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Im going out with this girl and i really love her but my parents don't know about it.Im afraid to tell them or ask them if i can go out on a date.Im 13...but i think there over protective.
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your 13 yrs old.. You def not in love... You just think you are... Your in something called puppy love... and you will grow out of it.. trust me.. But... as far as the date.. I think you just tell your parents you met this really nice girl (of course let them meet her before this "date") and tell them that you would like to take her to the movies or something. If they say no.. then maybe invite her to your place a couple times.. let your parents get to know her a little more. and then eventually they will grow to like her.. and then your date might just happen.
Hope This Helps... Need Anything Else Drop One In The Inbox..
*Jackie*
GoodLuck
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im a younge girl turning 16 in march the 1 and i been going out whith this guy for 9months now but the only diffrence is hes 21 a five year gape i dont see nothing wronge whith it but some people do im really in love whith him and he says he loves me and wants me 2 be hes 4 a enternity hes in jail at a moment but 4 somthing his friend done and i dont want eny one else to be his girl sep me can i hear what yous got to say plz (link)
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Hunnie... Why are you with someone who is currently in Jail?? You may think your in love.. and in reality you might be.. your 16 years old... You have time.. Be a teenager...I'm 18. and my boyfriend is 16.. so mine is the opposite of yours... but.. he got sent away in April... and was able to come home at the end of June .. So I Guess I Know how you feel.. I cant tell you not to be with him.. because people told me the same thing when my boyfriend was gone... And I've been with my boyfriend a little over a year now.. You need to tell him that you truly have feelings for him.. and that you want to be the only girl in his life... and if he cant do that.. Then.. you can move on to someone better... you dont want to be with someone who is going to have other girls besides you..thats not far to you..
Hope This Helps.... Good Luck..
*Jackie*
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i met a cute guy this weekend, at a rebel paintball cuarse - he works there - my house is jus a few blocks away from it - we started chattin right away - well - long story short - i was playin with his phone, and he told me 2 put my number on - i asked him why, and he told me its so he can call me when hes there again - i dont know if he likes me - but it sure looks that way - i jus wanna know - does he like me - or doesnt he - cause i sure-as-hell like him. (link)
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He def sounds like he might have some interest in you. I Dont think hed ask you for your number if he didnt have some interest in you. Give him a couple days to call you and see how things for from there. I would tell him you have a crush on him.. maybe things will end up going great and you'll be hooked up before you know it..
hope this helps... GOod Luck..
*Jackie*
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i want to be with this guy (we both know we like each other) but my friends don't want to see my with him. But i think every one know we want each other.We are mad cool, last year we got tighter than ever.He left for the summer came back.When school started everyone thought we were togeather. i stayed single he dated couple of girls (one of them was my friend) I love him to death he and everyone knows that.I started to call him baby boo. What should i do?I want him but i don't want my friend to me mad at me also.
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Ok.. So Heres the deal.. if your friends were "friends" at all they would support your decision... Dont back out of something that your friends dont want you to do.. Its your life.. You live that life.. not them... They will get mad... but they will get over it... But.. I'm going to tell you... There has to be a reason that these friends of yours dont want to see you with this guy... So talk to them.. So why they dont want to see you with this guy.. and then decide what you want to do.. But you decid.. Do what you want to do... Not what your friends want you to do.
To me you sound like a smart girl... and he seems like he likes you too from the sounds of what you said.. I think that you should go for it..
Keep Me Updated... Good Luck.. And I Hope This Helps... If You Need Anything Else... You Can Drop One In My Inbox..
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Alright, Me and this guy were talking a lot and he told me he loved me and all that jazz. Then he started getting mad at me over stupid things and once I would explain myself he would be like alright. Then we got in this huge fight. And fought for a week. Then just yesterday he IMed me out of the blue. He said that he wanted to try the friends thing for now. I really like this kid, If I don't love him. I don't know what to do. He's always flirting with other girls and everything and I'm just like...wow. I really want to go out with him. But I know he would say no. I just wish he would like me.
I mean whenever he said he wanted to try the just friends thing for now part he sent me this poem/letter he wrote during the week we were mad at eachother and it made me cry. It basically said that he will always care about me and that sometimes he's stupid about things and wishes I would just over look them.
I really don't know what to do. I'm so confused. I just want him to like me..Wow...Please help me.
