Hi my names is Samantha and i am here to do what i do best-Give advice. Ive done alot in my short lifetime so far and i hope that the mistakes i made or even the good things that ive done could make an impact on some peoples decisions. When I was 13 I was deeply in love with a 16 year old and went out with him for 2 years-through that relationship i found out what love wasnt and it was not him .After he dumped me I went to an all time low and i attempted suicide-I failed and im here now and i am happier then i ever have been..And through my 10 day visit to the hospital, I have realized what my life is about, and what I would like to accomplish in my short lifetime.Hopefully you will trust in me to give u the most honest and trustworthy advice that I can give and at the same time have a friend that you can come to when you just need someone to talk to, I am always here, and am eager to help. So why dont You Holla at me and I will do what I can to help.
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Hi all I need help My wife and I have been married for 28 years have a good relationship but we have a few problems. one is when I play softball in the summer she does not like it when all the guys get together and drink beer or go back to the bar for a beer, I have to tell you that I am not that fond of beer but it is fun to get together after, I find myself just leaving after the game just to avoid a fight with her is it a major thing that I would like to stay for a quick beer and just hang around I personally do not see anything wrong but she hates it.. what should I do thanks... (link)
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Maybe she thinks that you arent giving her enough attention??? Try sitting down with her and talking with her about the issues that you are feeling, It could be that she is insecure with herself and thinks that you would rather spend time with your friends than with her..Tell her shes beautiful and do something spontaneous like make reservations at her fav resteraunt or cook her her fav food and sit her down and talk to her about whats going on and explane to her that everyonce n a while u want to go out with the guys and u want to know why she feels the way she does, I know i dont like it when my boyfriend drinks because my dad was an alcoholic so discuss the issues with her, another idea would be to invite the guys back to your home to hang out and drink-maybe shed be more comfortable if she knew you were at home...hope i helped let me know!
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my boyfriend of 9months has recently started smoking weed and hes always telling me how his parents dont trust him now because they are so suspicious that he smokes. and whenever he asks them if he can come to my house they say no because they dont even trust him. i love my boyfriend to death i just hate that he smokes. he doesnt try to make me smoke or nothing, but its soo dangerous and he knows i dont like it and he doesnt do it around me or nothing..but he talks about it and it just like kills me to know he is hurting himself...i tryed talking to him about it...what can i do? (link)
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you need to talk some more about it and tell him why u think its so bad and why his parents are so suspicious i mean they have a reason too be, i would sit down and talk about where this relationship is going because after a while he will become dependent on the drug- my boyfriend did drugs when we first started going out but he stopped bc of me and he hasnt done anything in 3 years so really just talk to him and let him know whats up and maybe he will shape up and listen to you but if he starts to disrespct you or he would rather get high then come c u then i would leave him now and get someone who love you and respects you hope i helped let me know what happends!!
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my ex... i miss him... even tho he was such a big jerk... i need tips on getting over him... any ideas? things to do? ANYTHING. please and thank you. so much. bye all! (link)
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keep urself busy and do things that u love to do...that always helps also write down how u feel in a journal that will help u get thoughts off ur brain and kind of clears up on how u really feel-trust me it really works.. I went out with a guy for 2 years and he dumped me out of the blue for no reason-I wrote probbably 3 journals full of stuff and now looking @ them i realize that i was stupid to even let him treat me like that...hope i help ya let me know how it goes...
Ps another thing is to hang out with people u love and talk about it-ur not gonna get over him by sitting around watchin tv n eating ice cream and crying!! get out and do stuff n ull feel better b4 u know it!
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Well me and this boy have known each other for about 2 years now .. At first he liked me alot alot and i wasnt really feeling him so then i kissed him and then i started to fall for him we met up with each other how ever we could and we would go some where to make out well the problem is with that he is black and im white .. People at school started to find out that we made out and thats when he wasnt really feeling me anymore just bcuz people were running their mouths well we still talk on the phone and we still try and meet to make out and its good and im still so head over heels with him but he has a girl friend but he cheats on her with me! He calls me makes out with me .. But when school comes around he doesnt talk to me much cuz his girl is in school .. UGH! Does he like me or is he using me .. HELP?!?!?!?! (link)
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Well it sounds like hes using you,because y else would he still have a girlfriend and y else would he not talk to u while ur in school. Thats a little shady and i would call him out @ school n c what he says...if u realize that hes using u tell his girlfriend bc im sure that she thinks hes like this perfect guy (same as u) so do what u think is best but on the real if a guy will only talk to u on his time and ignores u the rest of the time he aint worth it and obviously he aint cus if he cheats on his girlfriend wit u what happends if ur together-how would that make u feel?? goodluck let me know what goes down
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Me and my gf broke up and like a week after we broke up she wrote this really sweet note in her journal to my future gf telling them basicly that they should never let me go and that i was this really sweet and awsome guy. was it wrong for me to break up wit her sometimes i get confused. (link)
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Well it depends on y u broke up!! If it was just a mutual thing then maybe give it another try b/c its obvious shes still digging u n its gr8 that she would do that b/c most girls wouldnt want to even associate with the new girl ya kno what i mean so maybe she is a keeper but u just have to evaluate it urself and find out whats best for you!! If she makes u happy and u guys have fun together i would go for it and be with her again b/c who doesnt want those kinds of people in there life-just think n tell me how it goes...goodluck...
