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ok well i like this guy and i dont know if he likes me or not because he looks through my classroom window when ever he walks by and looks at me and shows off infront of me or when he plays B-ball before he shoots he looks at me..and i dont know he talks to me more then all the girls and calls me up and everything but recently he had told someone that he liked me only as a friend but im not sure i think he might be lieing because hes friends with my brother hich is like the leadr of the group so he might be afraid to loose his friends..or i might be wrong he might not like me...im not sure wut to do or think..i dont know if i should tell him or not..thanx

yeah from the information im pretty sure he likes you.. he probably told your frends he doesn't because he doesnt want his friends to know but it sure does seem like he likes you.. so if he doesnt seem like he's gonna make a move then be the bigger person & ask him to hang out or something. i know you'll do fine =)

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hey i really need advice. ok i'm 13 and i'm a girl and in 5th grade i went out with this guy andrew, i know fifth grade (it wasnt like a real bf) and then i broke up with him but then we went out again in 6th grade. i met him a few years ago at a summer club called the beach club. the beach club is pretty much my life. i spend every day there and i have like the best friends in the world there. well andrew joined the beach club a few years ago and then he asked me out when we were in 5th grade (im in 7th now). well in 6th grade we went out and then i broke up with him again. we went out again about a week later again but that only lasted a few days. now he's one of my best friends. he's liked me for a really long time and he flirted with me soo muchover the winter, but i didnt like him like that then. a few weeks ago he started to like this girl erin and he asked her out five days later. she said yes, and for some reason i was extreamly jealous and miserable. i think i loved him all along but i never noticed it. he says that a part of him will always love me too even though he's going out with erin. yeah were 13 and thats a little young for love i know, but i really feel like i love him, but i dont really know what to do so if you can help me at all that would be pretty awesome! k thanks like so much

okay well honestly i feel like you just think you love him now that he's with erin. once he breaks up with her, then see if you still love him and if you do then take a chance and ask him out.. you'll just have to wait til they break up =/ and be patient too..

sorry its not much help but good luck with your situation!

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(im a girl, 14) Right I am freaking out over this and i really need help..

There is a new lad at our school called Ashley and me and my friend (laura) both like him loads. He seems to like us both but as Laura is in more classes with him she is getting to know him loads better and hes already said that he thinks theyre going to be great friends. Laura has a boyfriend already and she says that she'll let me have Ashley but he still flirts with us BOTH in front of her boyfriend .
In their classes together Ive heard that they get really close and hes pinned her against the wall etc and they sit together. They also talk about people and she says that he said that i was pretty/fit but then she asked about her and he said 'erm..no' but I reckon that he only said that because she was there and didnt want to give her ideas..Hes also said that he wouldn't mind going out with either of us.

So the next day I totally freaked when i found out that he had been flirting with her in science, and i was pulling letter keys off the school computer and threatening to kill her so much that I really scared my friends. Its all going great for her ;-(

It so happens that day that she is staying down (she lives in a village)because we both go to this tramplolining club every wednesday and after school at the gates I was freaking out and pulling my bag apart and on the verge of screaming/ smacking her / crying n biting my nails off... and he was still flirting with her on the way to the local shop we all meet up at but he doesnt normally walk this way . Finally i decided to sort this out with her and i was nearly crying but she said that shed lay off him etc for me (bless her).

And what do you know he started flirting with me. I kept getting hugs and he was showing me how to do drumming etc and he was coming to watch us (probably Laura) at trampolining with her bf later on..

OK So now we're at trampolining and we both talk to him as much as each other but hes giving her piggybacks and he gave me a single shoulderlift to show of how strong he was. He probably knows I like him because of the many people who have been coming up to him and asking him if he likes me etc. After trampolining we went back to his where we were sat down watching TV with his cute puppies jumping allover us and I was sat on the couch next to him getting closer and he was talking to me and asking laura questions.

