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I'm a 17 yr. old girl, and I usually have no problem getting a guy, I think I just attract all the wrong guys, alot of guys come up to me but I kinda give them attitude or either they just see me not girlfriend material? I'm so sick and tired of them looking at me sexually. So whats wrong with me.
- I do not dress sexually, mini skirts, etc. I dress classy
-I love to hang out with the guys
- I'm not really good at flirting
-I'm a virgin, I have done nothing sexual whatsoever.
So why do all these guys see me as nothing more than just a girl to hook-up with?

hun there's nothing wrong with you.
I'm in the same boat. a lot of guys just like hook-ups. as you go along mingling with people you'll come across someone who realizes that you would make a good girlfriend.

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what are some thigs i could do to have me stand out bfrom everyone else...in a positive way?

be yourself and not ask other people's ideas or care what they think.
(I know that sounds rude, but honestly, Thats all thats going to work unless you want to stand out to the guys and just make yourself a slut... but I don't recommend that.)

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well, the guy I like is exactly one year younger than me. I'm going to be a sophmore next year. Should I be ashamed? I'm afraid everyone at church will think I cant get a guy my own age. But, I really like him...I think he might too...advice?

Honey, one year is Not a difference at all. I mean, take a look at all your parents, aunts and uncles, grandparents, and family friends, and friends who got married. most of them have more than a years difference. my grandparents have four years between them... there are people with more than ten years difference. It makes no difference.

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So ive had a few grlfriends over the years, and i feel like each one has taught me something diffrent about what i like and dont like about relationships.

But what i can't figure out is,
why do i always get broken up with?

Im a good boyfriend!! I remember dates, i bring them flowers, i call to see how theyre doing, i do my absolute best. i really do. but they always end up breaking up with ME! i dont know whats wrong with me!

Like my last one, broke up with me RIGHT after i told her happy one month and gave her a ring. right after to my face! am i ugly or something? i dont think so. i like to think im fairly good looking.

this is probably just me rambling and ranting but id like some advice as to what i should do diffrently :)

thanks

Dude, I would kill to have a boyfriend like you.

but anyway, It sounds like your girls are extremely shallow. But It takes practice to find the right person. Just don't give up on it. You'll find the right one soon enough :]

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my (first) boyfriend of 2 days asked me out on a (first) date. i dont want him to "make a move" so should i::

1. tell him that i already had plans with my friends to go to the mall, but he can come and bring friends

2. tell him that my parents wont let me see a movie with him alone, so tell him that i need to bring friends.

3. other





((also, will there still be a chance either way that he'll make a move?))

cause i dont want to have to tell him that im not ready.


im so stressed. HELP!

Just calm down and realize that he's probably just as nervous as you are. If I were you I'd just go to the movies with him. Play by ear you know? I mean if he puts his arm around you, thats nothing its like a hug. and anything further just ask him nicely to stop. He'll listen.

or if you really are losing sleep over this, go on a double date.

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okay. idk how to say this, but everytime i like a guy, i
have no idea who they are and slowly get to know them.
only to realize that EVERY SINGLE GUY i have ever
liked has been a skater! and i know you're thinking, "well
i mean how do you not know he's a skater..." well i just
dont get it! like they dont LOOK like skaters (all of
them) but i ALWAYS like a guy and my friends or who-
ever are like, oh he's a skater.. and im like... why?!

is something wrong with me?? why does this always
happen?

hmm I've got a question. Why does it matter. If you like him, then you like him, skater or not. Its just a label right? It doesn't count for anything.

The only thing that matters is whether they are a good person or not, you know, if they treat you right, and care for you too. There's nothing wrong with being a skater

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I fall asleep and i dream of the most hotties men, you could imagin of what i do with them :D
But i wake up and think of my best friend who is a women. Why?
i want to have sex with a man, i want them to hold me, i want to make out with men and i love it when men look at me.
But why do i worry about my friend June? I care about her, want to hold her, and when she leans on me i want to cuddle with her.
I know i became bi
but she is the only women that i only has eyes for.i dont look at other women in a sexual way, i compear myself with them.
i dont get it?

I would say that its because you care for her. She's your best friend and you're obviously really close. It may not be that you're bi, if she's the only woman that you look at in a sexual way. I would just call it caring for her, wanting to keep her safe.

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Okay im 14/f and my ex broke up with me like a year ago. but he was my very 1st kiss. and i still like him. even tho i have a new boyfriend. last weekend was my exboyfriends birthday. while i was using the restroom my best friend kissed him. and when i came back down they were all over each other. and im kinda mad at her. but the thing is...they arent dating..and i dont know why but my feelings for him got stronger because of that. so i guess my question is should i be mad at my best friend? and is it normal for the feelings to get stronger?
please tell me.

No you shouldn't get mad at her. You have a boyfriend of your own, and you can't control other people's lives. But Yes, feelings like that are normal, and they may get stronger, but just realize that, maybe she really likes him too. and it wouldn't be fair to her if you told her she couldn't go out with him. That would make you seem very controlling to her, and him too. They would both get mad at you for that. (Plus your boyfriend would get jealous and think that you don't have sincere feelings)

(I've been in a similar situation) Just be happy that they're happy, and realize that your boyfriend is happy to be with you, and be happy that you have him.

