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a challenge for all advice givers...(who think they are good
There is this boy at my school. Last week, I did not know him at all. My friend knew him and showed me his myspace. I sent him a message asking if he knew my friend and he said yes and we began talking. We had never talked in person. I told him I would say hi to him sometime at school. I think he was beginning to figure out I had a crush on him. Today he was standing in the lunch line behind me and I thought it was the perfect chance. So I said hi and we talked shortly. Then I said "see you later" and that was it. I don't know what to do. I get shy when it comes to talking to him at school. I feel like I am being annoying over myspace though. Everyone tells me he is down to earth, nice, and funny. I just don't know how to get closer to him. I really want things to work. We can never have any classes together because he is a grade younger. He is so my type and I really want to tell him how I feel, but that would be too fast since we barely know each other.
Any takers?
It's a toughie, but PLEASE help.
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If I was in this situation, the first thing I would do is get his screen name. That way you're having a conversation without so much pressure. This will give you more confidence when you talk to him in person. Learn more about him. Become friends. Say "hi" in the hallways. Part of your nervousness may come because you think that if you keep talking to him then he'll figure out you like him. To him, it may just seem like you're talking, but because your so nerv ous about him finding out, you may jump to the conclusion you're talking to him too much.
Ask for his screen name, have convos online, message him once in a while. Say "hi" when you pass him in the hallways. Try to learn more about him when you're talking to him so you will become closer. Tell him things about you, and ask things about him.
Hope it works out
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ok im not gonna be like veryone else and say tell him how you feel because we all no thats hard i think you should get his screen name and take it slower start asking him if he has siblings or a girlfriend even if you already no the answers then start talking to him in school more and more just in school when you talk to him think of him as one of your guy friends that you can talk to good luck
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I understand where your coming from.
If I was you, I wouldn't always message him first on myspace. If you message him once in awhile, or message him when he messages you than you won't seem annyoing.As far talking in person, I know this can be hard because you really like him, but honestly use any excuse to start talking to him. For example, be like sara said you were in the 7th grade, thats cool, Im in the 8th but I liked the 7th much better. if you get my point, something like that. I hope I helped and I hope everything works out for you!
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First of all, that is awesome! Second, it's a start, and little things like that will grow into larger, more comfortable conversations. When you see him don't hide or whatever, say hi, and if you both have a second, strike up a conversation. It sounds like he may be wondering how to get closer to you as well. So keep showing that you are interested.
Oh, but remember that it will take a bit of time for you guys to be comfortable with talking to each other, it's like that when you meet people you like. Baby steps...
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Oh NO! My curiosity is up...did you tell him you were the one who talked to him on myspace or did you just talk? I mean did he know it was you?
If you were bugging him on myspace I'm sure he would just ignore you or something. Since he seems to talk to you there without a problem, I think it will be as good a way as any to get to know him better.
That doesn't mean you shouldn't say hi at school or even hang out now and then if you get the chance to.
It will be awkward at first in person but it will get easier as you get to know each other better.
Good luck. :)
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this is a toughie but i think this may help
okay well i think you should ask your friend (the one who showed you his myspace) for all 3 of you to go to a movie together or for all 3 of you to hangout and then go from there, if its bad then you wont consider it a date and if its good then ask him if he wants to hang out again. Plus you probably will be a little better with your friend tehre because they are friends already so it wont be so awkward with her there for comfort :)
well i hope that helped in some sort of way and good luck with the whole situation
<3 allie
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Im a guy and I know from personal experence that when a cute girl asks you out, its so awesome that you are almost guaranteed a "Yes." If you already talk to him, and he knows your name, you have your foot in the door. Just ask him out, to a movie or some generic sport event, it really makes no difference to us guys. If he is not a loser then he will go with you. You don't have to tell him you LOVE him or anything like that, just get to know him and decide if he is all that he is hyped up to be. You don't need to worry, there is only two reasons he could say no, either he already has a woman, or he is gay. Thats it. Unless your are REALLY UGLY and fat like 250 pounds but then again I have seen guys go out with them too... weird...
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