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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long! (link)
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My guess is, if your BF made the group private, he is still putting up personal information that he doesn't want you to know he is putting up. What your BF is doing now will only get worse as you continue your relationship. If he told you he had no secrets, yet he is hiding a facebook group, isn't that still having a secret?
Whether or not you want to break up with him or give him another chance is up to you. Are any of your friends a part of the group that could print this stuff off? If so, get the proof, then take it to a counselor, Student Resource Officer (if you have one), or someone else who could talk to your boyfriend about violation of privacy. If you feel that you can't do that alone, take a friend, brother, sister, cousin, or someone else you feel comfortable discussing this with. Good luck to you, and I hope your boyfriend realizes what pain and embarrassment he has caused you.
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Well me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year & a month . But i just like dont trust him , well i mean i trust him i just dont like him around girls ''/ idk why , he has never done anything to make me not trust him. He trusts me , and doesnt care if i go anywhere with my girls and there's guys around but i dnt like him going anywhere where girls are . I want us to have a great relationship but i just cant help it . I just always think about girls trying to flirt with him or this and that . He's told me before that im the Only one for him , he's in love with me and he doesnt want anyone else but i just dont know whats wrong with me . I have came a very long way with jelousy from the start. But like when his friends want to do stuff they usually have girls with them & sometimes i cant go so i dont want my boyfriend to & deep down i kno thats not fair from keeping him from having fun just because i cant , even though he'll let me . We have talked about over and over , dont tell me to talk to him about it because we have . TELL ME WHAT [ I ] can do , because he's done all he could . thanks (link)
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Jealousy is a sign of insecurity. Is this your first BF? Have you had bad relationships in the past, and you just don't want to lose him because it's going so well?
"Just Plain Jealous
Perhaps the majority of us fall under this category. We are afraid our partner will find someone prettier (or more handsome), smarter, richer, or just plain better. This is the heart of jealousy, our own insecurities. The tips below may help you overcome this type of jealousy. "
If this sounds like what you are experiencing, check out this website for more information. The info you'd be looking for is 6 paragraphs down under "analyze it."
http://www.buzzle.com/editorials/10-28-2005-80092.asp
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does he really love me?
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If you're talking about your ex, I would say not. Answer this question for yourself: If you fooled around with your ex and got pregnant, what would he do? It is proven that most men only want sex, then if the female happens to get pregnant, they reject the fact that it is indeed their child. I'm not saying that all men are like that, because there are a few out there who will take that responsibility. Trust me, all your ex wants from you is your body.
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I recently gave a ride home to my ex-boyfriend and he invited me into his house to show me something. While we were joking around, he started hitting on me. I didn't think anything of it until he pinned me down on his bed and tried to hook up with me. I told him no because I love my current boyfriend and I can't cheat on him. He then told me it wasn't cheating because we were just having fun and we're teens. It doesn't mean anything and he really misses kissing me and feels empty inside. I left his house and i left him really upset but i couldnt stay there anymore.
What scares me more is that part of me really did want to hook up with me and I feel in a way I cheated/was disloyal to my current boyfriend. MY friend told me its just a thing with ex's and sometimes she feels that way around hers even tho she wouldn't do anything.
I don't know if I should tell my boyfriend about it and how much I should tell him. I'm losing sleep over it because its bothering me so much but I don't want to ruin what I have with him now.
Please help
17/female. (link)
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First things first. If your ex started fooling around with you, and it wasn't ok with YOU, it is SEXUAL HARASSMENT. You didn't cheat on your BF because you told your ex to stop. It's not your fault he wouldn't listen to you. I believe you should tell your boyfriend, confidentially, about this. He should know that your ex is still after you. Your ex may even start to stalk you, as scary as that sounds!
