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OK I have a boyfriend and i love him so much, but how do I kno if he loves me the same.

p.s: This is my first boyfriend

LOve
*~Shannie

hey,if you really,truly love someone,you'll know they love you back,im not going to say "dump him" or " you dont actually love him " or something like that,because,love means so many things to many different people,that..its impossible to really know if they love you or not,i suggest thinking to your self,asking yourself these questions--
Has he told me he loves me?
Does he pay attension to me often?
Can i tell him anything,and can he tell me anything?
Do we hang out all the time,or talk online/on the phone for some time with out being a silent/shy person?
How old are you?
Do you love him enough to call him all the time?

theres so many questions,ask those to yourself,you should find out if he really loves you,or if its just a fling,and you'll maybe relize things you havent yet? im not sure,but hey,try it out anyway good luck and i hope it works out!

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My boyfriend is FAR too calm. I hate it. I mean i love it at times but sometimes a realationship needs some tension. Like and I wanna fight with him than kiss and mkae up. He never gets mad. Like last week this guy completly tried to get in my pants right in front of him and he just laughed it off. PISSED ME OFF!
Today one of my best friends whos like obsessed with me and he put his arm around me and was like kissing my cheek and my bf wasnt even like mad at all.

How should I make him madder like cuz this calmness with be the downful of our realtionship.

i dont know what to say..i would LOVE a boyfriend like that...umm.. my guess is..he REALLY is jealous,and kind of sad when that happens,but he knows you'll never really cheat on him.Its kind of good that you do that infrount of him rather then behind his back..but i would never do that to someone :(..i love laid back boys.They're awesome :P boring is another issue..but maybe bring him to a theme park and go on roller coasters,that might get him..then after just watch a movie at your house :) that way you'll like both sides of him..hehe..ok well at least try the idea..if it has no effect..then talk to him about it :P

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I think i might have sumthign for my friend who isnt great looking (im bi hes a guy im a guy) and is a bit big like me but i keep imagining me and him going out and making out (No sex or anything) and i dont know what to do i cant tell him but i wanna go out wit him

umm...is he bi...or gay? because i wouldnt say anything if he wasnt any of those 2!

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ok so i've been going out with this guy john for about 2-3 weeks now..and i really love him...but he's my bffs ex boyfriend...and shes really mad at me for going out with him..she gives me shit about it all the time like everyday at school...and like i told her how happy he makes me and how much i like him and stuff and she still like is weird and she talks about me behind my back to my other bffs(also hers too) i really want her to stop being mad at me b/c i dont want this to distroy our friendship (we've been friends like when we were born and on from there) she wont just except the fact that like her likes me and i like him now..AND SHE DUMPED HIM TOO thats makes me like really mad too...like she says she still likes him but shes the one who dumped him... what should i do...o and she said the only thing that would make her happy would be if i dumped him but if i dump him i'll be missrible for like a really really long time and she doesnt get it...

what should i do?? 13/f

sorry this is soo long...i rate all fives if u atleast try to help me!!!!!

im sorry hunny :'( this is a hard situation..hmm...well..think..how much do you LOVE him..yet..how much do you like her as a friend? you shouldnt dump him just because that.She made a mistake thats her gay problem.You know what i would do? i would stay with him,keep your other friends,talk to her about it and say "i know you dont want me to be with him..but please relize that i love you as a friend and letting our friend ship die would make me soo sad""we've had so many good times and i dont want to loose you as a friend" dont brag about how much you love him though,then she'll just get annoyed.I bet she likes you,its just thats she doesnt like you being with him.because it was her mistake.And if she still is mad at you,i'd say..get in the "popular group" or a famous group of people and have fun with them.I would have fun with them and not think about her for a while.Maybe if it doesnt work out w/ you and john then just tell her and make up.I know its hard to talk to someone about it..to tell you the truth when someone tells me to "talk about it" i never do xD ...but i really suggest doing it..maybe over phone/internet/notes.

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GUYS please only answer this...unless you are a girl with an answer from a guy...

How can I flirt with guys. Like what do guys like with when a girl flirts with you? I really want to try flirting but I dont know what to do.

ALSO! I asked advice on how to get more attention from guys and this one girl said to smile at a cute guy from one of your classes. What would you think if a guy who you never talked to smiled at you?