We went to the kitchen (all 4 of us [me laura Ashley and her bf, Lewis]and he was flirting with us both (tickling me and jumping up behind me etc, doing exactly the same to Laura and her bf was staring daggers)and we decided to go to a shop and buy a pizza. Me and Laura bought the pizza and he seemed to be tagging along with her more but then on the way back to his place he had his arm around me and I was loving every second and he kept putting his hand round my waist…J Back at his house we were in his kitchen again with the pizza on (her bf didn’t seem to mind him messing around with her anymore because we were all just great friends) and then I realized that now he had his arm round her (serious twinge of jealousy)….. But then he has his arm round both of us either side of him as we waited for the pizza to cook. I kept whispering to Laura that I REALLY LIKED HIM I have honestly never felt so badly for someone I was almost shaking when he entered the room. So after a while she takes him outside and all I hear is playful giggling and I am worrying but she comes back to tell me that though he’s happy with his girlfriend if he ever dumps her he will definitely say yes to me. And now I feel like a total prick for acting kinda shy around him and leaving it at that. Does it mean anything when he hugs you last?

Today at school I saw him and hugged him and I was so happy until I found out that he was going on the school trip that Laura was going to and he wants to share a room with her……..But in dance today he came running over to me to knock me down/ hug me and I was just like ‘Hi?’ and he me and laura kept talking to him as he’s the only boy in our class and can break dance. We had to choose groups and he chose to be in a group with me and Laura and not the popular, pretty people or his other friends he knows better. We were so chuffed. He was teaching us how to do a box jump and lifting us up by the waist (more me than her) and all the popular people were scowling at us with jealousy :-)At the end of the lesson they all had a go at him and asking him why he was hanging out withus losers but he stuck up for us and we were really surprised at his guts etc. After the lesson he jumped up behing me again and he walked me to my next lesson. Although he didnt walk the same way home again to see me..

I want to know who he likes best and whther to make a move or not...? Because I dont want him going off with Laura on this French trip if Im going out with him, I feel like tearing my hair out coz I wish he would make a move on just one of us and stop confusing me...

congrats if you finished reading this btw lol and thankyou for your answer lol luv rachel xxx

wow, thats reaaaaally complicated
this guy sounds like a regular teenage boy who doesnt know what he wants. I think he wants both of you and cant pick because he's been giving you guys both attention at different times.

maybe you should ask him if he wants to hang out with you sometime, maybe with another one of your friends & not laura, and see if he says yes, because if he does then he likes you and if he doesnt then he doesnt like you

other than that there really is no way your gonna find out unless you wait for him to decide, its kinda wierd for your friend to do that with him if she already has a boyfriend..

anyway, good luck & i hope that all this clears up and that he ends up liking youu :)!

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I'm 18/f. My boyfriend's birthday is coming up in june (he's turning 21), and I had the idea to throw him a really cool party, but I have a bunch of options right now and I'm not sure which to go with. My first idea was to have the party at his house (surprise party), and involve his parents.
Thing about his parents is I don't think they really like me, and I'd like to win them over, so to speak. I think if I went and talked to them about it, they might like me more...well, this might actually go in another question...anyway, I could throw it at his house and involve his parents a little bit, but then it'd have to be a dry party.
I could also get some of my older friends to help me out and make it a wet party, but then it couldn't be at his house, and it might cost more.
Money's not much of a problem right now, but I don't wanna like, splurge, so I can't like rent a place or anything. Yannow? It'd have to be at a friend's house or something.
So I guess I'm asking if anyone has ideas and/or opinions.
Lemme know!
Decent spelling and grammar, please. They're important. If you TyPe LyK dIz, you're not getting a five. =D

Okay well i think a surprise party for your boyfriend is a really great idea. I think you should go to his parents for advice on what he likes, even if you already know what he likes, just so they can feel involved. That might make them like you more. Just have the party at one of your friends houses and see if you can make it so they dont go. If they go anyway then just make sure it's a "wet" party, even with them there :)!

