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i have this question about age differences. why is it that there are married people and people dating that are 10 yrs apart, but it's not okay for a 17 yr old to be dating a 21 or 22 yr old?
your technically allowed to date at 16 right?
i need some insight from people.
thanks. =) (link)
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At 17 and 22 you are different stages in your life. Just think about the way you were when you were 12 versus they way you think and act now. Totally different, right? At 22, you've probably finished school, gone through stuff and learned from your experiences. It's a stage in your life where you've established who you are and need to find a job and settle down. You're pretty much a "grown up" who has bigger things to worry about, like bills. Life gets more serious.
I don't want to say that teenagers are immature, but really, you have different priorities and interests. At 17, you're either partying it up in high school or college, and not too worried about finding a job yet. Of course, at that age we'd all like to think that we're so mature, invincible, and have led a "tough life", but you will be constantly going through things and learning from them in the coming years.
Now, when you talk about someone 40 vs. 50, they're more on the same level in that they've gone through the same experiences, like the college thing, having a profession, and maybe kids.
Anyways, when you're young, you don't see so much of the problem of dating an older guy, but when you are the older person.. Let me tell you, there is only one reason for a guy to date a young girl. There's always the excuse that she's mature and everything, but nope. Plus, we tend to see guys who date younger girls as creepers/pedophiles lol. Not cool.
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I'm Nakhle From Lebanon.I'm always sad,always sitting on the Internet doing nuthin but eating,chatting and surfing the net.I Feel Like This world doesn't react with me.My problem is That i never had a true life,I'm so empty,running away from pple,or should i say i get closer from people that always Throw me away,& never be loyal 2me the way i'm being loyal 2 everyone.as a summary,i'm living hopeless,no social life,no nuthing,future seems hard,difficult,& painy 4 me..I never met a person such me,I can't take it anymore.I feel Like 1day I'm Goin 2 explode all the anger the sadness and the pain inside me.
So help me My Friends.Thx in Advance. (link)
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Hi Nakhle,
I feel like that too sometimes. The first thing you need to do is get off the computer!! Little things like sitting outside will make a big difference. Go to the park, library, or take a walk. Exercise is a very good way to make yourself feel better. Joining a club, sport, or volunteering is a good way of meeting new people.
You won't meet other people like yourself if you don't get out. Don't be afraid to go somewhere new. It will bring adventure to your life.
Take care!
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So, I'm a huge fan of Sex and the City. Call me stupid or whatever but I have this weird feeling.
I sometimes find myself in the same positions as Carrie.
We're both in love with guys that aren't really in love with us.
Like we have casual sex with these guys. Everything that has happened with her and "Big" has happened to me and my "Big". It's very peculiar. For example, in the show he always leaves her for another woman, same happens to me. And he always chases back for her when the relationship is over with another woman. And when she was in another relationship with Aiden he comes back which leads her to cheating, this has happened to me before. Like in the movie, they ended up getting married. I sometimes picture me and him one day marrying. I really don't need the criticism but do you think this is a sign ? Or what ? I always find myself wondering this...
Thanks In Advanced. (link)
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Sorry to burst your bubble, but I don't think it's a sign. Pretty much every woman throughout time has experienced this, which is what makes this such a popular show. The everyday woman can relate to Carrie.
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if a guy likes you and never ever looks you in the eye but talks to you, is there any meaning behind this other than the fact that he is shy? (link)
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Besides being shy, if a person doesn't look you in the eye, then he's lying to you. Hopefully in your case he's just shy, but are you positive he likes you?
