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is loving someone enough to make a relationship work? idk im so lost it seems like its never gonna work but i love him and he loves me... bad bad circumstances tho we fight all the time and he makes me sad alot and i never get to see him but when ever i try to end it i cant. I love him and i dont know what to do (link)
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Honestly, no. It has to come from both sides. Youu both have to love eachother. You also have to know how to respond to one another-whether it be their personality or their mood/attitude in certain circumstances. theres a lot more than goes into a relationship tha love. If youre not happy--100% happy--why be in the relationship? I understand you love him, but if youre not happy, what makes you think that you will be a couple years down the road. It took me a while to realize it, but theres so many guys out there. Not all of them will treat you bad, but not all will treat you well. Find out what exactly you want in a guy based on your own preference-not on what your boyfriend is like now-if hes not all of those and more, then why be with him? Theres a lot of guys out there who will love you and care for you more than you can ever imagine. Its just lifting your head up and getting out of that tunnel vision. Yea, it'll hurt to end a relationship with someone you love, but if youre not completely happy, its not worth staying upset about. There is someone else out there, you just have to be patient and wait for him to come along. Keep your chin up, if your not happy, end it. If you need anymore help or have anymore questions, lemme know!
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Alright, so this isn't really an advice question, but I guess it is. So all you have to do is tell us about the guy you are crushing on, some things about him, and why you like him.
The boy I like is super cute, brown hair with little waves and the warmest brown eyes you've ever seen. When he smiles he becomes 40 times more adorable, if that is possible. He's pretty shy, but it works for him, and he's very athletic, but I have never heard him brag about it. When we talk, he likes to ask questions and he is one of those people who can make you laugh even when they aren't trying. He's a study buddy and a good one too. He is incredibly stubborn, but I seem to be able to talk him into almost anything, even though he is yet to convince me of the "awesomeness" of football. He is one of the few people who can put up with my excessive talking, and he even claims to like it. We can talk for hours on end, at school and online until past midnight. He loves dogs, and hates almost all cats. His favorite food is mine too, and we are both in love with the same kind of cookie. I know that no matter what happens between us down the road, he will always be my buddy.
Okay, now it's you turn!! Just tell us about the guy you crush on or who you are dating, and maybe add some basic knowledge about guys - thanks!
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Ive got a boyfriend, but I still have a crush on him! lol I love curly hair, his does that "skater-rock" look where it like flips out from under his hat. And hes athletic-he wakeboards and snowboards like me-but he also played football in high school. We have a lot of the same interests, but also some very different ones as well--which is a good thing-people tend to fight too much when theres too much in common (i.e.:if youre both stubborn, all you do is fight). Hes super sweet and puts up with alot of my crap-no joke--especially this past week when ive been super stressed and moody-he jus knows how to blow it off and make me feel better. He doesnt think about sex 24/7 so he doesnt expect it.
Ive been in a whole lot of bad relationships, but i could honestly see myself with this guy forever-im 20 years old though also. Things you dont want in a guy-if he lies, cheats, steals, If people say hes a player or youve noticed that hes dated a ton of girls--regardless of what kind of person you are, a guy like this will only bring you down. If theres even one thing you dont like about a guy, or if he says or does something you dont agree with, you shouldnt be with him. I dont know how old you are, but with time you'll understand what traits you do and dont want in a guy, which makes it a wholeeee lot easier figuring out what kind of guy to be with when youre older. I like that you wanted some other peoples points of view though :) Good question :D
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How do I tell my parents I want to date? I dont want to flat out say it
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Just start talking about this really cute guy... that usually'll get your parents to thinking... but whats easiest is to talk to which ever parent you get along with better and tell them when your alone... they hardly ever have a hard time with this, unless the person youre tryin date is a drig addict and stuff like that... but belive me, your parets will be fine with it... and if you need to, give yourslef a little pep talk before you start talkin to them...
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i go out with this kid names paul.. and he smokes weed and i dont like the fact that he dosee and hes 3 years older then me and its weird.. and i dont wanna breakup wiht him jus for that but i dont know what i wanna do right now..? what do you think i should do? pleasee help
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okay.. if hes smoking weed and you dont like it, you NEED to break up with him!! chances are youre going to end up "falling in love with him" (like alot of girls happen to do...) and youre gonna want to do what he does... chances are youre gonna start smoking too if you stay with him... (im not accusing... just guessing...) i just lost my best friend over an issue similar to this... and the thing is once you start smokin weed, youre gonna wanna try other stuff too... its not worth screwing youre whole life up over... hes only a guy... and i hate to say this...but there are a lot more guy out there, that will respect what you say, and that wont smoke... im sorry this isnt really what you want to hear... but i just dont want what happened to my best friend, to happen to anyone else...beacause although it might be making you feel good, its gonna end up hurtin someone else...
