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I need to know how to ask this guy out that I really like. The only problem is that he is moving in a couple months. HELP!!!
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15/f okay so i was going out w/ matt for 4 months and during those 4 months we never hung out. only twice... we only hooked up once.. sad i know but he was never allowed out because of his grades. so around like new years my bffs \"bf\" like would have all these parties and so matt was never there because he wasnt allowed to go. so i started to get close to this kid tyler.. like really close.. like we never did anything but we would always be all over eachother and i know its so wrong but i guess i was just like doing that because i could never have that feeling w/ matt. i dont know then i started questioning my relationship w/ matt but then i came to the conclusion thatllike it was just a stupid mistake and that i wasnt thinking clearly about the whole tyler thing. so idk like a week or two later i was starting to get like fed up w/ matt so i broke up w/ him because it was starting to become such a dissappointment to be w/ him because he could never hang out and we basically only saw eachother in school and every weekend hed be like oh yeah i can deff hang out and then he wouldnt be able to so i told him that nd i broke up w/ him. now ever since new years tylers been telling me he loves me and stuff and hes never felt this way about anyone before. and i talked things out w/ matt and i told him i might give him another chance if we could actually have like a steady relationship like a couple should and then he stole this note from my friend and it said all this shit about how matt could be really immature sometimes and that tyler would probably be the better guy. and idk i told matt everything that happened w/ tyler. but at the end of the note i said that i think tyler would be the better guy and stuff like more comfortable to be around? i guess? i dont know but i feel like i didnt give matt the chance because we never hung out. now the weekends coming and im suppsoed to be hanging out w/ both of thme and this is basically going to decide which one id rather be w/ ... if any of them that is. and i have no idea what im going to do. i tried talking to my friends about it but they just keep telling me the same things and i just need someone elses opinion.. thanks.
sry this is so long.
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Ok so...I have read a lot of other women's stories about crazy exs and such, and I have to admit that mine is not nearly as intense. Nonetheless, I need advice as to what to do. Here is the story: I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. We are both twenty. He is wonderful and very kind. After we had been dating for about a month some girl tried to friend me on myspace. I friended her seeing that she was his friend and I was trying to meet most of them. She sent me a message saying that he and his ex were "doing things" about a week after I had been down to visit him (we're in a long distance relationship). I didn't confront him about it as i have never had a reason to distrust him. A few weeks after that another 'friend' of his said something. He found out about it and told me there was noting to worry about. needless to say, many different girls (or maybe the same one under different accounts) have told me that he has cheated on me with his ex and other girls (his ex even contacted me and told me this). I don't ask much about his previous relationships but i know that the ex that seems to be the center of this was his girlfriend for about a year in highschool and they broke up 'mutually'. I have never been givin a reason to distrust my boyfriend. He is always telling me where he is going and is always available when I call. I know I should just trust him, but I don't want to be the girl who is so in love she is blind. I know this was long, but I would appriciate any help. Thank you so much.
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15/f
well, for starters i'm in 10th grade and this kid 'cody' is in 12th. right at the beginning of my freshman year i began talkin to him and we ended up becoming really good friends. we're so alike, we have the same favorite color, same music taste, even our names are 2 letters apart. we get along really well and everything like that.
theres only one problem, hes had the same girlfriend for about 2 years, 'brooke'. brooke i guess felt threatened last school year because she used to send me stupid messages on myspace like 'stupid ugly freshman, stay away from my boyfriend.' and threatened to kick my ass (which she got to scared to do in the end :D) but this was waaay before we even knew we liked eachother.
well, at the end of freshman year he stopped talking to me and i had NO idea why. i passed his house and i couldnt take it anymore. i texted him and said 'look cody, i dont know why you dont talk to me anymore and it really hurts. ive liked you all this time and its killin me.' and we ended up tellin eachother about our love for eachother.
