Hey!! My name is Alana and im 13!! I love hanging with my frinds and playing and watching sports!!(mostly baseball and football) Im just hoping that i help you just a little bit if i answered your question, if i helped you more than that is totally kewl!! lol
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Hello I am 13 years old and is going out with this really, really sweet guy. But now hes getting too attached and between us is getting a bit awkward now. I want to be just friends with him because whenever I hang around him we talk to each others like we were just mates. I mean now I love him but only in a friend way. And I tried breaking up with him and asked if we could just be friends but he didn't want it that way because he loves me a lot (which makes me feel HEAPS guilty). Besides I'm in love with this other guy. I don't want to break his heart but I just want to be friends. But he doesn't want to be friends. What should I do? (link)
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Tell your boyfriend that you really just want to be friends. Because you obviously aren't that happy in that relationship if you are falling in love with this other guy. Since your boyfriend really cares about you if you do break up with him it will hurt him, that is kinda just a fact, im sorry, but if you really just want to be friends and you are not happy then you need to end the relationship. The same thing happend to me when i was in the 7th grade. I was dating my best friends but after like 3 months i saw it going no where so i broke up with him because all i could see him as was another one of my freinds. Sure he was upset after a while and you will be kinda upset to after because you know that you would have hurt him but it will all be ok. After my ex-bf and me weren't upset anymore we became great friends again. it will all work out, I really hope i helped =)
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Ok, this is the deal. I really like this guy and i think he kinda lyks me. But my frienz hate him, for the stupidest reason. Because they both liked him, and he said no. And now they call him an ass hole, and that if any girl likes she must be stupid or a slut. And i think thatz mean, cuz i really like him. I dont what to do. Plz, any advice will be taken. Thankz! (link)
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Ok, if you really like him than what your friends say shouldn't matter to you at all. The only thing that should matter is how you feel about him. Don't let your friends get in the way of a potentially good thing. Hope I helped =)
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15/F
Alright so i really like this guy and i think he might like me 2, were not exactly good firends so things r still a bit acward but i need some good flirting ideas and tips, but not so its obvous that i like him. Its also kinda werid cuz hes popular and im not as up there lol, anyway i would really love any tips on flirting! thanks a bunch!! (link)
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This always worked for me, like if he tells jokes than laugh at what he says, but not so much that its like over kill. Also like smile at him all the time (like cute girl next door smile kinda) and just joke around with him and stuff that always works for me. It isnt to like smack in the face or anything, its nice a subtle. Hope I helped =)
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Well, for starters, I'm a freshman in high school (15/f). I like this guy in one of my classes, and he's really nice and we talk and all, but my problem is that he's a junior. I'm not worried about him using me or anything bad like that. I just don't know if he would consider going out with a freshman. Should I still go for him, or give up before I start? I'm probably going to go for him anyway, I just wanted to see what others think. (link)
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Age shouldn't ever matter if you really like the guy. And if he really liked you age wouldn't matter to him either. I went out with a guy 2 years younger than me and it didn't bother me at all, so go for it and dont worry about the age. Hope i helped =)
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we are pretty good friends and we hooked up once but after that night it seemed like things got a little different. We always flirt with eachother and everything but all of a sudden he starts telling me that he likes these other girls but they wouldnt give him the time of day and all that. Recently he told my best guy friend that he likes me but is too shy to make the first move. I've been wanting to ask him out but im too afraid he'll say no and then things will be awkward because i see him every weekend. I dont know what to do because i really like him but im too scared of rejection. what should i do? (link)
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Dont be scared of rejection because life is all about taking chances and making things happen that you want to happen. I think you should just ask him out, and if he does say no, then yes it will be akward..but only for a little bit. If you guys are great friends than if shouldn't take that long for it to stop being akward, just talk to him and stuff and always helps. Hope I helped =)
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There's this guy, and we're like best friends and we used to like each other but agreed not to go out. but we didnt just like each other, we loved each other. he would say the sweetest things about how i meant the world to him and how if anything ever happened to me he couldnt stand it. okay so we got into a fight and kind of drifted apart and he got grounded so we couldnt talk and that made things worse. but we started talking again and i asked him if he still feels how he did about me and he said "kinda, but i want to move on" i love him so much and if he moved on i couldnt stand it. what should i do to get him to not want to leave me? (link)
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Tell him how you feel, he needs to know because if he doesn't know he will think that you have moved on to. So tell him how you feel and how you really like/love him. Hope I helped =)
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I know a girl who hasn't done drugs, had sex or drank. She's never been kissed, or even had a serious boyfriend, and she's 21. Her uncle recently died, and her family, most of whom are drunks and stoners, are fighting about what to do with her uncle's inheritance, and she's caught in the middle.