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Hey Sweetie... Don't get stressed over it.. Everything will work out fine.. What I think you should do.. Is tell him exactly how you feel.. Dont leave anything out.. Because he may have the same exact feelings for you. and is just too shy to tell you about them.. being afraid of being denied by you. I'm guessing because he wrote you poems and stuff he likes you as well.
You are probably better off staying friends for a little while.. Get to know each other better then what you do. Then go from there. But if you both like each other. In the end it will work..
I Hope This Helps... Good Luck..
Need anything.. Drop one in the inbox..
*Jackie*
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Me and my g/f have been together for 8 months on and off, and I'm taking a liking to her friend...what do i do? (link)
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we'll I'd shoot my boyfriend if he started liking my friend.. But.. Then again.. me and my boyfriend have been together over a year... No.. I wouldnt shoot him.. but id be pretty upset... But... You def need to tell your girlfriend that you have feelings for her friend.. You also need to find out if her friend likes you before you go and tell your girlfriend how you feel about her friend.. Then your gonna have no girl...
Sorry if this seems harsh..
Good Luck.
**Jackie**
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i am with this guy and we have been seriously disucssing marriage. we both want to get married to each other and we want that badly. more than anything else. we are about to move in together shortly, but my question is, if we are planning it and things, but he hasnt actually ASKED me "Will you marry me" and all that shit. so are we considered engaged or what? i am a bit confused. he wants to wait to actually ask me until he can buy the perfect ring and all that cutesy stuff. but until then are we considered engaged or not...i know its stupid but i cant figure it out. i will rate all answers that i get, i promise! (except the smart ass ones) (link)
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I wouldn't consider you guys being engaged until he actually asks you to marry him... Then it is offical... Even with all this marriage stuff going on... Moving in together.. and such.. doesnt make you guys engaged.. I believe he has to actually ask you before your engaged.. hope this helps..
Good Luck..
**Jackie**
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no one knows I like this guy stares when I ignore him to shy to say a word wat do I do? (link)
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Well.. I was the same way when I was younger.. I was always to shy to talk to a guy or say a word to them.. Like my cousin had alot of guy friends that liked me..and I could never talk to them.. I felt soo stupid.. You just need to get over that fear... Be yourself... Im not saying you have to be very talkative with him.. Just... If you see him.. Say Hi... Whats Going On... Start off with little things.. Then eventually you will beable to talk to him... If you see him staring at you.. Give him a cute little smile.. let him know you seen him looking at you.. and even the little smile will show you may also like him... Cuz.. He must like you if he stares at you and stuff..
Good Luck.. Hope This Helps..
**Jackie**
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ok the other day i was a t home (i live with my freind and her fiance temporarily) and we werw all at home when a friend of her fiance's came over. and later that night he tried to kiss me when we were alone (my freind had went upstairs to get soem cards and her fiance went to the bathroom) and he tried to kiss me. now mind you i have a boyfreind alreay, and what the guy did made me really uncomfortable. now mind you he didnt ACTUALLY kiss me, but he tried. i was able to "get away" if you will before he atually kissed me. but my question is, should i tell my boyfriend and if so how? i mean i know he is gonna wanna kill the guy for laying his hands on me, adn then he is gonna be upset b/c he wasnt there to protect me. how should i handle this i dont know what to do. i mean i dont want to tell him b/c i dont want to get him upset. and i dont want to not tell him, becuase omissions are betrayals. help me please!!! (link)
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I think that you probably should tell him.. Youd rather have him hear it from you..then possibly hear it from someone else... Even Tho it was just you and this guy... You need to also tell him that he did NOT kiss you.. and that you would never betray him like that... But tell him not to get upset... that nothing had happened.. and that you handeled it yourself... Yes.. i'm sure he will be upset.. but what boyfriend wouldnt... my boyfriend would be the same way...
Hope This Helps.... Good Luck..
**Jackie**
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Okay This kid is a year older then me and hes so cute!!!! I think he may and may not like me I'm not really sure! Okay so I was in 5th Grade and he was 6th and he would like always look at me and stuff and now were older and he talks to me online and the other day my friend asked him online if i asked him out would he go out with me and he said I dont know maybe So I dont know if i should ask him myself or what?? I played the "knockout" game its a basketball game and it got down to me and him and I won! I was happy! But anyways. I don't know what I should do he goes to my school and I'm like a 50/50 here. Do you think he likes me? what should I do?? im not that kind of a person that can just go up to someone and start a conversation or ask him out right away. Thanks! (link)
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We'll I think that you should go for it... I mean what is there to lose... Yeah.. maybe he will say no... and that can be heartbreaking.. but there is also a chance that he will say yes...