BTW...I'm not the most popular girl, but I'm not a LOSER. I'm one of those in between people...(you know I've got friends that are popular and band geek friends...haha but band geeks in our school arent losers, the losers are losers. The band geeks are friends with reg. people)

my friend eric (a dude) told me ..hes next to me..that he likes it when girls flirt or just talk to him..but its different with all guys..he says -- "get to know them as friends..give them hight fives and be outgoing..most boys like it when girls are pretty..but i dont really care about that stuff (not really.. XD)well..i kind of do XD.anyways..me and rissa (cokecap x21) think you shouldnt call people losers..cause if you want to get popular..you have to be nice..to EVERYONE. talk..to EVERYONE.Eric -- i think i'd be kinda freaked out if i didnt know a girl and she smiled at me O.O..just say "whats up and make sure they notice you more..laugh with your friends next to them and have fun near them..that way you'll have a good impression..and dont make it phony/cheesy...you know?

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I'm a hugeeeeeee tomboy. I always wear t-shirts and long shorts, my hair is always pulled back, and i dont wear makeup. I mean, im not fat, just bulky and muscular. I dont wanna change any of this. But i've never had a boyfriend, and maybe its cus i act too much like a guy. I really want a boyfriend, but i dont wanna change. What type of guy would i go good with? WHAT SHOOD I DO!!!

hmmm...i say...wear your hair down...try wearing some t-shirts with quoets or something cool on it,not boring stuff,you can still wear long shorts..but get bermuda girl shorts from old navy. You dont have to change though...meet people and meet the guys..i think you would go good with a skater guy or a football/sports player :)

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My bestt friend in the whole world..talks about other girls a lot(he's a guy). And I keep telling myself and everyone else that all we are is friends because i know thats all we ever will be. but why do i get so annoyed/jealous when he talks about other girls?! i dont want to like him like that..because i know my heart will get broken. ive told him i dont like it when he talks about other girls, but he still does? how in the world can i get over him or tell him..well i don't know what i should do about it! pleaseee help!!

You know what i think? I think that he likes you,because i had a boyfriend,tom, who always talked about girls when i was with him. He fucking LOVED me soooo much! He like..bought me lunch everyday!! But he would talk about girls and i got mad,my friend told me he said he did it to try and impress me and make sure i would never give up on him,and make it seem like i was really lucky to have him. It also depends on how he talks about them.. dose he go like "i love this girl shes so cool and awesome"--that means he's sharing stuff with you because he likes you as a friend and hes hinting for you to ask that girl out for him or is it "this girl kept flirting with me today!!" --that means hes showing you how all the girls love him and how you should love him to.. he wants to be the big-shot around you
or dose he say -- " this girl asked me out but i turned he down because i like someone else" That might me he likes you..or someone else!!

If you no he dosent like you...and he talks about girls...then talk about boys!! Be like "omg ik theres this boy that kept doing this blah blah"

I say you dont tell him right now,but get more info,like what he talks about girls and how he acts around you..and other people. Dont tell him yet

if you want to,you could tell me how he says things about girls in a seprate question and i'll try to help !
[[im good at this stuff!]]
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i really like this guy (lets call him n) but none of my friends know him! but i also like another guy (lets call him z) and i have never said 5 words to him. and my friends know about Z just not N and N is really sweet and nice and i think he might like me but i am not compleatly sure and Z i do not think he even knows i am alive! i mean ya sure i probly said hi to him once or twice but that is about it! and N know i am alive because i talk to him all the time cause well we are kinda friends well more of aquatenses and he is almost the same age as me just likeone year younger than me but Z is one year older then me wich is weird because i am like right in the middle! so wich one should i go for?

