Life is good, people just need to learn how to get to that point..
Hi! I'm Tiffany and I am a 19 year old college student in Florida. I have had an older accounton advicenators before, and was actually a moderator, but I forgot the password. :(
I believe that there aren't any 'stupid questions' out there and that everyone deserves the right to know whatever it is they want to know. I'm very open minded and like most people, I have underwent my share of tribulations in life. I'm aware that things happen and consequences are unbearable and sometimes people just want to vent about it in frustration of not knowing what to do.
I can be very helpful so ask me whatever is on your mind :)
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13/m
does anyone know some things i could get my girlfriend for christmas? we're both 13, turning 14 next year, and i kinda have a budget, probably under $60 would be good, like maybe a necklace, or some flowers? umm her favourite colours are red and black... if anyone needs to know more about what she likes.. ill add it.
thanks (link)
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Aw, young love. This is sweet :) I think that flowers aren't a great present. Being a girl, I like things that last more than a couple days when it's coming rom my boyfriend. A necklace/bracelet/earrings is a really good idea! Many stores have sales on 100 dollar jewelry for just around $50! If you decide not to, mybe a gift certificate to her favorite store would be your best bet :) and go with her to pick out what she gets!
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Ok, i have been talking to this girl since the beginning of the semester this year at college. We met in our english class. I have developed feelings for this girl. We hung out last week and had a really good time. I want to hangout with her again this week. If we hangout do you think that it would be appropriate for me to try and kiss her? Why or why not.
Thank you. (link)
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I think you should try to find clues to see if she feels the same way about you. You don't want to try and kiss her when she sees you only as a friend. Make sure you are out of that zone and that she carries the same emotions about you. You are both grown and adults so I think you could just tell her how you feel straight up and expect an answer. If the answer is what you hoped for, then yes, kiss her.
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Ok so i'm 15 and i like love ........sex...........lol but only had it when i wasl ike 9...when would be a good age for me to have it? (link)
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I can't believe you actually say "lol" so casually, like it's funny. In my opinion, you don't know if you 'love' sex...because you were only 9 years old. I don't even know if I believe that! A good age for someone as misguided as you are, is----never?
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Well my boyfriend and I have been dating for a month. The thing is we hardly ever talk and we don't hang out a lot either. When we do hang out we just sit there or drive around, we never hold hands, cuddle etc. He's 19 and I'm 17. Anyways, I kinda wanna break up because its a pointless relationship. What's your opinion? Thanks! (link)
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Well, if you already know the game and it's not what you like, then give up your turn! I don't think you need to deal with that. Skip the drama, emotions, and stupid arguements and let it go. Just say you want to be friends, that's how it seems like anyway. It's only been a month, so try to break it off before you get too familiar with him as your "pointless" boyfriend. :)
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16/m
Well there is this girl who is my best friend, and she has this boyfriend who she's not so crazy about. Anyway, I hate the fact that she's dating this guy, and I think I would feel the same way about any guy who she dated. I want to se her happy even if that means her dating some guy, but it absolutely tears me appart seeing her enjoy being with a guy that isn't me. I just have no idea how to handle any of this, and just avoiding the situation and not having her in my life would be horrible because she is so nice and fun to be with. Any ideas?? (link)
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Don't go psychotic over it. Please. All you can do right now is be there for her whenever she needs you, but if you REALLY want to achieve a higher status- other then friendship, you need to step up to the plate and tell her. My old guy best friend called me one day and said he was going to kill himself. He made up some bogus reason and I took him to the hospital with me, where my boyfriend works too. While I was in the room with him, my boyfriend came in and talked to me. After he left, my best friend tore out his IV'S and went freakin crazy. I asked what was wrong and he said the whole reason he was going to kill himself was over me and its "bullshit" that I date my boyfriend when he has wanted me this whole time..and he left. He told me to choose who I wanted...I chose and he hasn't talked to me since. I mean- it sounds unbelievable but I think I was more hurt then he was in his neurotic episode...I doubt that you are at this crazy of a level like he was now (lol, I hope not..) but before you end up feeling like you are losing in this battle of love then you need to talk to her. It's very typical for one of the friends to be in love with the other, VERY typical...just don't give her ultimatums and make her choose. No pressure, remember that :)