I was the same way... I could never go up to a guy and start a converstation much less ask him out... so If you both have computers and talk on line... maybe a good way to ask him out.. is to do it online... that way.. if he does say no... its not too humilating because you werent face to face.. do you know what I mean..
Hope this helps... Good Luck... Let Me Know What Happens..
**Jackie**
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ok so i bascially love this kid hes 15, im 13. people always say flirt with him, but whenever i do, hes always like dosent back. i need advice as to wha i can do.
ps-i dont giving up is an optino anymore. (link)
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Alright... So here's the deal.. you flirt and flirt... and he never flirts back... Maybe hes just not a flirting type of guy.. You should tell him straight up that you really like him... and see how he feels about you.. He may have the same feelings for you.. or he may not...but you need to tell him how you feel... or he will never know...
hope this helps.... good luck..
**Jackie**
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how do you know when your in love or what is love? (link)
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How old are you?? alot of young people have what they call "puppy love" and they find their selves in love with alot of guys... but indeed its just an infatuation... and youll just move on when someone cuter... or smarter comes along..
but... for your question... you'll know when your in love... and your the only person who can say what love is... if you dont know what love is... your not ready to love somebody...
Hope this helps.. Good Luck..
*Jackie*
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I like this guy named Zack. He's been acting like my boyfriend for quite while but he never asked me out. I really felt that he liked me the same way I like him. So I asked him if he felt the same way. And his response was " Are you joking me? I`d never go out with you again" ( we went out last year )
I'm so heartbroken. I thought he really liked me this time. what should I do? i still like him, even though he was a jerk. (link)
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Hunnie... You need to get over this guy.. I know that it may be hard.. but.. you dont need to be disrespected like that... It was rude of him to say that to you... and act like your boyfriend when he never really had feelings for you... That will totally mess with your emotions... Your probably young.. and there are plenty of avaiable guys out there.. waiting for find a nice girl to be with.. so dont be down about this guy.. he seems like a real jerk..
Hope This Helps... Good Luck..
*Jackie*
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well
i have a crush on this guy (Lets callhim bob) and we both happen to be going to the freshers party next week.
he said to his mates he wanted to get with me and they told me.
BUT
my best friend just told she fancies bob but she dosent know i fancy him too.
and she is also coming to this freshers party only because she knows im going and so is bob
i REALLY dont know what to do.
should i tell her i like him or shall i wait to the party and see what happens?
xoxox
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I think that you should tell your friend that you like this Bob person.. Just to let her know.. But also.. I would see how this BOB acts at the party... Who he favors more.... Or if he even has feelings for her.. before you get all down about it... If he favors you more.. is with you more at the party you've got it made.... but... if he favors your friend more... then dont even bother with it... and dont let it get you down.. your young... There are plenty of nice and available guys out there looking for a nice girl... so Keep your head up..
Good Luck.... Drop One In The Inbox if you need anything...
**Jackie**
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Hi…well me and my bf (nikko) had a fight….he always get jealous on me.Even if I talk to somebody like my classmate if it is a guy he gets jealous and he will try to say that he will break up on me but he always say in the end that he cant do that bcoz he loves me…Well tomorrow im going to an occasion with my family but he wants me to stay in the house bcoz he is afraid that I may talk to a guy there…I have promise him that I will not talk to guy there but he always say that I should stay in the house which I cant bcoz every year we go there…I know that I talk to much in a guy, I cant avoid it…I know also that I have hurt him to much…what can I do? I love him so much. I don’t wanna lose him…and I know that he loves me…plz don’t say that I should break up with him,please…
I will rate high,promiz
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GIRL!! You are definetly not right... Do you realize what your saying... and doing to yourself.. go back and read what you wrote to everyone... This guy is a loser.... First off... How old r u.... Because you dont need to be in a controlling relationship like that... He tells you not to go with your OWN FAMILY! Family should come before any guy... Trust me.. I've been through the same shit your going through... Him being controlling like this.. is eventually only going to led to alot more if you dont stop it now.... So your choices are pretty simple here....
1. your break it off before it gets too controlling and you cant get out.... Start getting hit.... cant do things with your family... cant talk to your friends.... guys or girls.... cant talk on the phone.... See... its only going to get worse..
