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So my boyfriend and I (we're in high school) have been dating for about a month. He's a trustworthy, respectful, and caring guy in all respects and he's always really sweet to me. And we know each other fairly well. We also have talked about honesty and agree that telling the truth is always best and said that we will both be honest. Also in conversation, when sex was mentioned, he basically said he was a virgin (he didn't say "I am a virgin" but he said "I'd have no experience with that/know anything about how that would go" in refrence to sex. And I'm a virgin, he knows that. Our group of friends are all "good kids" who don't have sex, etc. in most cases (they aren't against it but don't want to in high school). And I don't have that policy, but everyone knows I'm a virgin. And I'm pretty sure most them would assume my boyfriend is too. However, my best friend, who never lies to me and is in band with him, told me that his ex and he had sex the whole time they were dating (she heard this from 2 trustworthy but 2-3 hand sources) and they he broke up with her because she thought she was pregnant (but it was a false alarm). Why would he lie to me about that? I could understand him saying he wasn't a virgin if he was-but this way? It makes no sense. Maybe he thought I would find being a virgin better-but I'd rather have the truth and I'm pretty darn sure he knows that! I think I'll probably ask him about the ex-gf (he hasn't really had reason to mention her) but I want to be prepared for what his answers regarding his virginity may be and why he has said what he said before I do that. (link)
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hey, i can sorta relate to both you and your boyfriend (if in fact he has had sex before).
i understand you're probably angry that he may have lied to you but i dont think you should approach his ex about it. if you do and your boyfriend finds out i think he could get angry at you. he could think 'she has no right to talk about me to my ex' and im sure you'd feel the same way.
if you want to get information about the story you heard i think the best thing to do is talk to your boyfriend about it. maybe just start of with a nice conversation, you could hint at what you want to know. you could ask 'hey, i know we've talked about sex before, and i dont want to sound like im nagging or anything but you didnt exactly say you were a virgin. you just danced around the subject leaving the question unanswered. could you please tell me if you've had sex before?'.
i dont think you should flat out accuse him of it, ask him instead but dont be too harsh about it because everyone makes mistakes.
he may have suggested he was a virgin because he didnt want to remember his time with his ex. or he thought it might be best if you thought he was one. also, he could've meant he'd had oral sex but was still a virgin, when you're doing that sorta stuff with someone for the first time everything seems more of a big deal. like i shouldnt be doing this because ive heard stories that you can get pregnant. even though the stories could be completely unreal.
oh, another question could be 'whats the furthest you've been with a girl'
also, and i am not saying your friend is a liar because im sure she isnt, but stories can get twisted around when they're being passed on to other people. a bit like a chinese whisper.
so i think it's best if you talk to your boyfriend about it, and not go nosing into his ex-gf and asking her questions.
anyway, i hope this helped out out a bit.
good luck with it :)
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you know shy guys right. you know the guys that they like someone but they dont like to show how they feel. why do they do that? and when they do that do they think the person that they like is going to like them back when they dont even know they like them? and how do shy guys show that they are interested in somebody (not saying all shy guys dont show their feelings towards someone they like and i know they are all different) (link)
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people who are shy are scared of what other people may think of them. being shy could be because they're embarrassed of their own thoughts, or they may have had a bad experience and think its best to keep to themselves.
shy guys obviously dont want people to know that they like someone. so maybe just let them be shy. they should know that they most likely wont get someone unless they speak up. maybe they're happy just imagining, and if not then they know their consequences.
i guess all shy people have a different way of showing that they like someone, they might stare at the person, or blush when you speak to them. it all depends on the person really.
i hope i helped you out :)
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I'm a freshman in highschool and this year i've had a lot of "things" with people where it hasnt gotten farther then a hookup and just "i like you"& "i like you too". I really want a serious relationship but im on the verge of giving up because everytime I try and make a relationship work with someone it never does. Any advice? (link)
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friendship-
you have to take relationships slow if you want them to last. its good if you develope a good friendship with the person you're interested in first before moving onto the next stage. a good friendship at the start is good because you get to know the person better. you can find out what they're looking for in a person. rushing into a relationship is bad because you end up with a person you hardly know, the fun of a friendship is finding out about them.
first few weeks-
the first few weeks are usually the best part. you can ask more swerious questions about them and you can have loads of fun with them. dont be bossy. dont always talk about yourself. dont be annoying etc.
after the first few weeks-
it gets a little more serious here, you may have a few hiccups in the relationship but if you love them you'll try to fix it. and if you know them well enough you shouldnt have too many problems.
other-
dont rush into the sex part. there is no need to start it early.
make sure you dont have to pretend and act fake with them.