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If a person is 14, do u think their 2 young 2 have sex? (link)
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I lost my virginity when I was 14 and im fine so i dont think that your too young..Its really all about what you feel inside if u find a guy that u are comfortable with and treats you right and that u can be with for awhile i would do it-u will know when the time comes wether or not u want to do it...hope i helped got ne other questions ask me i can help
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me and this dude has been going on and off for about two years and i love him too death he's my everything. But theres a problem he does stuff that i really dont like, hes not cheating or w/e hes just doing something i think he shouldnt be doing, he says he loves me but right now he has to do what he has to do, since hes been doing that i really dont get to see him as often as i used to, so i feel really bad about this but i cheated on him and i have NEVER done that and i am afraid hes going to find out and then the two years of emotions will be gone, this dude is everything to me and he is the only one that has that special place in my heart and always be the one for me but what if he finds out? :'( (link)
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Well i can tell that you are upset and i can also tell u love him and u have to define what he does that u dont like it could be a bunch of things-if its something that is illegal then my advice would be to talk to him about it and tell him how much u care about him and how much u want to be with him but what he does really bothers you and u need to tell him that u did something with someone else cause wouldnt u want him to tell u if he did something with someone??-take it from me i dont do drugs but my boyfriend did and he sold them he got into alot of trouble with it and he loved me but i wouldnt go out with him unless he stopped now weve been together for 2 years and hes been clean for that long...So talk to him and explain how much u love him and that u dont want to be on and off u want to be with him and no 1 else-if u can prove that to him n talk to him about his issues then maybe u can help him to get help and he will thank u in the long run for sticking by him like i said i dont know what his problem is but if u want to talk more IM me on AIM @ babycakes9357 and i promise i will help u figure this out hope i helped on here if like to talk to you more though i really think i can help...hope everything gets better for you!! xo *Sam
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whats a orgy? how do you get one? (link)
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an orgy is a group of people that all have sex together-how to get into one??-ask around im sure theres some wierdos out there but u probabbly dont want to get into one because that is nasty and u can get alot of different things from having sex the best thing is to stay monogomous-stay with one person. hope i helped need advice post a question on my site!
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This guy that I really like, who likes me too is stationed in Iraq. I am just so worried for him! It scares me knowing he is out there. How can I calm my nerves and not think the worst will happen? (link)
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write him letters b/c hes probbably scared too and all hes doing is trying to do something for out country but all hes thinking about is probably just coming home so he can see you so if u think of it that way-it might help. Also when he comes on leave..will he?? well if he does make everything extra special and dontask ne thing about the war because he probably wants to ge away from it. Just keep faith and pray for him and he will come home to you!!! hopein for the best-tell him thankyou for me because that is truly great what hes doing for us!
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ok so there is this guy that 15 and im only 13. I really like him alot and he said he liked me also. Thats not the problem. He is really experinced in doing stuff like kissing and he knows how to be sexy and romantic. i have nver kissed a guy and he thinks i have. he wants to do "stuff" with me like get a blow job an make out and stuff like. I want to but i dont know if its right i mean b/c im soo young. Do you think i should just like make out with him and not have sex or anything? what should i do?? (link)
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Theres never a barrier between people u love of being "too young" its really up to you and how you feel when ur with this guy..giveing him ur kiss is about a big of deal as sex-b/c u want it to be great and special when usually its not!! Kissing is a big thing and if u have doubts about doing it or wanting to do it then dont. If this guy wnts a blow job from you and to make out then he probbably just figures that ull have sex with him if u do all of that with him, u see my point?? Well what i would do is talk it out with him and tell him when the time is right i will but not now-or if u feel it in your gut(a feeling that cannot be described) Just lean in and give him a peck on the lips, just for starters. Then walk away or something so he wants more of what he got-then like u know the next day do it twice (peck ont he lips) and do it until u get comfortable with kissing him and then u will be more comfortable to make out with him-the best advice i could give to u is to be yourself and follow your heart!! hope i help u and goodluck!!
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i still am lyk totally in luv w/ my ex bf...we've been broken up fer lyk 2 wks...my friend just asked if he wanted to go out w/ me again. he said probly yeah. i wanna kno how i can turn him on wen i c him..helpp!!!
