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I am 15 yrs old and i am in my 11th year at hatbor horsham high school. I'm a typical teenager, and I've been told that im good ad giving advice, so i figured id statrt an advice column?! and im really bored lol. so yea...

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Im a female 14 and i live in California.There is this guy i liked a ton last year and we would always flirt at school and id come home and talk to him for hours. we had alot im common. Then this summer he told me he liked me too and he come over acouple of times and we fooled around. he never asked me out or anything and i got kindof scared he might be using me. we got together again and did everything but sex.. which was alot more then i wanted to go before having a relationship with him. then my friend asked him if he liked me and he said he didnt know.. i got pissed off and started accusing him of using me and finally he admitted to it. i was devastated. i yelled at him and we got in a huge fight and we both said some pretty mean things. its been about 4 monthes and we still dont talk and im over the fact that he used me and i just want to be friends again, not because i like him but i cant STAND being in a fight with somebody that long & its been bothering me for about three monthes now - im also scared that if i start talking to him hes gunna still be mad about everything and im going to make a fool of myself... sorry this was so long but i really need help! :o)

Well...I was kinda int he same situation. I think you want to go back to him, subconsiously, to be with him because you liked ihm and you liked how you spent your time with him (*). The best thign to do to get over it and everything is to just ignore him and move on, one less person in your life that has caused yuo so much grief is not worht the effort. But follow your heart. Hope i helped
ambuhh

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[sorry this is so long]
I'm a 14-year-old girl, and I have this guy who's been my best friend for over a year. Me and him have gotten SOO close lately, and I really REALLY like him. I told him that I like him, and he just kinda pretended I didn't say anything, so I just didn't know what to think. Then all my friends tell me that when they talk to him one on one, I'm all he talks about, and he always puts my feelings before his. They say that he's always very sad, and then I walk into the room, or call his cell phone, or he even just talks about me, and that really brightens his mood. I really don't know what to do, because I really like him, can't tell if he likes me, but I kind of get the impression that he does, but he kind of seems scared. HELP!

he definitely likes you...he dropped a lot of hints. most girls believe that guys should eb the ones to ask a girl out, but really theyre just as nervous as a girl would. and hes obviously nervous so ask him to go tot he movies sometime and then hook u[p then he'll probably feel more comfortable asking yoou out to go places.
hope i helped!!!..anythingelse drop in my inbox
-amber-

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I have a really good friend (thats a guy) and well we have gone out a couple times. And i like him again and he told one of my friends he kinda likes me. i wanna just grab him and kiss him one day but im scared he'll push me away. what should i do.


*female 15*

just do it....be at the movies with him
and thne just strattle him and statrt making out with him.
guys dont usually dont push girls away form that. believe me.
hope i helped!!
-amber-

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i like 2 guys...nathan and michael. I think i would have a better chance asking michael out, but i barely see him at school, and i like nathan more. i eat lunch with nathan and whatever other guys we decide to go talk to. we always have so much fun and we're always laughing. i've liked him longer than michael...and every time i think about him i get all tingly inside. i thought about him alot in 3rd period today, and i did it so much that the tingling began to hurt :). but....anyway...should i ask out michael or nathan?


sorry that was so confusing.

if you need more info, let me know and i'll put it up.

go out with michael for the time being, and start making nathan jealous, and then break up with michael and then a week after start dropping hints to nathan that you like him and then tell him you'd liek to hang out with him soemt time. And then you'll knwo who you connecvt with better and then you can pick and choose!
hope i helped!!!
-amber-

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how do you know when a guy wants to kiss you? (guys and gurls answer this!) what are some signs and if i can tell he does should i just make the move or wait for him to? give me some help on kissing! muah** lol thanks!

He'll start touching you or motiuoning his head towards your face, he'll drop hints, youll eventually understand the hints when it all comes down to it.

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ok im 13 and so is my boyfriend, weve been going out for over 2 months now... hes had sex with other girls b4 but ive nevr had sex b4... he wants to have sex with me really bad but he always says he understands if i dont... i kinda do tho... but then i dont... im really confuzed cuz i really lov him its just i dont wanna get pregnant and i people will find out if i have sex with him and i dont want people calling me names like a slut and stuf, at this same time im in a huge fight with some girls, but i really wanna have sex with my boyfriend but then i dont! i NEED HELP!!

you
are
way
too
young
period
.
STD's
thnk
about
it.

