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Okay so I have a bf, and we have been going out for 2 months. And I have a guy friend that asked me to give him a picture of me in my bra, should I?
I'll keep this short and sweet.
NNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!
It can come back to haunt you. DO NOT DO IT!
Ok, i had sex a very long time ago. my girl friend of 10 months still thinks im a virgin. what should i do.
Tell her the truth.
I think you know the answer to this, but you were hoping for someone to tell you its okay that she doesnt know. Its not okay. You need to tell her!
I want to really show my girlfriend that I love her a whole lot. I always tell her I love her but I want to prove it. What are some great ways to show my girlfriend who much I really care for her and love her? I want her to know that I completely and totally love her with every cell in my body. How can I prove that love to her? All idea are accepted and appreciated.
Make her a handmade book of at least 100 reasons why u love her. It can be serious things, silly things, whatever. Taking the time out to do it will show her plus she will have something to look back on everytime shes unsure =). Oh and on the last page write her a really sweet letter or note or something. Hope this helped!
My bf is just turned 24 and I really REALLY like him a whole lot, hes so funny. The thing is I told him I had just turned 18 yrs old. That isn't the truth tho. I'm really almost 15. I guess you could say I developed fast and am mature for my age? haha Anyways, he totally believes I'm 18 and I kind of feel bad because my bff just said it's illegal to date when he's so old and he can go to prison for it. He hasnt ever been to jail. idk what do I do? My mom don't know I'm dating even tho.
You need to tell him. The fact of the matter is it IS illegal for him to be dating you and the excuse that he thought you were 18 wont matter to police. Its still illegal. Even if you outright told them that you told him you were 18, it is still illegal and they wont accept that as an excuse. So unless you want him to be arrested, you need to tell him. Once your mom finds out, im sure she wont be happy and she will blame it on him. There are tonnns of guys your own age or at least under 18 that are suitable for you, so dont risk ruining this guys reputation/ life by lying to him.
Okay, I'm 16 & a female. I'm also bisexual & my boyfriend can't accept the fact that I'm bi. He says he wishes I liked ONLY guys & stuff like that. Then he says that he hates gays, lesbians, bisexuals & it hurts. But then my bigsissy ( well that's what I call her ) can't stand the fact that I'm bisexual either. Like when I told her, she said you spent the night over my house & we slept in the same bed together, you could've touched me. Like I mean really? I'm not attracted to every female/male I see, so that doesn't mean I'll touch them. It just hurts, plus when I hang with both of them, they high 5 each other for disliking me being bisexual. "/ what should I do?
Tell them that if they are truly friends, they wouldnt care what your sexual orientation is. I may be wrong but Im thinking that you might not say very much to them about this. You need to be firm and serious and say to both of them "Look im sick and tired of you two acting this way. Either grow up and accept me for who I am, or leave me the hell alone because Im not dealing with it anymore. As I said, if they are really friends (or a good boyfriend) they will cut it out. If not, move on and find better people to occupy your time because theyre just not worth it.
So I'm a female teenager in high school. And I'm falling for my friend...who is also a girl. I've always known that I didn't like guys. Growing up I was never interested, never had feelings. When girls started getting boyfriends, I didn't. I just viewed them as friends.
Anyway, I have yet to come out to well...anyone. The only people that know are my online friends.
But anyway, last year I met this girl (my crush) and we became pretty good friends. I didn't see her much during summer, but once school started back up we started hanging out a lot.
She's openly bisexual. And I feel like there's just something...there. More than a friendship, but I don't know how to go about telling her! The thought of it kind of scares me, partly because I have yet to come out, and another part because I'm just afraid of her reaction.
I don't want to ruin our friendship if she doesn't like me like that.
Any advice on what I should do?
Thanks!