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 months now. And i love him to death. He just does so many things that upset me. I went on vacation and he went to the club, when he knows how i feel about that. He'll invite me over then drive his friends around untill 4:00 in the morning. He barelly ever says nice things about me or to me, but he comments on every other girl. He wont talk to me when im trying to have a serious conversation. He never calls me back when he says hes going too. But.. He does things i like. He can make me smile when im sad, i love the way he holds me, and watches movies with me. I love how he cute he is. But honestly i dont think im happy with him. I know i have to do whats best for me. But i really do love him and i cant let him go. What do i do. Please help me. (link)
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Sorry, but I don't understand how you can "love this guy to death". I know everyone's relationships are different than the next, but there is nothing special about this guy that another guy can't give you. It seems like you like having the boyfriend figure (someone to cuddle and spend time with), but it's just the wrong guy. I bet it's the same with him too, he just likes having someone around for intimacy but doesn't want to deal with the deeper connection. But... he's nothing special. He doesn't do anything positive in your life; instead, he makes you feel bad about yourself (by hitting on other girls, not paying attention to you and ignoring you when it comes down to the serious things), which is a total red flag. You should NEVER be with someone who makes you feel bad. Plus, saying things like "but he does this.." are NOT excuses! Nobody deserves that kind of treatment.
You need to do what's best for you and leave him. Let him know why you're leaving, and go. If you have brought these issues to attention before and he still hasn't changed, then he shouldn't get another chance. It's difficult to change, but it's possible. If he doesn't want to change then that means he doesn't care about you. Like I said, you can't be with someone who doesn't care about you. You can't be the only one in the relationship. Always take care of yourself first, because boyfriends will come and go, but in the end, you are all you have.
Best of luck
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22/f
I probably wouldn't even ask this, but I told my best guy friend what I did, and he told me that what I did was very wrong to the point that even a Satanist would have problems condoning all of my actions.
It really has messed w/ my head since he said that, so I wanted your opinion on if you think I did the right things or not in this instance.
I was in college this past semester, and had 19 hours worth of classes. I also was working two jobs, one of them on campus for the housing dept., one off campus. I had been engaged to this guy I'd been w/ for 5 years from back home, but it was long distance by then because he didn't go to college. I had gotten pretty bored w/ him, and I had found a friend w/ benefits on the side, and the more that went on, the more I felt like I need to break off the engagement, so I did that over Christmas break.
Well, about 3 weeks before the semester ended, my ex fiance showed up and surprised me at my apt. He had a gun, but he didn't threaten me w/ it. He said that unless I got on his Harley w/ him and ran away, he was going to kill his self right then and there. I did call my little sister and I told her that I was running away w/ my ex-fiance, and she was the only person I would call while I was gone. I told her to tell our parents for me, so they'd know I was ok, but not to tell anybody else. So then I left w/ him, and we headed out west. The plan was that we were going to Vegas to get married. We were on the road for like 4 weeks, and the longer I was w/ him, the more I remembered why I had broken up w/ him to begin w/. We were somewhere in west Texas, I forget the name of the place, and he had gotten really drunk at our motel room and passed out. I looked in his pants pocket and got his wallet, and I slipped out the door. I used what cash he had to buy a bus ticket to Dallas, because he didn't have enough cash on him to buy a bus ticket for anywhere closer to home. On the way to Dallas, I ripped up or cut up everything from his wallet because I was bored, plus I didn't want someone to do identity theft on him, ya know? So when I got to Dallas, I found this strip club and asked if I could dance there for one shift to make money for bus fare, and the manager was nice enough to let me. (I had worked in strip clubs where I go to college at before.) So, I was able to use that money to finally make it back home. When I made it back home, I found out that I had fired from both of my jobs when they didn't hear from me, and also that I was on academic suspension because they had given me F's in all of my classes when I didn't show up for finals. Also, when I didn't show up to move out of my dorm room, they cleaned my room out, so I lost everything in there. In short, I lost my whole life on that trip. But still, in my mind, I did the right thing b/c he would've killed his self otherwise if I hadn't have left with him. I can rebuild what I've lost, and I've already found one new job.
The thing that my best guy friend has the biggest problem w/ was that he said if I was going to steal my ex's wallet, then I should have also stolen his gun and thrown it away or pawned it so that he couldn't use it to kill his self when he woke up and saw that I was gone. I really didn't think about that at the time, and now that it has been pointed out to me, I am a little bit worried about it.
