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i think im in love with my best friend..that happens to be a girl...im a girl myself and 15..but im not sure, maybe i just think i like her like that b/c i kno she likes girls and has had girlfriends in the past. we've never really done anything but when ive been with her i have gotten like turned on i suppose...but idk..maybe im just confused. she knows how i think i feel but i told her i didnt want to be with a girl and she said that she knows that and tries not to like me like that..but its hard b/c my feelings take over sometimes when they souldnt and it kinda leads her on i guess. then theres a boy whom ive been speaking with for a couple months or so. i mostly talk to him on the fone..he doesnt usually talk to me at school.i told him i didnt feel like i could be with anyone rite now when he asked me out. but we still talk. i like being friends with him but thats all i want to be with him. i think it would be unfair to go out with him and not feel the same way he feels about me. but he wants a chance really bad. then in the past three weeks or so i started talking to a guy who i met this year. he really likes me..i dont kno him that well yet but im waiting to see..hes really cute..kinda annoying sometimes but funny. i could see myself likeing him and i think i can see myself with him. he sounds like he's gonna ask me out soon and if he does i want to say yes. but i kno that wouldnt be fair to the first guy and would upset my best friend even though it shouldnt. i dont want people to get hurt especailly my best friend but ive been single for a long time and really want a relationship, with a BOY. i really think i do have feelings for my best friend..if that is true than a lot of things ive done or felt in the past would make sense..shes been hurt so many times in so many ways. i kno that if i was to be with her...i can only see myself being swept away by some guy in the future and her being left there..hurt..i couldnt stand to see that..if she ever did anything bad for herself b/c of me. but now that she knows how i think i feel its really hard to keep my feelings inside. so sorry this is soo long..its quite complicated..i somewhat kno my options i just want some other peoples opinions on how i should handle this situation... (link)
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I think that you need to look at each person and try to figure out what YOU really want. Get to know the guys a bit more and try to figure out weather you like guys, girl, or both. I've gotten myself into relationships without knowing anything about the other person. I thought, "oh, he looks cute, I like him!" and then, i realize that he is a complete jerk, or i don't like his personality. I'm not going to tell you who to go with or what to say to anyone, because only you know how you really feel about each person. Try to find out who you will truly be happy with and stick with them. Try not to flirt with other people too much,because that's how you become attached. And no matter what, do what your heart truly wants.
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about 3-4 months ago my boyfriend and I split. I was so upset that he wouldn't let me explain my reasons for what had happened that I wrote him a long letter. I really did love him and I still do.I just didn't like what he said and did to me. In that letter I said some pretty nasty things. I have been thinking about him alot lately, and would reallylike to call him. should I? I mean after the letter that I wrote I'm afraid he won't talk to me, or if he does it will be to say some more mean things to me. What should I do? and If I should call him what should I say? (link)
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sometimes it's hard to get over a guy, but sometimes there is still a chance of getting back together. i think that if you do decide to call him,then you need to both explain your own reasons for splitting up, and you may even have to apologize if your letter was that bad. i can't be sure that you two will get back together, so i'm wishing you good luck!
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Hi everyone!
My name is Todd, and I am a 15-year-old teenager. Well, my question is whether or not I should take the next step. Let me explain.
About close to a year ago, I met this girl, Andrea, in my Freshman year, and she and I didn't date, but we were good friends. We were both the same age, but I was about a month older. Through the months, we knew more and more about each other from our last names to what candy we like.
As strange as it seems, I've never had a relationship, much less my first kiss. I am trying to see if Andrea likes me or not, but more than a friendship. Some relationships can be harsh, so I don't want to try that, but I just want to know if she has the same or at least similar feelings that I do for her.
I am always glad to be around her, and sometimes I hang around her more than some of my other friends. I've also noticed that when I am with her at lunch, she wants these other girls at the table to go away, since they're annoying, but I'm not sure if it's just because she wants to be alone with me or something, since she and I usually sit alone.
As far as hanging out goes, she and I have hung out at my home once, and we've seen each other at school. I've been trying to hang out with her more, but she has a dysfunctional family which makes it tough for us to hang out on weekends. She is also depressed, so I try to help her through it.
I have been trying to show her that I love her by telling her that I care about her, how much I do care about her, and by doing things for her, like buying her gifts or getting things for her. Whoa, lot of "her"s in that one. Well, anyway, she never freaks out, but she always smiles and sometimes nods her head up and down a little bit. She might say things like "that's nice" or "thanks", but I never really can tell if she is nervous or anxious. I remember when I told her that I did really care about her, she smiled but she kind of laughed, and she said "I'm sorry for laughing...".