NO LIES!
if they talk about this you dont understand just go with the flow. dont act like you know what they're on about but listen to them. listening is very important.
dont ignore their needs lol
just have fun the whole time. dont take it too serious until your further into the relationship, but dont act like the whole this is a joke.
NO CHEATING haha
how this helps a little XD
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So there's this guy.. i like him alot, we text literally non stop we hang out, we vid chat allll this and he's admitted that he likes me.. like as a person not just for pussy, and ive nevver had that before.. but he's caught up on his ex still and they're kinda starting to talk again.. idk what to do... he still constantly talks to me and wont date his ex again cuz somethings holding him back and everyone says that something.. is me.. ! ugh what to do ? (link)
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heyy, i think the best thing to do is just wait and see how everything goes. he probably still needs a little more time to get over her before moving into another relationship. but i think that if you wait and give it time then it may work out between you two. if you're worried he might get back with her then maybe you should talk to him, tell him how you feel about everything. and if he really does like you he will listen. it might be a good idea for you to ask him more about what he plans on doing.
i hope i helped a little :) good luck
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I have rewritten this over and over again, re-read and re-read trying to add in every bit of detail to make the story clear and try to answer any questions about whats going on. I know it's long, but please bear with me as I feel its important in knowing exactly how everything plays in.
Pretense:
I guess you can say my story begins as a typical relationship, but things really turn strange. It started two years ago, the summer before my senior year of high school. I met the most beautiful girl I had ever seen. She had a boyfriend that shes been dating for two years so I figured I didn't have a chance in hell. She even thought I was annoying, but I persisted in trying to get close to her. One day she broke up with her boyfriend, and there I was. Really out of nowhere we started to date, and I was in love. Things moved pretty fast, constant texting, hanging around each other all the time and calling each other every night. After about a month or so though, she ended it with me and she got back together with her ex. I felt sick to my stomach.
Lucky for me her bf is crazy possessive, and eventually pushed her away again. I love her so much I took her back. For about a year we grew together and became best friends. However as our love grew, so did my jealousy and insecurity, and my fear of losing her. We were dating, everyone knew it, we did everything too had the most amazing sex, but we never had a title. And that was one thing I always fought about, her argument was we were already together so what was the point, just a name? I loved her too much to continue to argue, so I was okay with it. During our relationship she was still talking to her ex, never hooked up with him or anything, but always remained in contact. One day she left her phone unattended, and I saw his number and saved it to my phone. I didn't know exactly what I was thinking or what I would do with this number, but it would later prove to be my waterloo in the fight for her heart.
College: Early September, everything goes wrong. We both got accepted to ucf. Over the summer before we moved up she said she wants more space, and wanted to be alone during college. I was worried at first because I wouldn't be living on campus, but she would. And so would her ex, right near her. She was still close to me though and was always around, so my fears slowly slipped away. But then we moved in. I got a run down apartment off campus, it smelled like mold and had roaches galore. I was broke, home sick, and miserable. I grew desperate, and wanted to cling more to the only person I knew up in college with me. She however, was hanging out with her good friend/roomate at the time, and some big black kid that lived on her floor. He had helped her moved in and they were hanging out a lot. I wanted to hang out with her but she insisted she needed her space. Days went by and I didn't see her. My classes were all online, and I was in my room by myself all day. My thoughts and dreams haunted me. I had to call her. I kept calling her, and each time she never answered. She was out hanging out with her new friends, while I was home alone missing her, driving myself crazy. I dunno why I did, but I took her exes number and called him. I asked him for advice? I dunno why, it was the stupidest thing I've ever done. It only made me seem more crazy, and shocked her how I got his number. I told her, and she just couldnt trust me anymore. So here's where the strange part comes in. Long story short, her mom eventually called me and asked that I stop bothering her. At that point I realized how alone I really was when the girl I cared for most asked her mom to tell me to leave her alone. I told my buddy who went to a different school about what was going on, and like a "great" friend decided to play a joke on me. He had our other friend text me and say to leave her alone, shes texting me saying your harrassing her. I freaked. Of course this was untrue, but I panicked nonetheless. So I called her mom back and promised her I would leave her daughter alone if she could please tell her daughter to stop telling my friends Im a stalker. I realized I had been acting really irrational, and wanted to put an end to the madness before things got out of hand. But unsuspectadley...things did go out of hand, in the worst way possible.