I am bisexual as well and I totally agree with iwantthetruth if your crush doesnt know that your into girls. If she does know, words arent necessarily needed at first. You can just try to flirt with her a little and see how she reacts. That could be a good way to tell if shes into you or not. Use your gut instinct. Or, if you talk to her thru text or aim or something like that, thats a perfect way to try flirting without having to be face to face. Ask her what shes doing the weekend thats coming and if she says nothing say that you should do something together. Try to make plans with her. And try to make it just the two of you. That way you can really try to read what signals shes giving you. Hope I helped and good luck!
I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
He is not being honest and no relationship will work without honesty. It seems to me that you have 2 options here. Either end it now or stick it out and see if things get better. I know ending it now is easier said than done, but chances are, if he cant be honest about something small like facebook, and continues to deny it even tho he probably knows you know, he will lie about bigger things and the relationship will probably not work out.
If you dont want to end things, you need to confront him and say I know about the facebook page, I saw it even tho its private now, i know its you, and you have this one chance and one chance only to come clean about it and if he cares about you or your relationship at all he needs to be honest. If he still denies it hes clearly not worth your time and he thinks your dumb enough to believe him. If he comes clean tho, things might not be doomed and there might be a chance you can work things out. So confront him and see what he has to say, and either way, make it clear to him how much what he did hurt you and how much him lying to you hurt you.
I hope I helped and let me know how things go.
Good luck!!
13/f
My school went on a field trip to bush gardens(an amusement park)last Friday. wen we were in the area called jungala, my group and i were playing around in the nets. we were talking to almost everyone who passed by saying "hello whats your name?" and stuff like that. this one kid we said that too was like "my name's Dylan" and then he left. then a few minutes later he came back and sat with us and we were all talking. He's 14 and in 8th grade. He also gets his permit next month. then we exchanged numbers. then after talking for like an hour, he had to leave to go back home in Fort Desota. i live in Tampa, so we don't live far away. (only about a county away)then when he left he was texting my friend and he asked her if i liked him. i said no because hes not real cute, and we don't live near each other. So then he texted me. This was our conversation:
HIM: i have something to tell you
ME: What?
HIM: i like u A LOT.
ME: how we just met like an hour ago
HIM: because your pretty, funny, and cute.
(*then my friends told me to tell him*)
ME: wow that was cheesy
HIM: fine....you be hawt
ME: sorry but i have a boyfriend (when i dont)
so what should i do
If you dont like him, then there should be no question. You said yourself you dont live near each other so its not like you'll see him. So just dont talk to him anymore. Dont lead him on if you have no interest in him. But since your asking maybe you are thinkin you might like him. If that is the case, just get to know him more and then you can figure out if you like him or not.
Okay, so I know that I am bisexual. Well, kinda. I am sexually attracted to girls, but I would never date or marry one. I guess you could say I favor guy, but I get really aroused when thinking about girls, or having sex with a girl. My question is, do most girls think like this but are afraid to show it ? Nobody really knows this about me, and I feel like.. how could a girl NOT feel this way ? I know that there are some girls who are completely straight and would think that is disgusting.. but I go to a large school and out of all my friends, all of them claim to be "stright". Is this true ?
I am a bisexual girl myself. The only difference between me and you is that I do date girls. I always thought about girls in a sexual way, even before I realized I was bi. I have since I was in second grade. I just always thought growing up that I was just "curious". But in regards to your question, I do think that most girls are at least "curious" about hooking up with other girls, even if they dont aadmit it. It is becoming more and more socially acceptable to be gay and more and more people are coming out as gay or bi. But the isnt %100 there yet and people's fears of how they are viewed prevent them from talking about or admitting their sexual preferences. Im not saying that I think everyone is bisexual, but I definately do think that everyone has their curiosities, whether they admit it or not.