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how long should i wait b4 i tell a girl how i feel about her after she breaks up with someone she really loved.the only reason they broke up was because he was moving to another state. thanx
dan

well for now act a a friend and just be there for her when ever she needs help, and then after about two ro so weeks, you'll notice when she starts to get over him, let her know how you feel about her but dont come on too strong..and take her out on a date!!!
hope i helped!!!
-amber-

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This is more of an opinion question than an advice thing, but I figured I'd ask anyway...never hurts, right?
If a guy asks you to marry him in the future, but doesn't give you a ring, does it count?
Lol I'm just curious to see what you guys think.

he just wants you for sex.
honestly. the truth.

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My name is Leah....

Me n my boyfriend have been going out for 1 month.. but we went out before 4 four months...
Me n hym are in love like so much!! n we r perfect for eachother b.c we know everything about eachother... but
LAST NIGHT... I was on the fone w/ My friend Adam n then My friend who was sleeping over...((Lisa)) wanted to talk to ((MIke, my boyfriend)) b.c. they r tight... n i was like go head idc.. cuz i wus on the fone w/ Adam n he was leaving tommoroe...

Well i wusnt flirting w/ Adam... but to all my friends (( guy n girl )) i say I love you... but not the same way i love Mike...

Well since my friend, Lisa was on the fone... w/ mike... He heard me say i love you to Adam... he started getting pissed at me cuz he thought i was flirting w/ Adam....

So wen i talked to hym later that night im like Wait, r u mad at me..?? Mike is like ya... u were flirting w/ Adam.... i wus like no i wasnt!! hes like YeaH! im like no!! im like w.e . since u dont belive me i gues im a liar....
well i broke up w/ Mike that night b.c. i though that since we r going into jr. high this year... n since he thinks that i was flirtng by saying I love you to adam.. then i thought.. we needed a break....
do u think i was right to take a lil Break... n do u think i shoudl go back out w/ Mike.. b.c i rly love hym n hes the sweetest guy i have eva known n he treats me like a queen... n he loves me soo much!! n i love hym.. but sumtimes i like being single.. but every time i think of Mike i am always liike omg i miss hym i love hym soo much!!

PLEASE HELP ME!!
xOx-Leah...

he deserves an explanation of why you said i love you to your friend adam. learn how to type the english way. teenbonics is very unbecoming these days. you were stupid to break up with him.
and you sound like a whore. He deserves better then you.
congradulations.
-amber-

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ok my best friend and i are friends with benefits and for a while it's been working out but now i'm hugely late on my period and i don't know if it's stress or not. if i am pregnant i can't get am abortion because my best friend will never talk to me again, but i'm not sure that i'm ready to be a mother. what should i do??

omg you idiot. well you're pregnant!!! itsd a bouincing baby boy. congradulations. friends with benefits? ok./ but friends with benefits that ahve sex? no ok. thats fucked up man.you need help, go get a pregnancy test. sorry dont mean to be harsh on you but WTF WERE YOU THINKING CHILD?!?!?!?!?!?! hope i helped!!! and i hope you realized that friends with benefits that ahve sex IS NOT GOOD.
-amber-

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Well Me and My boyfriend of almost 2 years now are expecting a baby girl in just a few months.The problem is he doesnt have a job yet and has been saying hes going to get one for months now.Hes been looking and everything but still nothing.And everytime i talk to him about it hes always got the same stuff to say and sometimes gets mad about me always mentioning it.I want to believe that hes going to get a job soon so what to i do or say to him? :-/

start wailing out on him liek a mad woman..and then sit down with him and rationally discuss with him the importance of having money and that you need it so you can keep not just u and him, btu they baby clothed, fed, bathed, with a roof over her head. hope i helped!!!
-amber-

