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my name is Rachel and my ex boyfriend's name is kenny he just broke up with me this past weekend and at first it didn't bother me at all and then later on I became depressed. I go to a mental health center 5 days a week and he goes there to and I have to look at his face every day and it makes me more upset and ever since he broke up with me i've been drinking untill I get drunk every day and smoking weed until I get high.
He broke up with me becouse he thought I was cheating on him when I kept telling him I wasn't and I don't know why he would think that I would cheat on him when i've never cheated on him in the whole year we was dating. please tell me How I can get over him? (link)
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Meet someone else a rebound.. Not a relationship just someone to keep your mind off!! Trust me it works!!You need to be occupied and before you know it the pain starts to fade trust me.. be free, he was using that your cheating crap as an excuse because he was prob the one cheating or maybe he just wasnt that into you.. Guys suck girlfriend..
There are a few good ones, find that rebound!!!
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what advices can be given to people before they get married? (link)
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I think its make sure you are ready.........
Always be spontaneous and honest with eachother.
Understand that its not easy at all, its hard to make things work sometimes takes alot of sacrafice sometimes....
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how should i turn my 15 year old
boyfriend on? (link)
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You shouldnt be turning him on right now,
Kissing ok but what exactly are you trying to start here? R You A virgin???
Worry about finishing school sweetheart not turning on some lil boy!!
No offense just dont grow up to quick!! Be young while you can. There plenty of time to turn on a million guys!!
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How do I turn him on again (link)
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You have to feel sexy to be sexy...
Be naked when he gets home from work..
Give him oral spontaneously....
Be sexy all the time, walk sexy, flirt with him.. give him sexy looks call him in the middle of the day and let him know what hes in for when he gets there...
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As my subject says, I have the ex boyfriend blues.
He broke up with me five days ago when I was away at a friends 1,000 miles away from him. He called and broke it off, claiming it wont work out. He told me it was because of my friendships with other boys and such and he can't handle it. Later is also claimed that it was my devotion that drove him nuts as well.
I'm a very devoted person, I'll give them my all, and do as much as I can to make them happy. I was loyal and loving, and always knew when something was up. He would get aggrivated with me when I was sad, and made me feel abnormal and useless. He felt like my depression was just for attention, for he has never felt depressed in his entire life. I felt so alone all those months.. I was and am so used to spreading my life around him and trying to make him happy that I no longer know how to live for myself. I'm not so much afraid of being alone though. But now I don't even want to think about the word 'love' anymore. I just want to use my body and sleep around with no strings attached.
I need advice, guys. I'm so numb that I'm not even sure who I am anymore. (link)
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I am kinda in the same boat only i left mine bcause he was an ass.. dont use your body youll only feel like whore and ppl will look at you that way. Screw him sweetie really think about it as his loss. Your free to do what you want go hang with your friends which you prob havent seen for awhile since you been so hrad trying to please him, at first nothing is the same anymore. You need a rebound girl thats all for now someone to talk to when your lonely, stuff like that maybe a booty call friend with benefits but only one same person. Time heals all wounds. Dont strees about your past there is a reason why its not your future!!
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I met this girl while playing a game. All I can say it's that she is the sexiest woman I know, and that would be a fact. I enjoy talking to her a lot, and even since the moment I 'met' her my life is not the same. Is it love? (link)
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its Lust honey, Attraction.. Love comes with time. Its possible in the future, but get to know her a lil more before you think about love belive me she might do things you dont like, be a weirdo you know... Lust Lust
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My boyfriend and I were supposed to hang out tonight, but he decided to go out with his friends instead. This is not the first time that hes decided his friends are more important than I am, nor will it be the last.
I called him after he told me we wouldn't be hanging out, and told him that I felt like i wasn't as important as his friends. He proceeded to tell me that he didn't want to deal with it right now and that he would talk to me later and hung up.
What did i do wrong?? There have been times where hes told me hes coming to pick me up and then decided he was to tired and i've walked the hour home from work at midnight. I just am so upset right now i feel like i put all the effort in the relationship and as soon as i get my hopes up about something, he changes plans and i'm just not in the picture anymore.
