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Boyfriend VS. 2 year love!
Alright I know we all hate these questions but im finally in a position to ask for help.....
Here it goes...
I have a boyfriend of 4 months...But basically 6 months from the time we really started talking.
Then i have a boy that i was on and off with for 2 years. We never "went out" but we hooked up and EVRYTIME we see eachother we always get these feelings back!!!
Well this other guy called every 2 weeks asking if i am still together with my BF and i say yes and hes like okay il ttyl. So finally he called 3 days ago and he wanted to hangout so i was like YEAH!!! so I hungout 2 days NON stop. And I got these feelings back.
I missed him SOOO much.
And ive thought about him while being together with my BF.
BUT my boyfriend knows about the relationship we had or 2 years and that we were on and off and that we like loved eachother.
What do i do?
Do i leave my Bf who I love?
For someone Ive loved 2 years?
I keep thinking i should do I can just HAVE FUN for a while! But Im scared of doing that and Missing my BF terribly.
This is killing me and i havent said much to my bf I kinda avoid calls cause I wanna decide before I talk to him so I have something to say.
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!
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Dear "bf vs. 2-yr love",
Though your feelings for your boyfriend may be very strong it is definatly not love if your thinking about someone else. Especially if your even thinking about this other guy when your with your boyfriend.
I couldn't tell you what would happen with this other guy or if you'de regret leaving your boyfriend; but I can tell you that you will regret not finding out for yourself. You obviously can't fully give your heart to either of them as long as your spliting your attention on both of them. Plus it really isn't fair to your man that you are stringing him along while you try and make up your mind.
My suggestion would be to break it off with your boyfriend because if your thinking about someone else your obviously not thinking about him. And it's not fair to either of you to be held up in a relationship that isn't going anywhere. That's not to say that it can't go anywhere, but rather that it won't go anywhere as long as your so mixed up about your feelings.
Take some time apart-- and that means from both of them, not just your bf. Clear your head and really think about both sides. Sometimes it's helpful to make pro/con lists- it sounds silly but when you have it written down infront of you to look at it often makes more sence. But in the end your going to just have to ditch the lists and go with your gut. You intuition won't ever let you down. But you won't be able to hear what it's saying until your in a neutral zone.
Good luck! If you need any more advice you can send it to my personal inbox or my private e-mail at AskKambrey@yahoo.com and I'll do what I can to help.
~Kambrey
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well there might be a reason that you and that other boy never went out. There are more to relationships then "hooking up". I think that you should take some time to really think if you love your boyfriend or if you love this other guy. You cant have both. Talk to the guy that youve known for 2 years and make sure that he wants to persue a relationship as much as you because you wouldnt want to throw away your current boyfriend for some jerk. Make sure your not going to regret anything. Talk to them both and maybe youll find out which one will give you what you want.
good luck!
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Well if I were in your situation I'd talk to both of them and let'em know whats going on. Cause its really not fair to either of them if you hide your feelings. Do you know what I mean?
If they're both good people, (I don't know them so I wouldn't know how they'd take this) They'll understand what's going on, and probably won't mind if you break off any ties other than just friendship. In other words, tell your boyfriend that you need an opening to clear your head. If he really loves you, he'll stick around and be patient.
~Webby
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Well it seems like you did make up your mind like the one said. But which one do you really like? To be completely honest with you I would go with the one you have known for 2 years because you probably know him more then you are currently seeing. So thats my advice. I hope this helped!
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well what you have to do is spend lots of time with both of them and see who you like more.Or you can decide to just be friends with both of them and you can still like make out with them and stuff lol.If i was you i would choose the guy that i liked the longest but im not you so,its your desition.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie
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ok heres the thing to me it sounds like you have already made up your mind and all you need is for someone to tell you that its meant to be. I would talk to your ex and make sure that he is on the same page as you first of all. then if he is and your sure that this time around you are meant to be then sit down with your bf and explain what he probably suspects if you have been tryin to avoid his calls. It wont be easy as im sure you already know but I hope that it works out and that you find what your looking for in the end wether it be one of the above or someone completely different.
Sucky advice today I know but its the best i can do good luk and i hope ive helped.
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