So, did I really handle things as badly as my best guy friend said? (link)
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I don't know why your friend had to bring up the Satanist part, but no, I don't think what you did was bad to that degree. But, you really did mess up and you know that.
You ran away without thinking of the consequences and ended up throwing away everything you had. That's completely irresponsible to just bail like that, and not even call work or do anything about your school. You think it was worth it but there are so many other ways this could have been handled, without ruining your life.
You could have called the police, or tried to calm him down and talk about it. Him pulling a stunt like that kind of seems like he didn't have closure.
You say you feel like you did the right thing by keeping him from taking his own life, but you also did something just as worse. You led him on by running away with him, only to slip away in the middle of the night. Was that doing the right thing? I'm sure that made him feel just as worse as before. He believed you'd stay with him but you just left without a word.
I also don't think it was right to steal his wallet or to shred everything in it to pieces. If all you wanted was the money, then that's all you should have taken. Even then, I don't think it was right to steal from him.
I'm sorry, but all I keep thinking is "Poor guy". You obviously are not the hero here, and I'm very much sympathizing with him. Well, you can't change the past, but what you can do is make things right. I don't know what's happened after all this, but you are the wrong one here and you sure do owe him an apology and more.
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I feel as if I am selfish. My Babe was suppose to sleep over my house on Thursday. I called her to make sure it was still on and she was on her way to corning. That's were her cousins live. i was like, why are you going to corning when we made a plan. I haven't seen her in two weeks, cause i was on vacation. So I really miss her alot. I was kind of acting like a jerk because i was so upset with her. I regret it and zi told her I was sorry., But I am just wondering two questions.
#1 was i being selfish?
#2 what if happens again, what should i do? (link)
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No, I don't think that was selfish. That was just you missing her, which is to be expected if you haven't seen each other in a while. It was rude of her to do something else when you had already made plans.
If this happens again, remind her that she had made a commitment and should keep her promise. Also, make sure you act sad, rather than upset. Showing her that you are mad will cause a fight, but showing her that you are sad will make her think twice and have sympathy.
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My boyfriend and I were talking, and we think we are ready to have sex, but we agreed that we have to have condoms and I need birth control, but neither of us really learned about it, so we had some questions.
1. To get it, I would need to go to a doctor right?
2. Do I have to bring my mom with me?
3. At the doctor's office, do I have to be a regular patient? because both of my parents work at a hospital, and I really don't want them to find out.
4. About how much does it cost?
5. Would it be a gynecologist that I have to see?
Thanks so much for helping!! (link)
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1 & 5. Yes, you have to see a doctor (gynecologist).
2. No, you don't need a parent.
3. No
4. Tell your doctor if you are concerned about the price. It can be anywhere from $9 to 14. Mine is a generic brand that costs $9 at Wal-Mart.
What you need to do is find a planned parenthood or women's clinic. It's much more friendlier and you'll feel more comfortable than if you went to your regular doctor's office. You don't have to be a certain age, and they're very exclusive when it comes to privacy. They deal with this all time. They also do a really good job with answering your questions, giving you pamphlets and informing you of everything you need to know.
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why do i hold onto things longer than i should?
and wait it out hoping for something to change,
but when it comes down to it,
all im doing is hurting myself. (link)
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You can't always just sit back and wait for things to change. Sometimes you have to actually DO something about it or else situation will go nowhere. It definitely won't go forward; it'll either remain the same or even bring you two steps back.
I'm not sure what exactly you're referring to, but if you are saying that you are waiting on someone, sometimes it's best to just let that person go. Close that chapter in your life if the relationship's already run its course.
I'm no therapist, but it also seems like you are holding on because you are too forgiving. Like you may trust this person and have such high hopes, only to be let down again because you are living in the past. You keep getting hurt because you are hoping for something that's not even there anymore. Hope is a wonderful thing to have, but in your case, it's hurting you.
Well, whatever it is that you are holding onto, if there's nothing positive left in it for you, it's time to let it go.
