy would convert me", but I had to explain over and over that I was born gay. I finally took responsibility and I felt much better for it. I finally gave them the opportunity to react and made them responsible for their behaviors and their biggotry and their narrow mindedness. You see, in my situation, both my parents and I had to face some very bad parts of our characters. I delayed this face off for 6 years because at the time I thought this was the best thing to do, not to mention that at 18 I wasn't anywhere near emotionally mature as I was at 24. I protected my parents as I protected myself. I didn't count on falling deeply in love, I didn't count on growing resentful and angry.
Now, life is incredible.
I probably wouldn't of been able to come out of the closet when I was 18. I didn't properly accept it myself. Being raised by homophobes gave me a really bitter taste in my mouth in regards to other gays. I was a homophobic homosexual, and I was ashamed to tell my parents this. Having a relationship made it easier to confront my parents albeit 6 years later, but I had to confront my own feelings head on, with my boyfriend aside out of the picture. Just me dealing with my own identity. This is a very hard thing to do when you are 18 years old and everything around you is telling you that who you are is disgusting and even worse when you do fit in with the bad stereotypes.
I don't want to sound too corny or even preachy, but growing older is about becoming a better person. You can live day to day, living in bliss with your boyfriend. This is completely within your rights. But sometime you will have to deal. You'll be alright.
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This is going to be long.
My name is Alex.
So first off.. I've been going out with this really nice girl for about 9 months, and I really really like her. We've kissed, at least once a day (just a peck on the lips), and we've held hands whenever we're together. She tells me she loves me everyday, and I respond with the same. But I'm not sure if I really mean it as much as I did when I asked her out. See, before we started going out, I liked her for about 3 months (so about this time last year).
I'm afraid that this is foreshadowing my future love life. I'm afraid that I won't be able to make a commitment for when I go to get engaged and get married. I want sooooo bad to have kids, a wife, and a happy future, but I don't think that's going to happen. Please don't say that everything's going to be okay, I need some significant advice.
Also, unfortunately, I think I might be gay. Recently I've looked at gay porn, and I find it addicting. I don't want this for my life. In addition, I have youth group every monday night, and there's this guy in it named James, who is always touching my hands and caressing my arms and legs. When he's doing this, I always act like I don't like it, but when I get home, I wish that I hadn't gotten him off of me. I actually want him to touch me, and I think I love him. He's a really nice guy and I find him very attractive, along with other people in my school (RHS).
Do I just think I love him because of my testosterone, or do I love him for his personality? Along with him, I find myself attracted to a lot of guys at my school (as I said), and I imagine myself being sexually active with them.
The real problem is that I want to remain faithful to my girlfriend of 9 months, to God, and my family, who is very homophobic.
I really don't know what to do! Please help!
Thank you very much. (link)
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Hey Alex,
Man, when you write I can really feel your heavy emotions about all of this. This is really burdening you, I hope I can give you temporary comfort at its least. I have gone through similar burdens. My decisions on how to relieve my burdens were my decisions and by no means will I encourage you to take the same steps, for everyones situation is different. I, for instance, did not have religion in the mix.
So let me tell you what I went through and what I did...
I throughout Jr. high and high school had a few girlfriends. In all of them we were the cutest couple in school. In all but two of them we were sexually active. At this point, my expectations for my distant future were perfect wife, perfect kids (I dated pretty girls who would make pretty children), a good job, a nice house, nice car, and many quaint Christmases. Captain America with the American dream.
But, when no one was around, I had a secret. I didn't know how to define it, I didn't know how to confront it, I didn't how to even look at my secret. But I did know it made me feel good. Much better than the way I felt on stage to the world trying to attain the perfect life. Yes, you know what my secret is. It started out with me trying to steal a peak at my older brother naked. He was so different than me "down there". I was young and every young guy is curious. I nervously looked in Playgirl magazines at stores. I would cautiously check guys out in the showers in gym class. I jerked off a lot thinking of guys. But nobody knew. Except James.
