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I am turning 18 in 2 days and i want to sleep over at my boyfriends house. I don't know how to tell my parents about this they are extremely strict. All we are going to do is watch a series on tv all night. What do i tell my parents? (link)
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It may be too late for this (you may have already done it,I mean) but if you think your parents would be uncomfortable with it, why not invite a couple of your friends over to a mutual house so it's less of a "I'm sleeping over -winkwink-" kind of thing.
Also, as long as you're living under your parents roof, you've got to abide by their rules to a certain extent. If you're not ready to pay your own way,then just suck it up and wait to 'get wild' when you move out.
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while i was over at my guy friend's house we were talking about fingering. we started kissing but then he stop and was like your turn. what was he talking about and how do i get him to do it next time. Ive never been finger before. (link)
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This boy wants some action of the sexual nature but that's a mighty lame way of requesting in. You're obviously young and it may take some time for this to click, but you deserve better than a, "eh,let's do it I guess." For your first sexual experience-all women do, heck, guys do too.
It'll feel good- at least if it's done right- but if it's not, stop! Sex isn't something that should be rushed at all at all at all.
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About a month ago i hooked up with a co worker (we are both married with children) and have been traveling extensively with him so the sex has continued. However, he has been flirting extensively with another co worker (which I happen to be her supervisor). He said he was doing it to protect our relationship so no one would suspect anything. Well i found out that he actually spent the night with her last night. I feel completely blindsided, hurt, and jealous. How do I approach talking to him because i don't feel like I have a right to feel that way. (link)
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Unfortunately,I have to agree with the person below me. You're very right, you don't have a right to feel that well. I'll give you a piece of advice someone once gave me.
"If you marry a man that cheats on his wife, you've just married a man that cheats on his wife. "
This means that you should pull up your big girl panties, break off the extramarital relationship,and work on the relationship with your spouse. If you don't want to be with him, don't be with him, but dong drag a bunch of extra people into this mess.
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Me and my boyfriend broke up..we have been on and off for two years.. we got into a big fight.. should i go back out with him?? he wants me back but i dont know??? Help
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We're going to need a boat load of more information about this to answer accurately...
But the simple answer is, if he isn't emotionally or physically abusive, if he doesn't cheat or mistreat you, if you still enjoy being around him,or if you see a future with him then YES. Sure, why not? Maybe it'll work.
If not, then don't waste your time.
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Oh god where to start. Well Im 13/f and I currently have a boyfriend, he's my first ever. He is also 13 and he has had 1 girlfriend before me. He is amazing, so super sweet and always knows the right things to say. He is cute, funny, nice, sweet, and everything anyone could ever wish for in a guy. He is also pretty cheesy, but it compliments me so i dont care. We have been dating since November.
We had this one conversation on facebook about fishing and I told him I've kissed a fish for good luck before. Me and him havent kissed yet only hugged and he said "Im not kissing you then :P) and I was like ok.. and then the other day I was making KD and I was Skypeing with him while I was making it. I told him I was a bad cook and I burnt my self 5 times. Then he said, since he wants to become a chef, "Its ok, I'll cook". Im kinda confused though cause he says it like we are going to get married in the future. :/ Im 13 though! I still have so much more of my life left and he also asks alot, "Would you ever break up with me" and I always say "No" because I love him and I dont want to end things with him but all relationships come to an end. So I dont know but I think he plans on marrying me, :S Help!
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You're 13. Chances are you'll have ten more boyfriends before you get married. You'll be fine. The aveage woman has 28 first kisses before she marries, which is a lot for some women, but that's just to say that in reality he probably realizes this deep down.
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everytime I try to get him to go somewhere with me he makes up an excuse.. but he always hangs out with his friends.. today he's going lazer tagging with this girl I cant stand but I asked him to hang out with me instead and he said he cant.. he's to busy... how am I supposed to hang out with him if he wont even try to hang out with me??? :/ (link)
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To risk sounding like Snoop Dogg, drop it like it's hot. This, of course, depends on how long you've been together. I'm not saying instantly break up with him,but I'm saying give him an ultimatum. Boys hate ultimatums. Tell him that if he's interested in being your boyfriend and getting to know you on a romantic level,he has to spend time with you. If he doesn't want to do any part of that,he can bounce. Boys aren't complicated,they say what they mean. He might try to say it in a way to not offend you as badly,but they really don't play as many games as you think.
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So, recently I have gotten my heartbroken by this guy I really like. We were talk talking for about a month but then he told me he wanted to stop talking to me like that because he had alot of stuff going on in his life. I told him I understood and that I'll always be there for him no matter what. All of my friends keep telling me to move on but no matter what I do I just can't stop liking him. So, should I just wait for him? (link)
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Uh, no. The thing about boys is that they say what they mean. Really, I promise, they do. If he doesn't want to be with you, he'll try to find a way to be nice about it, but he doesn't want to be with you.