I'm afraid to approach him because i don't want him to blow up and just call our relationship off. But i'm afraid to leave it alone because i know its bad for me to be stewing about it and not letting it out.
What should i do?
Im 20 hes 28. We've been together for a year and a half. (link)
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Let it go before its too late, I mean only u know how much time you spend together. Its ok for him to be with friends but come on now, your into him and u wanna spend time so why wouldnt he. hes prob not that into you anymore. Not trying to hurt your feelings babe but thats the way it is sometimes they are to scared to tell instead they will just blow you off so keep your head up and find a new one your 20 hes 28 believe me there are som many guys in this world.. dont dwell on him if he doesnt want to fine you cant force it, screw him.
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were both 15. hes just geting out of a bad relationship of about 8-9 months. im getting out of a bad bad bad realtionship also. but heres my(our)story
please tell me your imput:)
me and adam have been flirting for about 2 weeks now. and we talk about sexual things some times and he knows ill give him head and stuff. i asked him if that the only reason he "LIKES" me he said no i like you bc your smart hapy and have the cutest smile i have ever seen. okay so today he promised me the bigest hug ever beacuse we didnt get to hang out this weeknd. well i didnt get my hug instead i got a look like hey your cute. do i get home and text him saying oh man i didnt get my hug that means i get two tomro right? well he never texted back and that was like 3 hours agoo! so i got on myspace to see if he was on. well he deleted me from his myspace. and now im really confused on everything! does he like me or is he playing with my heart?. (link)
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Honestly I would of said maybe he was having a bad day and then was to busy doing something to text u back but where he deleted you off his myspace that shows he probably doesnt care to much. I dont want to sound mean because I know it might hurt but it has happen to the best of us. Say Whatever Act like you could care less that kills them way... He wants you to kiss his as* basically he wants you to call him he wants you to text him he wants u to ask him why he delted you, dont give him the benefit of the doubt please sweets......
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well so im 14, turning 15 really soon. i do not look my age at all. i look atleast 17. anyways theres this guy. i met him and he said he was 19, and i really started liking him and stuff, but later on i did find out that he really is 27, he has his reasons to lie about his age but i dont want to get into it. and i just found out his real age the other day, it shocked me to death the first day, second day pretty weird, but today im totally over it and still really like him. and we had a talk last night about us being together and me soon moving in with him when im able to move out. he still doesnt know that i know hes 27, he cant know i know, long story. but is it wrong to be in love with a 27 year old when your only 14 years old? =/ (link)
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Listen honey, I am not trying to be rude or anything but a grown man knows what he is doing messing with you.. You may believe you are a big girl now but there is a long way to go. He has lived his life already and knows he can have control over a young girl like you. What you doing is wrong honey seriously I am not tryig to be your mother or anything but seriously he is on a whole different level then you, whether you may think so or not, I know you may not like what I am saying but its the truth when you get older you will understand... Dont rush to grow up enjoy being a teenager while you can.. You will never get these times back. Do you wanna have to look back when you are older and see that you wasted your time with a man whos already lived his life?
Its not fair for you!!