I, too, had a James. James was bisexual. Only his close friends knew it. He was bigger and stronger than all of us, so none of us ever dared to spread his secret for fear of getting pummeled. James had caught me checking him out in the shower. I was 16, a sophomore. After school he called me out on it, and of course I denied it and claimed ignorance. Just like you did with your James. But he and I became friends, and through our friendship we became even closer friends. He was my first sexual experience with a guy, and I was his third. (On a side note, when I tell this story to friends, they normally ask me at this point if either he or I was molested when we were younger. The answer is a definite no for me and as far as I know it is no for James as well.) We just occasionally did what felt good. We both had girlfriends. I was happy with our secret, but extremely confused. How did this apply to my future? What was my future? Are James and I in a gay relationship? I am a jock, not a flamboyant, dress wearing pervert. Keep in mind I was still having very pleasurable sex with my girlfriends, and actually thinking of them, not James or any other guy for that matter. What is bisexuality? Its either gay or straight, right? I even lost one of my girlfriends because she didn't like how close James and I were. She didn't even know the half of how close we were. Picture Brokeback Mountain. But James was/is so mature. He felt that we didn't have to define what we had to ourselves or to anyone. Just live in the moment. "The only opinion you have to worry about is your own" he would say. But that IS the opinion I was worried about. I was falling in love with someone I wasn't supposed to love.
But then I thought about it. There are many worse things in this world than Love. And through that logic I also look at sex. As long as sex never got in the way with my day to day responsibilities, and as long as I wasn't breaking the law, what is wrong with a little pleasure? I really should be hard on myself. I was at a stage in my life where I needed to really look at my future, and was I going to live my life for my parents, for God, for society? My life is my life. My American dream was for all of them, not for me.
After high school, James went to college and we stayed in touch. I stayed home and helped take care of my mother who was very ill. We stayed in touch and we still talk once in a while. I learned about Life in the real world with my eyes wide open and not fooling myself into wanting the perfect family. At that point I could of went any direction, but I met an amazing guy from another high school, that coincidentally knew James also, but not it that "special" way, and we have been together ever since, over 15 years.
So, take my James' advice and live in the moment. Only persons opinion you need is your own. Not your parents, dare I say not Gods. Get to know your James as a friend first before you do anything. You might not be very compatible. Take it step by step. Don't punish yourself for having these thoughts. Don't try to define them. Just be.
Please update me and if you need anymore help let me know and we can exchange info.
good luck.
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Where do I even begin? My name is Shawn and I am seventeen years old. I first realized that I was gay in middle school but have been in denial about it until my sophomore year in high school. Only recently have I been contemplating coming out to my friends and family. I first set aside October 1, 2006 to come out, but it has not happened. I know there are a lot of friends I would lose if they knew the truth. I also have no idea how my parents will react. I think I respect a lot of my friends and family too much to let them down like this. Earlier in the month, I tried coming out to my mother. I virtually broke down in tears in front of her but could not work up the nerve to do so. I eventually ended the conversation with some bogus story about stress at school. I am also pretty much terrified of talking to my father about anything, let alone coming out to him that I am a homosexual.
I find myself bringing up this kind of topic in various conversations with my friends and family. My mother and I began talking about the topic of gay people coming out and she said something very discouraging to me. “I do not see why people come out that they are gay. There is no black and white. Coming out that you are gay causes people to only know you for that.” When I countered this statement, she asked me, “You’re not gay, are you?” I replied, “No,” and I have regretted it everyday since then. I always ask myself how easy it would have been to just have answered, “Yes, mom. I am gay.”