Hm...this is hard! I would try to get Z to notice you more,like say hey and have fun and be fun around him! He'll notice you more if you are outgoing.But on the other hand,N sound cool to.What i would do is-
Make Z notice you a lot more,and still talk to N,maybe your friends have 3-way and you can talk to N on the phone and 3-way your friends so they'll no him more! Try both out and if Z still dosn't notice you go for N
[[try like...3 days to get Z to notice you but if he dosent then dont go for it.]]

but i would go with N to give you a straight- out answer

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how long after a break up should you wait before the next chase? I mean like... looking around for new people... if the relationship you've just come out of wasn't that serious... but I don't want to hurt his feelings by jumping straight back in... :S
16/f

I'd say 2-3 weeks,because people need to get the news that you broke up,talk about it for a little,then they'll forget. And NOT 1 week because people will be like "oh my gosh she never liked him that must have really hurt his feelings how mean is that?"[[they also might not even care though..]] if it wasnt serious then he probably isnt sad over it...unless he was obbsessed with you,then you have to stay awayy from him!
bUt yes 2-3 weeks.

hope i helped!
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ok...you answered one of my questions saying would writing a question sheet and giving it to the guy i wanna ask out be a good idea..and i thought your answer was the best :) so i was wondering, would should i put in there? im not exactly sure...help me!!


thanks

aww thankss!! Well I think you should put something like this
Hey _____ [name of crusher] Whats up?
who would you rather go out with
Me []yes []no
____[[name of other person]] []yes []no
But how I wrote it was--
Hey ____ whats up? I was just wondering if you wanted to go out with me! ps--write back
I think the second one is best though!!
good luck!!
But a phrase I like to think of is -- hope for the best expect for the worst

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what things would you recommend to do for fun with the gorgeous girl i call mine?

umm...
haveing fun like going to a theme park,movies,beach w/ friends [[inculding you]],chillin @ the crib,goin 2 a base ball game,shopping w/ her [[lol i would LOVE if my bf did that!!]] and all that jazz!!

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ok...this question is not for people who will say dont give this guy a note for asking him out...ok...would making a question sheet like "would you go out with blahblah? _____" or something be...a bad idea? cuz i want to try that but will *he* get mad or something?? He doesn't get mad easily...:-p well, thats about it.

i rate high

omg i did that and bam--now i have a boy friend!!

My note said
Will you go out w/ me?
lol my friend kristen helped.. she said "i love you baby cakes your so hott x0x0x0x" but i never wrote that,he wrote back and said yes,then he told me that he liked the baby cakes part!! =)
My friend also did this --
Who would you rather go out with?
My Friend [] yes []no
Another Girl []yes []no [[i did not write any names]]
and so now she got a bf 2!

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Okay,,,,,
I have this boyfriend(Kevin) that im madly in love with and hes in love with me. I am 13 and hes 15. We've been going out for 7 months!! Theres a problem though. My neighbor is the one i always hung with and i introduced her to him because he was my boyfriend and they have became close and she always im's him online and calls him on his cell phone. Latly i have been getting scared. Shes been saying maybe she will take him to the prom next year if she has noone to go with and crap though my boyfriend says he wouldnt go with her and i do belive him... and i think shes falling for him. Shes 16 years old too so shes closer to his age. She had alot of crap about him written in her profile saying stuff about there friendship. She doesnt have a boyfriend and im positive shes never had one. I know he wont leave me for her but i am afraid thats shes falling for him. How do i tell? Im scared because i dont want her too and if she does then i dont know if i can handle it. Shes been writing about a guy in her profile and she says she likes this one guy but i think she has some feeling for Kevin that are getting stronger. I think she flirts with him but im sure Kevin doesnt think so.... i donno please help I'm flippin out here!



♥ Meg ♥


*--.:*Thank-You*:.--*

wow thats mad grimey of her!! Well just to no Kevin probably just thinks of her as a friend,and ONLY a friend. If she flirts w/ him he'll think shes weird i bet. Is she hott? Is she cool? Is she hotter than you? if it gets any worse of her flirting...just ask her who she likes and try to find out clues of who she likes. Of course kevin wouldnt like her anymore than a friend..just if she mentions the pron thing agian,be like "haha nooo way!!" act nice about it but make SURE she knows she can totally NOT do that.Or you could take the more attitude approach and say "umm...NO"

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I'm 14/f. I've had crushes on several guys in the past, but I've never had a boyfriend. I feel like such loser because all of my friends have had at least 1 boyfriend bfore and most of them have had more.I kno I shouldn't go bywhat my friends have had, and I know that you're gonna say "my time will come",but I just really don't know what to do anymore. I did like this one guy ALOT,and actually I still do. I think I might be in love with him, but my friend told him and he said "ok", then he said he was dating someone right now. I'm just so confused I don't know what to do anymore. I don't think I'm really pretty or anything, or skinny, but I have friends who aren't like that either, and they still have had b/fs. Srry so long, I just am so confused, and wanted to see if anyone could help me.
I'l rate a 5 for nice answers.
Thank you.