I've also got a major crush on this girl, and it's mutual. To add to this, though, we're not the same race (which matters to her family), and because of her family, she's never been spoiled (which I love doing to her) and she's really introverted and shy about herself.
How can I help her fix her family, deal with her uncle's death and get her to go out with me? (link)
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I think you just need to tell her how you feel, you can't really change what is happening in her family and the death of her uncle but you can be there to support her and make sure that she has somebody to lean on. But no matter what i still think you should tell her how you feel. As of what your telling me you really care about her and she can probably tell that right away. I hope I helped =)
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What is the best possible way to get over someone? I got dumped MONTHS ago by my first boyfriend and I'm still not over it. He's somehow always on my mind and being pathetic, I still cry over him. My friends and family are even sick of hearing about it. Does anyone have good ways that you got over someone that hurt you badly? I just want him out of my mind & heart! (link)
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Well since he was your first boyfriend it will be even harder. A part of you will always still like him becuase he was your first, and part of him will always be with you. In order to get over my first bf i tried hanging out wtih my friends alot more (and don't talk about your ex bf when you are with them) and doing things that kept my mind off my ex bf and soon after a while you will barely be thinking about him.Also remind yourself that you are better without him and that you deserve better. But just a reminder it always takes longer to get over you first bf than any other in your life.
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15/f
im in love with my best guy friend. we've been friends with benefits for a while but never liked each other more than friends. now he's going out with my other best friend. we've stopped being friends with benefits but he'll still hug me or rest his head on me and his girlfriend is ok with that. my problem is that i liked him before he was going out with my other friend but didnt say anything because i thought it might be weird going out with my best friend. i still haven't been able to get rid of my feelings for him. i dont know if i should tell him or just try to somehow not like him anymore. any advice could help
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You can't not like someone... like you can't ever control how you feel about someone, it just kinda happens and sometimes it hits you square in the face. But i think you should tell him how you feel. I kidna think you should also wait to tell him how you feel after his relationship with your best friend because if you do it while he is still going out with her you might cause some other problems in the friendship that you have with his girlfriend. But if you really feel strong about him and you can't wait any longer to tell him how you feel then go ahead and tell him, but also tell your friend (his gf) how you feel and how you didnt want to ruin your guys relationship but that you've like him in forever and you just needed to tell him. Make sure that you explain to her how important it is for you guys to stay friends and im sure that if she is trully a friend that she will understand. I really hope and helped and if i didnt than i am super sorry but i really hope i did help lol GOODLUCK!!
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I really want a bf cuz iv nevr had one b4. all my frends hav. im 13 and i jusst found out that the guy i liked is going out with some girl noone in my school knows, so hes out. i also like a seventh grader( is that weird?) and had this female seventh grader ask him if he'd evr go out w/ an 8th grader (he sed ya if shes hot but not one frum our skkool) so darn.
i try to flirt but noone evr asked me out and wen id tell them i liked them theyd giv me the cold shoulder. iv been with most of the kids in my grade since kindergarden, so i kno them all, but noones liked me except my guy-bff for like a week and one other guy in my class last year who sed he likes me, im different then everyone else, and then he went out with a ninth grader the next week.
im so up for a relationship. im pretty much despr8
HELP
HELP! (link)
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well i was kinda the same way and just to answer one of your questions it is ok to like and go out with a 7th grader. Because im 13 and i went out with a 7th grader and the fact that he was a year younger than me never bothered me or my friends so thats ok. As for wanting a boyfriend if you just wait and be laid back the right guy will come along and find you, that was how it was for me. The right guy usually comes along when you least expect it. But another thing you could probably do would be to go to other things outside your skewl and meet other guys your own age so that will give you other chances to meet the right guy. I really hope i helped because i went through the same thing.
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15/M Do girls like guys that wear cologne? Would they like a 15 year old with cologne? I've heard that girls don't like it because cologne reminds them of their dad or grandpa. I was just wondering. (link)
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I love it when guys wear axe but i guess it all just depends on the cologne you wear. But just about every girl I know loves the smell of axe. Hope I helped.