Everyone around me seems to know that something is wrong. People have pointed out that I am not eating and there is lack of emotion in my voice. My mother specifically said that she is only getting one-worded answers from me and feels that we are growing apart. I do not really know what kind of help I am asking for. I just really wish I knew what to do or to know that someone cared, which is impossible since I have not confined this information to anyone. Any suggestions or opinions are welcome. Thank you. (link)
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Hey Shawn,
Just before I was going to give you some amazing, personal incite to comfort you with your problem, I read the advice given to you by Razhie and she stole ALL of my thunder. I agree full heartedly with her and place a large ditto on her advice. The time might not be right for you to tell your friends and family about you being gay seeing that you might need to spend more time getting more "comfortable in your skin".
When someone "comes out of the closet" I feel that it is extremely important that they are comfortable and confident in their acceptance of their lifestyle and their promise of a happy future. I did not necessarily get that from you in your question. You might be confident that you are gay, but you don't appear too comfortable yet. Its not a handicap, you must believe that being gay is just apart of who you are like the color of your hair or the build of your body. And, depending on what state you live in, there should be nothing restricted to you that isn't already restricted to hetero's.
Also, coming out isn't so much about validation and acceptance for some, but rather its about being honest with those you love. I think this is what is really going on in your heart. You want to be honest, you don't want to live your life in secret and in lies. But, find for me an instance where you really have to live that deceitful life? Is it necessary for heterosexual teens to tell their parents who they plan on dating before they even date them? And keep in mind that you will meet many gay people in your life who did not need to "come out" at all. They took a "well, yeah I am, so?" attitude about coming out.
In high school I was prom/homecoming king. I was a decorated athlete in three sports. I was like by the popular and the unpopular alike. And I was completely in the closet about my homosexuality. I wanted to tell my friends and family, but my fears of being typecast as just that was greater than my need for honesty. My senior year, I met my boyfriend and we been together now for 17 years. Do I regret my decision to not come out then, not at all. Six year after high school I felt the need to tell my family about the man I love more than anything. I, like you, feared their reaction. But I was confident and comfortable, but still very chicken shit. I wrote a letter to my parents, fearing my mothers violence. I played my hand, they didn't talk to me for a few months. I cried every night. But I had to allow them to deal. Not everyone reacts the same way, not everyone reacts the way you think they would.
So, my advice to you is to LIVE YOUR LIFE!! Make the bigots "come out of the closet" and deal with their homophobia. The burden is theirs not yours. Make the most of your life. Become special. Be a good person. You came out to yourself a while ago, don't second guess it just because others might not like you for it. Deal.
Good luck, let me know how it turns out. Call the help lines that Razhie gave you.
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Hey there,
I hate the fact that the only place I have for comfort is the net, lol! I am afraid to tell anyone else! I am a 21 year old gay guy and my bf is 18, we have been dating for 8 monthes now and have had a mass of high and lows.
He has the worst temper and shouts at me for the silliest things, and threatens me with breaking up, killing himself,not loving me, hating me when we argue.
Last nite we got into an argument, things got heated, and he pushed me, so I decided to walk away to let him calm down, then he came runing up behind me and stuck his fingers into my arms, it was the most hurtful thing! I tried tyo walk away and he wouldnt let me, so I end up beatinghim upo basically, in self defence, I wasnt gonna be shouted at and physically hurt for no reason! Again I tried to walk away and he grabbedme, wouldnt let me go, my arm wasin agony, and he was screaming at me in the middle of town, so I turned round punched him a few times, and kicked him when he was on the ground. He was scaring me, I am not a violent person, but he was hurting me and wouldnt let me go.
Then he screamed "I AM GONNA KILL MYSELF!!!!"
After I cooled down, regardless of what he did to me, I went back to him, he spat in myface and started beating me up, to which I didnt do anything back, then started screaming he was sorry for hurting me before!
What am I meant to do? Was I wrong in defending myself? How canlove be like this? Idont wanna leave him, but how can things get sorted? (link)
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Everyones advice to you is great. From an outside third persons point of view it does appear that you do need to move on. But you also say towards the end of your question that you do not want to leave him. So, whatever you decide to do its important that you learn from your mistakes first because history always repeats itself.