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[15/f]I've had this recurring theme in my life recently. i met my first bf at the mall and then we started talking on myspace. pretty soon we became really close and developed a liking for each other. then we finally saw each other a month later and the second time we hung out we kissed. the next week he asked me out. it only lasted about a week, because it was a shallow relationship where we both felt awkward. the next month i met a guy that i thought was really cute and my friend found that he thought the same about me. i haven't seen him since that day when i met him because he broke plans with me so i figured he wasn't worth my time. that was a few weeks back. but this weekend i hung out with this other guy who's friends with my best friend. he was so funny and sweet, kind of like no other guy I've met before. we had long conversations that day and i feel like he and i get along so well. the next day i hung out with him and some other people and by the end of the day he kissed me. and it was a cute kiss, not all forced and sexual, just nice. the problem is my best friend used to like him and never got completely over him. and i think that now she is feeling upset about the fact that we like each other. but she told me that she didn't care and that it didn't matter to her. and i feel like something is wrong with her but she wont talk to me about it. but mostly i feel like i keep making the same mistake and maybe the reason i do it is because im afraid that im going to get hurt. ever since i was little i used to be weird and no one ever "liked" me until recently when i built up a lot of self confidence and changed my look a little. i went through long periods of depression in my preteen years and now im 15 and feel like im jumping from one hook up to another. but im so tired of it and the day i meet this amazing guy it seems like once again im just going to end up losing him because i don't go to the same school as him so it would be hard to see him. this happens every time. i even tried avoiding guys but they come into my life and i cant stop it. i wish i knew exactly what it is that i am doing wrong. i am a happy person and i always have this free spirit but this is the one area of my life that is so hard for me to understand. thank you if you've read all of this and hopefully someone can help me somehow.
thanx =] (link)
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If your friend and her ex are truly broken up, it should be perfectly fine for you to date him. I'm not saying she won't be over him. If you do decide to go ahead with this relationship, make sure to get in some bonding time with your BFF, and make ABSOLUTELY sure you don't talk about him in front of her if you start to date. Dont hang out with him around her either, until you know she's over it. As far as what you're doing wrong? absolutely nothing. Friends just get upset when their exes date their friends. It's just one of those things i see time and time again.
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I have this problem with guys. Like every single time I date a guy and I like them lot and stuff. But I end up breaking up with them in the end. It's like I can't commit to just one guy. I want a long-term relationship but I can't cause I can't commit. Its like when I start getting attached I push him away. How could I commit to just one guy and actually stay with him and not break it up? Any advice or suggestions? Thanks in advance! (link)
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Sorry Babe, the only way to make a long-term relationship is to commit, commit, commit. If you push men away at the same time you are just getting to know each other, it could mean a couple of things. 1) you're a little insecure. 2) you're not ready for a long term relationship or 3) you just haven't found the right guy. It could be a combination of these reasons. In order to have a good relationship, you have to be willing to give half, as well as your partner has to commit to at least half. If neither of you can do this, you either need to work it out, or it won't work. Just a little tip. Don't fall for a guy who doesn't respect you. If he doesn't respect the person you are, he doesn't deserve you.
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ok so everytime i shave my va-jay-jay, i always end up cutting myself and i bleed. and i dont even shave it all off, you can still see the hair on it. then it hjust ends up being all prickly the next day.
is there any way to shave it and get a close shave so it stays smooth for a while?
i dont want to wax either.
so anything other than that.
thanks! (link)
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Have you tried using Nair? It's what i used for my legs and underarms, though i've never tried it for my vagina. My mom bought this stuff that was like Nair Deoderant that is specifically for your underams and bikini area, though i haven't been able to find it. The way nair works is you just apply it, wait 3-5 mins(sometimes longer, depending on thickness of the hair), and wash it off in the shower. It works really well, and I love it! (by the way, i've been using nair for about 5 years, so don't believe anything you hear that's bad about it, ok?)