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What are some things that me and my boyfriend can do to spend time together that doesnt cost money or at least is cheap? ...he lives like 40 min away so he comes over or i go over there and we meet half way. Either that or we go to the mall, movies, bowling, KD, and stuff like that. Anymore ideas? please help! :o)

go to either your house or his house, rent a movie, cuddle up on the couch with a bowl of popcorn, talk about some things and have fun.
hope i helped!!!
-amber-

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Ok im 16 and i have this ex that is totaly clueless when it comes to EVERYTHING. I thought him alot of what he knows now and what he does with other girls. I dont know what he does to me even though we arent even together or any where close to it. But he still does something to me everytime i see him online or see his number on my phone. What is this im feeling and i want to get rid of it but it never seems to go away.

you still ahve feelings for him. If you wanna get ovee him then tell him not to call , approach or IM you anymore. If you need any mroe help drop more quesitons in my inbox....b/c im nto quite fully understanding what you're saying.
hope i helped though
-amber-

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Do guys like to be kissed with or without lip gloss? Wouldn't that be gooey and slippery? How can you tell if your lip gloss will taste good to him?

no no no..they dont liek that stciky smelly gooky stuff all over them...believe me.

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This question has to do with my boyfriend again. We've only been dating for 4 days, but have known each other for about a month. We talk even before we were dating every night for like 3 hours on the phone. So far, he treats me so great and I dont have any reason not to trust him. Let me add now that he is friends with my father and alot of my Dads friends. Well, he sometimes talks about marriage, which scares me a bit, but I honestly could see myself marrying him. Anyway, to get to the point, I was told tonight by 2 different people, my ex boyfriend and my best friends sister that I hate & she hates me, that my boyfriend has probably already cheated on me & that I need to keep an eye on him beacause he likes to cheat. Im really scared because, what if they are right. But considering the people that told me I dont know if I should believe them. I really like this guy am Im scared that if I say anything about what I heard that he will be pissed at me. What should I do? Should I say something to him & if so, what? Please let me know ASAP, I need to figure this out before he calls me later on tonight!!!

donotmarryhimendofstory

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ok here is my problem. I've always loved penguins, but lately I've been feeling a sexual attraction to them. now I think that's as sick as the next person, but there's just something about penguins. what do I do?

got o a penguin, ask them out on a date, haul them in a back of a truck, getting a shopping cart, lug their ass into a movie, go to the very top row right or left corneer of the theatre and ahve fun!!!
hope i helpd!!!
-amber-

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I am 13 and Bi should i tell my parents??? cause i don't want them to hate me so i need to know

yes being open and honest is they key in life.

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I'm 13 M and I was recently talking to my friend (13 F) when she told me that she liked me. I had a crush on her for about a year now and so i was excited when we talked more i thought that she really liked me. But then when we talked again she told me that she liked me but that she liked my friend better. See the thing is i can't stop thinkin of her and i dont know what to do.
Thanks for any help!

You need to tell her how you feel, and hope for the best. thats all there is to it. hope i helped -amber-

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Alright heres the situation.. I have this friend, his name is Chris. Anyways, we are like best friends, i guess you could say. We talk alot hang out pretty often. He has a girl friend and i am single. Do you think he likes me if he does the following.. always smiles when he looks at me, always ask who i like, is really nice to me, and hugs me all the time.. i am really confused i dont know if he likes me or is it just a friend thing? Thanks in advance!! -xXoBrianna

Thats what best friends do and thats how they trest eachother. my best friend does he same things, does this mean she likes me? NO. dont take it to the extreme, or look to much into it. Hope i helped you realize. -amber-

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ok i've seen so many questions on here bout how do you french kiss and so on..all the answers are well it just comes naturally & just "go along with what he does"..ahh that just makes me even more scared..like>I< wana know what to do i don't wana have to just "go along with it"..lol hOw? WeN? WuT?..hmm i guess what i'm tryin to ask..is what exactly to you do..StEp-By-StEp..haha and what are some different ways to try [sumin to impress him,make it look like i'm NOT a beginer]after i get the hang of the basic ways..kk..umm yeah..any bit of help is greatly appreciated..xOx

when i had my first kiss i just went along with it. all the other answers are right, ive never heard of a technique or way to kiss someone. It will come natrually and you do just go along with what he does, thats all there is to it!

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