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alright so i sorta kinda maybe like this boy and idk if i want to cause i always end up for going byos i dont know to well..and get my self hurt..
but the bright part is he might also like me too..and i just wanna hang out with him more..

but there is anthor prob..so there is this guy "bob" ( thats what we will call him ) and we've been having this thing for a while now..about 2 months or so but we go to differnt school and he lives abnout 15 mins away..and whenever we try hanging out he cancles at the last min or just can't ..and i tried telling him about this and he goes well its not like your not busy..but thats not true cuase im ALWAYS inviting him to places and making sure hes on the kids i have come..but oh guess what..HE CAN'T!!!!!and so he got alll mad cause i was at the movies with guys and hes lik oh blah blah..and i was like i dindt do anything ..

and so we talked after about 2 weeks. and were talking and we got on the subject of our like "status" and i was lik well..idk if like you..( i don't know cause its just so damn hard..and thats when i started sorta likeing the other guy i talked about above..

i just don't know what to do..HELP ANYONE?!?!!!?

well, lets see, so you've got say a friends with bennifits type person, who acts sorta like a boyfriend but you're not that into him and youre liking other people. thats very simple. moveon from the nonboyfriend dude who seems to not be so great anyway.

ok well me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a month and a half, and well two nights ago he told me that he loves me. it was in a message over myspace so i just didnt respond..well last night he said it again and i asked him if he really did mean it and everything and he said that he did... he said that hes been thinking about it for the past week but he just wanted to be positive that he really did feel that way before he said it... well the thing is that im not sure if i love him, like i love him as a person and everything like i care for him alot but i dont think im in love with him, but yet for some reason i told him that i do love him but that ive been in love with someone before and that i felt alot more for that other person when we had gone out..another thing that im not sure about is that this guy has told three other girls besides me that he loved them.. i asked him about this and he said that he only really loved one of them, the other two that he apparently loved had told him that they loved him first so he just felt obligated to say it back... he told me that he loved me first... i dont really knwo if i should believe him or not... so i just wanted to know basically if A.)i should believe him when he tells me that he loves me and B.) if i should say anything else back to him about him loving me like about how i had told him that i love him too.. should i take it back or what cause i do love him, but im not in love if that makes any sense... thanks in advance.

if you have to stop and question if you really feel the same, chances are you don't. i know how it is, with loving someone and then just fresh in a new relationship, that old love is still there. basically being with someone for a little over a month is way too early to be saying 'i love you' i've been with my boyfriend for a year and 2 months. we've been saying those three little words for quite sometime, but we realized that we really ment them when we were together for 7 months. anyway, if you feel doubtful, give yourself some time is all i'm saying. if he really loves you, he'll understand. sorry i went off in a tangent there. :/

soo i have a short tongue. and i basically wanted to know if like making out with someone with a short tongue sucks or not? cause i heard that long tongues are better. are they? if so..any tricks? to make it better and all?

well, i know i wouldn't want to make out with a frog.. you know the long tongue and all.. but i don't believe its a problem. be confident in yourself, it does alot.

15/f

sorry, i had to use my friend's account... but just to say that she already knows that i'm using hers. so yeah, anyways.... i'm just going to get to the point.

my boyfriend wants to have sex with me. and it hasn't even been 2 months yet. i told him when i'm ready, and he's already ready. but then he said he'll give me time, he's the type of boyfriend that doesn't pressure a girl into anything. he says that i'm the best girlfriend he ever had and that he hasn't felt like this to anyone besides me. i want to do it, but the problem is some things are holding me back.. like i'm scared my body won't be looking the same (because thats what i hear all the time), i'm scared i'm going to regret it, i don't want to end up like my sister(her boyfriend took advantage for her and used her for her body), and it's too early. should i just take the risk? or should i just not do anything at all. because part of me does want to loose it to him, but part of me wants to not loose it. >.< help me?

love, jenny.

Hi Jenny.
i lost my virginity to a boy when i was 15. i still regret it to this very day. if you feel any ounce of that not wanting to do it just yet or its too early feeling - don't do it. and yes its usually an amazing feeling for girls when they loose it and all. but that feeling goes away and then you're stuck with the reality that you just lost a big part of yourself to a guy that you barely know - or maybe you do know him but you know what i mean. i don't think you are too young for say. but i do think you need to really think about what you are doing. your virginity is a one time thing. and you should take as long as you want to before doing anything. be thankful that he's sweet and is allowing the time. a lot of boys would just leave. much like your sister's ex.