Ask yourself a few questions. Why did you fall for him in the first place? Did you like him because he needed you? Is there something about him that makes you feel better about yourself? Honestly, write down all the ways that he improves your life and all the ways he hampers your improvement as a human being, for that is your constant goal. Make sure that you want to stay with him for all the right reasons. Lastly, ask yourself if you feel sorry for him right now or worry about what will happen to him after you leave? Most people can spot a person weaknesses within a few minutes of being with them. Chances are he is using your thoughfulness and sentimentality as a guilt trip to get you to change for him. Relationships arn't about getting the other to change for you. He changes because he wants to change himself because with you he is a better man. You can do nothing but worry about your own self. If he does not want to be the better man, let him go be someone elses burden. I don't buy the whole "he is too young, he is too immature" arguement because I know plenty of middle aged men who blame others for their misdeeds rather than work hard on their own character. Our prisons are full of these men.
You need to protect yourself. Have the two of you talked since the fight? How did the fight end? If you live in a large urban community there are plenty of low cost, if not free, counselling services available to you, especially within the gay community centers. Please check these out, even if just for yourself.
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im a lesbian, i know it. i always fantasize abou girls and i hate it because the country i live in is really strict and girls dont do this kinda thing, but i wanna be with a girl so badi dont know wat 2 do (link)
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If you are old enough to move away from that country, please do. If you are not old enough, be patient and dream of your amazing, wonderful open life somewhere where you are free to be yourself.
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How do I go about asking my bf if he is bisexual? I've seen a lot of signs that he could be and I am curious to know. It wouldn't change anything between us and I think it could strengthen our relationship especially since I am bisexual. He was picked on A LOT when he was younger for being gay (which he definitely isn't). I really don't want to hurt his feelings. If I ask him if he is bisexual he'll probably get really worked up and defensive. He's a very emotionally run person. When I ask him questions he's embarassed about he avoids them for as long as possible. When he finally answers he goes ballistic. I don't want him to feel like I'm accusing him of anything or that I believe that he is bisexual. I really have no idea if he is or not. I am going to have to ask at some point if he doesn't tell me and I want it to go as smoothly as possible. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
20/f, 21/m (link)
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hello - good question.
I'll offer you my guys point of view.
First off - It would help if you explain more about WHY you think he might be sexually attracted to men. Your question comes off as you having this assumption, then you are afraid to accuse him, then you worry about how ballistic he will get if your accusation is incorrect. He must have done something that makes you think he might be bi.
Now, it is my experience that guys are much more secretive than women when it comes to their sexuality...even when they are in loving relationships. What is interesting is that sometimes the guy is secretive even to himself. Almost like he does not want to admit it. I have heard some people describe it as some sort of Jekyll and Hyde where these men keep their homosexual attractions secret to protect their otherwise perfect normal lives. Perhaps, he is whats called awfulizing the situation and thinking if he actually has these thoughts his life might be much, much more worse than the very comfortable situation that he has currently with you. Keep in mind these MIGHT be his thoughts.
Even though he helped you get over your insecurities about your bisexuality, if you are correct in your thinking, he possibly will have to get over much more than just a few insecurities when it comes to himself. If he has these sexual thoughts this might be difficult for him to deal with. I know you are thinking, "well, thats what I am here for, I want to be there for him, I want to help him just as he helped me", but thats not how men work. This might be hard for you to understand, men often prefer to deal with their problems on their own, processing their issues in their mind, often while actively participating in something else, while women prefer to discuss almost everything with those that are close to them. Women treat "girl talk" like an emotional release valve. Just like you said, "It's very hard for me to keep secrets and not be completely and totally open and honest... I want to make him feel as good as I can sexually, but if he's not going to be open with me and talk about it, how can I?" Why would men do it this way, it sounds horrible, to be alone punishing yourself with these problematic thoughts. its not that easy. They, we, do this to protect ourselves and those around us. But sometimes, actually most of the time, by keeping secrets to ourselves we actually HURT those around us. Your boyfriend is young, and he hasn't quite learned this life lesson yet. Men tend to learn this after many experiences of burning others. Understand, if he is bi, and even though your "Door of Acceptance" is standing wide open, he still may be protecting you, you relationship, and first and foremost, himself.