Best of luck
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Guys, what are things you hate that girl's do? Like if they're annnoying and if they check your cell phone a bunch or something. I just want to know all the things guys hate about girls. Like yeah, if that makes sense? Even girls can tell me! Like any things you know guy's don't like. THANKS :D (link)
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Obviously I'm not a guy but I do know what bothers some guys. Not all guys have the same pet peeves, but here are some I know of:
- Swearing
- Smoking
- Drinking excessively
- Farting or just being gross
- Talking too much or being whining
- Talking about other guys or your ex's
A big one is when girls don't act classy. It's really unattractive when a girl talks about things women shouldn't be. Like if they're being grotesque or something.
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f 17
now being serious
I think big is beautiful
I look at women like Queen Latifah and Tyra Banks
and they are Thick beautiful women
but then you have the Paris Hilton's and the Nicole Richies
who are dam near a string and thats what america thinks is right.
thats what men think is "Hot"
but to me they have little girl bodies
now i'm a thick girl and i love it
but i still sometimes feel the need to be thin
not because i'm not happy with myself
but because of the way others may look at me
my skinny friends get attention from guys our age
but i get it from men that are 20, 21 ,22
I jus really want to know Is big BEAUTIFUL
or am i just buggin'? (link)
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Don't let society make you believe that you have to look a certain way to be accepted. I personally think it's an American way of thinking and kind of has to do with who you are with. When I was younger, if I was with my white friends, I always felt fat, even though I wasn't. When I was with my black friends, I thought I was too skinny and not curvy enough. But I realized that we are ALL made different. No two people on this earth are the same, which makes us unique, which makes us beautiful. As long as you carry yourself well and love yourself, then others will love you too.
I'm glad you brought up Tyra because I love that woman! In one of her episodes, she mentioned a group of girls in her high school. They weren't the prettiest girls, but they had an attitude and confidence about them that made all the guys go crazy. You can be a pretty girl, but if you are insecure it shows. Sexiness and confidence pretty much go hand in hand.
My take on size is that as long as you are healthy and taking care of yourself, then forget what others say. Just be content with yourself.
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so i was dating this guy for 8 months and 3 of them he was in new york because his mom sent him away. his mom really hates me and i don't have a clue why? everytime he would call me from her phone and not call private she changes the number. when he was away he found out his ex girlfriend was prego with his baby and was fine with it until he got back. we hung out for like three weeks and then he broke up with me out of the blue. i ran away with him and the whole thing is quite confusing so i wont explain everything. anyways all of his friends are telling him he doesn't need me, and that i'm just a distraction when he should be worrying about his baby. i really love him. i mean if i didn't i wouldn't have stayed with him while he was gone for 3 months. i have tried everything to get back together with him and it just wasn't working so i gave up and started hanging out with this other kid, and he (my ex) doesn't know. but the other night he called me and said he missed me and wanted to get back together but i don't want to hurt this other kid what do i do? (link)
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Wow this is quite a situation you're in. First of all, you're not the first person who wasn't liked by a boyfriend's mom. I'm not a mom, but I will say that it's nothing personal. He is her baby; she has high expectations for him. Personally speaking, my mother-figure doesn't think anyone I've been with is good enough for me, without a legitimate reason. Anyways, your relationship is between you and him, not you and his mother. I'm not saying disrespect her, but don't beat yourself up for her opinions.
Second, his friends are somewhat right. Him bringing a child into this world with another woman is a whole new game. He can't run around being a child anymore; he has to grow up. He probably broke up with you because he needed time to figure out what he's going to do because this is a big deal.
If you truly love him, you should give him space and time away because he has a lot to worry about. I don't know his feelings towards his ex or if he plans on being with her, but if he does, I'm sure he's doing it for the best interest of the child to raise him/her in a somewhat normal environment with both parents in his/her life. This has nothing to do with you, and wanting him all to yourself would just be selfish.
