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14/f
Ok me and my bf just started going out a few days ago. I feel so nervous around him though. I just want to know how to feel more comfortable when I'm around him. When we sit next to each other or something I kind of shake but not alot. Like he can't tell I'm shaking. I'm just nervous. Can you tell me some ways I can get more comfortable? Or anything of the sort. Thanks so much! (link)
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I toooootally know that feeling. So basically when i think about it, there's a difference between guy friend and boyfriend. With a guy friend you can be comfortable around because you're not trying to impress him and make him think you're cute and whatnot. And with a boyfriend, there's that connection between you two because you like eachother, which might give you that nervous feeling because you want him to think the best of you. Which is my point. Relax because you got him! haha. I know it might seem hard and since you're so young you still have a bit to learn, but just be yourself. Just relax and be comfortable around him! He's your boyfriend :)
OH and as for ways to get comfortable, maybe try talking on the phone more? I know that helps a little. Invite him over your house, watch movies, play video games. Share your interests whether one of you think it's stupid or not. Do something silly and it will definitely help because you'll break the ice!
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Ever since 7th grade, I am now a freshman, I cannot seem to like a guy for more than a month, give or take a few days/weeks.
Usually I find a guy that is either hard to get or really quiet, then I make him like me. Then I am excited for a couple days, but I get sick of the person about a week after they start showing that they like me.
I like boys to like me, but when they do, I don't care much for them. It's like a game that I can't stop.
I WANT TO KNOW IF THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME! Does anyone else have this problem? Is it a phase? Will I finally find the right person and STICK with them?!? (link)
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nah. you're just a girl.
maybe you get bored because those guys just don't put for the same challenge you do, or don't stay interesting for long enough.
i'm sure when you find a guy that can keep your interest level up and/or continue to surprise you, you'll be able to stick with him.
but you're in high school so it's not really a big deal. just don't go having sex all the time!
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15/f
well, i've been with my boyfriend for about 11 months. and the thing is, i'm not sure how i feel at the moment. i KNOW i can do better, because he treats me bad at times, and he gets too overly paranoid. he gets paranoid by saying that i can't talk to guys. -___-" and he got mad at me for going to target after school with my friend, which is a girl. because he says that there are probably guys there... but anywho.. i seem to be annoyed with him often also. but yet when something happens that could possibly break us up.. that's when i start getting scared.. but i don't do anything about it. i don't get as scared as i used to.. but i still get scared and nervous. when he used to say "never let me go" i feel touched and stuff, and he said that to me today, i didn't feel anything.. i just changed the subject. So, what's going on? am i losing feelings for him? am i not getting enough sleep or something? or am i just annoyed with him at the moment..?
what should i do? please & thank you! (link)
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so i had the exact same thing happen to me.
ok, you're realizing now that you could do better. GOOD.
you CAN do better. sure, you might have/have had strong feelings for him but now you know he's not what you want/need. i know you might get scared, but that's probably minor seperation anxiety, or you just don't like the change.
i think in the end a break up would be good. jealousy like the type he has takes so much away from you, and that's not what you want. be yourself, and if he doesn't like it, he's not right.
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ok i met this guy at a party and we hooked up a cuople times and grinded and i mean we hooked up allot.. and i was leaving he asked for my number and he alls me all the time...and i think he really loves me alot thats what he syad beacuse i no i fell in love with this kid in less then a week. and he said his crazy about me..and you know you meet people at clubs and there all fake well his that guy he calls me none stop and txts me everyday since we met and im suppose to be going out with him this weeknd ...amd i stupid...or should i be worried or something...do you really think he loves me ...is this even possible please help !! ??? (link)
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you're not stupid. you're just excited over something new and fantastic, like a bug attracted to a bug light.
but i wouldn't say you're in LOVE. you may love the things about him, but nothing serious.
and make sure if/when you guys go out, don't get carried overboard with the whole "we're in love" thing and have sex or whatnot. just take time to really get to know him. after a while, then you can make the judgement about love.
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my bf and i are best friends and i love him but we keep having problems. first things have been a little rocky because im moving faaar away in June. like a 2 day drive away. the problem now tho is that i went to where im gonna live soon to look at houses and schools and stuff with my parents for a week and his phone is broken (just broke last week a couple days before i left state) he called me on his friend's phone on friday and tried to get in touch through IM but i didnt have a computer. and he emailed Sunday but never replied to my email (i borrowed my friends computer) the last couple days i have tried really hard to get in touch and now it seems he doesnt care. he didnt email me or call on his brother's phone or his mom's or dad's. he had options and he didnt do anything. he is in school so during the day he couldnt do anything but w/e. idk why but he and i keep having problems! he keeps doing things like this that make it seem like he doesnt care. every other week i am upset because he acts like he doesnt care!!
