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Sleeping over boyfriends house?
This is a question anyone can answer- but I'd love the opinions of parents, especially.
I'm 15 (16 in a month if it matters) and a LOT of my friends are guys. I'd love to sleep over their house sometime. Problem is, we all have strict parents. They have our best interests at heart, I know. And it's good that they care. But my mom in particular, she won't even allow it if we're sleeping on separate floors. Plus, I'm not even DATING these guys. They trust me 110%- and I've never done anything to break that trust.
Is there any way to one day have them let me sleep over? I don't want to use the "Well a lot of girls stay at their boyfriends houses and nothing happens" because then I'll get the whole 'You're just following the crowd' lecture.
Any ideas/opinions? Thank you in advance =]
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Some rules are just 'the rules' and will not be changed, simply because parents don't see any benifit, only risk, to changing them.
I'll use this example: I am 22. I am not allowed to have boys in my home behind a closed door besides my bothers. I never have been. It's a silly rule! I have my own appartment! I could do whatever I want when I'm not at home with whoever I want, but when I'm there, I follow the rules that my parents set out for thier comfort. It has nothing to with thier trust for me or what they think I am doing. It just IS that way. It always has been.
It's much the same way you aren't allowed to speed, not even on an empty road. Maybe you should be able to speed, you are only going to hurt yourself, but it's still illegal.
I know this 'advice' isn't what you asked for, but I think this is likely one of those situations where the rules are just the rules. Not being able to sleep over at a friends house doesn't have to put a damper on your friendship with them. If you find it does, because they live so far away, or because you can only arrange to see them so often, that would be a thing to talk to your parents about: The way thier rule negatively effects your friendship.
I don't think any other argument will have the slightest effect. They probably do trust and believe in you, but there is still going to be that rule.
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Do any of your guy friends have sisters? Make friends with their sisters, or tell them that you can stay in their room, rather than anywhere near the boys. Explain that you know they just want you to be safe, but you just want to hang out with your friends. Definitely don't generalize (everybody's doing it!), don't whine (but mooooooom!), and especially don't lie to them. If you can't convince them-- well, sorry. Don't go behind their backs. Don't break their trust. That's more important.
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