P.S. Maybe you should come out and let others know that you are sexually attracted to girls. Other people might feel more comfortable to do the same if they know they arent alone. Plus it makes it easier to hook up with girls. Just a thought =)
17 f. Hey guys so. Me and my best friend we go to a different high school and every since we were in the 6th grade we vowed to go together to prom. So I had this BF who I really cared about and he happens to go to her school. He said he was going to take me. We had everything set when we got into this huge fight and he said a lot of hurt things to me. Like Ex. "I was always embarrased to be seen by you" "you're a who*re " and a lot of other things. So basically he also told me that he wasn't going to take me to prom he was going to take another girl. And he said "I bet you're going to look ridiculous that day" so now I don't know if I should go to their prom. My friend already got me someone to take me and everything. I kind of want to go to show him what he lost. And that day I'm planning on looking gorgeous. He knew how important it was for me and my bff to go together. I even offerd to buy a ticket from him but he said he doesn't wanna help me out and doesn't care. I wanna go to show him that I didn't need him to take me to prom I went without his help. But at the same time I also don't want to becuase I'm thinking he's not worth it. But I feel like I NEED to go becuase then he will be thinking that it was becuase of him that I didn't go. Plus I need to show him how well I can clean up. Haha. So advice? Should I go or not? Wat would you have done? I'm so lost. -michelle , MN
I think you should go and have an amazing time with your best friend. Forget your boyfriend, he's a jerk. Go and show him what he lost!!!
Im fifteen year old male and she is twelve.Well me and my girl friend have been dating for two days we started out at a school dance and we have already made out and and she has told me that she will not go any farther no matter what but i want to change that not soon but in the future maybe in a few months maybe in a few weeks but we really like each other and i want to atleast get a handjob
SHE'S 12!!!!! Im sorry but your being a creep and you really need to let her make her own decisions. You should'nt pressure a 12 yr old into doing sexual things that shes not ready for. And you have only been going out 2 days. That makes it even worse. Give her time and let her do what she wants when shes ready. If you are saying in the future not now then there is no reasdon for you to even be asking this question. Sounds to me like all you care about is getting sexual favors for her. You need to stop and leave her alone about it.
About two years ago, a friend and i made up a fake facebook acoount as a joke. We are girls. We were junoirs in high school and now I realize it was dumb. It was made solely to creep on ex boyfriends. This one guy messaged the fake account and gave her his number. We started texting. I wasn't interested in him at all. I didn't even think he was cute!
Slowly, we started to like each other. I broke it off because I knew we could never meet. But, I cried so much because I missed him. We were in love or atleast thought we were. He messaged me again and told me he wanted me in his life still. I don't want to keep this lie going.
I have self-esteem issues because my older sister is so beautiful. I'm not ugly or fat. I'm 19 now and he is 21. I know I should tell him the truth. But I don't know how to. Please help me.
I'm sorry this is so long, but I feel that all these details are necessary.
Tell him the truth. Its at least worth a shot. Just explain yourself to him and tell him why you guys made the account and that you never expected to meet someone. Tell him you were scared to tell him before but you dont want to keep living a lie with him because he means so much to you. Tell him about your self esteem issues. Yea, he might cut his ties with you thats no worse than you just cutting him off because its all a lie. In my opinion, if he really does have serious feelings for you, he will get past it. Good luck and I hope it all works out for you!
Alright well a about a year ago i expieremented with a girl and ended up dating her then we broke up and i hooked up with a few other girls and i actually love it haha but im not super open about it like i try to hide it as much as possible cause im in highschool and you know how people like to judge. And then there is the whole my mom thing. My sister is a striaght up lesbo and my mom knows and is cool about it but if im gay too she is gonna shit herself and feel like a bad mom. she even told me like jokingly that i wasnt aloud to be gay or she would kick me out. So know i have to date boys and not let my mom know. But im pretty sure ill im intrested in is girls. what do i do?
You have to do what is going to make you happy. I'm sure your mom wouldnt want you to live an unhappy life just to make her happy. I am bisexual and came out to my mom about 3 and a half years ago. I came out because I was with a girl and now have been with her ever since. She wasnt happy about it and first but now my parents fully accept my girlfriend and look at her as part of the family. All any parent wants is for their child to happy. Yes, it may not be the life she would choose if it were up to her but thats okay. She will love you either way. On the same token though, before you tell her, be sure you are really interested in girls in more than just a sexual way. Alot of people are unsure if they are actually gay or curious. Im not saying thats you, but Im just saying make sure before you bring it up to your mom. Good Luck and feel free to message me anytime.