The police involvement: That same day after speaking with her mother, I went to a restaurant on campus with an old high school friend. I didn't hang out with them much, but I figure since Im on my own now its best I start making new relationships. Well, remember that big black kid that was helping my "ex" move in? He appears at the restaurant with his buddy, and they approach my table. I have to add that I was online earlier on instant messenger and put where I was as my away message, which ill explain why its important later. So this kid storms up to my table ready to fight and says "why the F*** are you talking shit about me to *******'s mom??" I said to him "woah, are you crazy?? I don't even know who you are I didn't say anything about you I was talking about someone else" He said "bullshit i'll kick your ass" And I said "f*** you psycho" and as i turned away to ignore him and pick up my hamburger out of nowhere he decks me in the face. I was stunned. Everyone in the restaurant was watching at this point. I got up, but my friend that I was with insisted I call the cops. The black kid teased me and said "yea call the cops bitch!" and walked out. So I did, I called the cops. They come, ask what happened, and asked why this person I did not know hit me. I told him he was friends with my ex, and that they might have known I was at the restaurant because of my away message on the instant messenger. I give the report, and I go about my way. About 30 minutes later I get a phone call from the police asking me to go to the station, the story apparently is more complicated. So I arrive and from there on I quickly turn from the victim to the criminal. The police told me they had the kid who hit me in custody, but now I was in trouble. They had with them cell phone records and all the emails I had been sending my ex, and they were now ready to press harrassment charges against me. I was so shocked. They said they went to question her about why that kid came, and apparently she turned it around on me and wanted to file a harrassment complaint. By the end of the day, I was told that if I ever make contact with her or any of her friends or family I'd be arrested. My world fell apart and my heart sank to a low I couldn't describe.
September passes...the longest month of my life. I never really dreamt before, but everynight was a nightmare. I couldn't sleep.
October comes, I had already deleted her number and everything out of fear of being arrested, but I still had her as a buddy on aol instant messenger. I think we were both afraid to talk to eachother, because she began to communicate to me...through away messages. We begin by saying how sorry we are for everything. Long story short, after weeks of this weird communication, we agree to meet. It started with lunch, and before you know it I was sleeping over her dorm and we were having sex. No one knew we were seeing each other, it had to be secret. This part of my memory is quite fuzzy, because after that we began to fight again. And literally a week later she was dating that ex of hers. I was shocked. Apparently, during that month after the incident she found comfort in being with him. And apparently he was being an ass again and she decided to see me again. Seeing me only lasted a week, and then it was back to her not making any contact with me, and she was back with her ex.
October passes...as does November, December...January..all the way through April. Each day I fill my heart with more hate, my eyes with more tears, and my mouth with more alcohol. I tried to occupy myself, and get over this bitter situation. Just drop it I kept telling myself, its over, she screwed you over so hard. So I drank, and hung out with trashy people. I could tell myself I was having fun...but every night I put my head on that pillow, and my thoughts would haunt me. Everyday I missed her, wondered about what she was doing. I still loved her. I was miserable. I hated everybody and everything. Months went by and I never heard from her. I was nearly failing school. During a lot of this time I had been going to counseling. It helped somewhat, but the answers I was getting didn't seem to help. Everyday I grew more hateful, and more miserable. To say the least, I was not myself anymore and I turned into a completely different person. Anxiety attacks were constant, and I was in a constant state of panick. I really didn't know how I could ever survive. I hadn't had a good day for as long as I could remember. It was the worst I had ever felt, and was losing the will to live.
So sometime earlier this year we make contact again. I don't really remember how, but apparently she had been dating the same kid all year and had eventually broke up with him. She still didn't want to see me, but slowly but surely we started talking. The summer went on and we were like peas and carrots again. She moved back home for the summer while I remained in school. We talked all the time, and things were going great. This fall semester started and we were with each other 24/7, sleeping over each others houses. I was the happiest I had ever been.