i know i might seem a little extreme but we are in a serious relationship and the last time i talked to him for real was last Tuesday! he called on Friday but we only talked for like 5-10 minutes. we didnt even really talk either. he had opportunities and i tried very hard to get in touch. and Monday was our 3 month anniversary and he forgot. it just seems like i put out more effort than he does.
i have high expectations and im willing to wait for a guy who can reach those and i always thought he could but now idk.
i called him on his brothers phone finally today and he has a really hard test that he knows nothing about and he did reeeally bad on his last test in that class and he didnt study at all before tonight apprently so he was like i cant talk i will call you some time tomorrow. and im on break and we were supposed to hang out and i cant go see him if he doesnt call me until tomorrow because then its too late my mom needs more notice than that. and i am going through a REALLY hard time moving and everything and i need him to be here for me. im stressed out! i cant keep having these problems but i love him!
please help me! i dont know what to do. today when he was like i'll call you tom i was like fine and he said bye and then i hung up. then i cried. it hurts me when he acts like he doesnt care and i understand that he had a test but he couldnt even email me and we havent talked in forever and i always make time for him. he always says he cares but idc what he says i care about what he does. and right now he isnt showing it at all. he says he doesnt want a break and all this will make us stronger but its not normal for us to always have problems. we used to never have problems. i know hes a great guy and i really do love him but hes not giving me what i want and what i give him. please give me some advice and i need as much as i can get!
im sorry this is so long but im really upset and torn. thank you SO much! i will rate for all your help :) (link)
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sure, you may love him, but you could love anybody (not trying to be mean)
there are some people that just aren't meant for you, and i think he might be one of them.
and considering you're only on 3 months and that he couldn't even remember, i'd say you should take a break. i'm not saying permanently break up unless that works better for you.
just take time for yourself. you can't give him your all and get nothing in return, because from experience, it's not worth it.
you'll move on. you'll find someone better. you said yourself, you're willing to wait!
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ok well i really like this guy who goes to my school rite. well i'm to much of a chicken to go up to him and just talk to him even tho like we kno eachother.. idk if i should tell him how i feel or if i should just stick to the outskirts...ugh i'm sooo confused what should i do? if i do talk to him what should we talk about? (link)
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if you're shy, i know how you feel. i'd say the simplest way (and it was easiest for me) would be starting out with "hey what's up"
ask how his weekend was, blah blah blah. casual talk.
if he starts maybe flirting with you or asks for your number, then he possibly likes you or thinks of you more than a friend...however you want to put it.
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Okay I already know this girl isn't my friend because she always likes the guys I like. And I finally found this AMAZING beyond awesome guy. And I'm super shy, and she know's he likes me & I like him. But now she talks to him ALL THE TIME. And I havn't asked her if she likes him, but like I just know it. And now, she's like, pretending to be me and like the same things as me and asking me like "what kind of music do you like?" "What are you talking to _____ about?!" and I'm like going crazy. I'm so shy, and he wants me to talk to him but I want him to talk to me. But then this girl, my so called friend like keeps purposly messing it up by telling me like "Oh you shouldn't talk to him, he said he's not in the mood" even though that was a complete LIE. What do you think I should do? (link)
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If you know what's going on, go with YOUR instincts, not what other people say. your so called "friend" needs to go somewhere the sun don't shine. He's your guy, so go get him. talk to him, don't be shy (i know that's really hard, but once you start up, things will get better and easier). if you really want him, you gotta show him.
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this guy kept saying he liked me and that he wanted to go out with me and stuff
then he told me he liked another girl
and im totally heart broken
any ways to cheer me up? (link)
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that's minor, you're lucky.
just move on. don't think about him. if you do, distract yourself of talk to your friends. find a new hottie to drool over. it's the best and easiest way. just DON'T THINK ABOUT HIM
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So,the boy I like came to the basketball court.And me and my friend were the first one's there.So then like 4 or 5 of his friends come too.And then we were all like chillin and playing some basketball.Then the whole time I was there, frome when I got to the court and he left he was trying to make me laugh,he kept looking at me,he tried to impress me,and he was laughing with me.Are those signs of flirting?I want to know what it means.Thanks for anyones advice. (link)
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definite flirting. you got him good :)
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Okay, a few weeks back, I hooked up with one of my friend's friend. And I can't stop thinking about him. I added him to my myspace and he talks to me off and on, but how can I tell if he maybe sorta likes me or not. I've never felt this way about a hook up at all. But for some reason I just want to talk to him and hang out with him. Could I tell him or message him anything that wouldn't make me seem desperate at all/????/ (link)
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continue talking to him. tell him that you want to chill sometime....or, in his language, "hook up again". just be like "it was really fun" or whatever you wanna say.