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I just want your opinions on this. How big could the age difference be in teen years. Say like a 14 year old girl how much older would your opinion for her to date? I just want to see what your opinions are. Thanks! (link)
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I think 16 is the max....Not to much older so the can manipulate the girl
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me n my boyfrend have been dating for 5 months. i am so in love with him and he is in love with me too. everything was going fine n we were having the same problems as usual but they never really got us down that much n we worked on them. our biggest problem was that he had alot of insecurities which made him have trouble believing me when i saidd that i love him. a few days ago he texted me that we needed to talk. i met him in the hallway and he sed that we needed a break. i was dumbfounded and didnt even know where this came from. he sed he wanted me to get with other guys and see if i still loved him after. he just never thought i was serious when i sed i was in love with him. so i ws like ok and i didnt know what to say. we didnt talk in two days which is definateely not like us since we text 24/7 and he didnt seem to care at all. finally i texted him that we needed to talk. we fought and said alot of mean things. he said he needed a break from me. i said ok but we kept texting. we just talked about our day and nothing about our relationship. then, he asked how i was and i told him how upset i was about the whole break thing. he was really rude about it and said for Gods sake im not divorcing u. i was really hurt but he didnt seem to care at all. he sed he needed a break from all the compliments and i loves yous. i was astounded and very hurt. this came out of nowhere. he said he needed a break of not talking at all. i was sad because we hang out everyday and i missed him. we started texting a little and then he just started giving me one word answers. i said do u even want to talk to me? he said no. so i said well ok? he said well ill let you go then. i said you mean ull let yourself go. n he said yep bye. we havnt talked since that conversation yesterday. I am so hurt that this is so easy for him not to talk to me and that i am so upset about it. he doesnt even seem to care at all. i dont know why all of a sudden he is saying he needs his space and we cant talk. i feel like he doesnt love me anymore but i guess i have to give him his space. he says we will be on this break till he has an epiphany. but what if he never has one and this turns into a permanent break? i dont know what to do , i love him so much and cant lose him. thank you for any help (link)
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LISTEN HONEY I Dont Want to sound MEAN IN Anyway but u REALLY NEED TO LEAVE HIM ALONE.. HE DOESNT WANT TO HEAR THOSE THINGS BECAUSE HE DOESNT FEEL THE SAME WAY.. HONESTLY THE BEST THING FOR YOU TO DO WOULD BE TO ACT LIKE U COULD CARE LESS EVEN THOUGH YOUR INSIDES BURN EVRYTIME YOU THINK ABOUT HIM... I HAVE BEEN IN YOUR SITUATION AND MADE MYSELF LOOK STUPID FOR 6 YEARS. YOU SEEM LIKE A SMART YOUNG GIRL AND THERE IS PLENTY MORE FISH IN THE SEA BELIEVE E.. IF HE DOESNT WANT TO HEAR I AM POSITIVE THERE IS SOMEONE ELSE THAT WOULD LOVE TO HEAR IT!! GUYS ARE COMPLICATED REALLY AND THEY SUCK MOST OF THE TIME BUT DONT WASTE OUR TIME ON SOMEONE WHO ISNT GIVING YOU THE TIME OF DAY PLEASE....!! I HOPE THIS HELPED SWEETIE SEROIUSLY TAKE IT FROM ME DONT WASTE ANYMORE OF YOUR TIME ITS NOT GOING TO BE EASY BUT IN TIME YOULL BE LIKE I WAS SUCH AN IDIOT!! BELIEVE ME
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My boyfriend and I haven't been together long but we were very close friends before we became a couple. We met just after I split up with my ex, who I was very upset about and took a long time to get over. I liked my current boyfriend for a long time although I still wasn't over my ex. When we finally got together, I was really happy and I can safely say that I no longer have any feelings towards my ex.
My current boyfriend and I both have alot of problems at home and always look to each other for support. However, recently I find that all I want is some stability, not a boyfriend who has just as many issues as me. We always have some form of problem with each other and I'm constantly finding faults in him. I worry that I'm only with him because I don't want to be on my own. I love him and he is like my best friend but I can't continue to do this all the time.
I really am at a loss as to what to do. I don't want to break up with him, but deep down I keep thinking I have to. I'm considering asking him for a break from each other, so we can both think about our real feelings but I'm worried that will cause more problems. What should I do? (link)
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It all depends on how strong that man is to ask for a break....Honestly I believe you need a break you need some time to find your self you jumped out of your last realtionship and right into this one... You need some time dont be scared to be alone! Call up some of the girls and go out... Put on your best shoes and go out for real.. There is alot more to life honey, dont stay with someone because you are scared to be alone.....I f he is a strong man tell him you need a break some time to find your self explain to him its not because of anyone else because that the first thing guys seem to think!! Tell him you need some time to find yourself again.. If its meant to be it will be but you need to figure out how to love yourself and be able to be alone!! Find Mr. Right not Mr. Right now!