My current dilemma: Last week, I made a huge mistake. She wanted me to help her with something on her computer, so while she showered, I worked on her computer. I finished early, and while I was sitting there I couldn't help but notice something. I don't know how I stumbled upon this document, but it was a conversation between her and her ex. I read it, then closed it. I made no mention of it. That night I slept over her place, and then later the next day while at work she texted me asking to be honest with her and asked had I gone through her computer. I panicked. I knew what was coming. I told her no. She said thats funny, under recently viewed documents something here was opened that I know I didnt open. So I told her. And then she cut me off. She said I'd never change, it was just like how I took his number out of her phone. I was really miserable, and my anxiety was driving me crazier than ever. How could I fuck up what I tried so hard to fix?? Our relationship was already so fragile because of our past. A couple days later she starts talking to me again. We take it slow, no more sleeping over of course. We go to the gym, and she even comes over to my house for dinner. I had to go home this past weekend to get my car ( I had none for the past month ) so she drove me to the bus station. I talked to her online that night while I was home, and then said goodnight. The next day we were talking and I made mention of how tired I was. And she said what time did you go to bed last night? I said right after you did. I wasn't really thinking about exactly what happened because I was wrong. She said I was full of shit because she went on later on and saw I was online. I was still online for a bit longer but didnt really remember. To me this was no big deal, but she called me a compulsive liar. She ignores me again. The next day I'm on the phone with her and talk about plans of going to disney world, I had already gotten tickets. She said thats not a good idea. And I kinda freaked and said why not?? We had been planning this for a long time. At this point she didnt even want to speak to me and said ill talk to you later and hung up. A couple hours later I texted her...no response. I texted twice more and still no response. The next day I made no attempt to contact her. Today comes...I drive back up to school, I text her. Still no response. I texted again and said I need my parking decal because it was in her car. She finally responded and said shed leave it at the front office of my apartment building. So she did. No conversation, she doesnt want to talk.
So this is me now. I find myself in desperation, looking for any sign that things will be alright. My anxiety is keeping me up all night and all I want is for her to know how sorry I am, and how much I regret going through her computer. I don't want her to not trust me. I care so much for her. If only she could know how sorry I am and how much I want to correct the wrongs I've made. I fear I may have lost her again and it will kill me if this happens again. I can't go on another year beating up on myself, being alone, being miserable. At this moment I am the most miserable I have ever been, more so before because I was given a chance at redemption, and I ruined it. I don't know what to do. I want her in my life so badly. I ask you out of desperation for help, I never meant to hurt her. What do I do?
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oh my god! what are you thinking! i know it hurts you to hear this but she is fucked up and she cannot change. she needs to know the feeling of rejection. if you get back with her you are letting her fuck with your life. dont listen to the f*ck wits that tell you 'oh you should say sorry, tell her how much you love her bla bla bla' she obviously has a problem. how do i know this? because my sister is the exact same. these sorts of poeople are clever at screwing with peoples lives. reading the ex's message is normal. it was wrong but im sure any other person in your situation would do the same thing and if it wasnt important to her she wouldnt have minded or behaved the way she has. she is crazy and you need help getting over her.
you do not need her. she has no feelings for you, if she did she wouldnt do this to you. dont try and get back with her please. try to get over her. nothing you do will help her become normal. if you dont think you can do this, then i suggest talking to a doctor about her. explain this whole thing to them and maybe they can help you in figuring out what is wrong with her and how to avoid her crazy side. but please do not try to get with her. find someone new. get your life back and be happy.
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What traits, to you, does the PERFECT GUY possess?? State all the traits you think would make up the perfect, possibly unattainable guy...
