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How do I get a guy to like me enough to ask me out? (link)
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Be yourself
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I dated a guy for two months. He's 27 and I'm 24. He was really sweet but seemed to think I was a 'goddess' and said he could imagine dating with the intent of marriage. I broke up with him because of the pressure- this is my first relationship and he seems ready for things I'm not ready for. Also I'm in a late bloomer so I'm in college and I have no idea where I'll be in 1 year. It was my birthday and he sent told me he wishes me the best and sent me a long love poem. He also said he knows I made the right decision for myself by breaking up. Is it normal to feel like I want him back even though breaking up seemed healthier? Should I ever contact him again? (link)
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You should keep in touch until you decide whether or not you still like him.
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Hey there. I'm a 21 year old female and I have struggled with bulimia off and on for about 4 years. It started when I got to college and used it as a way to deal with stress. I was dating a guy at the time and he was the only one who realized that I had a problem because I was mostly bulimic with anorexic periods mixed in so it was pretty easy to hide and I got very good at it. Leaning on my boyfriend and only my boyfriend made me very dependent on him. I should have seeked help much earlier on but refused to admit that it was a real problem until after we broke up. In a way I think this issue was part of our breakup. I have never been in counseling but I confused in my doctor and he will often put me on a very mild dose of Prozac when I'm going through a stressful time because my bulimia only really surfaces when I am stressed out even though I work out every day and do other stress management practices, I suffer from pretty intense anxiety and I really like the months that I'm on the Prozac but don't like being dependent on medicine. I'm not sure all of this is relevant. I suppose I just don't want to get any responses that urge counseling or other suggestions related to the bulimia because it is not really what I'm asking here.
My problem is I have been with my current boyfriend for quite some time now and he is the love of my life. But I keep these issues from him. Granted, the majority of our relationship I have had it under control and been completely free of bingeing and purging. I have been starting to struggle recently and have told my two closest friends and discussed starting on the medication again. And I feel guilty. Like I'm lying to him by not telling him what's going on. It's a deeply personal issue and I am so scared to tell him and have it ruin our relationship like the last one. And I know I know, if it's truly meant to be he should be able to work with me/support me blah blah I know this... But it's so difficult to work up the courage to tell him. It's the worst thing about myself and I don't talk about it anyone, ever, anymore besides my doctor or to let my friends know I'm back on medication (my doctor said this is a safe thing to do for antidepressants). I guess I'm asking if this is something that I truly need to tell him... and if it is, how? Because I physically don't feel able.
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You don't need to tell him anything. He might appreciate the honesty, but it's your body.
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So, I'm in seventh grade and I have had this crush on a boy ever since sixth grade started. He used to be one of my close friend's friend in fifth grade before my friend moved away, so I know a bit about him. It gets really hard for me to focus in any classes I have with him, I'm not overly obsessed or anything but I just really like him but as I'm pretty shy I don't know how to tell him because we've maintained a friendly-acquaintance relationship over a year now, and I haven't even had the nerve to open up to a friend as him, let alone tell him I like him... I'm just way too shy and afraid he just won't look at who I am as just a friend again, or that word will get around the school and people will bug me about it. Can anyone help me to let him know I like him, and what to do if things go wrong? Or, at the very least, how we can be good friends? (link)
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Tell him and if he reacts badly say it was a dare. It's old but it works.
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Hello! I’m currently a senior in college and I’m 21 years old. i’m currently seeking advice that relates to a guy I’m currently talking too who is also in college and is 22. Basically we started talking a little over a month ago and met on Tinder. I actually had made a tinder because I was bored not because I wanted a hook up. Turns out I messaged him first and we really hit it off. And we eventually started texting. So far we have been on two days and they both have been really great and he said I made a good impression. The only issue is that he isn’t a big texter. He was honest with me and told me that he isn’t on his phone a lot and he responds to me sometimes 5-6 hours later. But when he does respond he aplogizes for responding back so late. Anyways, I’m really interested in him and really would like to spend more time with him. i’m afraid to tell him that though because I don’t want to come off as clingly or desperate. Also we haven’t really talked about what either of us are looking for. I know that he doesn’t want to hook up but how do I bring up that conversation without scaring him off" Also is it too early to ask him if he’s interested in me" Maybe I’m just over thinking it....
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If he didn't like you why would he be talking to you on a dating site. He could have just not replied.
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Hello. 21/F. I felt like I needed to vent somewhere but I can never tell anyone my true feelings. I am already 21 y/o but I have never had a relationship with anyone, I have never even kissed. My younger brother has already had countless girlfriends and has done it all. My youngest sibling, my sister, has just recently been kissed by the boy she likes. While I am very happy for her, I just felt this deep wave of depression come over me. It was awful. I have liked so many guys but never managed to have any of them reciprocate the feelings back. Recently I was beginning to wonder if I should just resign to the fact that I will probably stay alone for the rest of my life. I'm not very sociable, and its very hard for me to be in social situations, so its easy for me to become lonely after a certain period of time. The few guys who have shown interest in me I have not seen that way, are too old or young for me (usually ends up just creeping me out).
This is when it occurred to me... that maybe I just wasn't that interested in guys. This past year I began to question my sexuality because I started to notice that I've never had a boyfriend and usually the guys I'm interested in are unattainable in some form or way. I started to try and imagine myself being with a girl... and was surprised to find that I didn't really mind the idea. My family though... is not very supportive of the LGBT community. I myself was supportive before I started questioning myself, but now I'm scared. If it turns out that's who I really am I don't know if I'd ever be able to tell them. I don't think I could. But I still don't know because I haven't dated either sex, and personally, I believe in falling for a person for who they are, not for their gender. I'm very confused and don't know what to do next because this is giving me a lot of anxiety. (link)
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There is someone out there for you. Just you wait.
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I've been in a relationship for about 11months, and this is the second time we are dating.. The first one lasted for about a year and five months then we ended it on mutual agreement.. Two days ago, my boyfriend (now ex) called me and told me that he found his calling and after many years of running away from it, he decided to do what God wants him to and he doesn't want distractions.He also said that the first thing that came to his mind in the list of distractions is his relationship.. He said he wants to cut it off and he loves me but he needed to do so. I was shocked, I couldnt cry or talk, I was shaking allover.. I old him earlier in our relationship that it takes quite a long time for me to fall in love, then I fell in love with him, and now he broke it off again.. I feel sad, wasted, devastated and my friends have been trying to calm me but it's not working.. Everything I do reminds me of him.. What can I do to get over it cs it's hurting me.. (link)
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He said he still loves you. If he considers you a distraction then he must think of you a lot. Just remember that true love is possible.
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Hi 18/F
My bf and I have been togheter for 3 monthes now but it's getting a bit difficult for me because he is not affectionate but I am. I try not to push him too much but it makes me sad sometimes and I feel he doesn't care. I really like him. On top of that my mom is forcing me to break-up with him. Help me plz?
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You are 18 so you do not have to break up with him if you don't want to.
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So I got engaged yesterday. It was super sweet. He asked me in front of everyone. But honestly I felt obligated to say yes. I am scared. I love him so much but I have been married and divorced and I couldn't imagine going through it again. I am terrified. I am having doubts but I don't want to break his heart.... or my own. I know if I lost him I would be devastated but I know how bad marriage can be. What do I do? Should I see a therapist? I feel so confused and lost right now. On top of that my dad died I cant imagine him not being there. gosh Life is hard. Help please (link)
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Go for it! If you truly love him give it a chance. Your dad will still be there cheering you on in soul. Don't be afraid.
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