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18/f me and my ex just recently officially broke up a week ago but we have been on and off for about a month now. He heard i cheated on him but i never did and he has done everything to get me out if his life, changed his # twice, told the gateguards at his community to not let me in and even blocked me on facebook. I was with him for a year and 8 months, and i cant just let go without a fight. His friend just gave me his new number but i dont want to mess it up again, what do i say to get him to give me another chance? (link)
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Let it go. Seriously. Its terribly hard, but it's the best thing that could happen. This boy doesn't sound over you. I think even his friend knew that or he wouldn't have given you his new number. If you want, and if the friend is willing, you could pass him a note that says something like, "i'd never do something like that to you. If you want to talk,you know where I am." Then LEAVE IT ALONE. If he's going to come to reason, it's not going to be because you've badgered him to death.
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for two years but we've been fighting alot lately.. He found out I was moving in 1 month and everuthing just went down hill. I want to know what I can do to just drop the situation and be like before?? Always laughing and hugging and kissing and stuff.. (link)
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Iyt seems pretty obvious that he's upset you're leaving. Depending on how far you're moving, he might think/know its the end of your relationship. Plan fun dates in the mean time and try to communicate with him.
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I'm a female and I'm in 7th grade, I am very mature for my age. I recently got a boyfriend who is a freshman. I've liked him for 5 months and got the guts to ask him out. We've been going out since 12-11-11. And our days we spend together are simply amazing. He act the same as bestfriends like we were before but now we have more benefits obviously. So he's a smoker & I truly hate smokers , but I try to make it the best when he tells me he smokes. Recently a boy that hates me doesn't want me and my boyfriend together and wanted to ruin my plans for me and my boyfriend tomorrow. So instead of spending half the day with me he's going to get high with the boy. And I've honestly been telling him anything even lies to make him stop smoking but I guess he thought I wanted to break up with him when that wasn't the case at all. But I explained to him and I just really wanna know how can we last longer because I'm really in love with him & I wanna know what to say and what not to say to keep him as my boyfriend.
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Communication is key in every relationship you will ever have in your life. Your relationship with your parents,siblings, best friends, anyone! If you have something to say to your boyfriend (like, for instance, something that's bothering you) you have to say it. Don't ever say anything without thinking it through in your head first. This isn't to say that you need to second guess yourself, just make sure the words you're going to say aren't going to hurt or offend anyone.
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Well when we r together he will hold my hand but he will look at me and smile some times he will bring his face close to miñe but ie does dare try to kiss me why (link)
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Boys always want to do more than holding hands. Now,this isn't some sexist comment against men because we aren't talking about men, we're talking about boys. Kiss him on the cheek if you want to give him a little nudge, he's probably just shy.
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When guys ask me to do stuff its hard for me to say no. I really enjoy fooling around and it feels really good. I dont want to be a "slut" but I really do enjoy it. How do you enjoy pleasure without being seen as a slut?
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If you want to feel really good but not be seen as a slut,don't do stuff with every boy that you meet. Often, if you're in a steady relationship,people don't talk as much. Or, just pleasure yourself by youreself. That's about it.
Like the person below me said, people will always have something to say. As a generally blank statement, if you're young enough to ask this question,you're too young to be fooling around. Trust me. But over all, make sure you're being safe and safe and safe! You hear me? No fooling around today should not change the course of the rest of your life.
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how to ride your boyfriend?
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First, you're going to have to convince him to get on all fours. Then, throw a blanket over his back, attach a belt (for you to hold on to, obviously) snug around his waist. Then all you've got to do is climb aboard!
And if you're referring to riding him sexually, that's what Cosmo, Google, and Urbandictionary.com is for. It's doubtful that many people on this site learned sex positions from asking people on the internet. Plus, if I'm not mistaken, we get in trouble for going into too much detail on that sort of thing.
But for your reading, check this out:
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/woman-on-top-sex-positions
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me and my girlfriend are gay and plan on getting married and want to join the navy or coast guard. what are the rules about marriage? is it the same as if a man and woman are married? we do not want to be stationed in different areas. thanks for any help ! (link)
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This is something that you should be talking to a recruiter about. You're signing a contract with them, not us. No one will know better than them.