19f.
so last sunday i was at my two cousins birthday party. one is in 6grd and the other is in 8grd.. it was at a hotel. so i went out in the pool area to talk to my two cousins and ended up sitting down and then one of my cousins friends who is in 8th grade came and sat down w/us. i started talking to him, just being nice. well then i ended up leaving and everyone tells me how he thought i was so hot and how he wants to marry me .. hahaa young boys!! well now it's my other cousins birthday this saturday and we're going over to his house and my aunt texted me today asking if i was going and i said yeah are you guys? and she is like yeah we are! and i think we're going to bring mikey too! (the boy who has the biggest crush on me) i told my parents and they think its the funniest thing but i know i'm going to keep getting crap for it.
my question is .. how do i act around him? he texted me, because my little cousin gave him my number and was talking dirty to me .. 8th grade pervs! and so now i feel as though it will be awkward when i see him! i don't want to crush the poor kid and just ignore him but i also don't want to give him the wrong idea. suggestions? thanks!:)
Just be mature about it. I dont know how you handled the situation when he texted you dirty stuff but if you handled the situation then and told him you are too old for him and it is inappropriate then I would just act normal around him like you did at the last party. If you ignored the text messages I would politely tell him or your cousin that him doing that was very inappropriate and cannot happen again. Just be polite and mature. And dont feel akward, if anything he should feel akward, not you. He is the one who made a fool of himself to someone how many years older. Just dont lose sleep over it. He's just a kid. Good Luck!
i couldnt believe my eyes. there i am talking and laughing with my boyfriend telling him his room was a mess i start putting things back in his underwear draw but suddenly i see a bunch of papers so i start taking them out and lauging at his handwritting suddeny i see a letter all the way at the bottom all folded up real tight i open it up and there it was a letter written to an ex it said Dear evette i miss you, i miss the way you smile, i miss the way we'd talk when we'd stay up i miss hearing you snore(yeah i know) i miss your voice your eyes and talking to you , i miss you so much i really do.. those were some of the things i read i confronted him and he got so nervouse he ripped and threw the letter out the window. i felt so bad i wanted to cry. after i kept searching to see if id find something else turns out he told me he wrote the letter before he met me but how was i to believe him.i found another papper this one said dear ivette with the date august 19 2008 ... we started dating september 16 2008. that girl goes to the same school we do. and it hurt so bad.. i dont know if i shoud believe he wrote that letter on that date.it hurt so bad.why would he keep something like that? weve been together for 1 year and 7 months i found that in january after a year of being together. when i confronted him about keeping the letter he said he didnt know it was there should i believe him? after all him and that girl messed around for 2 years but he says she was nothing but a nasty girl(if u know what i mean) he tells me he hates talking about her but its funny how she brokeup with him on a summer of july and we went out on september when he met me in school..i mean maybe he was so hurt he wanted to show her he can de much better. but a guy whos trying to get back at a gir he wouldnt last with her for very long now would he? at least not 1 year and 7 months. did i mention he has 2 tattoos of me and is planning on getting a third i dont know i am so confused was i he's rebound? yet he fell in love with me? i feel hurt what should i do? hes 19 and im 16 and i do love him but im devastated.hes going to college soon and iljoin him in 1 year if all goes well i love him so much yet i am so confused please help!
i think you should believe what he says. it sounds like you have no reason not to. the letter was dated before you guys got together and maybe he didnt know it was there. it sounds like hes pretty into you. i could see how it might be hurtful to you because thats your boyfriend and you dont want to think about him loving someone else. but i would just take his word for it and leave it at that. theres no use in getting your self all worked up over something thats in the past. good luck!