About him calling you saying he misses you. Times are difficult and I'm sure he really meant it, but you should both think about it logically. Instead of diving back into it (and from the little that I heard, the relationship already screams drama), you should just talk for now.
It seems like this new kid is just your rebound. It sounds like you were just toying around with him because you couldn't get your ex back, so you settled for someone else. That's already a mistake, but staying with someone to avoid hurting them is an even bigger mistake. Just be truthful to the guy because you owe it to him.
Who knows, maybe you will be together with your ex later in life, but for now, the best thing you can do stand back and let him deal with his life right now.
Best of luck
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im engaged to a woman who just doesnt like my 9 year old son. she has told me she doesnt like him and shows very little affection towards him. what should i do? (link)
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Your son should come first. He is your family and blood. I don't want mean to cast ill will on your marriage, but she may not stick around forever. However, your son, will.
I wouldn't trust her around him, either. Who knows what may happen behind closed doors between the two of them. She could physically or verbally abuse or neglect him. Even if she doesn't do that, him realizing that she doesn't like him will cause serious problems, and he will hate you for it. I know.
I understand that he isn't her son and that may be why she doesn't show love to him, but she has to accept that marrying you includes marrying your son (not like that, but you know what I mean). I'm sorry, but I don't know what kind of person hates a child.
Anyways, you need to MAKE her understand that she must accept him. That doesn't mean he has to call her mommy, but she needs to be some sort of mother figure in his life. If she can't accept that, then I'm sorry, but she isn't the right woman for you.
I am serious about putting your child first. You can't be selfish. I can personally speak for children whose parents put their own needs first. You don't want to be that kind of parent.
Best wishes.
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Theres this guy I kind of like at work and the other day we were talking about our facebook pages, and he asked me how to spell my name so I thought that he was going to ask me to be a friend on his, but he didn't. I haven't known him that long now. Should I wait and see if he asks me later, ignore it or should I ask HIM to be a friend? And how would I play it off if he actually says no because I don't want it to be awkward at work. Thanks for any advice :) (link)
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Not to scare you, but he might have asked you for work purposes. They like to do that nowadays as a form of "screening" so they can see what kind of people they have working for them, but that probably isn't it lol.
He may have forgotten to add you, or he's one of those people who doesn't go on his fb too often.
Anyways, if I were you, I'd definitely just go ahead and add him. It's not that big of a deal. I really don't think he'd decline, I mean, WHO does that? If he says no, just don't bring it up and forget about it. He's a jerk.
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36/m
Briefly, the facts of my situation are as follows:
I had an emotional affair. It was a long-distance matter between me and a woman I used to know before I met my wife. When my wife began to realize what was going on (and it didn't take her long, because I'm lousy at keeping secrets and she's very perceptive) I ended it, and told my affair partner that I would not be contacting her again. I meant it, too.
That might have been the end of it, but a couple of days ago my wife looked into my e-mail account and discovered everything had been going on - things that she had not been aware of and which I had not intended to tell her. To make a long story short, the nature of the affair had turned sexual, and there were E-mails sent back and forth where we described that sort of thing in detail. There were confessions of love from both sides, and intimate revelations of other sorts. There were also plans for us to try to get together sometime soon (plans which I aborted before my wife even found out about anything, because I came to my senses about that much at least). I was lying to my wife about all of these things, and now those lies are fully exposed.
Of course, my wife is furious and terribly hurt, and she is considering ending our marriage.
I am deeply remorseful of what I've done. Right now I can barely look my wife in the eye, because I am so ashamed of myself. I think I might take my own life if I didn't know that it would only make things worse for my wife and child (for now, my child remains unaware of anything wrong, that goodness for that).
I know that I committed a terrible wrong, and I want to make amends and repair my marriage. I need advice on how to do that. I am willing to do literally whatever it takes to make things right again. I want to change myself so that I will be a better man, someone she deserves to have for a husband, instead of the lying cheater that I have proven to be.