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Well, ok lets start off by saying I'm 16 female, and my bf is 18. We've been going out for abt 8 months basically...we've broken up three times. U.U Those three times due to my older sister, she's 24 and pure evil! >:T Well my bf and I have done the nasty (lol) ummm...shush I know I'm young and it's considered rape, but we love each other and blah blah, I'm not the only person who's done it I'm sure. So lay off the age thing yes? Well the first time we did it we protected our selves of course, but it broke...>//> So then we were worried the stress probably caused me to be late and he chatted it over with a friend on myspace, since we were both bugging about the chance of me being pregnant. (I wasnt just an f.y.i) Well both of my older sisters were stalking me or should I say us since they added him the minute they found we were together. T^T They were stalking his comments and both saw what had happened, my oldest sister (26) simply asked me if it was true I said yes, she told me I was stupid but she understood and just told me to be safe, then spoke to my bf about being serious and looking out for me. Of course I was ok with that. But now my other sister...(24) The second she found she threatened to tell my dad, my mother knows I told her myself, I tell my mom everything since I know I can count on her and we have a fairly good relationship! She didn't tell my dad since, he'd leave the second he found out...SUPPOSEDLY...U___U So my sister comes out with the insults about me being stupid and that he raped me and took advantage (which he didn't since I had my part in it too, at my own will) and that she was going to tell my dad and she was stuck on telling him until my mom had a firm talk with her on why it was important for her not to say a word to him. Our dad is an a-hole type of man, so yeah. My sister (24) is bipolar, so I guess thats why she acts so rash and angerly toward situations, well we ended up breaking up since she threatened to hurt him if she ever saw him. But I couldn't stand it I loved him and he loved me we missed each other dearly. We ended up getting back but then shortly broke up since problems where still accuring. >.< My sisters never found out up that time when we got back together then broke up again, my mom did and my dad of course he didn't know the reason why but eh. So I dated this other guy for about two weeks, a very close friend actually he was begging me to give him a chance, he very very cute better looking then my actual bf but, I was/am in love with my bf so thigs didnt work out. He knows about the whole deal and is happy the other guy and I ended, I couldn't stay away from him, we eneded up back together, which we are now, my sister (26) knows she doesn't care much I think. But when my other one found out, well she barely fount out like 2 days ago and she called my mom threatning to call my father once again. T____T My mom again...had to convince her to stop, well days have gone by and no one has spoken to her. What can I do? I want to talk to her but I'm scared she won't listen and run off and tell my dad. :/ It's annoying, we have family get togethers and I can't invite my bf just because of my sister (24). >:Y I'm getting sick of it and so is he, any help, ideas? Greatly appriciated! "Don't mind my type-o's I'm to lazy to do corrections. :P" (link)
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From reading this, I can tell you're not too stupid like most little girls; You have a sense of maturity like 20 yr olds. It's really none of your sister's business and I think you should just let her tell your dad. If she's going to be that SUCKY of a sister, then forget it because she will be holding this over your head forever. And once she hears you say, "whatever, just tell dad." She's going to be shocked because you hit her with the unexpected. Whether she really does tell him or not is the thing that probably bothers you. You should have a talk with you dad about the issue. Just use hypothetical questions without making it obvious. Unless you want to lose your relationship again over something so stupid, then you might as well bring it to light. I mean, he had no problem saying it for everyone to see on myspace, he should take credibility for his actions. I hope I helped at least a little...Good luck.
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Okay I'm an 18 male, My boyfriend had recently told me that i make him feel like a nobody, cause Everyone whos anyone fonds over me like i'm celeb! and cause i have friends who are celebs! and talk to them on a daily basis. how do i make him see im just a normal person and i don't like ppl being at my feet 24/7!! I told him that, but he doesn't understand when im with ten million ppl, thats when i get lonely! What should i do? (link)
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Well, it's a jealousy thing. When these "ten million ppl" are at your feet, tell them that you want to spend some time with your boyfriend so it would be really nice if they leave you alone, just for a little bit. I think that would make any guy or girl feel special. :)
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i have been with this guy who is in a wheelchair for two years (almost 3). when we first got together things were wonderful. but now that we have been together we kinda dulled out and became one person. Its my senior year in high school, and all my friends say that i shouldnt be in a serious relationship now and to find myself. which i agree but i dont want to just break up with my boyfriend for that reason. cuz what if there is no one else out there like him. i dont know im so confused, i need serious help.
so stressed. none of my friends are getting along, so much drama. everyone is mad at each other. my boyfriend dont like my friends anyways.
please someone tell me what to do.
