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i feel like i always mess up..
[15/f]I've had this recurring theme in my life recently. i met my first bf at the mall and then we started talking on myspace. pretty soon we became really close and developed a liking for each other. then we finally saw each other a month later and the second time we hung out we kissed. the next week he asked me out. it only lasted about a week, because it was a shallow relationship where we both felt awkward. the next month i met a guy that i thought was really cute and my friend found that he thought the same about me. i haven't seen him since that day when i met him because he broke plans with me so i figured he wasn't worth my time. that was a few weeks back. but this weekend i hung out with this other guy who's friends with my best friend. he was so funny and sweet, kind of like no other guy I've met before. we had long conversations that day and i feel like he and i get along so well. the next day i hung out with him and some other people and by the end of the day he kissed me. and it was a cute kiss, not all forced and sexual, just nice. the problem is my best friend used to like him and never got completely over him. and i think that now she is feeling upset about the fact that we like each other. but she told me that she didn't care and that it didn't matter to her. and i feel like something is wrong with her but she wont talk to me about it. but mostly i feel like i keep making the same mistake and maybe the reason i do it is because im afraid that im going to get hurt. ever since i was little i used to be weird and no one ever "liked" me until recently when i built up a lot of self confidence and changed my look a little. i went through long periods of depression in my preteen years and now im 15 and feel like im jumping from one hook up to another. but im so tired of it and the day i meet this amazing guy it seems like once again im just going to end up losing him because i don't go to the same school as him so it would be hard to see him. this happens every time. i even tried avoiding guys but they come into my life and i cant stop it. i wish i knew exactly what it is that i am doing wrong. i am a happy person and i always have this free spirit but this is the one area of my life that is so hard for me to understand. thank you if you've read all of this and hopefully someone can help me somehow.
thanx =]
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If your friend and her ex are truly broken up, it should be perfectly fine for you to date him. I'm not saying she won't be over him. If you do decide to go ahead with this relationship, make sure to get in some bonding time with your BFF, and make ABSOLUTELY sure you don't talk about him in front of her if you start to date. Dont hang out with him around her either, until you know she's over it. As far as what you're doing wrong? absolutely nothing. Friends just get upset when their exes date their friends. It's just one of those things i see time and time again.
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I agree...it sounds as though you might be scared of getting hurt, but also of being alone. So in turn, you keep guys close enough to keep you from feeling alone but you find a reason or make up an excuse to get rid of them once they get too close. I think the main reason you do this is because of the hard times you had in your preteen years.
Take some time for yourself babe. Pick up some hobbies that will keep your mind off of being 'alone'. Fill your life with friends..but don't stress being with a guy right now. Sit down and write down ALL of the pros to being single. Study these, realize these, then once you see single as a good thing you can enjoy that for a while. I hope that I could be of atleast a little help! Good luck girl and let me know how it works out.
<3 Leslie
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