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Hey everybody. I've love giving advice so I'll answer every question I can. If you need any advice on anything, just ask me! A little about me- I play tennis and I love to shop and hang out at my pool with friends. I'll be a sophomore in high school this year so I've had plenty of experience on friendship and relationships. I always try to take my time and answer every question thoughtfully. I don't care about ratings or any of that, I just want to help people out. :-)
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what do you think of meeting people off the internet...
im 16 and hes 17 weve talked online and he is totaly cool and sweet. asked me if we could sit and meet in person..
bad or good idea?
HELP ASAP
BAD IDEA! Just don't do it. I'm sure you've heard of all the horror stories of girls meeting up with a guy she met online, who turns out to be a rapist or something. Sure he might be the guy he says he is, but what if he's not? Its super easy to lie over the internet. And plus there are plenty of cool and sweet guys that you can meet at school or whatever.
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alright, so my friend was about to makeout with this guy, but then she froze and had NO clue what to do and just stood there while he started moving his lips. and she's saying how it's not fun andit's probably just gross and stuff. -time for the question- do some people just really stop and have no clue what to do right before a makeout? any sites to help please?? and is it really gross, or fun?
If you're really nervous and it's your first time making out, you might just freeze and not know what to do. But the best thing to do is just go with the flow. Just follow the guy's lead and eventually you'll figure out what you're doing. I don't think making out is gross at all. It's pretty fun once you're comfortable with it. Everyone makes a big deal of kissing and making out but once your first time comes, it will just happen naturally. Just have fun with it!
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how do u slowdance with a guy? in gradeschool we would just put our arms around his neck and he would put his hands on our waist, and we had to keep like a foot apart lol. how do you slow dance in highschool?
In high school it's pretty much the same thing, except there's no space between you. LOL. It doesn't really matter, everyone just dances how they want.
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i am 15 and going to be a sophmore at my highschool. and i guess me and robbie had a crush on eachother in 5th grade and we went out in 6th grade and 7th but on and off ( you now how those middle school relationships are, dont mean anything) but i guess its funny because we even talked in middle school after elementary and he IMed me the other for the first time since like 8th grade.. but we have been talking online the last couple of weeks and lastnight he asked me to hangout sometime next week. we will probably end up going to see a movie or sumthing but honestly ive never really been on a date. ive had serious relationships but i mean we didnt go on dates first, i dont know how to explain it. so i need some ideas on where to go, what i could wear, and some stuff to talk about. thanks alottt
The movies would be fun, but you also have to consider that it'll be 2 hours of not talking to each other- probably filled with awkward silence. I think the best idea for a date is going out to dinner. If neither one of you have a license you could just have your parents or an older friend drop you guys off at a fun restaurant. For what to wear, just make sure you feel cute. I'd recommend on jeans and high heels with a pretty top. But it also depends on your style. You guys can talk about anything, just talk to him like you would with your friends. But make sure you try not to dwell on the past. Sitting around talking about your previous relationships with him will get boring. Just be sure to have fun!
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how do u get a guy not to talk about the things you've done when you dont want no one knowing and you know he will
~Katie~
I'm afraid there's not much you can do. Guys love to share this kind of stuff with their friends. Maybe you could say, "If you care about me and our relationship, you won't tell anyone about this ok?" Hopefully he'll get the message.
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When my boyfriend & I started dating, naturally things were a bit weird at first. Then we became more comfortable around eachother & it started to seem like it was more about touching then talking. Now we talk on the phone more since we're back at school & don't get to go out as much. The day before yesterday, everything was fine & we were having a great time on the phone but yesterday he didn't call me. I texted him & we had fun texting back & fourth but then when I signed on he didn't IM me. I'm not sure if I'm overreacting (please don't be mean if I am, it's my first relationship). I'm hoping he's just overwhelmed by school because I really care about him & I would hate to think that I felt stronger about him then he does about me. What should I do?
xox kelly
Everything seems to be ok to me. Just because he didn't call doesn't mean something is wrong. Besides you ended up texting each so that shows he wasn't mad at you or anything. If you think you need to, talk to him about it. At school you can just say, "Is there a reason you haven't been calling or IMing me?" He'll probably assure you that nothing is wrong. But if the problem persists, you might want to rethink your relationship and have a more serious talk about it.
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Im 14 and my boyfriend & I have been going out for 3 weeks. 2 nights ago we have a really romantic night and we cuddles and he kissed me and we watched movies. & he said he had a great time and i did too. But when we talked a day after he was acting weird & not himself like on IM hes usually like HEY BABY!! And he was just like heyyy. & he stopped calling me and it was weird. i dont know if hes scared of getting hurt or hes gonna break up with me =/ i wasnt being clingy or anything he made all the first moves. So i dont know what to do. ive been worrying about it & I like him so much you have no idea. whats going on?? PS. tomorrows my birthday and he said we were gonna spend the whole day together and he hasnt even talked about it!! so i dont even know if its gonna happen ! :( XOXOX please help !