i dont know how to tell him if i am going to break up with him, he is very temermental. (link)
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I see where you're coming from. The first-dating chills and feelings can diminish with time but it's up to the both of you to keep it alive. I know it has to be difficult dealing with a boyfriend who is physically disabled, I mean-it's hard enough dealing with one that's physically fit, haha. All I cann say is, please don't listen to your friends and their opinion on high school dating and serious relationships. Because- what I have learned from people- is that they DON'T really care what you do. They offer advice, but if you were to break up with him and feel heartbroken, they will display some care but not really give a damn. I think you should stick with your boyfriend, like you have been doing. I know it means SO much to him that you are still here despite his disability. Just talk to him about how you really feel. I hope I helped :)
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is it okay for a 19 year old to date a 24 year old? just curious to everyone's opinions :) thanks! (link)
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I'm 19, dating a 25 year old :) It's actually the best dating decision I've made. Yeah, people will make their comments but whatever, maturity plays a big role. :)
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I met this girl 5 months ago in texas, and we hit it off and I like her alot. The other day she told me some things that really made me think twice about being w/her and if I could ever trust her. She told me she's had a 1 nite stand, she's cheated once but, felt bad afterwards. she then tells me she believes in the saying "what he doesnt know wont hurt him" 2 make things even worse..she told me she was raped not once but Twice!! b/c she passed out. then she goes on and tells me shes loyal, trustworthy & only has sex if shes dating. Is it me or is this girl confused? she says 1 thing and then says the complete opp. Don't get me wrong, I give her alot of respect 4 being honest, it meant alot 2 me that she was. Not many females would have been. But how can she be trustworthy and loyal if she's cheated? I just cant trust her. and if she only has sex while shes dating then how can she have a one nite stand? Some 1 Please!!explain 2 me how in the hell she could put her self in the same situation Twice? You would think if you were raped you would have learned your lesson the first time, right? It tells me shes careless. God only knows what was done 2 her and by how many. I Cant!! look pass that! Am I wrong in doing so? I should mention..I live in Chicago. One more thing she told me.. was that she didn't mind me sleeping w/other girls, and she understood I needed 2 get mine. I've asked family what I should do and they all told me the same thing::get rid of her, she'll give me nothing but problems. Shes told me that her loyality and love are w/me in a major way, I've already told her I thought it was best if we just stayed friends b/c I could'nt trust her. Should I give her a chance? how do I get over everything she told me? Thank you to everyone who responds to my ?. I really need other peoples opinion, and B Honest. (link)
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If she cheated and her ex was an in-town boyfriend, then I don't think she deserves your trust because you won't even have that advantage of being close by. You would have to live with assuming this girl, who is hundreds of miles away- (I think, I'm not too good in geography..) will treat you with more respect than others she has been with. A positive outcome is unlikely, I'm sorry..I know you have/had hope in it but I doubt that she will change unless you and her really start a serious ritualistic, tremendous relationship that will isolate her from her past life. I do commend her on being truthful but actions and words are two very different, important things. Let her go...
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Okay, so here's the story.
I'm 15/f and my ex boyfriend is 15 too. When we were about 7 months into the relationship, I became pregnant, I decided to keep the baby. This put a lot of stress on the relationship. We went out for just about a year. I decided it was time to breakup with him because I was feeling like that was the right thing to do at the time. I regret it extremely, but it's something I have to live with. I do still believe we have feelings for each other.
(With the pregnancy thing, please don't judge me, I used protection, and I still don't regret having sex with him.)
The problem is, I've had 4 boys in my life before, and each was different, and I learned sort of how to compare one to the other and realize if I loved or not. He's never had another girlfriend but me, so he thinks he loves me, but he really has no prior experience and it can be hard to tell with your first.
This boy, my ex boyfriend now, I believe is the absolute love of my life. I just simply can't get over him. It's been about two weeks now, and I think it's best to let him just move along and date again because then he may be able to just get a little bit more of an idea of who he likes in a girl. It's really hard. I can tell that I'm having a harder problem with it than him, because I'm constantly thinking of him ect.
He still calls every once in a while, and we get along. He will text me occasionally, and we have yet to hangout, but he told me that in the next few weeks we will.
(he will still be here for me and the baby, he has made that very clear)
So I really don't know exactly what I'm asking here, maybe for some advice, and if you agree that by him going out with other girls, he will gain more experience and knowledge about what he wants in them/life/expectations etc.. and he will really be able to tell he was in love with me or not.
Because with my first boyfriend I swore I thought I was in love, but in the end, realized I wasn't.