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i have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half now & i want to do some things to make him see how much i love him..ive done the writting notes and stuff but i would love if someone could give me ideas on sweet things i could do that dont cost any money that will show him that i care and that he will love

maybe you can make a 'just because' card and say you were thinking about him so you decided to make a card, other than that there is really nothing else i could think of unless you wanted to invite him over for a movie you already have that wont cost any money and pop some popcorn in the microwave or something :)

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its kind of a long story, for those of u willing to read......this guy... we'll call him james. james and i have been together for a year. everything was perfect. my family liked him, his family liked me, or so that is what i thought. everything was falling perfectly into place. One day, my mom was with me while i was opening an email. this was about two months ago. i opened my email and there was this song that he dedicated to me. The words of the song were really nice, but he didn't just send the words. He sent the music video, which had gays and lesbians kissing all over it. i asked him why he would send that to me, because usually guys who like girls are grosed out by two guys kissing each other. He said that he was sorry, he only meant to send the words to me, but my mom had a fit an a half because she did not think that it was normal for a young man to be sending his girlfriend those kinds of things. then, she did not want me to talk to him any more, which i remember was right before the hurricane. so, after that, i had no communication with him because there was no power due to the hurricane.my mom made me tell him i didnt want to talk to him anymore infront of her and wouldn't leave until i did. as soon as i had power, i sent him an email telling him i was sorry and everything... but we didn't have power for almost two weeks, so i was super worried... and i didn't talk to him until a week after because i was really nervous. he said that it was fine and stuff and that he really wanted to be with me and all that. so, then there was this party that i didn't know he was going to, and i saw him there cuz he showed up. he came up to me and the whole night he was hugging me and kissing me and holding my hand i was really happy and had all of these butterflies in my stomach, but like two days after, he told my best friend to tell me that he wasn't really that interested in me. and i was very hurt because he always told me that he loved me and that he wanted to marry me and stuff. this happened like two months ago. so, i get a myspace friend request last night right when this other guy was asking me out. but, i was still hurting from the other guy... but then i saw him and when i looked at his myspace it said that he loves this girl and all he can do is think about her. and now i don't noe whether or not to approve him because what he did really hurt but i still want to be with him, and his dad might have something to do with what happened because i don't know if his dad is at me. please help me... should i approve him even after all he did????? because i might want him back..

dont add him, hes not worth it.

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ok, here's the situation: i was at a dance Friday night and i met this girl(whoo hoo!), and i got her phone number. I said that i would call her sometime.
what i was wondering is when i should call her. should i wait 2-3 days or do it right now? and when i do call her, what should i say? Should i be like "hi, remember me from friday?" or what should i say?

definitely call her right now because if you dont then she might forget about you. when you call her tell her who you are and tht you met at the dance and if you like her ask her if she wants to hangout sometime and take it from there :)

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13/f this boy in my class slways flirts w/ me. Like thursday we went on a field trip and on the way home we were hitting ea/ other with our brochures. by the way, I had to write 100 sentences for that!!!! But he is always like that, if we're on different teams he tries to get me or get me our, first. I catch him looking at me all the time, or he'll do something funny and make sure I'm watching, he also seems happy when I laugh at his jokes and stuff. He also seems jealous when I mention My ex. Who is still my friend.he knows all about me some how and he got here after Christmas break, not long enough to find out all my "hidden" facts. He knows where I go and stuff like that. But when I go by someones house to sleepover its like right next to him. He is NOT a stalker. I've told him about my dad but I think the bays gave him more facts than I gave him, Like he know how old I was when he died, and I did NOT tell him that. DO you think he likes me?

i totally think there is a huge possibility that he likes you.. from what you said it sounds like you both like each other and thats a good thing :)!

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i want to ask this boy to prom. however he has told other people that he does not go to school functions & isn't going to prom (he doesn't know i want to ask him though). should i still ask? i think it would be awfully embarassing if he said no & i would feel awkward around him after. however there is no one else to ask & this is very last minute (prom is may 13th) & i want to do it before this weekend ends. some people say it's wrong to do over the phone & it's better to do in person, others say it it's OK. so first of all do you think i should risk asking him? & also, is it bad to do over the phone because i won't see him this weekend? thanks!

okay well if he isnt planning on going to the prom anyway then dont risk asking him because it could be very embarassing. If you need a date to make yourself feel better ask a guy friend of yours to go with you as friends or just go with a group of your friends, its always fun with friends :)

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i broke up with my bf and he says he loves me real bad and wants to work things out. i dont wanna because dont really have anymore feelings for him but i didnt tell him that i told him that im gonna be to busy this summer to have a bf which is true. but i cant get him to stop wanting to be with me how can i get him to move on?

