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ok so i've been going out with this guy john for about 2-3 weeks now..and i really love him...but he's my bffs ex boyfriend...and shes really mad at me for going out with him..she gives me shit about it all the time like everyday at school...and like i told her how happy he makes me and how much i like him and stuff and she still like is weird and she talks about me behind my back to my other bffs(also hers too) i really want her to stop being mad at me b/c i dont want this to distroy our friendship (we've been friends like when we were born and on from there) she wont just except the fact that like her likes me and i like him now..AND SHE DUMPED HIM TOO thats makes me like really mad too...like she says she still likes him but shes the one who dumped him... what should i do...o and she said the only thing that would make her happy would be if i dumped him but if i dump him i'll be missrible for like a really really long time and she doesnt get it...
what should i do?? 13/f
sorry this is soo long...i rate all fives if u atleast try to help me!!!!!
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I was almost in your situation except all I did was talk to my best friend's ex and now she is pissed at me and won't talk to me and she is extremely important to me so I am giving her like a week or so to cool down and then I am going to try calling her again and hopefully she will talk to me. But anyway, if your friend is really important to you I owuld dump him but just explain to him that she is really important to you and you guys have been friends since you were born and it really bothers her that you two are going out and you don't want to lose her as your friend. Maybe later on your friend might except it and hopefully he will understand and you two might go out again later on down the road. Anything can happen. But like I said if your friend really means alot to you I would dump him. I hope I helped at least a little. If you have any more questions you can leave one in my inbox.
Good luck.
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im sorry hunny :'( this is a hard situation..hmm...well..think..how much do you LOVE him..yet..how much do you like her as a friend? you shouldnt dump him just because that.She made a mistake thats her gay problem.You know what i would do? i would stay with him,keep your other friends,talk to her about it and say "i know you dont want me to be with him..but please relize that i love you as a friend and letting our friend ship die would make me soo sad""we've had so many good times and i dont want to loose you as a friend" dont brag about how much you love him though,then she'll just get annoyed.I bet she likes you,its just thats she doesnt like you being with him.because it was her mistake.And if she still is mad at you,i'd say..get in the "popular group" or a famous group of people and have fun with them.I would have fun with them and not think about her for a while.Maybe if it doesnt work out w/ you and john then just tell her and make up.I know its hard to talk to someone about it..to tell you the truth when someone tells me to "talk about it" i never do xD ...but i really suggest doing it..maybe over phone/internet/notes.
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hm... same problem... switch the sexes... what you have to do is see it from her point of view... she probably felt the same way you did when she went out with him so she probably doesnt feel special anymore and that he acts the way he did to her to all his gfs... so you should confront your friend and talk to her about it and if she trys to get out of it you need to talk to her about it. Also if you will lose a bff forever.. isnt being best friends jus another type of love... so pick... a forever love or a love that will never last?
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If she dumped him, that doesn't mean that she is totally over him. Sometimes those types of things just have to be done. But she has no right to try and tell you how to live your life. Just b/c she is your best friend doesn't mean she can tell you who you can date and who you can't. He isn't hers anymore. If you are going out with him, and things are going good for the two of you, other than the fact that your best friend is mad and doesn't like..there is no reason for you to break up with him. She should be a good friend and just TRY to understand instead of telling your other best friends things that most likely aren't true! You should just try to talk to her alone, and tell her how you feel. You are only 13, therefore I don't think the relationship with the boy is going to last forever. Your relationship with your best friend, however, should! I hope that you and her both know that. You're young, you have lots of time and you're going to go out with a lot of people! If this continues to damage your friendship, you MIGHT want to consider just being friends with the kid. But in my opinion, your friend is just jealous! Good luck!
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