Just help! (link)
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Hey sweety,
First of all, I want to say CONGRATS on keeping the baby. I was 15 years old when I had my baby and everyone gave me hell..So I know how that causes stress not only in your relationship, but friendships and social networks too...Im 19 now and the baby's father and I have been broken up a while and it took me until a couple years ago to know I didn't love him like I thought I did. KNOWING when you love someone does take experience and a lot of trial and tribulations. However, even though you want to know if by him dating other women will make him realize if his love for you is stronger, I don't think it's a wise decision. I think you two should try to work it out now and try to make it a trial and success rather than a trial and error. I hope I helped :)
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Early on in our relationship, my now live-in boyfriend of 1.5 years admitted to me that he had cheated on almost every girlfriend he had ever had. But since we fell in love a few months later, he swears up and down that I am different - that he would never cheat. He says he loves me, respects me, and that we have a long future together. To my knowledge, he has never given me a reason not to believe him.
Despite all this, I find myself becoming more and more suspicious of him as time goes by. I secretly look at photos of his old girlfriends on his computer, I google them, and I am especially obsessed with one old flame in particular - a girl I know he has cheated with in past relationships. I look at her blog, dream about them together, and have even started doing things in the bedroom that I remember him saying she used to do. I know that he isn't seeing her right now, but I am obsessed with the fact that they might have cheated on me in the past, or might again in the future. Things have even gotten so bad that even I search through his email for her name.
I hate what I am doing, but I can't seem to stop. My friends say that I am worried about getting more serious with him - closer to marriage, etc. - and that it makes me worry more about his cheating. But I don't think this is an excuse for the kind of behavior that I'm engaging in! I need advice to help me trust my loving boyfriend, and to stop these awful, snoopy habits. Please help! (link)
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He wouldn't have been truthful with you about playing other girls if he was playing you. Men, and sometimes even women, tend to hide little facts like that because of the consequences that it might take in their relationship, (Especially if they are still messing around.) I think you shouldn't worry at all. The only thing you can really do is keep trying to convince yourself that you're the one he wants. I admitted to my boyfriend the other day that I used to talk to other guys when I dated my other boyfriends. That right there could give him automatic rights to be suspicious because he thinks, "Well, why am I better than her exes?" Don't worry and trust him. That's the foundation of relationships. If that goes, you may give him a reason to stray away. I hope I helped.. :)
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Well i'm 16 and i have this boyfriend and we've only been going out for about a month and a half but we've been really close friends and not the lil yeah yeah we were close friends whatever type of deal, like we really hung out played video games talked on the phone had classes together, everything, for about 8 months. I know him really well and i get to see him a lot. Like practically everyday, we've done everything from going to the movies on a double date to takin naps together. I'm comfortable with him in public as my boyfriend and comfortable alone and intimate as not so much crazy making out but more opening myself up to him. I've let him get to second base already but i'm not sure if i should let him get further, you know like let him put his hand down my pants or if maybe i should do it to him. I really feel close to this guy, should i wait or would it be ok just to take things a lil further? (link)
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You're 16, you have a lot of time to make mistakes and learn new lessons. I think if you really feel that you are ready, and you really trust him, that you should have some fun and make careful, but responsible decisions. As long as you are aware that there are consequences for every action, you will know what to do. If you decide not to move further in the relationship yet, (and he is a halfway decent guy)..then you two can continue to build the foundation of your relationship- until you know you are ready for sure and no one else's opinion on here will matter. If you do decide to take it further, #1 make sure you're hoping for the best and expecting the worst and #2 BE CAREFUL!, Follow you're mind and not your feelings at the moment :) I hope I helped
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so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year. we live like a half hour away and go to different schools so we only get to see each other like once, twice a week if we're lucky. we've made things work cause we love each other. buuutt i have one problem:
he used to text me all of the time like pretty much everyday during the first 5 months we were dating, after that he barely ever texts me, like im the one who has to text first and sometimes i dont even get a reply or he replies like a day later or something..idk...he says he just doesn't like texting, but i like to talk to him and stuff during the week. some nights we talk on the phone but we do that once a week, if that. i've told him i want to text and stuff but it just seems to go in one ear and out the other and he says if i want to text then to just text him but thats not the point you know? im positive he cares about me alott but i just don't know...im jealous of my friend who has a boyfriend that texts her every day. andd they've been going out for as long as we have. what should i do?
thanks 17/f (link)
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It's hard to break away from a ritualistic thing, something that you're used to-or something that you really love to do. I was in the same boat as you, and yeah- my boyfriend got pretty aggravated that I keep pestering him to text me on a daily basis. His excuse was- "Why cant I just call you- it's easier." Yeah, it is easier, but that's not the point. Texting is a way of communicating, a sweet gesture, and a tangible thing that the two of you share. All I can suggest is try to talk to him about it. Tell him it makes you feel better being able to read and have what he is saying. Not only does it mask any sarcastic tone, awkward silences, or stupid comments, you two can take time and think about what you really want to say and send each other digital messages. Well, I hoped I helped- at least a little :)
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