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my best friend (we'll call him Bob) and i have decided that we both like eachother and we're about to go out. but then i found out some disturbing news. bob has this friend, (Gretta), and they had sex. my other friend, (fred) told me this. it happened about a month ago. fred kept saying that he had to tell me something about bob before we could go out. and he said i really should know because its important and ect ect ect. so he told me that there are two stories to this: GRETTA'S STORY: she fell asleep and bob was next to her. she was drunk-ish. (and shes 13, if that says anything, shes also a real slut. so yeah.) so she fell asleep and he raped her. she called her brother and told him and he was about to come and beat bob's ass for it. bob's brother got a gun to scare him off and it worked. and now gretta isnt speaking to bob. but see, the thing is, gretta has been known to either stretch the truth or lie completely. anyways, BOB'S STORY: gretta and bob were messing around. gretta was shitfaced and pulled his pants off and they had sex. then she got freaked and called her brother and lied to him and then the rest is the same. and the thing here is that bob used to like gretta. and they went out. and it didnt work. and he's allegedly still liked her while liking me. and hes also not known to lie about something like that. he i know for a fact he DID NOT WANT ME TO KNOW. he'd kill fred if he found out fred told me! but i need him to know that i know! i dont want there to be any tension between us because of this! please give me any advice on how to let him know that i know. in a subtle way. sorry this is so long but it was a long story! THANKS! (link)
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I agree with Flawless about Gretta. Don't worry about her. If you trust that Bob wouldn't lie, then believe Bob. However, I think you should confront him subtlety, like you think you should. Wait until you are alone, then say something like, "Bob, there is something I have to tell you. I realize it may be a little personal on your part, but..." and proceed to tell him. Or fib a little and say something like "I heard that someone had sex with that girl, Gretta." See how he reacts. If he acts innocent, he's not lying. If he gets shifty-eyed and fidgety, then he is lying. Just let him know that you are also there for him to talk to about anything personal. You both have to be open to the relationship, and one of the biggest things you can have in a relationship is trust, right up there with honesty, honor, and loyalty.
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So I'm 18/f.
I'm in a long-distance relationship right now, with an amazing guy. He's coming to town for a week on the 14th and I can't wait to see him.
But my mom is being a huge hassle. For one, she's making him stay at a hotel on the other side of town (which is 60 bucks a night.) Plus, she read his blog on his myspace and made him add her as a friend on facebook just so she can "know what this kid's all about". I find myself repeatedly apologizing to him because of her invasion of our relationship (she's always asking me what he meant by blah blah blah or teasing me about what I'll leave him for a comment, etc.) It's getting so annoying. I know she means well, but I feel like I'm under constant supervision.
She's insisting on driving me to the airport to pick him up when he flies in, and she even refuses to wait in the car when I go in to find him. All I want is to say hello to him without her supervision, since I haven't seen him in person since December. How can I convince her to just back off?? Help! I'm desperate. (link)
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Your mom just wants to protect you. Trust me, I have sent my email out to a few internet strangers, and many of them sent naked pictures, expecting naked pictures in return! Your mom is only looking out for what is best for you. What if this boy is seeing another girl when he is away from the comp? If you find out, you will need someone to support you. I know it sounds annoying, but there are people out there who find "prey" and kill them. Our parents-your, mine, other peoples-are only trying to protect us from what is out there. There is no need to be disrepectful in your reviews either. Just because you are angry at her does not mean you can take that anger out on us. Find a sport or something, Drama Queen.
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16/F
So i have NEVER had a boy ask me out before.
All my friends have gone on dates etc. I am very socical, and not weird or anything. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?
I havent even had a homecoming date.
and im a sophomore!
how can i become more pleasing to guys? (link)
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I'll tell you something. I am a junior, and i have not even had my first kiss. Don't worry about it. or if you are worried, then just ask the guy out yourself, like WoahThereBabe said.
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i've been going out with this adorable junior for 4 months now. at first, i never thought it would work out because im the freshman girl who is shy and has never been with a guy before. but since the first time we met he took my heart. things have been going great, but im afraid he dedicated himself too much to me?
To me, it just doesn't seem right. He's Mr. Popular, quarter back of the football team and like abercrombie model looks; and im just the freshman girl. we've gone as far as oral but in the past month i've really wanted to have sex with him. i ask him all the time about it but he said he doesnt want to. (He already had sex before by the way.) He said he doesn't want to take the thing away from me that is most precious unless i love him.
You dont understand though, like i WANT to have sex with him so bad, but he doesn't want to take it away from me at such a young age unless im sure i love him. He tells me he loves me but it's hard for me to say "i love you" back and really mean it.