I need this for my online project :) xxx Thanks in advance
Please help! And don't leave anything out!! (link)
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1. he loves you
2. he wants to spoil you
3. he's willing to do anything for you
4. he loves to cuddle you
5. always asks to see you
6. trust worthy
7. just adores you
8. can be there for you
9. respects that you have mood swings and doesnt get in your way when you do
10. doesnt make you do anything
11. takes the blame for you
12. isnt clingy
13. funny
14. can listen to you
15. give you the right advice
16. is positive
17. never lies to you
18. says your beautiful, even if you're not
19. holds your hand when walking together
20. isnt afraid to tell you what he's thinking
21. would never hurt you
22. will stand up for you
23. want you to be happy
24. says he loves you all the time
25. admits when he's wrong
26. gives you space when you need it
27. itsnt over protective
28. doesnt keep tabs on where you've been, what you've been doing, what you ate, who you were with
29. trusts you
30. you have to think he's good looking
31. always happy
32. isnt lazy
33. always helping around the house
34. friendly
35. outgoing
36. he has to have a job
37. not stupid
38. wants to try new things
39. doesnt complain about everything
40. isnt always sick
41. loves you for who you are
42. doesnt try to change who you are
43. respects your opinions
44. has a fairly nice body lol
45. doesnt worry about what he looks like
46. is patient
47. whats the best for you
48. is never nasty to you
49. doesnt ask to you to make him a sandwich haha
50. isnt a sook
hope these help :) its not like we ask for much anyway
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f/16 ok iknow this might be a werid qustion but here we go! my friend told me that she gets confused when shes havin sex like she doesnt know if she's about to cum or pee she said they both feel the same. im confused too! like wat happens!? is it like yu pee first && then cum or yu cum first && then pee! or wat!? please help thanks ;-% (link)
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okay, well it could be because she actually needs to pee OR because she's about to have an orgasm. for most girls they feel like they need to pee before they get to full climax. if her partner keeps going for a little while she might orgasm, but she will probably have to use the toilet after :) its all normal. if she's still worried maybe she should take a wee before she has sex.
i hope this helps :)
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I'm a vergin, and i was wondering what my boyfriend can do on his part to penetrate me and make me relax while he is doing it. Everytime we get to the point where he is about to penetrate me, i tend to be afraid and whenever we try to do it, I either become dry once he tries to penetrate me so his penis cannot go in or even when I'm wet, I become very tensed and can't keep my legs wide open so he still can't penetrate me. what should I do?I'm very desperate!! we tried several times and still we can't make love:( please help!
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maybe its because you're not ready to have sex, but thats only one possibiltly lol :)
if its not in a very good location you could be nervious that someone might walk in.
i remember my boyfriend couldnt have sex with me the first time we tried because we had planned it. he didnt like the idea of having a time and a place because he felt like he had to have sex, like he didnt have a choice. if you're planning them maybe thats your problem.
or if your not planning maybe that could be why you're so nervious. because like i said before, you're worried someone might walk in.
your boyfriend could also try to give you a massage before you try again. this could make you relax a bit.
another thing you could try is to have fun! dont take it so seriously. laugh about things, talk to each other, that could also relax you a bit.
maybe, if you dont already, is have oral sex first. let him finger you, suck you, lick you. i know it sounds gross but if you havent tried it already maybe give it a go. and you can also give him oral back, give him head.
also try some lube if you want, if you dont want to buy some, some spit also does the job. spit wont harm you in anyway, thats if its your own :)
and the last possibility could be your boyfriend might not be the right person to have sex with first. if your worried he'll hurt you then dont do it.
well i hope this helps you out :) stay safe and enjoy yourself :)
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Should a girl use lubrican the first time she has sex? (link)
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she can if she feels like she has to but she doesnt have to. when a girl becomes aroused her body will make her own lubrican, but if its not enough for the penis to go in smoothly it could be a good idea to use a little so it makes sex easier. its differsent for all girls, some girls get really wet others not so much, but it all depends on how turned on she is as well. usually if shes not turned on she wont get wet. but like i said, its different for all girls :)
hope this helped a little :)
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i usually don't have a lot of discharge, and its always clear. well today after school i went to the bathroom and i had soo much it was like creamy and wet and disgusting. nothing hurts down there and i'm not having sex but i do get fingered, but ive been getting fingered by the same guy for awhilee. so i dont think thats it. so heres the embarrasing part, i'm like farting out of my vagina alot...if that makes any sense, and i feel it all wet and gross so has this happened to anyone before? and what is it what does it mean? (link)
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hey! what you're going through is normal so dont worry about it. all the 'farting' is just air that gets into your vagina and its completely normal, even though its sometimes a bit embarrassing but nothing to be concerned about. also having alot of discharge is all normal as well. just try not to worry about having heaps of it :)
hope this helps
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just wondering, haha..
how can you give your guy a boner without touching him? (link)
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lol! i can give my guy a boner just by making sex noises and whispering in his ear what i wish he could do to me lol he loves it
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Okay, so I'm 16 years old and just got into my first serious relationship. Yay! :) Happy days.