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Okay well in the first semester this really cute guy walked ito my spanish class, and well i was talking to my bestfriend and well i could totally notice him checking me out, im trying not to be concieded and all but after that day he came more and more. it was really fun to go to that class after that :) but when it came to christmas break we stopped talking........no talking. then i saw him in the hallway the other day and i was OMG OMG flipping out and well i laugh when i flip out so i was laughing liek hardcore. but then i saw he had a myspace so i sent him a request he added me and then messaged me and i was laughing bc i was flipping out. well he has a girlfriend now, and well i dont know if i should keep on talkign to him. and well i like him alot but the thing is he might tryout for cheerleading but the thing is in cheerleadering is that you cant date inside the squad. HELP ME PLS should i keep talkign to him if he has a girl anddd ohhh yeah she is a DANCER!!! DANCERS DONT GET ALONG WITH CHEERLEADERS!!!!! and well i told him i would help him with his cheerleading should i???????? (link)
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dude forget about a relationship. just be friends with him and don't think about going any farther, because that's how it starts out. once you guys get to talking more and more (and trust me, it's great to have a hot friend) maybe you two could end up together. main focus: befriending him. that's about all i could say.
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15/f
I really like this guy and he is in my group for a class project. Yesterday, we had to get in our groups and most of our group was goofing off and not listening to what we were supposed to be doing. So him and I were basically the only ones working on the assignment.
Before any of this happened, I was so shy and I would never talk to him. I'd look at him but i'd never actually talk to him. Well I don't know what happened but suddenly I felt like my normal self when I was talking to him.
Is that normal to feel that way? because I thought you were supposed to be nervous when you're around the person you like but during that time period I felt normal.
Oh and if you have any advice on what to do after that so I can be his friend and possibly more than friend? I've only had 1 boyfriend and that lasted for 5 days and we never kissed. Help me please (link)
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Welllllllll
since you feel normal around him, that's really good. that means you guys (or at least you) hit it off really well. future friendship is a go.
now, talking to him more and stuff might be tricky. dont think too much about it or it'll be really hard for you. just keep an open mind (like: he doesn't know you, so don't worry about messing up)
maybe next time you work together, talk to him more. ask him how life is or whatever. casual talk, ya know? that's the easiest way to talk to someone.
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i have a bf that lives about 25 mins away so we never actully get to see each other. we've been dating for about a week. and i havent seen him since he asked me out online. and overall i've met him twice. were hanging out and watching movies at his house tomrrow and were both excited. do you think we should try to kiss?or is it to soon?i'm ready and i will but i just need a 2nd opinion.
thx (link)
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do what feels right. i know that sounds cliche, but really. since you don't see eachother very often, if you want to kiss him to leave an impression, do it! if you feel like you're not ready yet or it will be weird, then i suggest not.
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hey whatsup. my names casey.
im in 7th grade and im thirteen.i live in bermingham alabama & i go to a christian middleschool, so theres only one class per grade [sucks i know]. But lately the boys in my grade have been really immature. All they talk about is how "hot" the eigth grade girls are, and they never talk to US anymore they just talk to the eigth grade girls. They say were jealous of them. I say NOOO. Girls like to date older guys...am i right? Well then why the hell are these losers non-stop flirting with the boys in our class!?! They have their OWN boys in THEIR class!!
The point is: i dont know wat to do about getting the boys to notice that we [seventh graders] have something to offer to NOT JUST OLDER GIRLS!
HELPPPPP.
-Casey (link)
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haha it doesn't really matter what age girls and boys are, if they're hot and attracted to eachother, they flirt. that's it.
trust me, don't try to MAKE them notice you because that's considered jealousy. you have PLENTY of time and PLENTY of boys to go through so just live with it.
that's just my point of view.
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honestly people,
i hate everything. my family. my friends. my school. my cheerleading team. i cant take anything anymore..someone please help me. (link)
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you need a break, that's all. you're probably just bored with it all.
go somewhere new, meet new people. try a different style of life, observe how different it is, and maybe you'll start liking what you already have.
maybe i'm wrong.
you may want to see a doctor if you don't try the first suggestion.
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well my ex is at again... he told my bf that i cheated on him with an ex from years ago who isnt even in town and lives far away...wtf...well now my bf and ex are becoming good buddies and my bf said he was sorry for asuming in an email but then when i talked to him he said he jsut wants to drop it and he dont believe me but he jsut wants ot be with me so bad that he dont care... ok if i cheated would i be here trying to figure it out... no and i didnt and i swear on my life.... how do i get him to believe me... ps i have cheated on him once before but so has he... so taht makes it harder please help (link)
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have you sworn it to him?
does he take you seriously if you look him in the eyes??
you need to talk to him, like, not on the phone, but in person. look at him and tell him that you're serious and you want him to take you seriously. it may be a little awkward, but if things go well, you'll feel SOO much better afterwards. it's one of those trust things.
ask him "who are you going to believe...my ex or me?"