Okay so recently Ive been talking to this guy (I'm fifteen, so is he) we'll call him Mike and he's really nice and funny and sweet and sincere, you get the idea. Well for the past month or so we've just been hanging out as friends, flirting a lot, and a tiny bit of physical stuff. Well I've started to really like him. He's awesome and I think he likes me too. But see theres this like senior girl who likes him (kinda creepy, yeah) and her two friends who are also like okay buddys with me were talking to me about it. They said that Mike had sent their friend (the one that likes him) naked pictures of himself, like no pants... Ew. I asked one of Mike's really close friends/my friend if this was true and the friend said "I knew they were talking but I asked Mike and he said he never sent them." Now I think I can look at this one of two ways. 1. It's true and Mike lied to his friend, and the two girls (who said they actually saw with their own eyes the pictures) are right. or 2. The girls are making it up because they know their friend likes Mike and they know I kinda like Mike so they want to get me out of the picture... I REALLLLLY hope its option two. But I don't know what to do!!! So here are my questions; which option do you think it is, or do you think its something else? and also, what if it is true??? That is something that would really bother me... I don't know if I could look at him the same... And third... How do I deal with all of this???
Dont believe anything until you see it. You will get thru life alot easier if you dont follow "he said she said" drama. When you see it with your own eyes, thats when you start worrying about it. Until then, dont let them get to you and dont worry yourself over it.
ok so i was dating this guy and he told he was going out with his friends and i was like ok and then my friends said that they had seen his truck out side his x girlfriends house and i didnt beleive it so i said ill go and see with my own eyes and sure enough it was his truck so i was crying and he told me that it was nothin that i did he just had the urge to cheat but he really loves me now im really confused cause i dont understand why he did that if you can please help or ever better email me at 2cute4u004@sbcglobal.net
Dump him. Hes no good for you. He outright lied and disrepected you and if you allow it to continue it will. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you can do soooooooo much better than that.
Oh and him saying that he jsut had an urge to cheat is the most ridiculous thing i have ever heard. If you stay with this guy, prepare yourself for a world of heartbreak.
Good luck.
this guy really likes me and i don't know what to do.i dont like him but i dont want2 hurt his feelings.what should i do????
signed
desperate girl
Just be honest. He will appreciate your honesty more than he would if you just led him on. Tell him you think he is a very nice guy but you think you would be better off as friends. Hurt feelings are a part of life and they will get hurt many more times in his lifetime so dnt beat yourself up about it. Good luck!
allright, there is this girl at school that i met a couple of days ago, she thinks im mad hot and really likes me, I like her to, but see, the thing is, shes 12 and in 6th grade, im 13 in 8th grade, i dont know what people would say or do if i went out with this girl.
Confused and need help
I agree with the other guy. 8th grade and 6th grade is creepy. I know its only 2 years but when your that young its weird. Its not like your 16 and 18.. thats not as bad. But at the point your at its weird. Stick to your own age for the next 5 years.
hey i wrote this question:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=567275
and you answered. and i was thinking about what you said.
we do text and talk out of school (i.e., through facebook) but it's only just when something is up. for instance, if i need to tell him something, i'd text or message him or visa versa. i'm seeing him TOMORROW. a bunch of our mutual friends and both he and i are going to the movies. i will sit next to him. should i say / do something then? is it too soon?
thank you!!!!
The only way its too soon is if its too soon for you. Im sure he wont mind. Its not like your having sex. Its just flirting and becoming closer. When you guys are at the movies, sit next to him, put your arm through his, hold his hand, lean on him, all that good stuff. And keep it up while your walking out of the movie. Stay close to him , keep your arm thru his, pull him close to you when you guys are walking. See how he acts. I would even think about kissing him on the cheek at the end of the night. Sometimes you hafta go after what you want ya know?? He might be too shy or self conscious to make a move. He may be afraid that you dont like him like that even tho your making it obvious that you do. Guys are dumb sometimes haha. And plus, alot of guys like aggressive girls that will go after what they want. They dont always want to be the one to make the first move. Go for it! Let me know what happens!!! Good Luck!