Well first off, happy birthday! Mine's in August too. I think the best thing for you to do is talk to him. Call him and be ask him if he had fun the other night. He'll probably say yes, then you should say, "Ok because you've been acting kinda weird lately. Do you still wanna hang out for my birthday tomorrow?" Hopefully he'll say yes (if he doesn't, of course you should discuss it), then you guys can make plans for your birthday. Hopefully things go make to normal. If he acts weird when you hang out for your brithday, ask him if something's wrong, but don't force the issue because he might not might to talk about it. Hope this helps + have a great birthday!
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There is this guy from my school and church that i have liked for 6 yrs and he knows that i like him. I need to know if there is any right way to approach him without making an idiot out of myself.
*-*PAM*-*
Does he like you too? Maybe you should ask around first and find out who he likes. If he has absolutely no interest in you, then there's really no point in wasting your time on him. If you think he might like you, try to get to know him better so you'll have things to talk about. Next time you guys are together, (it will probably be in a group situation) try to open up to him a little bit. It starts with simply saying "hi" and then hopefully that will turn into a conversation. Good luck!
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okay, well heres how it goes..i really like this guy and hes super gorgous and he always makes me laugh. I mean he seems so perfect and i can be myself around him.I feel safe when i'm with him. Well the problem is i like him and i'm pretty sure he likes me but i guess he shy to ask me out. I mean hes not shy when he's flirting with me. well my question is how do i get our relationship to move further .. !!PLEAZE HELP ME!!
Thnks XOXO oh and i will rate for good advice**
oh and i want him to ask me out im not really the type of girl that will ask the guy out.
Sounds like you both like each other a lot! Whatever you do, mae sure you show him that you are really interested. When he flirts with you, flirt back. When you go out with your friends, invite him to come along. Go out of your way to make him feel special. Guys fear rejection, so once he knows that you really like him, he won't be afraid to ask you out!
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ok well i have a bf that iv been gion out with for about 3 months,im not sure wether to stay with him or not,i mean all of my friends are telling me to brake up with him and try out some other gies,but i love him and sometimes i dont i have no clue what to do,pleasse help me!!!
Why would you break up with him just because your friends say you should? If you really like him, there's no reason to try other guys. I can tell you what will happen right now. You'll date around for awhile and realize that what you're looking for is what you already had. If you really love this guy, stay with him and tell your friends to leave you alone about it. :-)
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i make such a big deal out of little things with me and my boyfriend.. he thinks kristin from laguna beach is so hot so we fight wen he watches it.. its not my fault im jealous, but what can i do?
Why does every guy think she's so hot? I don't get it. Anyways just don't worry about stuff like that. There's no chance in the world that he could ever hook up with her or even meet her, so there's no reason for you to be concerned. If it were one of your friends or something, then maybe you'd have a reason to be a little jealous. Next time he comments on how hot Kristin is just be like "Yeah Stephen is really hot too!" Or something like that. Maybe he'll realize how annoying it is and stop saying it. Hope this helps!
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my boyfriend goes to a vocation school or whatever and he is going to be a junior, which means all the freshman girls are going to be in his shop classes. it makes me so nervous and he says nothing will happen but i know how girls can be liek and how guys can be like. i am stressing alot badly and i dont know what to do=( help please ( i got to a diff school) thanks hun ur gorgeus!
Aww, thank you! I understand how you must feel. I'd be a little worried about it too. Just make sure you don't bother him about it a lot or he'll get annoyed. I'm sure you have nothing to worry about. If he's a really sweet + cute guy then yeah there might be some girls trying to talk to him, but most freshmen are going to be too self-concious and intimidated to flirt with a junior. Plus, if he really is a great guy, he won't want anything to do with them, since he has you! :-)
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My friend is throwing a party and invited my crush. The thing is my friend said that I have to tell my crush by the end of the party that I like him or she will. I know I have to tell him I just don't want to deal with the potential heartbreak right now. Should I talk to my friend and hopefully convince her not to do it or just tell my crush? Oh and if I tell him his ex is probably gonna be close by since she's invited too... I rate high for good advice! Thanks!
Wow your friend sounds pretty mean. Why would she want to embarras you like that? If I were you I'd tell him myself. Just casually talk to him and ask him if he wants to hang out 1-on-1 sometime because you really like him. That way you can make sure what gets said to him is exactly what you want him to hear. If you're friend does it, she might say that wrong thing. Who knows, maybe he likes you too! Oh, and don't worry about his ex.
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hey, im the girl with the question about the Laguna Beach songs ... the song im talking about is on the grad. episode, when everyone is getting ready for graduation nd stuff nd taking pics and going to the school. The only words i know r "how can it be the end" please help me lol, i need ta no and i'll rate ya
Oh yep that song is called "The End" and it's by I-94. Let me know if you need anymore songs!