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16/f, sorry if this is a bit long, I appreciate those who take the time to read this and help me :]
So, there is this guy, and he told me he liked me, I told him I liked him, but then a couple days after that he got with his ex girlfriend who basically was just dumped by her boyfriend. the guy and i havent talked for 4 or 5 weeks. [since that happened] he is in one of my classes. math. and i hate that class already.
well on friday, i had to collect homework. and no one was passing it up, so i kind of went down his row [which is right next to mine, and im in the way front, he is like 2 seats behind me in the next row, so awkward. he moved there when we got our seats changed.] but before i got to him, they started passing it up, so then all of the sudden the guy ... we'll call him bob.. leans on his desk and says something like, "[my name] would you mind taking this--" or "[my name] will you do me a favor and--" i've been wanting him to talk to me, but i felt like he was being an asshole so i cut him off and snatched it out of his hand. [with attitude i guess] and then bob was like "thank you" [i think kind of sarcastically. or surprised.]
anyways, that happened and then i've been having wierd dreams involving him [nothing sexual, dont worry hahaha] just like dreams that I'm trying to get him to notice me. or talk to me. or break up with his girlfriend. who doesn't deserve him because she always told people ho annoying he was. and not that bob deserves anyone because i REALLY like/liked him.
sometimes i feel like he's looking at me in math. and when i talk to someone who sits behind him, i feel like he tries to make eye contact with me, and when we do make eye contact, i break away frist really quickly, or he does. and we were put in groups on friday [the day i snatched the paper from him] and he was right next to me [in his group] and i think he was listening to me talk to my group or trying to get my attention because whenever this guy in his group asked me a question, he would look at me and our eyes met and it was so intense. like. i don't even now how to explain it.
and ontop of that, i think i like this freshman now. but i still like bob. im so lost and confused and i can't get bob off of my mind. and sometimes the new guy i like comes into my mind. but not really. wow im so confused. what should i do? talk to bob? I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO, I AM SO LOST. someone please help me :[ thank you. (link)
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Listen Honey Boys are complicated and they take longer to mature than girlS..... So definetly keep that in mind!! But I think you should try to act like you tottally dont care about Bod and try to show interest in the other guys... Ask him if hed like to hang out sometime... Once Bob sees you have moved on thats when youll see how different he acts...
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so my boyfriend and i have never made out.
how do i change a kiss that ususally ends into a hug...into a steamy kissing session? (link)
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Try this....When you guys are kissing start holding the back of his head and caress it and slowly try to hold him into place while you make your move.. sounds weird but try to imagine it slowly..
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What kinds of things do boys find attractive in a girl? What are some turn ons? Nothing dirty please! (link)
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Hello there....
Coming from a female I dont know if this will help but I thinks guys first off want a girl who has a sense of humor, is smart, and s sexy in her own way..... Guys like it when girls make them feel special and say things to boost there ego...!! Make them feel special it goes along way!! They also like for women to cater to them like mothers..
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I recently started dating a new guy, in a few days it will have been a month. At first I wasn't sure if I should keep dating him because being with him made me miss being with my ex, not because I don't like him, but because I was constantly reminded of what it was like being with my ex. But I decided to stick with him because I didn't think I had given us a fair chance yet, and I assumed it was normal that I was missing my ex and that the feeling would go away soon. Well, it's been this way for a month now and I think I'm missing my ex even more now than I was before. I still talk to my ex, and we're good friends. I just don't know what to do... it's almost more painful being with someone else than being alone :( (link)
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Either way single or not you still love him and thats hard. Its good that your daing though it gives you something to take your mind off of him sometimes. I mean if its that bad that you never stop thinking of him honey you need some more time to get over it. You probably jumped back out too soon
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Ok.. this is complicated and long.. so don't even start to read if you aint gonna finish... :)