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Hey go to www.cosmopolitan.com and click on the link that says sex tips from guys and read all of that it will give u sum tips and sum ideas also a way to turn him on is to dress in something he likes play music he likes and make the whole day about him if u guys have had sex then u should end the day with that but make it special so he knows hes with the right girl by reading those tips on cosmo trust me girl they work wonders!!! good luck n have fun!! *safe fun* hope i help
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I am 17 f and my boyfriends friend always wants to talk to me about sex and he always tells me how much he loves me and needs me in his life but he knows that i have a boyfriend and my boyfriend is like his best friend I dont know what to do cuz I like my boyfriends friend but only as a friend do u think i should tell my boyfriend what his friend is saying to me? or should i just let his friend talk to me the way he does? (link)
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My personal opinion would be to tell your boyfriend what he is saying because sooner or later ur boyfriend will find out that hes talkin dirty to you and then hell prob think ur cheating on him with his best friend!!! So come clean and see if theres a way yall can talk this out and make it clear to the best friend that u like him as a friend and that u rnt comfortable with him talking to you like that and it doesnt do anything for you so it needs to stop...hope it helps let me know!!
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there's a guy... we'll call him bill. :D he's 16, and i'm 14. he is the lead singer of my brother's band... he and i have had an INCREDIBLE friendship. we click REALLY well, and i care about him so much. i would do ANYTHING for this guy... and, i see myself married to him and starting a family with him someday. we are both into the same things, we both are crazy, and we both relate to eachother really well. he means everything to me. (sorry, i think we've already accomplished that... lol) anyways, he thinks that 2 years is too big of a difference, he treats other girls the same way that he treats me, (like a princess), and i just wish that I would be the only one that matters to him. forever. If only the arms that he throws around me could be around me forever. i want to wake up beside him every morning for the rest of my life.
i have it bad. help! –jessi
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Hey Jessi I think i can help you in a way...I know what u mean about a guy not liking u b/c of the age difference..Well you are 14 years old and u are in love,majorly in love.but think of it this way if he isnt with you because of the age then does he love you?? b/c isnt love a mutual feeling between too people?if its only 1 person "loving" the other then the term is called infatuation. Sweety i would love to tell u u will be with this guy forever and ever but nobody knows-thats the whole deal with life ,and u are just starting out. there are going to be alot go guys and if this one is special to you then i would tell this guy"Bill" that u would appreciate it if he gave u a try.-talk with him and dont like say stuff to him like i wanna marry u and i wanna spend forever with you because he is 16 and that will scare him,-tell him that u think that u guys have alot in common and u like being with him and the way that he treats you and that u would like to be with him and see what he says if u are rational about the whole thing everything should work out-or maybe he's concerned with u being 14 and doesnt want to hurt you-or maybe he doesnt like you and just wanted an excuse(guys r jerks) but if he treats u right i would talk to him and see if your friendship could turn into a relationship..Also ask your brother how he feels about his sister goin out with his friend and singer of his band-cus if u 2 brake up it could mess up the thing with ur bro and "Bill." Hope I helped let me know and write back!!! *Sammi
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Hey Sam i like this guy named mike but i dont think he likes me @ all sometimes i think he likes me and other times hes standoffish the problem is is i have a boyfriend that ive been going out with for almost 2 years what should i do cus i absolutely love my boyfriend mark but i dont know what to do can u help? (link)
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wow u have some thinking to do if u really like mike and u feel that u r no long interested in mark then i would c where mike stands and if he really feels strongly about you if u love mark but just want to explore with mike i would stay with ur current boyfriend, because u never know that could be :the one: Talk to mark and see how he feels about u and talk to mike and ask the same then ask urself who would make u happier and decide from that!! goodluck let me know(Sam)
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ok im a guy and im 15 and i have sum question i have been in a 14 mounth realtionship wit my gurlfriend and for the past 4 mounths we have been breakin up and just fightin becuz the 1st time we broke up she thought i cheated on her but i didnt and the snd time i thought i wasnt gettin any attention cuz she was over her friends house allll the time for like weeks at a time and so we broke up again its been about 6 weeks since we broke up and now she wants me back but we have been findin out alot about eachother lately like she messed around wit a few boys and i messed around wit two gurls but she cheated on me like the last week or so we were together and got fingured by 2 other guys and me i....had sex wit this other gurl that was her "friend" she says but the gurl didnt consider her as a friend and i have a convo were her "friend" says shes not her friend and i made out wit another gurl the day after i was wit my x-gurl (sex). but i really really feel like im in love wit this gurl and she says shes in love wit me but i cant get over the fact that she cheated on me and i dont want to seem like a punk if i do get back wit her u no wat i mean (lol cuz of my friends)and wen we r togther it feels so right and i was her 1st and she was kinda mine cuz i have to tell the truth i believe that u should wait till u find who u want before u have that great 4 sec ya no so i had sex but "I" never finished till me and her made love and so i consider her my 1st but i never told her that. (should I?)but i love this gurl i really do and she said she loves me and i dont see y its not workin out PLZ HELP me!!!!! (link)