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i am 15 and going to be a sophmore at my highschool. and i guess me and robbie had a crush on eachother in 5th grade and we went out in 6th grade and 7th but on and off ( you now how those middle school relationships are, dont mean anything) but i guess its funny because we even talked in middle school after elementary and he IMed me the other for the first time since like 8th grade.. but we have been talking online the last couple of weeks and lastnight he asked me to hangout sometime next week. we will probably end up going to see a movie or sumthing but honestly ive never really been on a date. ive had serious relationships but i mean we didnt go on dates first, i dont know how to explain it. so i need some ideas on where to go, what i could wear, and some stuff to talk about. thanks alottt (link)
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well you could definatly go to the movies.. thats always an easy spot... um if you were to go there wear somethin casual like jeans and a cute tee... mybe halter top depending on the weather... umm and you wouldnt really have to talk about anything because yall would be waitchin the movie...
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you could go grab somethin to eat.. like at corner bakery or somethin easy... there just wear somethin casual too... i sugest the same thing youd wear to the moveis... yall could talk about like sports, or if he drives you could talk about his car... guys always seem to like a girl that knows about the same stuff they do...
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if you go somewhere fancy for dinner or somethin, doesnt sound like thats somethin youre gonna be doin though, make sure you wear a nice skirt with a shirt that covers you up most of the way... its kinda wierd walkin into a wierd resturaunt with you stomach showin adn your boobs hangin out... so just a skirt and a nice shirt.. and talk about the same stuff i mentioned up there ^^ just talk about things hes interested in... if you like him like that.. that way he knows your interested... otherwise if its just a friend kinda thing (and youre not thinkin about gettin together with him) talk to him like you would one of your girlfriends...
sorry this isnt of much help!! but feel free to ask me any questions...
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i have this problem where i cant stay in a realashion ship for a long time or else i get sick of the guy how do i change that (link)
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im the same way!! im like obsessed with this guy for like two days, he asks me out, 10 mins later i dump him!! well my best friend told me to make a list of everything i want in a guy.. i did that and she told me to look no lower than guys with those qualitys... it takes a while to find guys with everything you want... it took me like 2 or 3 months... which i seem to find extremly long!! but once you find that guy, he usually ends up being someone youve hated before (in my case), or one of your close friends... youll end up stayin w/em longer bc its what you wanted.. this si what has worked for me.. im not sure if itll be the same iwth you! but try it.. write down EVERY good/bad quality you like/dont like in a guy... if a guy ahs any of the bad qualitys ditch him... a good guyll come along and you wont beable to leave him.. promise.. me and this guy have been together 3 months! which is so far a record for me!! (the longest relationship i had before was a week and a half!!) but im sorry if this isnt much help.. but i hop everything works out for you!!
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my boyfriend of 7 months got drunk the other night and planned on hiding it from me. i found out from someone else who was there. my boyfriend always promised & swore that he would never drink and how stupid he was. he ended up getting drunk with his friend and when i found out, i gave my boyfriend soooo many chances to confess and tell me the truth and he didnt. later he finally admitted it and i was so outraged that i broke up with him and told him i never want to see him again, and i hung up. he hasnt tried to call me or fix things up. my friends called him and said he was crying and too afraid to talk to me. i dont want to call him first...but should i forgive him? he broke my trust. (link)
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okay.. If he does this occassionally, like everytime he goes out with his friends, you cant find out information directly from him, you have to go to his friends to find out whether he was drinkin or not...then thats a probem and i say no... but if hes done this once or twice.. i would say forgive him. If hes too 'upset' to talk to you though.. thats an issue. Is the friend that told you this reliable? because if not, maybe s/hes trying to get you back into a situation you might not want to be in (such as going back out with your boyfriend, after he makes numberous promises to you, and breaks them...) if its one of your close friends that you trust though, belive them. And instead of calling him, why dont you go over to his house. talking in person is always btter because that way you can get how hes really feeling/his emotions...if he is sorry for what hes done, i would stay with him... but i understand where your coming from, when youre lied to on numberous accounts, and dont know what to do... but i say just go talk to him in person, find out WHY he lied to you (was it because he knew youd be upset, or was it becasue he was afraid youd tell his parents, theres so many reasons...) and once you get his reasoning, you need to choose whether or not to forgive him.. this is a hard situation, but i know youll be able to figure it out soon enough!! good luck (sorry im not of much help...)