Its funny, strange funny not haha funny, that you say that he is never going to tell you because he has, in your opinion, no logical reason to. The blatant logical reason I see is the future of your relationship. If you feel he is worthy of your investment, you need to change your thinking and actually expect more from him.
So here is my advice. Take the back door and plant a seed in his head. Lay off the accusations, and focus on all the positive aspects of him. Really focus! Slowly lay your cards down on the table. Say something like, "I feel really comfortable around you. Thanks. If there is ever anything you want to talk about, I am here for you. Whatever you have to say won't change my opinion of you". Don't lecture, or use a harsh tone. Just relax, and in time he will come to you. While he has time to really think about things, there you are, the fallback plan. And you do more of what he does, preoccupy yourself with something to keep you from wondering about him. You know when you are alone with your thoughts and your thoughts get more and more bad because you don't have any answers? Well, forget about your boyfriend for a little bit and do what you love. He will come to you when you stop pressuring him.
good luck.
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I need your advice...
Well, my friend(John)is gay and he just found out his bf was cheating on him. So, I invited him to see a movie to get his mind off of the situation. Well, of course he wanted to see Brokeback Mountain. So I went with him and what do you know? His ex bf was there with another guy. He asked me if I could pretend to be with him to make his ex jealous. I didn't know anyone in there so i agreed. I didn't think he would do anything extreme. Well during the movie he held my hand, and i felt akward. He even leaned over to kiss me and we actually started making out. I actually enjoyed it and I invited him over to stay the night. Well while were bed one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. The next day at school his ex started telling everyone that he saw me and john making out. Now everyone thinks i'm gay and they aren't being nice about it. Just because i had sex with a guy does that make me gay? And if i am should i try to have a relationship with him? He wanted me to, but i didn't know if i was ready.
Thanks
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I don't believe your "story".
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Here is my problem. I am gay but I dont know how to ask guys out. I am always so afriad of what they might do.(e.i. gay bashing, beat me up,) So I just admire guys from a far and never talk to them and so then I end up unfufilled and emotionally drianed. Because I dont know how to talk to them. It is totally different if they come up to me or if a friend introduces them to me then I can usually be my charming self. But I just feel like something's wrong when I am in a gay bar for almost a week straight and I dont get hit on by anyone. So how do I talk to guys and how do I get over my fears? (link)
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This is a very good question. I am glad you asked it.
There is nothing wrong with you when you are at a gay bar (Smut Central) and you don't get picked up. Different people go to different gay bars for different reasons.
I am alot like you. I am much more comfortable being persued than doing the persuing. Who isn't, really? The people that who have no problem approaching others are those that have done it many times. When you say that you are "afraid of what they might do (ie gay bashing)" this does not apply at a gay bar. At gay bars you are free to just be. I imagine that you are just nervous and/or scared of rejection or humiliation. Lets face it, gay people often are cruel to each other. Its funny how the picked on often find someone lower in their opinion to pick on. I've been judged negatively by gay men many times! Or should I say ALL the time. It sucks.
My advice to you is to check yourself. Be the better man. When you approach someone in any social situation it is done with confidence and interest. "I know that I am amazing, and if they don't like me, it is their loss". Try to genuinely believe this. I know it sounds like a way overused phrase but, if you don't like yourself - who will? You know that after you've made the initial introduction you are charming. Its just stepping out of yourself that first time that is so difficult. Learn who you are, what makes you tick, and accentuate all your positives. Believe you are worthy. Confidence is sexy, as long as it is not false. Maybe find a trusted faghag (female friend) to go to a bar with you and meet men together if it'll make you more comfortable at first.