Or Number
2. Stay with him.. and deal with the shit hes going to give you... Believe me... you dont want to take any of that shit from a guy... It took me a year to figure it out... I was hit... could only do things with him... and your not going to like it...
So needless to say.. you need to talk to this guy.. and tell him.... straight up... you are your own person.... and that you arent going to take his shit.. that if things dont change that you are gone.. Its as simple as that....
Dont be stupid girl... Smarten up...
Sorry Soo Harsh... Just dont want you going through that same shit I did.. Its hard..
*Jackie*
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I met this guy at a retreat (only like him as a friend) he kinda asked me to his homecoming. when i say kinda, it was like "if this person says no, would you wanna go w/me". Im like "well since you put it like that".(i was being sarcastic) Hes like "i didnt mean it that way". i told him if he really wanted me to i would. then he was like "really?" Anyways, 2 nights later he came to visit me at work, and told me it was a joke, and hes sorry, but that he would go to mine. Im like "nah, i already have a date." That night he talked to my friend and told her he really wants me to go to his. Im thinking WTH. The next night he imd me and asked me if i still wanted to go to his homecoming, or we could just see a movie or something. I asked him again if he really wanted to take me, and then he starts with all these excuses. Like: so and so hates you. (a girl that i havent seen for 5 yrs) and she didnt talk to me all day at school today.(that girl told him not to take me) He told me he liked me, and went on to say, "but we just met", then said "Ive decided im not going, besides, i have no money."
Then last night he ims me by saying my name, and i said "wat" and hes like "nothing". The guy is really starting to piss me off at this point. i told him no guy has ever asked me to h/c twice and then tell me he had mixed emotions. I told him you dont ask, then blame the girl for getting upset because hes trying to justify y he did wat he did!! Hes like "i dont get why h/c was such a big deal to you". i told him that wasnt the point, its how he was acting after the fact, like asking twice then make up every excuse in the book why you dont want to go, then blaming HER for getting cocky towards him. Hes like "forgive and forget, i didnt know you were gonna get like this." Hes like, "you totally misunderstood where i was coming from. (I literally wanted to punch the guy at this point) then goes on to say, "i dont want to go to h/c w/u, but i still wanted to be friends and hang out some more, but then you go and freak out on me." Hes like, "i know the evidence is against me, but why hold a grudge? He said, "Well i dont understand now why youre so hostile just because i didnt want to go to h/c w/u even after i said i did, but i had a change of heart" (change of heart twice??) Then he says IM turning everything against him!! (Damn this guy is seriously giving me a headache!)
He says he still wants to come and visit me at work and hang out. I told him thats not a good idea, and that i really dont care to talk to him anymore. Then he said i was being a bitch, and i told him he was for wat he did, and i told him not to put all his problems on me, and drag me into his messed up world. I told him that i dont want to be friends w/some1 that cant stand on their own 2 feet and cant make up their mind wat they want! Then he says "i cant believe ur so hostile after my "mistake." (is this guy a loser or wat?) well ive had enough of his bull****, so i just said that i dont want to talk to him anymore and if he ims me im just gonna block him!! He says hes glad that hes free for that night, and that im just a silly girl. Then HE blocked me! I went under my other s/n and told him that he just isnt worth my time and signed off!
I would just like some input on this. Was i being the jerk here or wat? Im not the sharpest tool in the chest, but hey, i dont think they come any stranger than this. (link)
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Wow... That was really long... I didnt read like everything.. but I read most of it... So... Here goes.... For the homecoming thing... That guy is totally messed up.. and you have a right to be mad at him.. Because I probably would have acted the same way.. It was wrong for him to ask you. then make up excuses of why he didnt want to take you... it seems like both times he asked you.. he was joking around like he didnt really want to go with you by making up the excuse about the girl not liking you and blah blah blah.. get what im saying? So... Needless to say... If he asks you again.... Tell him absouletly not... you dont need to deal with that shit from a guy.. And for your second question.. I think that you both were being a little selfish... If your "bf" indeed did owe a friend a favor and took "brit" to HER homecoming.. not yours... Then I dont see why your upset... as long as nothing went on... and for them acting like they were together... that was wrong... If he truely likes you as you say you guys do. then he wouldn't of done that... but.. then again it sounds like maybe they kind of still have feelings for each other if they had liked each other before... So... Im saying... you dont need either of these guys... You seem like a smart girl.. and no how to handle yourself...Go out and find someone worth being with... that wont hurt you.. make up lame excuses like these guys.. and you'll do just fine....