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okay, well heres how it goes..i really like this guy and hes super gorgous and he always makes me laugh. I mean he seems so perfect and i can be myself around him.I feel safe when i'm with him. Well the problem is i like him and i'm pretty sure he likes me but i guess he shy to ask me out. I mean hes not shy when he's flirting with me. well my question is how do i get our relationship to move further .. !!PLEAZE HELP ME!!
Thnks XOXO oh and i will rate for good advice**
oh and i want him to ask me out im not really the type of girl that will ask the guy out. (link)
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Okay this is really wierd.. like really wierd... because im in the exact same situation... he knows i like him... so first off, let him know youre availabe and that you think hes really cute, so pretty much let him know that you like him... then if he gtes the hint (mine didnt seem to get it for about a month til i had to scream in in his face, lol) then be really flirtatious with him... and if you have the guts (which i somehow managed to do... very very suprising!!) ask him if he likes anybody... chances are he will say your name... and if he does be like well i mean were both single... have you ever thought about us... chessy right?? well it works... really really well!! so just make sure he knows how you feel... um and the rest is up to him.. im sorry im not sure what else to say! but good luck!!
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do u think my ex-boyfriend would get jealuse if I hag out with a guy that likes me and flrits with me in frount of him? (link)
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Of course he would be jealous. If he met a girl and hung out with her in front of you, youd feel like you were replaced or that you dont matter anymore. So if you hang out with this new guy, maybe your ex will feel replaced!! But if this guy has already started flirting with you in front of your ex, maybe you should watch his reaction.. if hes all pouty about it, he proably is jealous, and you guys should hang out somewhere other than in front of him!! but if hes off in his own world talkin to his friends.. he probably doest have a problem with it!! I hope i helped!!
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everything is goin great between us or atleast it seems like it...lately he hasnt been tlkin to me as much and stuff like that...i have a feeling sumthing is goin on but i need someone elses opinion
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thats how it was with me and my sorta-bf... we talk all the time, hang out all the time.. and sometimes theyre just lookin for a break.. not always a break up, but you know, time to hang out with their friends or family... i honestly dont think that anything else might be going on, unless you guys hang out and he gets phone calls from people you dont know (girls in particular), or if he starts acting suspicious...if he seems suspicious about the subject, confront him on it, let him know you feel like something else is going on... if hes usually really truthful preson to you, listen to what he has to say, and belive it.. just dont assume anything... if you need anymore help feel free to ask me... hope i helped!!
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ok im 13 and i just broke up wit my boyfriend and i said i just wanted to be friends is it normal that we dont talk in person that much anymore? (link)
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that is very normal!! when people break up, depending on how close they are/were usually determines how much theyll talk later... if you guys were really close, i can understand that he would be completly crushed about this, so he may have a hard time talking at first... and if you guys were sortof close, then itll still be hard, but theres more of a chance of you guys talking... right now im just assuming hes really hurt so hes going to do what he can to get away from what cause him to feel that way... so let him get used to the fact that you guys arent together anymore... so wait a week or two and then if he seems better about how hes feeling, approach him, if you still like him (as a friend or if more) ask him to hang out with you... bu invite him in a group so theres less pressure on him... once you guys hang out in a group for a while try talking to him one on one... it may take a while... but he'll come through... hope i helped... feel free to ask me anything else...
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Ok I'm 13/f and I have a crush on someone. I never have in my entire life. I refuse to tell anyone because I feel really guilty and I'm worried people will make fun of me because everyone thinks I'm a nerd. I should be focusing on getting into the Honor Choir and straight A's, not boys! Is it a bad thing? It would be really cool if someone can give me some info! thx (link)
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of course thats not a bad thing!! youre just growing up... its like one of those changes things... from barbies to boys... if you dont feel comfterable with these other kids finding out about it, dont tell anybody, except for the people you trust the most, like your best friend... and of course some people will make fun of you for who you like, but everybody has different tastes in guys... so dont let it bother you if somebody has something mean to say... be your own person, and dont let what others say bother you... hope i helped!