So, I would like to ask if I should take the next step and try asking her out. My parents have said I shouldn't because of her family, and some of my friends have said to go for it, just because she's single.
Thanks for reading this.
Todd (link)
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well, asking her out would be a big step, but try not to load it all on her at once. try to start by saying something like, "So since we are friends and we can trust each other, i was woundering if i could share something with you." then, try to tell her that you would like to take her out on a date to see if things could be more between the two of you.Remember that not all relationships work, and sometimes being friends is all there is. BUT!, don't give up hope, you two sound like you'd be great together. I hope everthing works out! Might as well ask her now, and not regret not asking her later! good luck!
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I'll make this as quick as i can. I have liked this guy for a while, but he has a girlfriend (who is a total bitch and VERY full of herself). SO in science class he sits across from me, and he started staring at me. I know that he had liked me last year. But now im not sure because of his girfriend in all. So he was like stsaring at me with his hand pressed up against his chin like he was admiring me or somtheing. Then he smiled and reached out to grab my hand, but then the bell rang and i kind of ran out. So what do you think he thinks of me? Would it be terrible if i tried to flirt back? Will he breakup with his incredibly annoying Gf? Thanks! (link)
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you should not try to flirt with him if he has a girlfriend. if he tries to put a move on you again tell him that he has a girlfriend and you would never do that sort of thing. i know you like him, but only go for him if he's single. good luck!
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Ive had a crush on this guy for like 3 yrs(ever since ive known him)last December he confessed to me that he admired me for 3 yrs.Thats when the relationship started. Things were fine until he started cheating on me with one night stend girls(more that once but different girls).I always forgave him cause i loved him and wanted him to stay around me.We broke up for real about two months ago cause he was dating another girl(no night stand girl but his actual girlfriend). so i made my way out. it hurted alot but recetly his friend says his missing me and that he loves me but he cant come back to me cause hes ashame and got to much explanations to do and dont know where to start. They said the reason he left was because he wanted sex and i thought we were to young so he didnt want to pressure me or hurt me so he left. i still do love him. I miss him. i may be fooloish but i have feelings that he does love me(according to me)im stating to have nightmares about him suffering and wanting me. i wake up often crying. but the real problem is that i have a new boyfriend now which i relay on as a comfort. I realy realy do love my boyfriend very much his a great guy and i dont want to hurt him. But its just that my ex is still in my mind and often drives me away from my boyfriend cause i think of him. i dont know what to do. I'm starting to hate everything. I mean everything about my life. I'm desperate.Dont ask me to choose cause i dont know what i want. Waht would you do if you were me? what will you say? Im still young and i dont want to live a life like mine anymore. just want to be happy (link)
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First, I would sit down and think about who you REALLY like. I know you said that you don't want to, but you really should. If you pick your' current boyfriend, then take your ex aside and tell him that you no longer like him, but you could still be friends. If it's your current boyfriend that you are dumping, then you will hve to sit him down and explain to him how you feel about your' ex. It sounds hard, and it will be, but trust me, you will feel a lot better with the truth off of your chest. Make shure you pick the guy that you can trust most. good luck!
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Ok there was this guy I liked named Mike...well I thought I liked him but then I jst denied it because I didn't know what people would think..ya I know I shouldn't care but I did. Well he would always get in my face and do stupid things to get my attn. so I'm pretty sure he liked me, but I jst kept ignoring him..eventually he stopped. Now I realize that I reeally really like him...but I don't know if he lost interst or just moved on! Yesterday we were standin in this little group of friends nd when i looked up he was atarin at me so, idk doeas he still liek me or what? If he does how can I get us talking?
*I'll rate!!*
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well as you can see the tables have turned, so now either you have to talk to him or flirt with him and see if he flirts back!i hope everything workds out for you!
