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Falling for my friend.
So I'm a female teenager in high school. And I'm falling for my friend...who is also a girl. I've always known that I didn't like guys. Growing up I was never interested, never had feelings. When girls started getting boyfriends, I didn't. I just viewed them as friends.
Anyway, I have yet to come out to well...anyone. The only people that know are my online friends.
But anyway, last year I met this girl (my crush) and we became pretty good friends. I didn't see her much during summer, but once school started back up we started hanging out a lot.
She's openly bisexual. And I feel like there's just something...there. More than a friendship, but I don't know how to go about telling her! The thought of it kind of scares me, partly because I have yet to come out, and another part because I'm just afraid of her reaction.
I don't want to ruin our friendship if she doesn't like me like that.
Any advice on what I should do?
Thanks!
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I am bisexual as well and I totally agree with iwantthetruth if your crush doesnt know that your into girls. If she does know, words arent necessarily needed at first. You can just try to flirt with her a little and see how she reacts. That could be a good way to tell if shes into you or not. Use your gut instinct. Or, if you talk to her thru text or aim or something like that, thats a perfect way to try flirting without having to be face to face. Ask her what shes doing the weekend thats coming and if she says nothing say that you should do something together. Try to make plans with her. And try to make it just the two of you. That way you can really try to read what signals shes giving you. Hope I helped and good luck!
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im also bisexual mysself . this is a tuffe . but i say you wait thisss friendship out untill you think its the right time to talk to her about this . if she was your reall friend she would understand everything even if she didnt like you like that . and i hope she likes you back . liking girls and guys is totally normal . so come out of the closet .feeels so much better . i did . and my true friends dont care wether i like girls or not . have a goood life (:
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Hello.
So I noticed an interesting detail in your question. You say you haven't come out yet. Does this also mean that your good friend doesn't know that you are a lesbian? (I'm not sure how you define yourself so please forgive the inaccuracy.) I feel that you don't necessarily have to directly tell your friend that you are crushing on her, but that you should confide in her by telling her your "secret." This would be an indirect way of letting her know the "possibility" of a future relationship ;). You won't be jeopardizing your friendship and it'll be nice to have someone else that can relate to you! :) Plus, once you let her know that you are an "eligible candidate" the ball will be essentially in her court. I assume that, based on her reaction and her behavior after you tell her, you can judge whether or not that "something" seems to be more prominent. If she shows more positive signs then it'll be a great time to step up your flirting. Or perhaps this will give HER the confidence to mention any feelings that she may have developed for you. I also feel that having a friend who is already "out" will encourage you and possibly help you along your path of coming out.
I really wish you the best of luck! This situation makes me very excited for you! I love a happy love story. :)
Take care <3.
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Well there is a few ways you can do this.
First: You can just tell her that you have feelings for her and if your arent comfortable with people knowing then maybe talk to her about keeping it a secret. If she is offended or doesnt except that you dont want people knowing than it obviously isnt right.
Second: You can leave little hints that you like her. Flirt. Be suggestive.
Hope I helped :)
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