Anyways....when my boyfriend and I make out, I can feel "that area" getting kind of wet. Today when I got home I went into the bathroom to check and there was this whitish clear liquid in my underwear and around my vagina. Is this cum? And is this a result of being aroused? I didn't think you cum-ed until having sex at an orgasm? Because we haven't really gotten hot & heavy or anything like that yet.
Is there such a thing as just getting wet easily? Cause I mean I really haven't felt that urge to just keep pushing further and further, you know? Like that sexual desire. Yet I noticed its kind of a good amount of this liquid stuff because I can feel it there after we've made out and it can be sorta uncomfortable.
Oh, and is that "fireworks" thing during a kiss real? Because I've never really had that firework moment during a kiss. I mean I enjoy it a lot, but I've never felt that fireworks thing with anyone I have kissed.
If anyone could help explain this, I'd appreciate it!
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hey
thats a good question.
your situation is completely normal for a girl so dont worry about it too much, i get the same thing and ive looked it up and stuff, there isnt much you can do about it really. some girls get wet really easily and other dont, personally i think its better to be nice and wet lol this sounds weird, sorry. the reason i think its better to be wet is because its easier to have sex and it feels nicer, so ive been told.
i think its your body just thinking you might have sex or something and getting ready for it, im not sure. but yeah, it is normal :) i hate it too but what can you do about it really.
im also unsure of the fireworks, i dont think it happens to everyone, ive been in my relationship for over 9 months now and have never had it happen to me before. either its just movie crap, or something that could happen over time, maybe one day when you wake up with your partner after 2 years it could happen.
well i hope this helped you out a little bit :)
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Alright so me and this girl are together but not dating and shes a very shy girl which means its hard to start doing stuff with her. Im not all in it for the sex but it would be nice to have and get us a lot closer. What can I invite her to do where I can be alone with her long enough to start doing sexual things with her? and how should start? I know making out leads to other shit but like shes so shy and its hard to even kiss her except when I say bye to her so what do I do? also I just want to know what I can invite her to do with me besides watching a movie where we can be alone together please help!! (link)
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bad idea mate
if she wants to have sex she'll tell you, or you could at least talk to her about it. actualy no, you're not even going out. ask her out first, its the right thing to do. ever heard the saying 'guys only think with one thing' well you dont have to be like that. start thinking with your head. you cant expect every girl to just lift up their skirts for you, them girls are called sluts.
dont try to fuck her straight away, if you like her you'll take it slow and start a relationship with her first, and if you do that then maybe you could masterbate more often, it could help release some of your sexual energy.
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I've been looking at different websites to see if it's good for you. And all of them say it's healthy and good for you. But my question is for girls. One of my ex's didn't like that I did it and was hurt when she found out I would watch porn. I just want to know how other girls feel about it? Do you think it's harmless to your relationship and good for your boyfriend, or do you think it's bad and means he doesn't love or care about you? (link)
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i think masterbation is a good thing, but not the watching porn bit.
i honestly dont mind if my bf does it or not, but if i knew he was doing it because he was watching other girls that would make me very upset. maybe insted of watching porn you could think about doing dirty things with her, she might feel a little more wanted knowing that you think her body is sexy and all you want is her.
and yes, it is healthy for guys to masterbate, its also health for girls to masterbate too. im sure there isnt a girl out there who hasnt tried it, same goes with guys.
its also good to masterbate to find out what things you like best too, its kind of like finding out more about yourself and what your body enjoys most.
maybe, if you're already getting sexual with her she could try it out on you, she'll like the fact that you go crazy when she touches you. lol
well i hope tht helped a little bit :)
good luck
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hi, 17/m
my friend had a party yesterday at a hotel room. At this party, my two friends (who are cousins) were invited. They are amazingly good looking blondes. At this party, alcohol got to everyone- the blonde cosuing started making out, and i was getting rather excited, and amused. My girlfriend saw this and felt uncomfortable and left the hotel room for fresh air.
I talked to her, and she told me that she wasnt comfortable watching them make out, and then we were fine. Also, i kissed both of the blondes. Some of the people saw it, but my girlfriend was not in the room. What do i do? My girlfriend doesnt know. Should i tell her? Or keep it a secret? Obviousely it was a stupid decision on my part, but i was very drunk!