Outside of the sanctity of the bar is much more difficult, I feel. Join some social groups, or find some high traffic social areas like a coffee house or maybe a rec center. If you live in an urban area, most areas have social groups designed for gay men like you.
For me, I work out, not to look good for others, but to feel good about myself. I have found that the best way of combating insecure, judgemental people is to be secure in myself and never judge a book by its cover. If upon reading that book I discover the book is bad, I set it aside and move on.
I hope it helps. Good luck.
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hi. i'm 15/m and an in-the-closet homosexual.
here's my problem: there's this guy at my school that i really like-and i mean reeaaalllyy like. he's a really good friend of mine, too. we hang out pretty much every day. problem is, i don't know if he feels "that way". How can i find out if he likes me too without telling the whole world that i'm gay? (link)
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I am assuming that if he "liked" you too in that "special way" you would of sensed it by now. You want him to like you, you would of surely noticed he gave you any signs. That is unless he is confused himself...
You are his friend. You hang out pretty much every day. He already likes you, as a friend. This is a good start. Spend much more time alone. Allow him to get to really know you. Let him earn your trust. He will eventually get your point. If he reciprocates that is his choice. Be patient.
Lastly, be a good person and represent yourself with respect.
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hey everyone ok im gay for starters and i have been made fun of my whole life for it and now people at work are starting too and i think im going to kill myself so please talk to me.:( (link)
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At some point in your life you faced the facts. You acknowledged that you are gay and that there was no changing that fact. That, my friend, is a big, big step.
I am gay too. When I am made fun of for being gay, I always flip the situation around in my mind. I feel sorry for them. I am better than them because I am being real to myself and living without any painful "personal secrets". The people picking on you most likely have so much pain in their lives that it is easier to pick on someone else rahter than to look within at their own lives.
Make sure you remain a good person, regardless of your sexuality. Bad people are in every social group. Don't give the tormentors something to hate about you which they will ignorantly stereotype all gays as being that way.
Good luck.
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i got my gf pregnant and we havint told anyone yet should we tell someone like our parents
or should we not. and since i got her pregnant should we like get marryed or something i mean i am not ready for that i am only 15 (link)
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I feel for you, guy. I am late in responding to your question, so you have probably already taken some sort of action on this problem of yours. Do you have any new information?
If I was in your shoes, I probably wouldn't of had marrying her as even an option. No matter how much I loved her. Sorry. You are 15, and I am not talking down to you because I am older.
What are your girlfriends beliefs about keeping the child? What are yours?
I believe that everything happens in this world for a reason, and this is another lesson handed to you.
At 15, I was horny all the freaking time! I didn't care where I got sex or how many times I did it. I even let male friends blow me. But I learned how to be responsible both in how I had sex and in the way I lived my life. I wish my parents would of taught me this, but I had to learn this myself after a couple of close calls with "could be pregnant" girlfriends as well as with a couple of classes I was failing because instead of doing homework I was having sex. Sex does not make you a MAN. A hefty paycheck does.
This is the big picture beyond this immediate problem of yours. You might be a Daddy, but learn from this.
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im sry i just picked this category cuz its where most people go. but somhing weird just happened. i was out bak and itss very dark cuz its like 9. and i look at the woods in my yard and.............i saw something. ....i dont want 2 believe wat i saw cuz peeps wud tthink im wweird....but i saw a pair of bright...hypnotic...red eyes. now im the kinda guy who think movies like signs and the mothman prophocies r wicked gay. i dont get scared by hem i getbored. but as i stared at these eyes i felt llight headed andd i kept hearing this sharp,crackly sound coming rom he eyes. then it all of a sudden took off!!i jumed up in the air i saw its shadowy silouhette in the sky. it reminded me alot bout mothman. but i live in Mass. this has really freakedd me out. should i tell som1? (link)
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you took the time to come onto this site and he is my advice.
Lay off the marajuana and quit wasting our time.
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