he broke up with brooke, and around the same time i got in trouble with drugs and was grounded for the summer so i couldnt hang out with him. i told him to wait for me until i was off groundin and that i wanted to be his girlfriend. he said he'd wait. but then, of course, he starts going out with brooke again and i was purely crushed.
now, he sits with me at lunch sometimes and he ended up telling me he still had strong feelings for me. now my hearts hurting again because i want him so much but brooke will always have his heart and i cant trust him because of it.
its been two years now that we've liked eachother and we're still in this shitty situation
i dont know what to do :(
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boy i like is a man whore. [this might be long]
thing is i've dealt with man whores before so "i know" how they work if you will.. haha. anyways he messaged me on myspace and now we text eachother everyday. he asked to hang out a couple of times but i told him i dont hang out with man whores. my friends have hooked up with him before as well. i didnt like him at first but the more we talked the more i liked him.. i just dont want to hang out with him because then i would just be another girl he hooked up with. i mean i could try and restrain myself but come on now, if you like a boy usually some kiss happens. usually we have really good conversations about like how the worlds corrupt and stuff.. but today we were texting and i suppose i ended the conversation with nothing him to reply back to.. but dont you think if he actually liked me he would text back trying to bring up a new conversation? any thoughts would be welcomed, thanks & sorry this was so long.
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I am 13 and female. I am sick of this crap but I couldn't be more crazy about this boy... Is that possible?? This boy (I'll call him Ryan) has pretty much taken over my brain. I feel like I'm thinking about him 24/7 but our relationship is so complicated, I will try my best to explain it. I have liked him for about a year but I only REALLY got to know him over the summer, we would talk constantly online or because we hung out with the same ppl, see eachother regularly. He started off by just being a friend I could just talk to... I dont know but I really opened up to him and I learned so much about him, his favorite animal, color, food and his biggest fear. When school started it felt like the only reason to go was to see him ( and my friends of course but I've never felt that way about a boy ). I sometimes sat with him at lunch and we still talked online as much as usual, which was A LOT.
I guess school starting made things complicated. People started teasing ( mainly Ryan's friends ) saying things like "the couple that isn't dating". And Ryan started ignoring me which hurt... Badly... Was I not worth the teasing? I confronted him about it, I asked why he kept ignoring me, and his answer kind of confusing. He said that he was only trying to get his friends off his back but he claimed he didn't care anymore. Then he told me that he liked me alot but he really just didn't want a girlfriend at the moment. Anyway after that, for a very long time, things were fine but now its just wierd and I have no idea why or if anythings changed at all... I could just be being paranoid... He signs on online but when I say something to him he won't respond... He isn't blocking me but he's just not responding... But of course this on a computer so its impossible to know if he's just sitting there deliberately ignoring me ( for whatever reason, I would have no idea ) or if he's not sitting near the computer at all... I just don't know!! And at school whenever I'm around him things seem awkward... I really can't explain it, what I can explain is that its really hurting me. It just hurts when we don't talk, and even though he isn't my boyfriend I still feel like he has a commitment to me as a friend. I haven't had a decent conversation with him in about a week, I really miss talking to him but I don't know what to do... When I have the time to be online, he isn't, andat school we can't talk for more than a moment because there are interuptions from other people or we have to go to class, it feels like the universe really wants to make sure we don't talk at school, haha, I don't know. it hurts so much. Sometimes I feel like it isn't worth this pain, but its painful when we DONT talk (is that healthy?) so I dont want to know what it will feel like if I have to move on... My friends tell me I'm too good for him and that I should like someone who isn't so darn confusing, who will never ignore me, and who will always try to talk to me. And other times they tell me they think we are the most adorable pair ever and that he difinitely goes out of his way to be sweet and give me attention. But I can't control who I like!! And I really like him. He really understands me, he makes me feel special, and sometimes I can't see how I could go through a day without him... Then there are times when the pain just makes me want to give up on him... I dont know if I can or if I should or what. I am so sorry this is so long but I really need an outsiders view. Please help! Boys opinions would be great too!