Does anyone have any thoughts on what I can do or say to convince her that my intentions are sincere, that I truly am sorry, and that it absolutely will not happen again? Are there any of you out there who have gone through this on either end and might have some advice for what I can do now? And can anyone give me some idea on how I can work to improve myself and my own personal integrity so that this doesn't happen again?
I ask only that responders refrain from slamming me down regarding my wrongful actions - nothing that anyone can say will make me feel worse about it than I already do, so to harp on that will be pointless. Please, just tell me what I can do now. (link)
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What a person who is cheated on always wonders is, "What did that person have that I didn't?"
You have to really make her feel like she is the world to you. She needs to feel worthwhile and overloved to feel assurance.
If you haven't already sat down and had a long talk about it, you need to. It'll be the hardest thing in the world, but she needs closure and so do you. Answer every question she asks you honestly.
This is a good time to lay out some goals or things you will do to better yourself. This is REALLY important. You need to find out what you're going to do to change yourself. Write out the list if you have to and share it with her. A goal has to have steps in order for it to be realistic. It can't be reached if there are no steps.
Always let her know what you're doing (without making it look like an alibi). Refrain from any shady activity that would make her think you are cheating.
Never ever fight or say anything that would hurt her feelings, because that would truly hurt her feelings and make her question if you really want to be with her.
Spend more time with her and your child. Take more walks, go to the park, go out to dinner or somewhere special. Even if she doesn't want to see you, try but don't force. Because if you don't try, it'll look like you don't care.
Getting back together is possible, but is a very long and difficult process. It will be really painful, but worthwhile in the end as long as you work for it. You seem very remorseful, just show that side to her so she knows you're honest. I will warn you, she won't forget that and those feelings will stay there forever, but you just have to show her that you really love her and truly regret it.
Good luck
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okay so maybe i am looking too much into this one. But a long time ago i told this guy i liked him and i pretty much scared him off and he told me he was gay (such a lie). And now like i notice he will look at me when before he wanted nothing to do with me. And now he will actually watch me. I sort of get weirded out because he never has wanted anything, and i mean ANYTHING to do with me. he avoided me. And like this morning he talked to me and was like "how are you feeling about barnbash" and my friend was like "its a barn" and i said "very very great very great" and he was looking at me...
so what could come of this?? i mean seriously isnt it a little weird that he is doing all of this now?? maybe i am looking too much into it. I dont know what do you think?? (link)
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Does he look at you like he's interested? Like he has a crush on you? You make is seem a little creepy..
Well, I guarantee you that he's changed his mind because something about you has changed.. something that is attracting him.
1) Maybe he heard something about you.
It could be good OR bad. Like he's heard good things about you and he's re-evaluating whether or not he should try to get with you, or maybe he's found that you have things in common. However, he could have heard some bad gossip about you and wants to know for himself. People are weird like that. It's kind of like how people are addicted to tabloids; it's always BAD gossip, but people love to read about it.
2) Did you change, lookswise? Like your hair, makeup, the way you dress? You said you liked him a long time ago, so I'm sure you've changed and look different since then.
I have a really strong reason that it's the second one. You probably got really pretty since then and now he wants a piece of you. haha but I really think that's why. He regrets ignoring you before so now he's keeps trying to talk to you because he thinks your hot. I swear!
See what your friends think. Other people can really tell if another guy's digging you. Other people are better judges at that.. it's harder to tell when you are the person. So ask your friends, or have them ask his friends.
This has happened to me a lot.. Guys would never look at me, but in high school I got really hot and they damn sure regretted it lol. It happens..
Well good luck!
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Hi there.
Prom is on Saturday and I'm going in a limo with about 5 other couples and my single friend is coming with us too. She doesn't know anyone in the limo and neither do I, so I feel comfortable her coming. She's not like a really good friend of mine, I've only known her a few weeks.
Anyways, my boyfriend and her have been texting about prom just talking about what we're going to be doing and stuff. When I was looking on his phone I saw that he texted her saying, "What kind of dress are you going to get, I bet you're going to look real pretty!" and "I wouldn't mine escorting two FINE ass ladies to prom." He's MY boyfriend. Is that okay that he's talking to her like that? Because in my eyes it's not when I don't really know her that well.
