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Do i stay with Dad for kids?
Should i stay with my kids dad even though I am unhappy? My kids would be crushed if I left him and I just want them to be happy too. Its been 12 years that we are together. Female, 32
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ok i know that when my parents got divorced, i was sad but then i realized that i really helped my parents, they are both really happy now, and they are both remarried, so i guess what im trying to tell you is if your not happy then your kids will understand and you need to do whatever will make you happy. And i am very sure that your kids will see that this was done for the best. And if your happy then your kids will see that and that will make them even happier. I really hope i helped
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Whenever my parents got divorced, I was sad I'll admit and everything cause I didn't want my father to leave either, but I didn't want them to be unhappy, so if you're unhappy, leave. Just calmly explain to your kids that the enivroment you guys were living is was unhealthy and unhappy, and you don't want to do this to them, but it's just not working out between you and their father.
Also, another reason why I wasn't as upset is because I still see my father once or twice a week and then every other weekend, so it's not like I don't get to talk to him and visit him and hang out with him and everything.
Your children will be upset at first, but just be there for them, comfort them, answer any questions they have or anything they want to talk about, and just give them time to adjust to the new enviroment without their father always being around, and soon over time, they'll accept it.
I hope I helped.
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if you are truly unhappy leave, the kids can still visit you and you can visit them, sit down and talk to him about what is making you unhappy, maybe you'll sort it out maybe you won't. but prepare for the effect it will have on the kids
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Im only a kid..but my parents are going through a Divorce right now..and for your kids..dont stay with him if your not happy..it only makes it harder on your kids. They can tell if you guys arent happy anymore..and in the long run .. itll only hurt them more. If your not happy..you two wont get along or anything . & its easy to notice it..Im a kid and i noticed it when my parents were going through it..do whats best for you and your kids..if your NOT happy ..then dont bother staying with him
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if you're unhappy, then you need to get away from that, don't stay in something that you're unhappy with, you can work things out with them, you just gotta let em know you're not happy with it :) ya know?
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im not going to tell you weather you should leave or not but it would be really hard for your kids to go through that i know personally how it feels but if your unhappy then you should leave and be with someone who makes you happy. if you do leave try to at least stay in contact with your kids. try visiting them as much as you can and call them often also. i hope i helped in some way/
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a similar situation happened with my mom and she decided to stay and she sooooo unhappy finally she divorced my dad and she happier than ever and me and my brothers got over it i wont lie at first i was crushed but then i realized that that was life and i had to get on with it. and i was 10 and the time it happened and i got over it pretty soon actually. but in the end it is your desicion please be sure it is what you want to do
-JesusFreak
p.s. I hope in the end no matter what your descion is that you and your family is happy
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really, none of us on here can answer this question. but. im gonna try to help here.first, you have to answer yourself a few questions. do you love him? whats do YOU want? sometimes, you have to do things for yourself. if you are unhappy, then why stay? i no some other people on here may disagree with me, but this is my opinion. but i no you love your kids, and thats why youre doubting, so just make sure that whatever you do, just make sure that they are happy to. try to work a deal out with their father, such as having a day where you can all get together and just have funn.good luck with whatever you decide. i no you`ll figyre something out. =]
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