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So I think my boyfriend is making me depressed becuase we never really hangout much anymore, and he's all "unsatisfied" and He's making me really depressed, and sometimes its scary because I feel like my throat is closing or something its liek ar eally weird feeling. I don't know what to do, I kind of want to break up, I hate feeling this way. Help!
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i know this guy adam and hes absolutly gorgeous! but hes a jock, and im just one of those people that is like bff's with everyone you know? but hes the kind of jock that will only like girls who are blond, and i have pitch black hair! and he likes cheerleaders and he talkes to me sometimes, but thats only if i go and talk to someone who is near him you know? and he just talks to me about random stuff like " whats on your phone" i know he dosent like me cause hes always flirting with this other girl. but today, i saw him looking at my a couple times, but he may have just been looking at something behind me or something else close to me.
i dont even know what im asking lol. im so sorry. i just dont know what to do about this, cause i really like him. but i need to know how to get him to notice me more, and how to get him to like me a little bit.
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I'm a female and I'm 17. I'll just get straight to the point. I like this guy...a lot. More than I have before. The thing is, I really want to tell him that I have feelings for him and it seems like he may feel the same way but I'm still afraid of that famous phrase "I only like you as my friend" or something to that extent. The other part of me is just telling me that I should just forget about him and move on or whatever. What do you think? Tell him?
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I am feeling really low right now. Have you ever poured your heart out at someone? and they just threw it back in you face? Well I hope not, because I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I just expierienced that very thing today after school.
Freshman year in highschool I met this guy. His name is Ethan. He was the best guy friend any girl would want. He was sweet, caring, and always said the right thing. Well, I naturally started falling for him. With a little push from my loud, obnoxious friend, he had the courage to ask me out. So yes, that it how it all started, it was all fine and great until he changed from kind, sweet Ethan to the know it all, egotistical Ethan. I am a very passive person most of the time. I was very patient with him and accepted and loved him despite his annoying additude.
It worked out also because we both had and have a passion for drama and being on stage, so we got to be in plays together and spend time together constantly in after-school activities.
The problem started at our lunch table. Ethan didn't get along with my friends. I may have put up with his know it all aditude, but they didn't. My friends hated him, and I think they still do. I was a fool and sided with my friends. They seemed so right. I began seeing Ethan in a differant light. I slowly began to find every bit of him repulsive. Everytime I would be talking with a friend about him, I felt compelled to be a jerk and agree with all the negative conotations they labeled him with. It got to the point when I was telling people I was going to break up with him after the Christmas dance. I think Ethan began to see the way I had changed. He gave up on my friends and moved to another lunch table. Then my friends really started slamming him with 'bad boyfriend' labels and I the idiot I was believed him.
The day came and I decided I was breaking up with him after school. But that same day he beat me to the punch. I was devistated. I got so mad at him, and said things I didn't mean. He followed me, trying to hold my hand and console me, but I was furious. I was such a jerk and I know it now.
So that was it. I think the worst moment was when I climbed into that car, and drove away from the school. It all hit me on what had happened. A love song came on the radio, and I just cried and cried.
I am now a sophmore in highschool. It has be a long time since I even cared about this. But a couple weeks ago, I was lying in bed, and it just hit me all over again, like deja-vu. I felt horrible. As I lay tossing and turning in my bed, I knew the only way I was going to sleep was to write down my feelings. That is just how I operate I guess. So this writing turned into a very long letter...to Ethan. It basicially was saying how I really miss being his friend, how I want to be friends again, and just apologizing for letting my friends decide who I should care about. I also included a painting I had painted for him and never gave to him because I was mad at him for some reason. So, now I regret it... but I gave him the note. I gave him something that was a total theriputic exercise for me. I guess my reasoning was that it might make him feel better about himself, and put me in the good graces with him again.