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well if ur both cheating on eachother you dont love her u are emotionally attached to her because she was your first. You feel like you have to make it work but u dont see it workin out in the back of your mind...Just see where she stands she says she loves you but in a week will she be with another guy...? let me know
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what do i do about a controlling boyfriend? my boyfriend is allowed to mess around and talk to girls but im not allowed to talk to guys! i found this so unfair and everyone thinks he has total control over me because when we break up, and he asks me back out, i always say yes. is it because i'm weak or i'm just under his little 'spell'? (link)
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I would get as far away from him as i can guys like that are no good take it from someone like my mom she stayed with this guy for like 5 years and he beat her until she is now paralyzed hes in jail but he controlled everything she did and didnt do it got so bad that one night he beat her until she was clinically dead but she was only in achoma she got better and got over it but she is now paralyzed and has serious depression issues..hope i help and let me know whats going on
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i always flirt with all the guys at school or where ever i go. does that make me a slut bc everyone calls me one
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Flirting is never a bad thing and actually it is quite natural...No that doesnt make you a slut at all the only way that you are a slut is if u are sleeping and giving random acts of sexual pleasure to a wide range of guys in my opinion girls who have sex or whatever with more then 6-10 guys is a slut to me and anything over is a whore...but no you are not a slut!!! dont let them make a reputation out of you stand up for yourself..itll b ok...tell me what happends *Sam
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ok...i admit it,i kinda have a reputation fer being kinda slutty...but i dont do stuff...
even tho i'm kinda slutty...all these guyz expect stuff frum me n they obsess ovr me n it bugs me whenevr they do that(some try to touch me)...how do i get them 2 stop being perves and get them to lyk me for who i am??? (link)
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Well the way you represent yourself could be a problem..it could be the clothes you ware or the attitude you carry-its a good thing that guys are attracted to you but its never a good thing when guys try to touch you or expect too much from you!! Tell them that you are not like that, but first you need to convince yourself that you are not like that, you said it yourself that you have a reputation for bein kinda slutty so what can u do to change that??-be yourself by all means but change the way you carry yourself.Be comfortable in your beliefs-but do not let guys walk all over you be independent and self assured and gusy will like you for who u are..Guys dont get that just because u dress or act like u want it doesnt mean that u dont..so let them know tell them NOOOO and if they continue get up and walk away u could end up getting raped or something and believe me its never a good thing-good luck tell me what happends hope i helped *Sam
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Recently me and my boyfriend broke up. He broke up with me for another girl, because we were in a long distance relationship for 2 years and it was really hard. Its been really hard for me, but ive managed to survive without him, even though I still love him and miss him alot. But now I am ready for a relationship with someone who I know really cares for me and who I can be happy with. The only problem is, I dont know where or how to meet guys. Can anyone help? (link)
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Hey girl Ive been there totally i was with a guy ina long distance relationship for 2 years too and i know how you feel now like what do you do and whow do you go about doing it? Well I met my boyfriend of now almost 2 years through mutual friends, another way is through like teen clubs or pool halls or a sporting event(guys love sports) lol if u didnt already know. Go to a baseball game or a football game even if it isnt professional cute guys r sure to be there, also if u live near the water go to the beach or the lake...Just be confident and walk up to a guy that u think u would like to get to know better and talk about what he likes and ask lots of questions-if he seems like a guy u would date ask him if he wants to go get a burger or something like that hope i help let me know how ur hottie search goes-i know theres a great guy out there 4 u!!
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Hi im Anna 17/F/AZ n i was wondering what to do about my boyfriend-he keeps watching porn behind my back and i dont know what to do i told him already how i feel about it n he said hed stop but he hasnt and i feel so bad about things i just want him to love me for me can u help?? (link)
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Hi anna, well guys and there porn will they ever get away from it?? WEll on a more serious note your boyfriend could A. Either have a problem or B. Gets off on it or C. Both!!! U need to really sit down and ask him y he likes it and if there is something that you could do to make him want to be with you instead of glued in front of the computer or the TV If u are a virgin then the problem might just be that he has a need that you cant fulfill but if he is disrespecting you and your calues hes not worth it. If u arent a virgin, the problem may be ur not inticing him the right way or you dont have a good technique(read cosmo for ideas it always worked for me) Sit down with him and if he cant stop then he is not worth your time or your energy...goodluck
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