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I used to love flirting and having tons of fun with guys, but lately i have completely gotten out of it. i gained weight stopped making myself look good and feel like everything is going downhill. I want get back to how I used to be. What do I do? I'm not comfortable with myself anymore

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Well, Don't look toward getting to how you Used to be. Because, If how you used to be was how you Want to be, then you wouldn't have changed.
Even if you think that, thats what you want. Your subconscience let you slack because it was easier for you, or for some reason.

Set small goals, like starting an excersize routine.
or walking places instead of driving. and rationing your junk foods. Things like that will bring you to a healthy body shape. And, just have confidence. People see confidence, If you act like you like who you are, You'll trick yourself into actually liking yourself. and when You like yourself, You take care of yourself. And Boys especially like that kind of confidence

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i have the strangest feeling my boyfriend is cheating on me is there anyway i can spy on him?
I really want to get his text messages sent to my phone too?Is that possible or is there something else i could try? Some one help please!

Darling, You're going about this all wrong.
Get a pen and paper. and list everything that is suspicious. and I don't mean things like "he spends time talking to a lot of people on the phone"
If you do come up with a significant list, talk to him to his face. tell him that you're concerned and why. If he's mature enough to talk to you directly about your thoughts, then He's a keeper.
but Going behind his back will destroy his trust and he wont want you. You'd be out of his life like yesterday's newspaper.

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Hey. Well, I'm thirteen/female. My problem is that when I get to like someone, I fall for them hard. Which I guess wouldn't be a bad thing, but like I can't stop thinking about them. I know like that's a sign of loving someone, but I feel it for everyone. I guess you could say I love flirting, but if there's one bad thing I'm not it's deffinatly a slut. I was wondering if there is anything I could do to fall a little less hard for people. Thanks anyways, even if you can't answer my question, thanks for reading. ♥.

Darling, You may think that you Love these kids, but you dont. its mainly a psychological thing. Hormones. running rabid. Its a phase that will pass.
Just stick it out. Dont do anything rash like making out with everybody you think about. Everybody, whether or not they admit to it, has gone through just this. And if they want to call you a slut for it, just tell'em to go shove it cause they've had the same feelings at one point or another. You might just be a little more upfront about it.
~Webby

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Yesterday this guy admitted to me he used to really like me, and I asked him if he still did and he said, "eh i do in a way, its hard to explain though" what could he mean by that? My friend asked him why he doesn't just ask me out, and he said, "mainly its cause i know she doesn't like me and im just plain scared of relationships" i dooooo like him though. how can i get him to ask me out & not be scared of relationships?

Tell him that you're interested but if he doesnt want to rush into anything that he can take his time. Pretty much just start hanging out with him more and more until he's really comfortable around you, and things'll work out in time.

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well ok lets see im 16/f and im in my first relationship... but the thing is that im not allowed to date. and i told my cousin and she's proud of me that i told her and that im able to confide in her and now she can trust me. well she said that i should tell my brother so that he can also trust me instead of him getting mad and finding out through my myspace because it says there im in a relationship and my b/f is number on my top 8.. but im scared to tell my brother because he'll get mad... should i really tell him?

Honestly, I think that depends on how strict your parents are about your rule. Invite your boyfriend over for dinner with your parents. If they think he's a good person tell them that the two of you are mutually interested in going out and see what they have to say.
There's no sense in hiding it from your parents, cause they'd find out sooner or later anyway.
and also if your parents do find out cause of your brother that would land you in Deep trouble.

~Webby

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Alright I know we all hate these questions but im finally in a position to ask for help.....
Here it goes...

I have a boyfriend of 4 months...But basically 6 months from the time we really started talking.
Then i have a boy that i was on and off with for 2 years. We never "went out" but we hooked up and EVRYTIME we see eachother we always get these feelings back!!!

Well this other guy called every 2 weeks asking if i am still together with my BF and i say yes and hes like okay il ttyl. So finally he called 3 days ago and he wanted to hangout so i was like YEAH!!! so I hungout 2 days NON stop. And I got these feelings back.
I missed him SOOO much.
And ive thought about him while being together with my BF.
BUT my boyfriend knows about the relationship we had or 2 years and that we were on and off and that we like loved eachother.

What do i do?
Do i leave my Bf who I love?
For someone Ive loved 2 years?
I keep thinking i should do I can just HAVE FUN for a while! But Im scared of doing that and Missing my BF terribly.
This is killing me and i havent said much to my bf I kinda avoid calls cause I wanna decide before I talk to him so I have something to say.

PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!

Well if I were in your situation I'd talk to both of them and let'em know whats going on. Cause its really not fair to either of them if you hide your feelings. Do you know what I mean?
If they're both good people, (I don't know them so I wouldn't know how they'd take this) They'll understand what's going on, and probably won't mind if you break off any ties other than just friendship. In other words, tell your boyfriend that you need an opening to clear your head. If he really loves you, he'll stick around and be patient.

~Webby

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