So, basicially he said nothing. On the note I said I wanted to talk about it..but he said NOTHING. I was devistated, the only thing I had to comfort me was the thought that he was probably feeling good about himself- and that's why I gave it to him anyways. But I couldn't stop thinking about how he was kinda saying 'no, I won't be your friend', which cut me deeply...
So all of that doesn't matter now because today after school he finally talked...well kind of...
I was at my locker after religion class (which I have with him)Just then my friend Kaleb who has no association with Ethan decides to start singing 'It's too late to apologize' by Timberland (just a strange coicidence) Ethan then tapped me on the shoulder, and started a mildly awkward casual conversation, and asked to talk after school. I said fine, and all was fine and dandy. I was then on an emotional high. I was thinking...'finally he's coming around! He understands!'...So yep, I was happy. After school I found him and he led me down a hallway to talk..that's when it got weird. He was ReAllY awkward now, and extremely uptight and rude. This is basically all he said, not really letting me talk and making me extremely nervous: So what's up? Are you ok...now? are you FInE and dandy.. now?.... I got a few ums here and there and maybe a 'kinda' it was horrible. Then I said how I felt: "Well,, it kinda hurt my feeling when you didn't talk at first. It was like you were saying...No, I won't be your friend' He didn't really resond to this, I think he said some thing like: 'you're ok now though?' Then he said 'stay here' and just started leaving and was basically saying, stop following me. I was mad and showed it made a face and walked away. Then he started following me. It was like that night all over again. THis time I let him talk. He just kept asking that question and I tried to change the subject once again: "Do you like...hate me or something?" He said "no, if I hated you I wouldn't be looking at you." Then he looked at me but it was definately forced, and it made me feel really low. THen he was being awkward and started playing with my hair and then tried to put his hand around my shoulder. I still wanted to talk but he seemed compelled to end it. he asked the question again and I said: 'yeah...but' and he cut me off again and said 'good, that's all I care about.' Then he put his hand around my should awkwardly and I did it back. (a half hug thing) then he said, 'give me a hug' or something and I did. Then he looked me in the eyes and said whenever you need something just tell me' I thought that was sweet, but he said it really insincere. I left feeling horrible. I wanted to cry. I was and am very embarressed. So here I sit once again. Thankfully this is not a letter this time, it's late and I'm tired. I just don't know what to do. Should I pursue him as a friend still? Or just leave the poor guy alone?
ps I still think I have feelings for him. Last night I had a dream about him, walking and holding hands..just talking. I woke up, and I was angry I woke up. I think that's a big sign I do still...=/
Help..
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I really really like this guy. I thought he liked me too, but just recently he got a new gf... How do you go after someone who has a gf? do you just wait to see how their relationship goes, move on... what? please help
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This is a question anyone can answer- but I'd love the opinions of parents, especially.
I'm 15 (16 in a month if it matters) and a LOT of my friends are guys. I'd love to sleep over their house sometime. Problem is, we all have strict parents. They have our best interests at heart, I know. And it's good that they care. But my mom in particular, she won't even allow it if we're sleeping on separate floors. Plus, I'm not even DATING these guys. They trust me 110%- and I've never done anything to break that trust.
Is there any way to one day have them let me sleep over? I don't want to use the "Well a lot of girls stay at their boyfriends houses and nothing happens" because then I'll get the whole 'You're just following the crowd' lecture.
Any ideas/opinions? Thank you in advance =]
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A really sweet guy asked me out the other day. The thing is I was at a party with him (this is when we met) and he drank pure volka. I really hate drinking and I think it's a turnoff, but the thing is he apologized to the girl who threw the party and it sounded like he really meant it. He's such a nice guy, I just don't like the drinking part.
15/f hes 15/m...what should i do? i really want to say yes to going out with him, but i dont know..advice?