I made out with a guy a few weeks ago. I have a project in the works that would leave us alone together for several hours, hopefully to repeat the experience. I was wondering if anyone knows any specials tricks that guys really like when you're kissing them or particularly sensitive spots that wouldn't be too embarrassing to caress mid-make-out (I'm not looking to grab the family jewels, ok? I'm talking collarbone, behind the ear, stuff like that.)

thx

there is a line of soft spots following from right behind the ear.. you can feel it between your jaw bone and the bone behind your ear there is a soft spot.. follow that line all the way to your collar bone and then kiss lightly and a little hard suction in a couple of places.. all guys like that.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a month. He just turned 18 and I'm soon to be 15 so we're about 3 1/2 years apart. Nothing bad or serious is going on but we do make each other very happy. I don't see him often but we talk on the phone for about 3 hours every night. My parents and family have no problem with it, they like him. But, his mom hates me! She's vietnamese and is from Vietnam so she has different views. He's an only child so I totally understand her being protective but idk what to do. I want badly to change for her but also, he likes me for me and I don't want that to change. They constantly fight about me, even tho I haven't seen her in weeks and she doesn't really know we hang out (she doesn't even know we're offically dating, he hasn't told her). She thinks I'm just doing this to prove I can get an older guy and mess up his life but that's not true! I care very much about him and love him a lot. I always put him first, he's one of the best people in my life. But I'm afraid that all this fighting is going to drive him crazy and he's going to decide it's not worth it and everything is too complicated. I'm stuck. What do I do?

that is a very big difference in age.
but as long as ya'll aren't fooling
around and such, i don't see how you
could be messing up his life. and i
wouldn't really take it personally
i think she is just shocked at how
young you are. and vietnamese women
are, i don't know how to put it
exactly but, they're very strong in
they're beliefs and opinions. but
maybe trying to talk to her and
just tell her that you both enjoy
eachother's company. communication
is the policy. if you don't talk
about things it won't ever work out
or get better.

i hope things work out for the best.
-beth

okay . so , me & my current bf have been dating off & on , for around 3/4 months . anyways , about a month ago he broke up with me , then the next day i found out he was going out with my bestfriend in 5th grade(caitlyn) [that he knew because she went to his school now,] and he said he only went out with her because he missed me . which didn`t really make any sence at the time , so i took him back . then today i talked to the girl he wen`t out with [caitlyn] on the computer then she said "your bf didnt want me to tell you , but i will anyways . before he "broke up" with you , he was going out with me" then i said "so he was cheating on me?!" then she goes "yes , for a day , then he broke up with me because he really liked you" so i started crying , and then i called him to get the details and i told him the whole story what had happend . he said that caitlyn still liked him & that wasn`t true at all . he said that they had started talking about going out , but never accually did . and now i`m stuck in the middle & i don`t know who to belive . my friends pretty much hate him because i`ve gave him a lot of chances . and idk . i reallllyy love him , he was my first real boyfriend , my first kiss . and idk what to do , i`m just stuck in the middle .

sounds like hes playing you dear. leave his ass, he's not important anyway.

always remember this "there's a reason you broke up in the first place, and that reason will always come up again"

ok i was wondering what are some good tips to do with your hands or mouth while kissing, and like where to do it and stuff to make it more enjoyable for her

grab the back of her head - gently. pull her close to you, don't kiss her yet, but let your lips stroke hers, and look her in the eyes, play with her hair caress her neck and slowly kiss her.

that gets me everytime :]

How bad is it to cheat? I mean we always hear about it being the lowest of low, but I have friends who've had sex with other people and their boyfriends forgave them. Is it really all that big of a deal? My boyfriend is in Europe with some attractive girls that are always crushing on him, I've pretty much accepted the fact that he might cheat because I know how flirty he can get without realizing it. How bad would it be if I cheated, just kissing or so? I would like to know, so I'll be prepared to react in the right manner if anything happens by either of us.

Thanks.

Cheating is stupid, if you want to kiss other people you're obviously not into the person you are with. I'm not being rude, I am simply voicing my opinion.

And boys who forgive silly girls who cheat should really look at the big picture. If they were really sorry for cheating, because trust me, you will be sorry one day, they would have thought about it.

Plane and simple, if you cheat, you obviously don't care about the person you are with, or their feelings.

Do i really need love? I mean all my friends have at least kissed one guy and I haven't kissed, hugged or made physical contact with any of my past bf's. My first bf only touched my leg. My 2nd one was too creepy to do anything. My 3rd one never talked to me. How can i get a good boyfriend? HELP. I'm not enjoying being single much anymore. Please, i need emergency dating tips! PLEASE! I want ot date again. Sure my first experiences sucked, but still... Not all guys are shallow, right? HELP!

oh honey haha.. :] you're so young. you have a lot of life ahead of you and plenty of time to start kissing on boys. and to answer your question, no you do not need love, and at your age you probably will not find love anywhere, because boys still have cooties.

okay. im 14/f, and i have a huge problem. my boyfriend is really shy, and i dont know what to talk about around him.(im kinda really shy too.) like, what if i want to start kissing him? how should i do that?(im obviously not experienced)thanks.