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i think you should tell her. it might make her mad at you and very upset but its not fair. keeping secrets in a relationship is the worse thing you can do. if your gf found out from someone else she is going to feel like you were just using her. and even if she didnt find out what sort of a bf are you if you cant tell her the truth. i know you're probably scared of telling her, but you have to do it. if you do tell her though, dont say it was because you were drunk, that will only make her more upset. say something like 'i know im the biggest dick head ever, and i wish i never did it because now i know that you are the most perfect girl ever, and all i could want is you' abuse yourself. i know it sound silly but girls feel better when you say that sort of stuff. make her feel like she is needed and that you're sorry. using 'i was drunk' as an excuse is very stupid, she wont want to hear that and you'll probably cause her to get more angry at you.
i hope this helped out a bit :)
good luck
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so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year. we live like a half hour away and go to different schools so we only get to see each other like once, twice a week if we're lucky. we've made things work cause we love each other. buuutt i have one problem:
he used to text me all of the time like pretty much everyday during the first 5 months we were dating, after that he barely ever texts me, like im the one who has to text first and sometimes i dont even get a reply or he replies like a day later or something..idk...he says he just doesn't like texting, but i like to talk to him and stuff during the week. some nights we talk on the phone but we do that once a week, if that. i've told him i want to text and stuff but it just seems to go in one ear and out the other and he says if i want to text then to just text him but thats not the point you know? im positive he cares about me alott but i just don't know...im jealous of my friend who has a boyfriend that texts her every day. andd they've been going out for as long as we have. what should i do?
thanks 17/f (link)
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hey! i know exactly how you feel, its happening to me right now. so here is some advice that my mum has given to me lol
guys need something to chase, thats just the way they are. and they like competition, a lot. dont make yourself so available to him, if he asks to see you say no, i know its really hard but you have to try. make him wonder what you're doing. quote 'if you had a endless suply of red jelly beans you're going to try to eat the whole lot and you cant get enough of them, but then you start to get bored of the red jelly beans and you want another colour jelly bean' thats what its like for guys, they're weird i know. they need something new all the time, they like it when girls are hard to get. so maybe if you ignore him for a day or two he might start to want you back. at the moment, i refuse to be the one to text my bf first. if he wants to talk to me he can make the effort in trying to comunicate. its just the way guys are and you have to accept that about them, even if its annoying the crap out of you.
well i hope this helped a bit, and i hope it gets better for you :)
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Well i'm 16 and i have this boyfriend and we've only been going out for about a month and a half but we've been really close friends and not the lil yeah yeah we were close friends whatever type of deal, like we really hung out played video games talked on the phone had classes together, everything, for about 8 months. I know him really well and i get to see him a lot. Like practically everyday, we've done everything from going to the movies on a double date to takin naps together. I'm comfortable with him in public as my boyfriend and comfortable alone and intimate as not so much crazy making out but more opening myself up to him. I've let him get to second base already but i'm not sure if i should let him get further, you know like let him put his hand down my pants or if maybe i should do it to him. I really feel close to this guy, should i wait or would it be ok just to take things a lil further? (link)
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hey, it sounds like you've got a great relationship with him going, it'd be a shame to mess it up. i think relationships work out best if they're not rushed and you both take your time. if you're unsure about what you want to do maybe you should talk to him, comunication is the best thing you can do in a relationship, but if you feel ready to take it a step further and he doesnt mind i say you should go for it.. but i do warn you that having sex can change your relationship dramaticly, oral sex isnt too bad because you're just getting use to each others body's and finding out what you both like the feel of, that sort of stuff. if i were you i'd wait another month before having sex, just to make sure you're not going to regret it. if you do decide to wait maybe you should spend that time waiting by finding out what sexual things he likes the feel of and talk always talk about how you feel with him, if he loves you then he'll be happy to wait until you're ready, and dont ever let someone force you to do something you're unsure about or dont want to do.
i hope this helps and i hope it goes great for the both of you :) stay safe
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This might be a tad long. :\ Anyway, here's the whole story... I dated this boy when I was 13. After a while, he just made me upset because he was a total pervert and kept touching me. So, we broke up. He said he changed, and being the gulible and new-to-dating girl I was, I tried again. This time, I told him PLEASE, no touchy feely stuff until we're deeper into our relationship. Well, I invited him over one day after school so we could just watch a movie. After a few minutes, he tried to kiss me. With tongue, yes. It scared the crap out of me, so I just jumped back. He said he was sorry. I didn't buy it, but I decided to let it slid. The second thing that happened, made me very nervous. There's this other boy at our school who is known for his notorious talent for getting girls into bed.
