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Calm!!
My boyfriend is FAR too calm. I hate it. I mean i love it at times but sometimes a realationship needs some tension. Like and I wanna fight with him than kiss and mkae up. He never gets mad. Like last week this guy completly tried to get in my pants right in front of him and he just laughed it off. PISSED ME OFF!
Today one of my best friends whos like obsessed with me and he put his arm around me and was like kissing my cheek and my bf wasnt even like mad at all.
How should I make him madder like cuz this calmness with be the downful of our realtionship.
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Okay, tell him that you don't like that he is way to laid back in your relationship. Fighting isn't always good, but you guys need to fight sometimes in order to keep a healthy relationship. Most of the time, fighting brings you closer together. It doesn't seem like he's that much into you if he doesn't even care when a guy is kissing you and he is right there.
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tell him that your relationship has no tension and you hate that- if he dont change break it off- or at least pretend to cheat on him or leave him for someone else- thats should get him pissed.
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Ha i actually just snagged my friend and said this is me! anyways im kinda with a very calm guy myself. SO i defintly know how that goes. I just talk to him and tell him to at least say what he feels and state his opinion instead of constantly agreeing with me and i would love for my bf to make himself happy and i want him to actually have a time when we get in a fight but he never does state his opinion and i knoow it'd be nice to kiss and makeup but thats impossible for us. So we just both gotta tlak to our boyfriends and tell them to not pick a fight but stick up for themselves. I think our boyfriends are more concentrated on making us happy so thats why they dont want us to be in a fight.. lemme know what you think-trix
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Ask him if he cares. Or just talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel and everything and then you'll know the truth. Talk to him about his calmness and how it unnerves you a bit. If he seems like he doesn't care, then it's a possibility that he might not care about you and that's when you leave 'em. So, bye.
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i dont know what to say..i would LOVE a boyfriend like that...umm.. my guess is..he REALLY is jealous,and kind of sad when that happens,but he knows you'll never really cheat on him.Its kind of good that you do that infrount of him rather then behind his back..but i would never do that to someone :(..i love laid back boys.They're awesome :P boring is another issue..but maybe bring him to a theme park and go on roller coasters,that might get him..then after just watch a movie at your house :) that way you'll like both sides of him..hehe..ok well at least try the idea..if it has no effect..then talk to him about it :P
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Your boyfriend does deserve a better person than you.
What are you trying to make him jealous for?
Most girls would kill to have a guy who was completely trusting of them, and who didn't have a problem with them having close guy friends. He trusts you, and yet you don't WANT him to?
That's seriously screwed up.
Your boyfriend is as obviously mature beyond his years as obviously as you are immature.
If you want a silly, trivial little jealousy game, find a guy who wants to use you, control you, and manipulate you--not a nice guy.
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Your b/f might just not be the jealous type. Either that, or he COULD be the jealous type and just not show it. But then again, if he never gets mad over ANYTHING, even the slightest bit..it might mean that he doesn't necessarily care that much! I think you should talk to him, and ask him why nothing ever bothers him..especially if a lot of stuff bothers you. Apparently this does, so you need to talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. He SHOULD understand.
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Believe it or not, my best friend was faced with the same problem. Her boyfriend was just -too- laid back. He always agreed with her and/or anyone else and pretty much self-whipped himself. He was just way too polite.
In reality, he -did- care when guys hit on her and when he had issues with something he said. He just didn't want to come off as controlling.
She sat down and had a talk with him. Now, whenever he's uncomfortable with a situation, he usually voices it and she removes herself from it. And now she's learnt to read him so she can tell the difference between a ha-ha-this-is-funny laugh and a ha-ha-I'm-just-laughing-because-I-don't-want-to-seem-mad laugh.
The honest result is that you can't change him all the way through. If he doesn't like to fight, that's the bottom line, he doesn't. Provoking him isn't going to get you anywhere (you'll just end up frustrated) and isn't he worth giving up kissing and making up?
My best friend made a compromise with him and it worked. They started going out March 2004 and are still going strong.
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you should be happy!! your man is understanding and has complete trust in you. i wouldnt change him for the world.
btw. guys who get jealous easily are NOT easy to deal with!!
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Sit down beside your boyfrand and have a talk..Ask him If he cares for you! if he says yes then ask him why he never gets mad when other people do sexul things to you! of it dont help Dump Him! he should care for you and take up for ya not sit back and watch and not say nothing!!
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