*heartbroken, and confused*

for some boys..or most you need to have/be--
"cool"
out going**********
nice
awesome
funny *************
"pretty " :/
but please do not change these are just things that guys like

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This really hot guy asked for my number and now he is going to call me.. obviously. The problem is i never know what to say when i talk to guys on the phone its kinda akward. What can i do to prevent something liek me running out of cool things to tlak about?

act like he is your best friend thats a girl!! act like you would with your friends because a good relationship always starts out with being GOOD friends!!

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ive been dating my boyfriend for 9 months and we are very serious. does anyone have any romantic ideas/surprise ideas/ gift ideas for any day.... including our one year anniversary or our 10 and 11 month anniversary? thanks....

sex =)

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i have been going out w/ this dude for about 2-3 weeks.. he is REALLY REALLY into me.. but im not that into him.. i just went out w/ him so he wud stop bein soo sad.. and mad.. i wanna break up w/ him..but all his friends (that r gurls, which is ALOT!)said they wud jump me.. im sure they wud to..b/c he's really popular.. and he has ALOT of ppl on his side!! wut shud i do?? shud i break up w/ him? and how? or shud i not break up w/ him??

signed.. confused gurl

i wouldnt break up with him i'd think all the things i like about him and everything that is nice about him and like him for that. =) be real close and nice you'll love him. you shouldn't have went out with him though if you didnt like him!! but we all do that so its ok =).well thats what i would do..

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guy #1: we've been good friends since the begining of this school year. everyone says we like each other and for a while i just denied it. he's funny and has amazing eyes. i can be myself around him so i'm pretty comfortable around him. he's always been there for me and he's really nice. he looks out for me. i like flirting with him more than guy #2. we're a lot alike. we like working out together at the gym. he's so funny. all my other ex boyfriends thought i liked him instead of them. my parents like him, my parents know his family and like them. if i do break up with my bf because of this guy, it won't be gauranteed that we'll be going out... i think hes a little scared to ask me out. this other guy said that this guy would go out with me if i asked him out but who knows if he was telling the truth. so many people say he likes me though! and when we were dancing he pulled me in reallllly close.

guy #2: we've started dated a few days ago. this is guy #1's friend. we've only liked each other for a week or two. i don't know him as well as guy #1 and i'm not THAT comfortable around him. but he is funny but not as cute as guy #1 and he's shorter than me. he's pretty nice. i used to like him more when we were NOT going out but now were going out and i don't like him as much. he's really sweet though and smart. my mom thinks he's really nice and he is. he's open and not afraid to ask me if we're 'going too fast' or anything, i like that.

id like guy #1.You seem like you like him and no him more than any other :) your so beautiful and lucky hun!! but remember...since guy #2 it guy #1's friend they could get mad @ each other...make it so your still friends with guy #2!! i hope i helped!

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My Boyfriend and I broke up a couple of days ago and i still cant stop crying. Any tips on getting the pain to go away??

remember this saying -- friends are forever boys are whatever when worst come to worst my girls come first!! Its a boy act like you never went out with him,im sorry i know its hard but you have to move on,hang out w/ your friends!!

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Im a 20yr old female.
Me and my b/f have been going out for 2months and we were really serious. Well he came over every day for the time we were together and we started to fight alot recently. So he didnt know what to do. So he decided we should take a break from each other. That means not seeing me everyday or talking on the phone with me that much. Well we really love each other and we both think we are the one for each other. But the days that im away from him i become so depressed and just cry all day and i cant stop and i feel so sad. He tells me hes sad to and he only wants to do this time apart to work things out cause he really wants to be with me.My question is, how do i stop feeling so sad and how can i make my self not think about it while hes away? how do i make it to where he choose to get back together faster without me asking him to. Is there somthing i can do to get him back faster?

ok,be sexy be pretty by fun and hang out with your buddys! it'll make you happy and you can get your mind off him!! When he sees you sexy and fun he'll love you !! Just be fun not boring !! [[trust me i know from experience and he probably still loves you this is a sign to see if you love him more,im not saying to act like you dont care though!!] Act like you care but be fun!!

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