Does he not like me anymore? It's just he's so nice and i know for a fact he never cheated on me before or is seeing another girl. Should i drop the whole sex subject?! PLEASE HELP! (link)
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I know you want to have sex, but I would drop it, unless he says something about it. Being a freshman, its kind of not a good idea to have sex. You never know if you would get pregnant. I could not IMAGINE tellig my mother that i was pregnant. She would flip out in my case. (by the way, i'm also a shy person)
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So, I don't have a boyfriend, to be honest not any guy friends. I only talk to guys if they break the ice but still then it is only the necessary answer or statement that will get me out of talking because I know if I go on then I will make myself look stupid infront of him (and a lot of times I'm like that with girls too).
Once you get to know me I'm outgoing meaning my friends tell me I'm funny. I can keep a conversation going with a friend but never with anyone other than that. I feel like an outcast because I'm so shy. I don't know how I have friends because I don't talk to anyone very often. Well I can but it's REALLY HARD!
I want to know how to be outgoing to get guy friends and boyfriends but I'm so shy it gets in the way. My resolution was to be more outgoing (it isn't working). I don't know what to say to people so telling me to just talk to them and see what happens WILL NOT WORK!
THANKS SO MUCH>>>>>more answers the better! (link)
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I am the exact same way. With my friends, i can be stupid and whatever, but if i'm around strangers I can't talk very much. Don't worry about getting a boyfriend. I'm 15, and haven't even had a kiss, let alone a boyfriend. Whenever you find "that guy", you will know. And I bet when you do, you will be able to talk, despite your shyness.
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Hi. I'm Thai. male. Let's go straight to the point.
I've known this girl for about a year since we first met. She's good looking. lots of guy are trying to chat her up as well. I can tell that this girl is somewhat flirtatious, but I really like her, anyway. We were in good relationship for a while as she called me and went out with me a lot. Then four months ago, she became very different. She didn't pick my call anymore (sometime she cut the line). She completely ignored me. Her reason was because I lie to her (I did not, honestly). Let me tell you a story. I was about to pick her up to her house. My car ran out of battery, so I couldn't get her on time. that was when she started to ignore me. she beleived that I lie to her for some reasons. Then We lost contact for about three months.
I started to call her again. She told me she doesn't have boyfreind yet. we went out for dinner yesterday with one of her freind. Things seemed to be OK. Today she give me a call. Surprise!
I wonder what's happening now? Is everything getting better again or just flirting over and over? I'm kind of lost. I don't know where I am. what's she thinking?
Just additional info. We barely went out only 2 of us. She always brings her freind with when we went out. Dosen't sound good to me.
ANyway, any suggestions are apprecitaed. (link)
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If you ask me, she is just being a player. She is just flirting with you until she can find someone else, but just to be safe, i would try to confront her about it, but then again, I'm not the one in the situation.
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me and my boyfriend have been together a year the 15th of this month and i have no idea what to get him. i wanna get him something cute or do something cute for him without spending over $100. do you have any cute ideas for me? itd be greatly appreciated. (link)
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Why don't you try finding something for him that applies to his interests? Or how about just trying to spend the day together? I know couples that just go to the park all day and don't spend a dime, and they tell me that it was the best thing they ever did. I'm sorry if I couldn't help.
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Well, I broke up with my boyfriend a few days ago, but yeah. We were going out for about 2 months, and this guy who is Junior, told me that he has a "crush" on me, and everybody now thinks that I broke up with my ex for this guy. The truth is, I didn't, and he told me this at a party, and everybody was playing spin the bottle, and then I landed on him, so he kissed me, and I was like: WTF. But, my ex found out about this and called me a whore yesterday, while I was out for Halloween. And now, the guy who is a junior said that he'd "go after" this kid, and I'm kinda... Happy about it.
I know it sounds bad, but this junior is said to ask me out, I figure he's kinda violent, but he's really nice to me. And what should I do about the "whore" thing? (link)
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The junior who has a "Crush" on you probably just wants to have sex with you. And no matter how your ex treats you, you might want to make some things clear. Thats what I did when it happened to me and now my and my ex are just friends. It turned out ok, and I hope it will for you.
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