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Theres this boy ive known for about a year now. You could say we're really good friends almost best friends. Thing is i like him and people say that they think he likes me too just cause of the way he acts but i dont know! Like he always smiles at me and ill catch him starin at me sometimes and yesterday at school he kept tellin' this boy "get the blonde girl" and when i turn around he'd just look at me nd smile. Then he wrote on my binder "devon was here lol!" and he said there that way you can think of me when your walking to class. And on the weekends he asks if im going to hang out with him and i did and he told me to come back at 830 and to make sure i did and i did but he wasn't home. What do you guys think given by the information and what should i do? i like him alot but im scared to tell him but my friends have told him. THANKS! (link)
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i'm pretty sure he likes you. either that or considers you a best friend.
[i think he likes you :D ]
do the same things in return, or just flirt with him more. if things seema little more interesting between you two, then maybe you could get together [bf gf]
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Jay and i have been together for 2 weeks and a day and he told me he "loved" me and "cared about me more than anyone" and i asked him why...and he wouldnt answer because he thought that i'd call him "corny". i told him i didnt care and he still wouldnt tell me. my last boyfriend told me he loved me and i believed him. and i let myself fall in love with him and he swore he'd never hurt me. and he broke it off in less than 3 months. and it hurt me like crazy. and i told myself i wouldnt go out with a boy until im ready, but im such a pushover, and thats why im with jay. and truthfully, im still not over my last relationship. not in the least bit. and i most definetely dont wanna get hurt again. but i cant ever picture myself loving jay, i mean love him like a brother or something, but never being romantically involved. should i end it or just keep going on like this? and when he says he loves me, how can i find out for sure? how do i know hes not just saying it because he thinks hes supposed to? or for another perverted teenage boy reason? (link)
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if you don't want to be with jay like that and you're not ready for more love, i'd say end it. there's nothing wrong with a best friend, ya know? tell him that and talk to him about your doubt if he really loves you.
if personally you're not ready for a serious relationship and you can't get over your ex, don't do something you don't want. you might need time to just think for yourself and have fun. love isn't something you NEED. honestly, the right love with come along and you won't have to worry about it.
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I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I care about him alot. With the Christmas season here he has been having to work about 60 hours a week with no days off(since about the begining of November). Now all we do is fight. I know it is because he is stressed and exhausted and I never feel like I get to see him; I also know that it will get back to normal after holiday season calms down in about a month. I just don't know what to do to make him not hate me for fighting with him all of the time. I don't want us to break up but I don't know how to calm my mood swings and fighting so he won't get tired of me. Please help... I have been so depressed because of this. (link)
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if you guys are close, all you really have to do is talk to him. tell him you're sorry about all the stress or whatever.
as for your moodswings, if you're not feeling happy, don't talk to him. tell him you need cooldown time or you just need an hour to yourself or whatnot. moodswings make everything worse, trust me.
and since he's totally exhausted from working (which i also know how that feels) be nice when you call him, say you love him or whatever you might say, and if things start getting a little hot tempered, just say you have to go so it won't make things worse.
things take time and patience, and lots of control. it's hard but you'll get through it.
good luck :)
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Ok, so my name is Mandy and my boyfriend is Evan (not our real names). We've been going out for two years, so everyone knows we're like the "class sweethearts". But anyway...
Today in science I was flipping though my book (which stays in the desk and is used by whoever sits there each period), and on one page someone had written: "I love Evan Smith - and I'm not Mandy!" And then someone else wrote below it: "Me too! And I'm not Mandy either!"
Arggh! It made me soooo mad! So I wrote: "I love him too! and I AM Mandy!" (but then i crossed it out because I thought that sounded kinda rude, like haha I'm going out with him and you're not).
But anyway, I cant stop thinking about it. I mean, I know a lot of girls think my bf is cute and funny, and some probably have crushes on him... but they actually LOVE him?? Enough to write it in a book for anyone to see?? And what are the odds of it being two people who sit in the same seat (and MY seat, at that)? That must mean half the school is in love with him!
Now I know he really loves me, so I shouldn't let this bother me so much... but it really does. Because now I'm thinking that everyone I pass in the hall is secretly in love with my boyfriend, and behind their fake smile they're really glaring at me with jealousy. And I hate feeling so paranoid and suspicious! Ugghh.. what can I do to stop feeling so upset about this?
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ha.
there's this little thing called jealousy that gnaws at every girl and irritates the hell out of us. that's what it is. i'm going through the SAME thing.
these girls probably just have the hotts for your bf, just like any regular high school. they always have the popular hottie that every girl likes, but of course he has a gf. so in the end, you're the only one that matters to him. don't take it personally. just think out of all the girls in that school, he's got you and you've got him. and if you're not planning on breaking up anytime soon, then it's all good.
more than likely they're not really in love with him, they just say it because they're immature and wishing they were you.
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