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what do i do?
so i was dating this guy for 8 months and 3 of them he was in new york because his mom sent him away. his mom really hates me and i don't have a clue why? everytime he would call me from her phone and not call private she changes the number. when he was away he found out his ex girlfriend was prego with his baby and was fine with it until he got back. we hung out for like three weeks and then he broke up with me out of the blue. i ran away with him and the whole thing is quite confusing so i wont explain everything. anyways all of his friends are telling him he doesn't need me, and that i'm just a distraction when he should be worrying about his baby. i really love him. i mean if i didn't i wouldn't have stayed with him while he was gone for 3 months. i have tried everything to get back together with him and it just wasn't working so i gave up and started hanging out with this other kid, and he (my ex) doesn't know. but the other night he called me and said he missed me and wanted to get back together but i don't want to hurt this other kid what do i do?
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Wow this is quite a situation you're in. First of all, you're not the first person who wasn't liked by a boyfriend's mom. I'm not a mom, but I will say that it's nothing personal. He is her baby; she has high expectations for him. Personally speaking, my mother-figure doesn't think anyone I've been with is good enough for me, without a legitimate reason. Anyways, your relationship is between you and him, not you and his mother. I'm not saying disrespect her, but don't beat yourself up for her opinions.
Second, his friends are somewhat right. Him bringing a child into this world with another woman is a whole new game. He can't run around being a child anymore; he has to grow up. He probably broke up with you because he needed time to figure out what he's going to do because this is a big deal.
If you truly love him, you should give him space and time away because he has a lot to worry about. I don't know his feelings towards his ex or if he plans on being with her, but if he does, I'm sure he's doing it for the best interest of the child to raise him/her in a somewhat normal environment with both parents in his/her life. This has nothing to do with you, and wanting him all to yourself would just be selfish.
About him calling you saying he misses you. Times are difficult and I'm sure he really meant it, but you should both think about it logically. Instead of diving back into it (and from the little that I heard, the relationship already screams drama), you should just talk for now.
It seems like this new kid is just your rebound. It sounds like you were just toying around with him because you couldn't get your ex back, so you settled for someone else. That's already a mistake, but staying with someone to avoid hurting them is an even bigger mistake. Just be truthful to the guy because you owe it to him.
Who knows, maybe you will be together with your ex later in life, but for now, the best thing you can do stand back and let him deal with his life right now.
Best of luck
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stay with the new guy you met. It may be hard on you for awhile, but if he chooses his friends opinions above his own, then he isnt right for you. He should be able to make his own decisions, and his mom probably doesnt like you because he is a "momma's boy". It probably doesnt have anything to do with you, shes just overprotective (maybe?)
but he has a kid, and his mom is unwilling to let her 'baby' to grow up. so it isnt worth the trouble. there are plenty of better men out there.
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