Hope This Helps... Good Luck..
*Jackie*
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my boyfriend broke up with me because i didn't want to go any farther with him. now he seems to regret it and wants to get back together. should i give him another chance? (link)
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It's your decision on if you should give him another chance. If you do decide that you want to give him another chance.. I think that you need to tell him straight up... You dont want to go any further with him then you had before.. That your feelings and mind about that isnt going to change... Tell him that you want to take things slow.... and if he doesnt want to be with you because of that.. Then you can find someone better to be with.. You dont need a guy who wants to be with you just for sex or something along that lines... Need anything else... Drop one in the inbox..
Good Luck
**Jackie**
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i have a bf who has gone threw a lot with me
and we have been together for 1 1/2 years ..
he meanse everything to me .. he has hit me
in the past and he tried to kill me .. everyone
thinks i should just get over him but i can`t
i love him .. i was gonna have his baby last year
but shit happend with my mom so i had to get
an abortion :-/ . he has also liked this girl
behind my back and hes been lying about it ever
since .. but now he says that he misses me
and everything .. i don`t know what to do ..
i miss him so much .. he just got outa jail
for something big :-/ trying to run me and
my boii off the road but he just needs help.
please help me thank you -Nikky- (link)
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Girl! You need to get rid of this guy... NO GIRL DESERVES TO BE HIT BY A GUY! Trust me! I've been through it.. I know exactly what you are going through... I know you love him.. And I know you think he loves you! But wake up! If hes lying to you... likes another girl... Thats not love! He is playing with your emotions and that is wrong! I was the same way with my ex... But You've got to get over this guy... You cannot be hung up on someone who never loved you to begin with... And from the sounds of it... this is your situation. There are plenty of guys out there looking for a girl to love.. comfort... cherish... Not beat up on.. to be a normal boyfriend... you seem like a sweet girl.... GO out and find yourself someone worth being with.. Not someone who has to beat up on a girl to make himself feel better...
Sorry if this was a little harsh... But.. It's Reality..
*Jackie*
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i am 13/m
well its all over the whole me liking my best friend best friend thing is sovled so is every other thisng that has to do with her because she is moving to Chicago at the end of the school year :(((((((((((, tear
but my ? is what should i do she always looks to me for advice and i am good at giving it but now i am literaly on the brink of tears cause i am about to lose my best friend
so what should i doo when she needs to talk
should i cry with her
should i stay strong for both of us
or something else
Also i really dont have any advice to give for this one i just fell like crawling into a hole and not moving until shes gone so i dont have to give her advice about this or say goodbye
thanks from
foreverlostw/oher (link)
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Just because she is moving at the end of the school year doesnt mean you guys have to stop being friends.. There are many methods and ways that you guys can stay in touch and keep being friends... Email.... Writing Letters... IM.... And even maybe on breaks from school flying to see each other... But for your question... I know its hard to lose a best friend when they move away.. but... youve got to remember... you've got a whole school year left with her... Dont let her moving away ruin the rest of the school year... and the memories that you guys can make in that time... You need to stay strong for the both of you... Your young.. I Know.. and it may be hard.. but just be strong... Keep giving her advice that she needs... Guide her... She trusts you... From the sounds of it.. She seems like shes afraid to move also.. Like shes going to lose her best friend. But your not going to lose each other.. Granted... you'll be in different states.. but you will stay friends.. you just have to make yourselves stay friends... I hope this didnt confuse you... If you need anything else... Just drop one in the inbox...
Cheer Up... You Have a WHOLE school year left with her.... Make The Best Of It....
Take Pictures of Each Other... So You Guys Can Remember Each Other....
**Jackie**
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ok well i'm 13 and my boyfriend wants to have sex and i really dont think i'm ready for it.how do i tell him wiht out him thinking i dont like him anymore (link)
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How long have you been going on? How old is he? But first off... Your only 13... your not even ready to have sex yet... your not even fully developed yet... but.. for your question... If the guy really likes you... Then he will understand... You just need to tell him that you arent ready to have sex yet.... You arent comfortable with it... You'll know when the right time comes... But for now.. Please DONT DONT DONT have sex until your ready.. Because... There are many factors to having sex... not only a good time.. Pregnancy... Diseases... Which there are alot of those now a days... So just tell him that your not ready yet... That its nothing to do with him... That you still like him.. and when you feel the time is right.. You'll let him know...
Hope This Helps.. Good Luck Sweetie..
**Jackie**
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