So, my boyfriend seemed to be getting friendly with him and at first, I didn't think anything of it. I mean, I sort of liked the player boy anyway... Bad, I know. But then in the hallway, I let my boyfriend hug me since I was cold and stuff. Well, this player comes down the hallway with his girlfriend and winks at my boyfriend saying, "Good. One step closer, pal." That made me nervous and angry. I asked what it was about, but my boyfriend just shrugged and replied with, "It's boy stuff."
Eventually, we broke up because I knew what he was planning from the way he was acting. Well, when we broke up, I told him I just didn't like the touchy feely things HE was doing (groping, etc). He told me he thought I was talking about emotions! Touchy feely means exactly what it says and I couldn't believe he used that excuse with me. Now it's our sophomore year and he's telling everyone that I used him! He's given me the nickname of 'Parasite', stating that I suck the life out of a boy and throw him away! And just the other day, he threw something at me and gave me a smug look. I really don't know what to do about this boy and he's really bothering me! What do I do?! (link)
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wow. he sounds like a wanker, im glad you didnt stay with him though. you should never be with someone who doesnt respect what you think and say. im not really sure what you could do about him, i would say just ignore him, but then everyone says that and it doesnt always work. maybe you should try finding someone else, this boy might leave you alone after that. someone who loves you for who you are and wont tollerate other people treating you like crap like this guy does. im not sure what you could do sorry. maybe talk to your parents about it, or a close friend who can stand up for you at school. its always good to talk to people you know well about this sort of stuff. sorry if this doesnt help
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Okay i've heard of guys having an orgasm too quickly, but my ex told me that i do too but to be honest i don't know if i've ever had an orgasm. I know that i get very wet and it gets embarracing, do all girls get that way? I'm scared to have sex with another guy incase he thinks its pure disgusting or something but i don't know whether thats normal for a girl to get really wet. It's kind of confusing ha but i just hate that my beds pure wet after having sex but my ex was used to it n i'm scared incase my next boyfriend or guy i sleep with isn't lol
thanks for your help ha it's a kind of awkward topic i ha (link)
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hey :)
getting wet is completely normal, every girl gets it. and the more wet it is the better the sex. just dont be embarrassed by it because a lot of girls are like it, just think, its better to be wet then too dry. most guys would rather you be wet because its easier for them to get inside you. also, about the orgasming. there are different levels of orgams, some can be so powerful that you just dont want to be touched, or some could be so small that you hardly notice. and orgasming is different for every girl, no one is the exact same. so just dont worry about it, if your next boyfriend loves you then he wont have a problem it :) just take it easy and dont get too stressed out about it. i hope this helped :P
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Okay so i can't get this kid out of my head, we had a thing about three months ago. But now its just compleatly over,we're just friends now. But LATELY..out of randomness, those feelings are coming back really strongly for him! The thing is, i usually can TELL when guys like me, i mean i feel like i have a sixth sence with this, i'm really good at judging it XD. So i keep getting vibes he likes me again and is thinking about me too-thats why I'M thinking about HIM. Because all in all he's not really that great now that i think about it, but for some reason he wont stop getting into my head? I keep having thoughts that he HAS to tell me something- but is to scared too. So i'm wondering have you ever felt this way? And if someones thinking about you- do you think about them as well? If you have these kind of feelings- do you think they're right?Can people have this kind of telepathic thought thing with one another or am i just being weird and taking it too far?
PS: This might not count as anything..but whenever i'm on aim i feel like he wants to talk to me and checks my aways and all that. JUST WEIRD FEELINGS! IDK WHY! Oh yeah and one time i fake signed off (went invisible) and right after i did that he signed off...HMM?! HMM!?
Okay thanks :D!
16/f,he's 15/m btw (link)
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hmm, thats a hard one. maybe he does like you, i think you should ask him. or maybe, if you still like him, you could hang out together one time. go to the movies or just chill in town. i think the only way he'll tell you his thoughts is if he knows you like him too. if you dont show it maybe he's scared of telling because you could regect him. or maybe you could just not worry about the thougts and he might stop acting the way he is. i hope this helps out :)
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