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ive had 20 boyfriends. does that make a slut. im a 14/f (link)
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no... not unless youve done like a ton of sexual stuff with most of them... i personally dont consider anybody one unless they ""fool round""
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There's this guy named *Jason*. For months now he's been staring at me. Sometimes I see him blushing when I look at him or stand near him. Recently, my teacher was talking to him after class. The whole class basically was listening as they talked about relationships. All of a sudden he looked at me and said "Rachel dumped me." That was his ex gf but I didn't know they had broken up. I just get the vibe that he likes me. I sent him an email at the beginning of the weekend saying I liked his haircut. He sent an email back saying "Who is this"? I'm soo afraid to tell him because it might be awkward at school. There's only 3 1/2 days of school left though. Should I tell him I wrote it or what? (link)
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yes of course tell him!! if he and his girlfriend just broke up and you catch him looking at you, go for it!! If you like him, be sure to tell him, But if you dont, dont lead him on by flirting or whatever... That'll prolly hurt him more in the long run-- good luck!!
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Do you like Eric Kegley?? (link)
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haha good question... too bad im not planning on answering it!! maybe if he felt that way towards me... then maybe i would let somebody else know about my feelins for/towards/about him... but i havnt had any luck with ANY guys (including him) recently--sadly enough!!... dang it all... AND i want one too... =(
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i like this one guy but he is grad in may and i dont know he has told me he liked me alot beofre and we both werent ready for a gf or bf you know... well now i am like crushing him 10x more then i did at first... and i dont htink he likes me tho.. he always talked to my little sister then when he talks to me he always says he call me back later or if its on line he say brb... ya ok im so confussed help plez thanks (link)
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im not really sure what to say... he seems pretty confusing!! lol... but all guys are! you kinda need to hang back a little to see what is makin act like this towards u... u kno.. maybe he really is busy at that time... like are you always tryin to talk to him at a specific time when he has football practice or gutair lessons or somethin?? just watch out for him... he might still like you... but give it a little bit and see how he acts and then decide whether or not to let him know that you like him... hope i helped!!
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what are some signs that a guy likes you? i mean this guy always tries to talk to me and come near me..and he always stares too, he is very sweet and nice and i just wanna know. o ya and my friend went up to him and asked him if he liked me(she did this w/o asking) and he stuttered and said" uh..uh..uh..no..i..i..dont..um..like her..i uh..i.sw..i swear!." then he told me about it. i mean does this mean he likes me?
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okay guys are confusing!! and by the sounds... he does... guys r usually really flirtatious and sweet... or theyre flirtatious in a mean way and like beat up on u...lol expierienced that a couple times... but see if hes studderin like he did.. and he doesnt have a studderin problem usually... then yea he does..but see guys really dont like to be put on the spot like that... it embarasses them... just like it would us if one of their friends were to ask us and we liked them... so... chances are yea he likes u... but the fact that somebody likes u... thast straight up obvious...
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every time i like some one and then they start to like me i dont' like them anymore... i dont know why but i think im afraid to fall in love because i went out with some one before and then he broke up with me and broke my heart and then thats when it all started.. i dont knwo if it's a case of really bad hard to get.. or i am scared.... i need help! :-( (link)
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Awwww!! i have the same problem!! and mines bc of that!! this one guy from last year who i hate with a passion now broke my heart and stomped on it i fornt of the world!! and with time youll be able to get over him and stick with other guys... i kno its hard!! its gay!! but for right now look for a guy with the same sorta traits... intrests i guess u cna say and see how that works... otherwise u just gotta hang in for the ride!! hope i helped!!
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Do guys prefer girls to make the first move? Say a girl sees a real cute guy for the first time. Would he want her to approach him first, or would he approach her if he wanted to? I'd really like to meet new guys to get over this one that I've liked forever, and I want to get some pointers on meeting new guys. Any help, thank you. I rate 5's. (link)
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well... thast not really a first move... thats more of introducing yourself!! and yea thats cool with guys if u introduce urself... as long as ur not all like completly over them and all that good stuff!! but once yall get to know each other... he can make the moves... works best!! hope i helped!!
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is it weird if someone ((a guy)) rights a song for you ((he likes me ALOT)) and sings it to you on the phone? it seems weird to me
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no!! thats really cute!! unless the guy is stalkerish ands like following you everywhere doing it.. thats wierd... so if its just like in a crush sorta way... consider it a compliment!!
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