Thanks. (link)
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Personally, I don't think that's okay at all. Flirting can lead to other things...
Regardless of how well you know her, it's still not okay. You should bring it up to him. If he gets upset at you, that's not a good sign. What he should do is apologize, but if he doesn't, you should question how much you should trust him.
I just think what he did is really shady, like he's trying to get another girl on the side.
Don't completely lose faith in him, but DO keep your eyes open and watch him.
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help!!! i don know how 2 dance!!!!! at all!!! no grindin and no hiphop nothin!!!! (link)
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I used to be like that too awhh...
When I'm at home, I like to put some music on and just practice in front of the mirror. LOTS of girls do that! Maybe if your friends are over you guys should just dance or they could show you some moves.
Watch some music videos and copy what the girls do (but do what you feel comfortable with, I know some of it can be really raunchy). There are also videos on youtube that teach you how to do a specific dance (soulja boy, walk it out, hip roll, etc).
But seriously, it's all about modeling what others do. When your at a dance or club, just look around and see what other girls are doing, change it up to make it your own, and go from there.
The most important thing is to be CONFIDENT. It will really show if you're insecure. Just be comfortable with yourself. Do what feels right and it'll come naturally. Just keep moving your hips to the beat. Really, it comes naturally, you jsut have to relax and let yourself go, and practice a bit when your at home.
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im obsessed with my boyfriend v weve been going out for almost 3 years and were only in hs. weve done everything but sex and i am in love. ive tried to picture myself with someone else and i just cant. lately he has been pulling away and idk what to do because im obsessed what do i do to make him obsessed with me again and dont say talk to him because i would be right now but ive tried and he says nothing is wrong. just tell me what to do ill do anything (link)
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Three years is a long time (that's how long my fiance and I have been together).
When a relationship is that old, you can't rely on puppy love and infatuation anymore. It's not like a crush.
Because it's so long, you have to keep yourselves from getting bored. Make some subtle changes or do something cute and sweet for him, like a random surprise or gift, even though it's for no special occasion.
Even though you are obsessed with him, you can't smother him. That'll only drive him away from you, which isn't what you want. He's already pulling away a little bit, so I think that's an indicator that he wants some space. I mean, you've already said that you've tried talking to him, so don't bother him anymore about it.
Like I said, just don't try to be annoying and keep asking him what's wrong (guys hate that), and leave some cute little notes, maybe frame a picture of you two, buy him something he likes, etc.
Do you have an idea of why he might be pulling away? Maybe it's something that doesn't involve you, like family or friend problems. Like I said, don't pry... but if the problem is that he's growing out of you, like moving on, I'm sorry hun but that's something you just can't change. I don't want to frighten you but you can't make someone love you ya know?
Anyways, me and my bf still fight a lot but we always work it out. I'm sure you'll be fine. Good luck!!
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I have a great boyfriend.
He just always touches my stomach, he'll rub it and just sorta play with it when we're sitting on the couch. I'm not fat, but I do have a bit of a belly.
i just don't understand it, we'll jsut be walking and he'll grab my sides and give the bit of fat there and give it a little squeeze, or just pat my tummy. I just don't get why he likes it? I swear no one's supposed to like fat.
Or I sorta think it's because he weighs so little (like 100) pounds that he touches my stomach because he thinks I'm fat. Iunno. (link)
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Aw that sounds cute!
Guys like it when girls have a little bit of cushion. I'm 100% serious. It's just nice to play with. They don't like stick skinny girls. It just isn't attractive.
I always see guys poking girls on their sides lol they think it's fun or something.
Humans are attracted to that by nature. A baby is more attracted to a mother that has cushion because it is soft, comfortable, and it supports the baby. Imagine if you were a baby and had to be pressed up against bones. It's hard and uncomfortable!
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