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well, a few monhs ago i broke up with my boyfriend, and we had told each other that we loved each other and i really did mean it, i wouldn't just say something like that, but he had said it to other girls and hadnt meant it, but this weekend we were hanging out and i asked him if he did mean it and he said yeah i was his first love, but four days after we broke up he started going out with another girl and now theyre been going out for 3 months or so and he says that he loves her now. do you think its possible for him to love her now even though just three months ago he claimed that he loved me?
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Hey im 16 and my boyfriend is 17 turning 18 ( We've been going out for 8 months almost 9) , and i really dont know what to get him for his birthday. Anyone have any idea.. please dont say "get him something he likes" because it really doesnt help me =[ im soo stuck. I want to get him something that a guy dreams of getting from his girlfriend.. ya know .. ( GUYS opinions appreciated ) also anyone whose in a relationship or past that gave an awesome birthday present, please shareee =]...
Thanks :)
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13/f.
well last night at the fair me and my boyfriend kissed for the first time. it was really cute. btw, his name is brandon.
ANYWAYS, theres this girl. lets just say her name is alex. she says she dosnt like brandon but i think she does. heres what she does & says.
- she went over to his house.
- she used to like him.
- she calls him all the time.
- she send him pictures of her.
- she wanted to ride rides with him.
- she says hes her BESTFRIEND.
all i know if whenever i have a bestfriend thats a guy, like him a somepoint. and ive told her to back off but she hasnt really. i trust my boyfriend, so i know he wont like her back or anything. what do i do about her.
ive already told her that i dont like it and she still doesnt do anything!
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Typical breakup syndrome. I was with this guy for 8 months, and he pops up at my house saying "I just need to know if there's something better." This was 2 months ago, and still i cry and sigh and love him. and i look his way and he's happy and bubbly and flirty. I'm not saying i'm depressed all the time, but at the end of the day, when i'm by myself, i can't help but think about him. We're still "friends" but i can't help but want more. Theres a part of me that says we're so perfect for each other and to hold on and another that says i should let him go. I just want him back. I want things to be good again.
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my boyfriend and i fight alot. and there is this other guy that i like. his name is kyle, and we met on facebook, and we seem to really click. well i really like logan...but i think that i only like him cuz hes really funny. and im starting to think that thats the only reason why im dating him. hes cute....but kyle is like...really hot. i dont like logan as much as i did when we first started going out...its kinda like were only friends...but everyone knows were going out. and then i barley even know kyle...cuz weve only talked online. he lives in michigan, and i live in arkansas. so what do you think i should do? i really dont want to break up with logan, and i dont want to cheat on him, and then i dont want to tell kyle and and logan broke up, and then start dating him, cause if he found out that we didnt, then he would get mad. please help me.
-shelby, 13/f
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On july 13th, 2005 I started dating this boy who I really liked. I was so in love with this boy, even though I was so young. He is in my grade but he is a year older than me because I should be in a grade lower than I am in. I liked this boy so much because he was my first love. We were so open eachother and I told him more than what I would tell my best friend or my mom. If I needed help, or someone to talk to, he was the first person I'd call. Same for him towards me. We were inseperable and spent everyday together. We hardly ever fought, and if we did, we would make up the next day. Me and this boy dated for exactly 1 year and a week. We both just needed a break and dated other people. After about a month or two, we started going back out. Then we were on and off until February 21st, 07. He broke up with me because he thought I liked another boy but I didnt. Ever sense then, he has made out with some of my so called "friends" and he has completely ignored me. I want him back more than anything in the world right now. My friends have tried to talk to him but he says he hates me. Even I have tried but he just ignores my texts, or walks away. I've tried everything. I've tried ignoring him, ive tried making him jelous with his friends, he doesnt care. I dont know what to do and im dying inside, please help me get him back !!! =/
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a girl thinks were freinds but i dont rlly lke her. she went out whtt his guy but he broke up with her. now he asked me out. should i say yes? because we really like eachother and shes out of the picture but i dont want to hurt her. any ideas
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