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ok i'm really sorry but this is really long and i need your help so please read this! xoxo
Ok, well there's this boy (lets call him Bob) and Bob likes a girl (well call her Kate) and Kate had a boyfriend at another school. Bob really REALLY likes Kate he'd always flirt with her and talk to her and stuff. BUT Bob would also flirt with me so i started liking him. But he like Kate more and I was there for "comfort" cause Kate had a boyfriend well Kate and her boyfriend broke up so Bob asked Kate out and now their going out and I'm really sad. But I kept telling my self don't fall for him he likes Kate and plus why would he like me I'm not pretty or anything. So yea basically my question is how can i like get over him and tell my self i have no change or how do i break them up well... atcually i don't know what to do all i know is I really like Bob and i think he likes me too a lil like very very VERY little cause he flirt with me too but anyways ways and i want him to be mine or not to have feeling for him. PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME! THANKS XOXOX (link)
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dont' put yourself down for not getting asked out. you should really talk to your friend if you think that it's going to hurt your friendship. don't forget that you are going to meet many boys in your life, so dont' give up your hopes because you failed with one. try to be happy with your friend for getting the boyfriend. but remember, if it's something that is really hard on you, talk to your friend and she'll probobly do the right thing, as i hoep you well. good luck!
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hey ok well i am 15 and i am in love with ym best friends little sister. i have known her my entire life and i have never thought of her as more then just like a litte sister i guess but her bro is like rele protective of her how do i ask her out without making him pissed and risk hurting my relationship with either of them or theirs with eachother she has been acting wierd around us when i am over there adn she doesnt hang out with us as much and she has a bunch of guys that r just friends that r over there all teh time too adn i feel weird like i suddenly become all protective like her bro! please help (link)
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you are in a difficult situation but what you need to do is ask your best friend if he would mind if you asked his sister out on a date. i know that this is a free country and you should be able to do whatever you please, but when it's your best friends sister, you need to make sure you won't be freaking out your best friend.If he says yes than go for it, but if he says no try to reason w/him that your a nice guy and you wouln't ever hurt her. good luck!
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Does anyone know how i can ask the following q's to a girl in away that wont make girls wonder why im asking it.Can you give me a sneakier way of asking the following q's
What do you like to find in a friend?
what kind of guy do you like?
Who are your friends?
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How can you find out stuff on a girl? Not like gossip but more like her fave movies and bands, ect.
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just start talking to her about music or something and then ask her what kind of music she usually listens to. Gradually fall into the subjects you want to talk about and then ask her what she thinks about this kind of guy, but don't be to questionitive or she may get curious. good luck!
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First of all I'm a 14 year old male. I would like to know if this girl likes me at all. Here's why I think she does: Everyday when I hang out with some of my friends, if we pass by her, for example at a football game, she'll only say Hi to me and she'll get all excited. I'm a shy kind of guy and I usually just say hi and blush. She's a popular girl and even in class when she sits on the other side of the room she'll stand up and wave and say hi. I talk to her on ICQ sometimes, but it's nothing big. Should I go up and talk to her, I mean, I do sometimes but I don't have anything to talk about. Also, She usually hangs out with older guys, would she want to talk to me? Most of the guys in my grade are immature jerks though. (link)
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it can be very confusing trying to figure out if someone else likes you. Try flirting with her and see if she flirts back. if you want to ask her without actually asking her just ask if she wants to study for a big test coming up or ask if she wants to play basketball or something sometime. spending more time with her may bring you both closer. if all else fails, just ask her if she wants to go out sometime. the worst she could do is say no, and if she's a good friend things will not change if you ask.
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im a sophomore in high school and theres this senior that is really hott. lately ive been starting to talk to him, but hes really shy, and so am i. what could i do to get us to talk more?? (link)
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Talk to him! you have to work up the courage somehow to do this because if you cannot talk to him or just go up to him and say hi, than how do you plan on even having a friendship with him?
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lately i've be really sad because i feel like i'm not pretty and the boy i've liked for so long likes my friend and he hugs her and everything and i feel like no one likes me and i know i won't get a date to homecoming
i need some advice
signed depressed (link)
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the guy that i like likes my friend too....just talk to him and if he just want to be friends then at least know that you tried..good luck
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how do i lose my habit of being shy??? plz answer cuz im a shy ass
i rate high (link)
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try talking to people yiou don't usually tak to (say hi) and get ivovled in a social activity or join a sport or group...don't try to be someone you are not. if someone doesn't except you, then that is their fault.good luck!
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ok well kind of asked this question before but now im confused this boy he is really nice and funny ..and he also stares and smiles at me a little too much ..but like today and yesterday he didnt do that at all..many people told me he liked me in my other question but im confused cause today he wasnt making me laugh or staring at me ...i dont know if he likes me or not anymore ! im so bummed out seriously and now in reading i sit next to him and i get all nervous and shy ..do you think its a crush on him or something ?? so my main questions are do you think he likes me and do you think i like him ..