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im going to a birthday sleepover party tonight for my friends (they are twins: one boy on girl) and after their parents go to bed the guys are going to hang with the girls and play a game called seven minutes in heaven.
my questions:
what the heck is that?
how do i play it?
and what do i do in the seven minutes?
WILL RATE
BTW: im 13/F
Well basically 2 people go in a closet for 7 minutes and they're supposed to make out. If you don't feel comfortable with it though, you don't have to do it.
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HEY I KNOW THIS SOUNDS REAllY STRANGE, BUT I REAllY NEED HElP. IM ASIAN AND I TAN REAllY EASIlY, BUT ASIANS DONT lOOK GOOD TAN. IT lOOKS UGlY AND DIRTY OR SOMETHING. MY FRIEND IS SOO WHITE AND SHE lOOKS SOO CUTE AND PRETTY WITH IT. DOES ANYONE KNOW ANY WAY TO GET RID OF YOUR TAN EASIlY? NO PIllS OR ANYTHING? PlEASE HElP Ill RATE HIGH :]
I really don't think there's a way to get rid of a tan, but you can definitely prevent yourself from getting any tanner. Wear lots of sunscreen whenever you go outside and try to stay out of direct sunlight. After summer's over your tan will fade anyway. :-)
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ok, this might seem a bit confuseing but here it goes. Ok me and this guy Brian and his mom and my mom were hanging out by the pool. Brian is 17 by the way. When we first got there Brian asked me how old i was. And I told him i was 13. Then after a while of talking and swimming. He comes and sits beside me while our moms are gone to get something to eat. Right out of nowhere he says " Well what do u think about me?" Then I got so imbarassed and told him what I thought. He kept going on and on and on about how he would kick his youger sisters ass if she botherd me ( who is in my grade). Then after a few minutes he comes and sits beside me again and says " You know what?" " I can spoil you." I looked at him and said " Oh yea, I bet you can" Then he goes " I can give you a missage and that will spoil you." I loked at him funny and said " I don't think so "
Does he like me. ( plz ezcuse the messed up spelling and crap.) I rate high 4 good answers!!
He sounds like a loser who can't get any girls his own age. Really, he seems like a creep. Maybe he is interested in you but you shouldn't be interested him. If you need to, tell your mom what he said so she will know that he shouldn't be around you anymore.
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On Laguna Beach, there are some songs in the backround, like in the first season, when Stephen is getting ready for gradutaion and he goes up the stairs nd his parents and sister like clap for him, what's that song? Is there anyway to find out what all those songs r? I'll rate high
I can help you out! I know almost all the songs on the show! Do you know any of the lyrics for that song? If you do I could definitely tell you what song it is.
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O.K. I am 13/f and my mom hooked me up with this REALLY hot 16 year old guy named Wesley about 2 weeks before my birthday. We met while my mom's employee brought him to the store that my mom works at. About 2 days later, we were going to a restaurant and we found out that coincidentally, they were headed to the same place. So we ended up eating TOGETHER! Me and Wesley talked about EVERYTHING. I like him and I could TELL he liked me. Well, the day of my birthday, someone planned a barbeque thing for cancer and Wesley came. He told me happy birthday and stuff. Well, after the barbeque thing, we went to the movies. I invited 9 people but barely ANYBODY came except my best friend Becka, and of course Wesley came too. Well, before the movie, I was throwing popcorn in his mouth and he was throwing it in my mouth and it was the FUNNEST time. We were seeing the "Ring 2". When the movie started, we were being really loud and having a REALLY great time. We ended up holding hands. He put his arm around me in the car but what bothered me the most was that he was ALSO putting his arm around Becka, my best friend. I was too bothered but I scooted closer to him so he would know that I like him more than she does. He held my hand until we got to his house. When we got there, we got out and went in and took a look around. Then, we went outside and Wesley picked up Becka and ran around with her. He did the same to me.
A month ago my mom found out something about him that really made me upset. She found out that he had sex with a 47 year old woman. She was really fat and short, too.
I cried because I thought he really liked me. Hoe can I get over him? I miss him but I hate him. I hate him but I love him because he did that to me! Please help!
I'm depressed! What can I do?
Oh wow. If I were you I would just laugh it off. What a freak! Now that you know that, you shouldn't have any feelings for him. Focus on guys who a)are closer to your age, and b)don't have sex with anyone, let alone 47 year old women. Good luck!
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wat should i get my bf for his 13th bday? nothing over 30 dollars thou!
Hmm...well it depends on what he's into. Some ideas that would work for any guy are a funny t-shirt, cologne, a CD (hopefully you know what he listens to!) or a DVD. Hope this helps!
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