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So ive been in love with this guy for over a year. we have dated a couple times, but have always stayed involved. we are pretty good friends and he knows im in love with him. and i dont think he loves me back. which is fine with me, he doesnt have to love me back. but he told me he wanted to go back out, and was really sweet about it and everything. but i told him to give me a few days to think it over. so while i was thinking he went and slept with some chick i hated in the first place (i despise her now). hes always doing stuff like that. like hooking up with me then asking someone else out the same day. i know it would be smart to stop trying and give him up for good. but i love him with all my heart. hes the only person who makes me genuinly happy. and i would do anything, be anything for him. what do i do? continue to give him my heart or try to move on? and if i should move on how? how do i stop loveing him?
-female, 16 (link)
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Stop. Stop stop stop what you are doing. He is not interested in you. Think about it, in the same breath that you said he's the only one that makes you happy,you also said he slept with someone you hate. Did that make you happy?
I'm going to sound like an old fart when I say this, but this guy clearly, CLEARLY, is not the right guy for you. Don't get stressed out over it, that just means someone else is. Let this one go. You might love him with all of your heart now, but chances are you'll love someone else with all of your heart in a couple of years,and it will be a completely different love. You can't just flip the love switch, so to speak, to off and be able to move on, it's going to suck for sure, but its something you have to do. You know this. You just needed us to give you an anonymous kick in the pants. Be strong. You can do it.
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Me & and the guy that i have been dating have been going strong for a good 7 months now. We are in love and we trust eachother and haven't had many problems in our relationship. There is one thing i am uncertain about though. After 4 months into our relationship, i seen where he wrote on his ex girlfriend of 2 and a half years facebook wall and said "Thanks for logging off during mid conversation." I wasn't really worried about it when i first saw he posted that but now that i have come to think of it, i really want to know what they were talking about and why he was so worried that she logged off. I know that he would never cheat on me and that he loves me. He's not a bad guy. It just makes me worry a little because they dated for so long. Should i be worried? I feel like its to late to say anything to him since it happened about 3 months ago. (link)
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Forget it. Its not a big deal,and it happened three months ago. A lot of times if something is going on, you'll be able to notice several instances in a short time span. Yes, they did date for a long time, but it's clear that you're not a rebound because he's been with you for several months.
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I am a 22-year-old male from the USA. I have been in a serious relationship with my girlfriend, "Alex," for 1 year, 8 months. She is my first serious girlfriend and the first girl I've had sex with. Before me, Alex dated another guy for 3 years. I have recently been feeling the need to experiment with other girls. There is absolutely nothing wrong with Alex, but I still feel the need to have sex with other girls. I don't want to end up getting married and have this problem screw up a marriage someday.
I decided to tell her I didn't want to be in a relationship and she agreed because she wanted to give me space. I had sex with 3 different girls while we were apart and began to feel terribly guilty even though we were broken up at the time. I tell her everything and I know that if I tell her about what I've done she most likely won't take me back. We're trying to work things out again, but I still haven't told her about the intercourse with the other girls.
I'm just so confused and would really like to know if I belong in a relationship right now or if I just need time to grow up and figure things out.
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The chances of your girl being in a relationship with another guy for three years and never getting sexually involved with him are slim. If you don't tell her about these girls, it's going to eat at you for as long as you are with her. If you do tell her, you put it on her to accept with you. I've been through this before, but not exactly. My boyfriend and I had both been with other people in the few months that we'd been broken up. Yes, it stings to know he was with someone else, but it was a mutual decision, so it's something I had to accept. It's up to you to decide if your girlfriend will be mature enough to accept it. Go slow, only you can decide if you're ready.
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My friends and I were pictochatting and they saw my secret crush on their ds and I can't think of a way to tell them to make them forget it,but to me its still true I love the boy.What can I do?? (link)
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Don't worry about it. Just don't. I'm sure your friends don't care that much about it, and if they do, tell them it's not nice to tease because I'm sure they have crushes on boys too.
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my boyfriend didnot enter his penis in my vagina bt he tried thn he relesed his sperm on my back hole n before that jst few drops of blood ws there is any chances r there that i gt pregnant (link)
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No, there's not.
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Well my boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now. But 2 months into the relationship, I kissed another boy on vacation and after two weeks we got back together. And then 9 monthsi into the relationship, he cheated on me and took a girl out and made out with her. I forgave him like he did me, and we started dating again. But after every little fight we have, he goes and talks to girls on facebook and flirts and yesterday, He wouldnt let me get on his facebook so when he finally did, he had mssgs to girls telling them there beautiful, and asking his friends to "hook him up" with this girl, and asking guys who was that one chick, imma add her on facebook etc. We go to diffrent schools which makes it harder, but it happens every time. And before he let me read some of the mssgs, he locked himself in the bathroom and deleted other ones which is bad. I dont think hes physically cheated on me since then, but what should i do? :/ (link)
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Break up break up break up break up break up. The guy is being a cheater, a user and a liar. He's being untrustful.
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