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well me and this boy were getting pretty close and i let him kiss me like with tongue. And so one of his friends told him i have a boyfriend and i dont but he wont tlk to me wat do i do (link)
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Well if you dont have a bf and he thinks you do then you need to tell him that you dont! So he really knows that your arent lying to him. And since he isnt talking to you right now you need to go up to him and straighten things out. I really hope i helped
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well my b/f and i have been going out for a week or two and all we have done is hugged. i want it to move a little faster. what should i do? (link)
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ok i think this is gonna help because i made a horrible mistake of dating a guy and then dumping him because it wasnt moving faster. Now i just think you should kiss him yourself. If you want him to move faster you gotta make that move yourself, you cant completely expect the guy to do all the work. I really hope that helped.
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Hello. I am 14. I need help, because I just started a relationship with this kid that I really liked last weekend, and I am really confused. We've been going out for a week and a half now..and I really like him. The thing is, I liked to be single. But I don't wnat to break his heart..or mine...and I don't wnat anything to be different between us either. I just liked being single. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Boy Troubles (link)
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ok since you were single it is going to take a while to get use to having a bf. That is what happened with me, i was single for forever and i liked it because i could flirt with anyone i wanted but then i started going out with my friend Dylan and i really liked him and after awhile i got use to having him with me and flirting with him all the time. See the thing is if you really like him it will just take a while to adjust to having a bf but after awhile it will all be kewl. Hope i helped
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k, so i don't know how long this will be but oh well. i'm 16/f. i was dating the same guy for 2 years. he broke up with me because he thinks i'm never happy. he's never serious and he thinks i'm too serious. i've been getting over it, and now i like another guy (and i don't think he likes me back) but yeah, this past week,my ex has been telling me how much he wants me back and he loves me, then last night he came to my house and told me he's seeing a girl he cheated on me with last year. my ex told me he would go back out with me if i were "happy". idk why i'm not happy with him. i was with him a lot of the time we were dating.. like we saw eachother almost every day, but he wants to be w/ his friends all of the time. what could i do to be happy? or should i just forget about my ex and try to go for the guy that i have a crush on and i'm too nervous to talk to him because i haven't really flirted in 2 years. what should i do? any answer is good. =] (link)
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first of all if you werent happy with your ex then i think you should just forget about him. If he didnt make you happy before he probably wont make you happy now. And the same thing kinda happened to me, i was in a really long relationship and he dumped me and i slowly was able to flirt with guys again. Since you were will your ex bf for 2 years it will take awhile for you to get into the dating pool again, i know that sounds kinda gay,but oh well. Anyway i hope i helped, and if i didnt then im sorry
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I was wondering what peoples opinions are on telling a guy you like him. If you like a guy that you're fairly close to, do you tell him or not? (link)
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Well if you really like the guy than go for it!! The worst he could do would be to say no, so i say go for it!!
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I have been hurt by a few boys previously in the past.
I have been in love once, but hurt by other boys i liked. I am 14/f btw.
So there's this one guy that i have liked for a while, and after a long time and him blowing me off, i decided i needed to move on.
So this other guy friend of mine (we've been aqantienses for about 2 years. got close a few months ago)
we went on a date. and it was so much fun. and he likes me and i do like him.
i just dont want to be hurt again
my parents are recently divorced, and every relationship i have ever seen has failed.
i am afriad of him getting bored with me just like the rest of them
so here's my question,
Give him a chance, or move on with my life? (link)
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i really think you should give him a chance if you really like him, he may be the perfect guy for you, and just remember everytime you get hurt as you move on you get stronger, trust me i know i have had tons of guys hurt me, but i really hope i helped
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Should i stay with my kids dad even though I am unhappy? My kids would be crushed if I left him and I just want them to be happy too. Its been 12 years that we are together. Female, 32 (link)
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ok i know that when my parents got divorced, i was sad but then i realized that i really helped my parents, they are both really happy now, and they are both remarried, so i guess what im trying to tell you is if your not happy then your kids will understand and you need to do whatever will make you happy. And i am very sure that your kids will see that this was done for the best. And if your happy then your kids will see that and that will make them even happier. I really hope i helped
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ok so a couple years ago, i realllly liked this one guy, and it sucked cause he didnt like me back..
well i got over him & everything and two years later (now) i realized that im starting to like him all over again.. and i havent even really talked to him very much, but its like dejavu and im feeling all that stuff all over again
should i go with my heart and like him again or just try to avoid this?
thank you! (link)
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i think you should follow your heart it will lead you to happiness
*happychick*
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How do i move on? i broke up with my boyfriend because i was pissssed off at him cuz i found out shit about him that he didnt tell me himself. He was trying to get back with me but i didnt want to even though i still have feelings for him. Now we dont talk and i want him back!!! but i cant, so how do i move on? what are things that i can do to heal my broken heart? (link)
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just try to think of other things and hang wiht your friends more and just over time you should heal from the breakup
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