find out what kind of girl he likes and set him up with her, if he likes her enough he'll totally forget about you and both of you will be happy. if you dont want to do that then have a talk with him about why you two cant be together anymore.. tell him the truth and everything will turn out great

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18 years old/female.
K, this is the situation I am in. There is this guy that I work with that I simply can not get out of my heart. This is the 4th year I have worked with him, and for all of that time I have found myself attracted to him in a big way. At first I just felt like it was an adolesant crush, I mean I was 14 afterall and crushes are not a rare thing at that age, they come and go. But this one came and has yet to go. Anyways, quicknotes version- He is 2 years older then me and impossible to read! I am oblivious to flirting-incoming or outgoing- and don't know how to tell if he has feelings for me too. Most of the time I really just wish I could forget about him, but something won't let me. It's not like an obsessive kind of thing where I think about him 24/7, he just seems to find his way into my mind in the quiet moments or when I'm admiring a beautiful sunset or watching waves break on the ocean I wish he were there to see it. But yet thinking of him often makes me sad, and sometimes even angry or frusterated. If I'm not even sure how I feel about him how am I supposed to tell how he feels about me? And how can I tell how he feels about me? I'm sorry this is so long I can just use all the help I can get. If LOTS of people could all give me their opinions and advice it would me great!!! I will rate you.

well if your good friends then start out by asking him if he'll go with you to like.. get your mom a present at the mall or something.. something where he wont suspect that you like him a lot and go from there.. if you have a really good time there you'll know hes the one for you and maybe you can ask him if he wants to do that again sometime.. in my opinion thats the best idea because then you can see him again and he'll think its casual.. just make sure you look casual yet really pretty so he thinks its just friends going to the mall together

idk i tried my best and this is a tricky situation but seriously GOOD LUCK :)!

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There is this boy at my school. Last week, I did not know him at all. My friend knew him and showed me his myspace. I sent him a message asking if he knew my friend and he said yes and we began talking. We had never talked in person. I told him I would say hi to him sometime at school. I think he was beginning to figure out I had a crush on him. Today he was standing in the lunch line behind me and I thought it was the perfect chance. So I said hi and we talked shortly. Then I said "see you later" and that was it. I don't know what to do. I get shy when it comes to talking to him at school. I feel like I am being annoying over myspace though. Everyone tells me he is down to earth, nice, and funny. I just don't know how to get closer to him. I really want things to work. We can never have any classes together because he is a grade younger. He is so my type and I really want to tell him how I feel, but that would be too fast since we barely know each other.
Any takers?
It's a toughie, but PLEASE help.

this is a toughie but i think this may help

okay well i think you should ask your friend (the one who showed you his myspace) for all 3 of you to go to a movie together or for all 3 of you to hangout and then go from there, if its bad then you wont consider it a date and if its good then ask him if he wants to hang out again. Plus you probably will be a little better with your friend tehre because they are friends already so it wont be so awkward with her there for comfort :)

well i hope that helped in some sort of way and good luck with the whole situation

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I met this guy last friday and we had a great time hanging out w/e and we exchanged emails and hes was born in another country and he told me that he loves me in his native language. What does this mean? he won't tell me what it means but i looked it up and thats wat it means.

P.S He's friends with my best friend thats how we met

if he didnt want to tell you in english then he's probably just to shy to tell you.. if you like him back like that then make him feel more comfortable around you by hanging out more or something and maybe he'll tell you in english next time :D!

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how do you know if a boy is flirting with you?

well i would consider it flirting if hes always like.. smiling around you and if he starts off conversations with stuff like "did we have homework" and goes from there just to talk to you.. thats what i would consider flirting :)!

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there is this eight grade dance in a month. and it seems like all of a sudden guys are asking girls to go. no one as asked me yet and like i don't care if i don't go with a guy but maybe i would like to... i don't want to ask the guy i want to go with and i don't hink he would ask me cause he's shy about those things. how could i get him to ask me? is it fun to just go with your girl friends? do people who bring dates usually hang with them the whole time?

I've been to some dances and really, it is kind of better to not go with a date because if you go with your friends, you can dance with more than one guy.. and if you go with the guy you like and it turns out you dont like him like you thought then you dont have to worry about it :) so dont worry about your crush not asking you and try to have a fun time with your friends!

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