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It takes three miracles to become a Saint...
I know a girl who hasn't done drugs, had sex or drank. She's never been kissed, or even had a serious boyfriend, and she's 21. Her uncle recently died, and her family, most of whom are drunks and stoners, are fighting about what to do with her uncle's inheritance, and she's caught in the middle.
I've also got a major crush on this girl, and it's mutual. To add to this, though, we're not the same race (which matters to her family), and because of her family, she's never been spoiled (which I love doing to her) and she's really introverted and shy about herself.
How can I help her fix her family, deal with her uncle's death and get her to go out with me?
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I think you just need to tell her how you feel, you can't really change what is happening in her family and the death of her uncle but you can be there to support her and make sure that she has somebody to lean on. But no matter what i still think you should tell her how you feel. As of what your telling me you really care about her and she can probably tell that right away. I hope I helped =)
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So, your the knight in shining armour type? Well, you cannot "fix" anyone, but you can be supportive to this girl in the way she needs you to be the most. This girl is not a saint, she is inexperienced and probably has been confused and manipulated by her family which has hurt her self-esteem and personal development. She does not need a superhero. She needs to find her own voice and be heard, she needs to find her own strength and stand on her own two feet, she needs to have a friend that will stand by her, not in front of her. Be that man and friend for her. Listen to her, encourage her to go after her dreams and don't add to the family drama. Be a friend first and the rest will happen naturally.
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I feel for you. And her. I had an awful family life and the best thing I did was move away from them. I gained my own identity and left the alcoholic drug users behind. Spoil her rotten I know I love that, she will feel like she is worth something and will appreciate your kindness. You cant change her family situation though. It sounds like you are a great guy and exactly what this girl needs. Absolutley regardless of your race. I am A white mom of two preteen girls and I tell them it doesnt matter what race your boyfriend is as long as they are a gentleman. She is an adult and I assume you are too, so do the adult thing and decide what is best for you two and leave them out of the eqaution. Tell her how you feel. About the inheritance. She is a good person but if they are addicts there will be a battle where that is concerned for obvious reasons. good luck
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Well, with the inheritance issues, suggest that they split it evenly.
And since her family are drunks and stoners, try getting her away from them for a little bit, give her a break from them.
And being different races shouldn't mean anything, bi-racial relationships have been going on since the 1700's. And probaly longer, just none were recorded. If her family doesn't like it, then try to proove to them how good of a guy you are. Show them how much you love their daughter.
I hope I helped. <3.
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