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Whens the time?
Well i'm 16 and i have this boyfriend and we've only been going out for about a month and a half but we've been really close friends and not the lil yeah yeah we were close friends whatever type of deal, like we really hung out played video games talked on the phone had classes together, everything, for about 8 months. I know him really well and i get to see him a lot. Like practically everyday, we've done everything from going to the movies on a double date to takin naps together. I'm comfortable with him in public as my boyfriend and comfortable alone and intimate as not so much crazy making out but more opening myself up to him. I've let him get to second base already but i'm not sure if i should let him get further, you know like let him put his hand down my pants or if maybe i should do it to him. I really feel close to this guy, should i wait or would it be ok just to take things a lil further?
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You're 16, you have a lot of time to make mistakes and learn new lessons. I think if you really feel that you are ready, and you really trust him, that you should have some fun and make careful, but responsible decisions. As long as you are aware that there are consequences for every action, you will know what to do. If you decide not to move further in the relationship yet, (and he is a halfway decent guy)..then you two can continue to build the foundation of your relationship- until you know you are ready for sure and no one else's opinion on here will matter. If you do decide to take it further, #1 make sure you're hoping for the best and expecting the worst and #2 BE CAREFUL!, Follow you're mind and not your feelings at the moment :) I hope I helped
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hey, it sounds like you've got a great relationship with him going, it'd be a shame to mess it up. i think relationships work out best if they're not rushed and you both take your time. if you're unsure about what you want to do maybe you should talk to him, comunication is the best thing you can do in a relationship, but if you feel ready to take it a step further and he doesnt mind i say you should go for it.. but i do warn you that having sex can change your relationship dramaticly, oral sex isnt too bad because you're just getting use to each others body's and finding out what you both like the feel of, that sort of stuff. if i were you i'd wait another month before having sex, just to make sure you're not going to regret it. if you do decide to wait maybe you should spend that time waiting by finding out what sexual things he likes the feel of and talk always talk about how you feel with him, if he loves you then he'll be happy to wait until you're ready, and dont ever let someone force you to do something you're unsure about or dont want to do.
i hope this helps and i hope it goes great for the both of you :) stay safe
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