Just do it. You'll be happy you did. And so will he

so my b/f was on AIM and he's at the movies with his sister and my bf`s friend katie . anyways, he IMed me & said "hey im with people who hate you" and i`m all "wow thats nice . because they thing i`m a pansy , right? just because i wear hollister doesn`t make me a prep . get over it"
(i get really annoyed because he is on the punkish-emo side & so are his friends) anyways someone goes "this is his sister & katie we hate you go suck a penis you pansy!" and idk what i should do , he was being really rude && idk what i should say to him the next time i talk to him . any advice ? what should i tell him ? break-up or not ?

sounds to me like your boyfriend is entierly immature and isn't that into you if he is going to let that happen.

i agree entierly with your friend and i do believe you should leave his ass. he is going to either try and make it look like he didn't know what was going on, or he will be even more rude because he's pissed you're leaving him.

either way, you're wayy better off without him.

13/f
my bf and i have been going out for over a year. during the school year we're both really busy, so we only see each other at lunch and on the weekends. but now that summer is here, we can see each other all the time (he lives on my street). the problem is, we can never agree on anything to do. he never wants to do anything i suggest (swimming, bike rides, bowling, etc). all he wants to do is hang with his friends and do stupid guy stuff, and he always wants me to sit there and watch them blow things up, do crazy stunts or play video games. i want to be with him, but its soooo boring! and whenever we're alone together, all he wants to do is make out, which i don't *always* feel like doing. so we've been getting in fights because we're bored and we can't find anything we both like doing. i dont want us to get bored of each other or fight all the time... so what can i do to keep things exciting?

Try and join into what he is doing with his friends. I personally love to blow things up, so it would be easy for me to fit right in, I don't know you or your personality or things you like to do, but I do know, that guys love it when girls do crazy things or join into whatever they're doing.

so my best guy friend i went out with for like a week a month ago. but we broke up, and now i REALLY like him. like its crazy. and my semi is tomorrow and i really want to kiss him. (dont worry im not a slut). so how do i do this? and i am REALLY not the kinda girl to just take his hand and go into the bathroom or w/e. like i wouldnt even me like "you wanna go get somethin to eat out in the hall" ( we have snacks at our semis) pleasee help
14/f
thank soooo much %%

Just do it. I promise, you'll be glad that you did. Sometimes you just need to push yourself.

what do you think about sweet-talkers? do you think its cute? i think its cute as long as you can play along with it do you think so? and does anyone know a "line"? you heard it from someone?

here's a funny one,
i love you as much
as an anorexic hates
food.

Mkay, I need some advice about my ex-boyfriend.
Over the course of 4 years we broke up several times and called it quits for a few years, abut 6 months ago we called me and asked me back out, i thought it over and answered yes. I was really happy at first..and so was he. Then my parents got really strict and wouldnt let me go out that much, then he started blaming my family and my friends for not being able to see me. It really hurt me. We spent an entire night on the phone working it out. One night he was at my house and we were watching the Notebook and talking, he kept telling me to kiss him to kiss him and all this, && i wouldnt because it didnt feel right, if that makes any sense at all. We worked all that out and i was really happy again. We had a big fight and broke up, we still talk about us all the time..and i feel like i love him. I know everything about him, all his deepest secrets and i think we are meant to be...I need some advice..should i just try and get over him? or should i try to get back together with him. Im so confused, i cry myself to sleep most of the time, and bust out in tears everytime i hear certain songs, and its been about three months since all this happened.

I am a thirteen year old female

i'm not sure if you got my other answer, but "get over him" was not what i was trying to say, boys are silly, and you'll have plenty of time to find right guys at your age

this guy used to flirt with me alot when he had a girlfriend and i was instantly drawn to him and i think he liked me too. he kept asking if i had a boyfriend and if i liked anyone. i didn't want to tell him who i liked because it was him and i was afriad things wouldn't be the same between us if i did. was he trying to ask me to be his girlfriend? anyway we were good friends for a while but now we don't talk at all because he doesn't like me or anyone else that goes to my school and he ignores me when i try to talk to him. what do i do should i not try to talk to him anymore and wait till he talks to me first or should i just ignore him completley even when he does try to talk to me?

He probably doesnt hate you, but having him talk to you and flirt with you all the time may have gotten him in trouble with his girlfriend if she knew.

And if this is how he is acting now, he probably wasn't worth it anyway. You can find someone that is better for you I promise.

You never know, they may be sitting right in front of you.

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