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Do most girls think like this but are afraid to show it?
Okay, so I know that I am bisexual. Well, kinda. I am sexually attracted to girls, but I would never date or marry one. I guess you could say I favor guy, but I get really aroused when thinking about girls, or having sex with a girl. My question is, do most girls think like this but are afraid to show it ? Nobody really knows this about me, and I feel like.. how could a girl NOT feel this way ? I know that there are some girls who are completely straight and would think that is disgusting.. but I go to a large school and out of all my friends, all of them claim to be "stright". Is this true ?
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i see your point but mostley its with me girls i dont know. if i know a girl i am less likely to think that with them. I am 22 and from a small town, so i would say some girls have these thoughts at one point or time. I have only kissed a girl thats the most i have done but sometimes i think thoughts or more arrousing then really acting on it. but its normal i would say.
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I am a bisexual girl myself. The only difference between me and you is that I do date girls. I always thought about girls in a sexual way, even before I realized I was bi. I have since I was in second grade. I just always thought growing up that I was just "curious". But in regards to your question, I do think that most girls are at least "curious" about hooking up with other girls, even if they dont aadmit it. It is becoming more and more socially acceptable to be gay and more and more people are coming out as gay or bi. But the isnt %100 there yet and people's fears of how they are viewed prevent them from talking about or admitting their sexual preferences. Im not saying that I think everyone is bisexual, but I definately do think that everyone has their curiosities, whether they admit it or not.
P.S. Maybe you should come out and let others know that you are sexually attracted to girls. Other people might feel more comfortable to do the same if they know they arent alone. Plus it makes it easier to hook up with girls. Just a thought =)
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It's been theorized (without an overwhelming amount of supporting evidence) that most people are less straight or gay than they seem. Guys and girls alike, most people have some latent ability to be attracted to the same sex or the opposite sex if they're gay/lesbian.
The "straight" orientation comes with expectations of both genders. While it's a bit worse for guys, everyone who identifies as straight is supposed to behave in certain ways, and stepping outside those roles in any visible way is considered to "infringe" upon that straight identity.
A straight woman who wants to be considered feminine will often be concerned about being thought of as a "dyke" or any other more masculine negative stereotypes about lesbians. The same way straight guys are tirelessly paranoid about doing something that might justify being called "fag"
The world (stupidly) views masculine and feminine as two separate opposites. The truth is that everyone has some degree of both inside them. People will try to emphasize one side and deny another because that's what people tell them they're supposed to be, and it causes alot of the reactions you've seen.
It's also been theorized (with a bit more supporting evidence) that people who exhibit strong homophobia often have stronger latent desires towards the same sex which conflict with their worldview of right and wrong, or acceptable and not. This cognitive dissonance causes the extreme reactions like disgust at the idea of being labeled as what you're trying to pretend is no part of you.
When it comes to people and relationships, things change. There's a scale of sexuality, but relationships are black and white. Most people who are bisexual are like you, tending towards dating one sex but open and even enthusiastic about sleeping with both sexes. There's a good chance that some of your straight friends have some sexual tendencies towards the same sex, but it's likely that none of them would ever be able to actually date the same sex, even if they genuinely wanted to give it a try for some reason.
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I'm a teenage girl and I feel exactly the same way as you!
I know a lot of girls that are straight have admitted they wouldn't rule out sexual contact with a girl, but I don't know if they fantasise about it like I do.
I actually asked a similar question to this on here before actually. I'm the same, in that I'm sexually attracted to girls but wouldn't date or marry one.
When I asked, most girls replied saying that they had thought about sex with girls, and a lot of the time it turned them on, but they wouldn't want to do it in reality. I would, however. But, I think it's hard to put a label on these things. Being young, we're curious. Even if we're more than just curious, it's still hard to know whether to label ourselves as bisexual. I guess the definition of bisexual is feeling equal sexual and romantic attraction to both sexes, so you're probably somewhere inbetween straight and bisexual.
As to your question of, 'do most girls feel like this?', I can't know for sure. I know I do, and I think most girls will have thought about girls in that way, some probably fantasise about girls, some will find the idea of sex with girls disgusting. It's not all black and white. But yes, I think quite a lot of straight girls have sexual thoughts about girls, and some might want to make it reality. What that defines their sexuality as, I don't know. I claim to be straight, just because it's easier. I don't think of myself as bisexual. When it comes down to it, although I would like to have sex with a girl, I'm more interested in guys. I think a lot of girls claim they're straight because there's not an easy term to describe what they really are, and they don't want to have to explain it all.
So yes, more girls than you think probably feel the same way you do.
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