I met this guy in February of 08 lets call him E he is a kind of a quiet person but i liked him a lot hes really cute and he liked me to. We would spend hours talking on the phone at night constantly text.. Well we started dating in the following March.. many people like his exs warned me that he was a player.. i didnt listen i thought they were just bein haters.. ever since i went down a path of drama with other girls, break ups and more problems. He would always see one of his ex girl behind my back but she aint a problem she moved but.. needless to say he talks to a lot of girls and he still texts that ex girl.. Ok.. well we broke up lots and got back together. No matter how shitty i was treat i went back to him. Well we stopped dating for a while and I started talking to his friend " d" who isn't usually what i would go for at all cause he is a bigger guy. Anyway "d" is really funny, i love being with him.. i dont even think about E when i'm with him like hes amazing. Well E didnt want to get back together until he seen me talking to D... he still claims that its not why but whatever...I really do love E we have had a lot of time together and i love being around him.. but i like D too.. D isn't so innocent himself he had a few girl friends at one time but he claims he would drop them all for me.. I aint his average chick... My problem is now i dont know who i want to be with E who i love but has treated me bogus in the past but seems to have changed some what or D who is funny amazing and claims he aint playin games that he drop all his ladies for me. Who do i go for? A shot at love round 483983492 so me an E get back together well we have been back together for a week problem 001.. this girl he been kickin it with read texts i sent to him and sends me shit talking shit.. okkk now E is a dude who has an excuse for everything... I told him that I didnt want him to hang out with her anymore cause all she gonna do is cause drama.. I gets mad and says im stupid for trynna tell him who to kick it with.. Do i like not have a right to want him to hang out with her cause she starting drama trynna break us up...? So he gave up and told me he wasnt going to talk to her no more.. well she text me telling me he still talks to her. I really like D but its hard to know if he is forreal about only trynna make me his lady.. I really love E we have history and I love being around him. I lay out the pros and cons of each..
E- PROS- He cute.. We have stuff in common.. Hes built (i find that sexy )... i love him.. we can talk for hours.. CONS- girls always trynna call me startin shit.. he talks to a lot of girls.. hes kinda stubborn.. he used to blow me off all the time..
D- PROS-He cute.. we have stuff in commmon.. he is funny as hell.. cool to hang out with.. got money.. he tells me im beautiful.. CONS- has a history of bein a man hoe i guess u could say..he still has his exs shit.. he kind of a bigger guy.. he E's friend..
im so confused.. i dont want to go for D and find out he is still talking to his exs and lose my chance with e cause i still love e and have a big weakness for him.
i dont want to go for E and waste time.. find out hes just going to be bitch again when it could have been time spent with D.
HELP... (link)
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E is mad cuz you was with d and no matter how many girls he was with or whatever were any of them your friends? I
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i have been going out with my boyfriend for almost a month and i dont no what to get him for christmas he likes sports but he told me not to get anything for him. what should i do? (link)
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I would still get him something. Its only been a month so you should just get him a 25 dollar gift card to dicks sporting goods or something.
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k so i wanna know if its possible to make a guy that doesn't want to be in a relationship change his mind. like are there things a girl can do to make the guy want to commit to her. i was with this guy and he really didn't want to be committed. he always hooked up with several girls at once. but he met me and stopped talking to everyone else and looked like he was about to commit but then changed his mind and backed out. so now were friends but i wanna know how to make him want me as a girlfriend... (link)
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You cant really make him want you.. They only way to try would be to act like your moving on and your his "friend" so you can ask him for some manly advice if he likes you he'll break! And realize he wants to be with you if not maybe hes not ready yet, be glad he told you and didnt just go and cheat like mine did!!
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im 15/f. i shy and have a hard time talking to guys....just so u kno im not one of those weird people u kno who tlk to there cat but,i havent ever had a boyfriend...i dont think im bad looking im 5'0 and a little chubby but i can still wear a bikini and look in it..well i have semilong brown razor cut style hair and blue eyes...i wear hollister and stuff like that...but now i sound like im writing a single person seeking a person ad...but, i still cant figure out why im single (link)
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Listen Honey first of all your only 15 and boyfriends arent everything there is plenty of time for that seriously... I mean I know you probably dont want to hear it but I wish someone would of told me.... I had a bf at your age and had a baby by 17. I am now 22. Its ok to be shy guys like that too. Alot of people are shy. My advice would be if you really want to be able to approach any man is you have to first be comfortable in your own skin and feel sexy and then youll aproach anyone work on having tremendous confidence.
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