CONFUSED GIRL (link)
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ok...well from what you wrote it seems like he likes you and you like him, but both could be just crushes. To find out if you or him likes the other, simply start to talk to him more or ask if he wants to hang out...if he seems interested than go for it, but if he seems annoyed back off, because he just wants to be friens ..go luck!
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Ok so i have a friend Maria and i have a crush Adam. I have liked Adam for so long and one day Adam telles my bestfriend Maria that he likes her. I am totally emotianal. What should i do? I need serious advice on this one.
~Andrea~ (link)
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the same thing happened to me...I havn't told my friend that i liked him yet, but then she tells me that she knows that he likes her and she doesn't like him at all...then now im afraid to talk to him because i think that he doesn't give a care for me! are relationships hard or what? but listen, all that i would do is talk to your friend so if she finds out than she doesn't have to flirt with him because your frienship should be more important than his..good luck!
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i'm a male, over 20, alone as hell.
i've never been able to get a girlfriend, i've tried and tried.
it seems like some crule cycle with me, meet a girl, ask her out a couple of times, start to like her and suspect she likes me too, try to be there for her and everything, try to move things up a notch, get the "you're such a good/nice/fabulous guy, i just wanna be friends" routine. Then i'll let go of how i feel as much as posible and try being "just friends", then she picks up the biggest jerk known to mankind and i get to sit across the table watching them make out (TORTURE, for those who care). then the arshole will proceed to cheat on her, she's crushed, i have to listen to all the bullshit and cheer her up, only to find her back with the butthead a week later, then a month later he'll cheat on her AGAIN...
by the third time this happens i simply fuck off, cause she's still won't go out with me and she keeps on going back to the total jerk and every month i have to be there for her.
WHAT THE FUCK, girls always tell me what a "NICE GUY" i am and the friendship crap, but why won't they go out with me.
I'm starting to accept that i'll die alone and bitter, and am starting to avoid woman totally.
I just don't know what to do, i'm really starting to lose it with woman.
I'm over 20 and i haven't even kissed a girl yet. WTF?!!!!!!!!!!!!
should i just kill myself now instead of becoming a full blown alcoholic?
should i try to like guy's more, and simply go gay?
at least i get alot of attention from gay guys trying to chat me up at bars, though im not gay. but women.......FUCK
i need advice please. (link)
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ok...don't get yourself down! there is a girl out there waiting for you, but you just havn't met her yet. although you may really like this girl that is getting cheated on, try to experience new relationships.....don't base everything on "getting kissed" try to find someone with a same interest or feeling.....be yourself and try to hold your head up high....don't come to love because love will come to you!
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ok i have a crush on a guy one grade above mine but he doesnt like me wat should i do................................................ thanks i rats fives for every answer
sign confussed and un wanted
ps he nos i like him (link)
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try talking to him..you might realize that he doesn't like you the same way, but if he does, than go for it! try making an impression on him so he will have to think of you later on...for instance, make him nervous or make him laugh....that will leave a memory of you in him mind...good luck!
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Okay so. This boy is sending me mixed signals and it seems like he is playing mind games with me. He liked this girl like 5 days ago and now he doesn't like her and before that he liked me then BOOM he liked the other girl. Now he doesn't like that girl and he talks to me a lot more and he's asking me a lot more questions and he asked me if i still wanted him. It's just so confusing. How can I definately know that he likes me? And what should I do? (link)
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call him up or talk to him when you two are alone. ask him how he "truly" feels for you and then you'll know if he really likes you. rimind him that you have feeling and that when he likes other girls you get confused. talking to him is the only thing that can resolve your problem! good luck!
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Top ten ways you can tell if a guy like you please. everyone who answers gets a 5 unless its stupid or mean then they get a 1! (link)
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1-stares at you a lot
2-smiles at you when he sees you
3-flirts with you
4-talks to evweryone but doesn't look directly at you, although he's probobly paying attention to your reaction
5-his voice gets lower when he's around you
ummm6-he starts e-mailing and instand messaging you
7-starts coming hair and wearing nicer clothes
8-he get's friendlier to your best friens
9-he asks your friends questions about you or what your doing
10-heheh and then one night he calls you and asks you out, and then you can be sure that he likes you,
hope these helped!!!
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okay there is this guy, my friend was like "would you ever go out with her?" (link)
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Talk to him....or ask him if he wants to hang out with you and some friends some time. Don't try to rush into anything...get to know him better first. if you want him to like you just be yourself and make sure that he notices you without overdoing it. Maybe ask him if he saw this movie and what he thought of it or go up to him at lunch and ask him if he wants to study together sometime. just go for it before he loses what interest he may already have.
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