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hate texting
so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year. we live like a half hour away and go to different schools so we only get to see each other like once, twice a week if we're lucky. we've made things work cause we love each other. buuutt i have one problem:
he used to text me all of the time like pretty much everyday during the first 5 months we were dating, after that he barely ever texts me, like im the one who has to text first and sometimes i dont even get a reply or he replies like a day later or something..idk...he says he just doesn't like texting, but i like to talk to him and stuff during the week. some nights we talk on the phone but we do that once a week, if that. i've told him i want to text and stuff but it just seems to go in one ear and out the other and he says if i want to text then to just text him but thats not the point you know? im positive he cares about me alott but i just don't know...im jealous of my friend who has a boyfriend that texts her every day. andd they've been going out for as long as we have. what should i do?
thanks 17/f
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It's hard to break away from a ritualistic thing, something that you're used to-or something that you really love to do. I was in the same boat as you, and yeah- my boyfriend got pretty aggravated that I keep pestering him to text me on a daily basis. His excuse was- "Why cant I just call you- it's easier." Yeah, it is easier, but that's not the point. Texting is a way of communicating, a sweet gesture, and a tangible thing that the two of you share. All I can suggest is try to talk to him about it. Tell him it makes you feel better being able to read and have what he is saying. Not only does it mask any sarcastic tone, awkward silences, or stupid comments, you two can take time and think about what you really want to say and send each other digital messages. Well, I hoped I helped- at least a little :)
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hey! i know exactly how you feel, its happening to me right now. so here is some advice that my mum has given to me lol
guys need something to chase, thats just the way they are. and they like competition, a lot. dont make yourself so available to him, if he asks to see you say no, i know its really hard but you have to try. make him wonder what you're doing. quote 'if you had a endless suply of red jelly beans you're going to try to eat the whole lot and you cant get enough of them, but then you start to get bored of the red jelly beans and you want another colour jelly bean' thats what its like for guys, they're weird i know. they need something new all the time, they like it when girls are hard to get. so maybe if you ignore him for a day or two he might start to want you back. at the moment, i refuse to be the one to text my bf first. if he wants to talk to me he can make the effort in trying to comunicate. its just the way guys are and you have to accept that about them, even if its annoying the crap out of you.
well i hope this helped a bit, and i hope it gets better for you :)
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you can try one of two things:
1- totally ignore him until HE calls or texts you. and once he does (even if it takes him a week) dont answer RIGHT away, give it a few mins and then when you do answer, respond accordingly to whatever he says but keep it short and simple. do this for a few times when HE texts you first. i believe this will make him start missing you and want to start talking more realizing he does miss your time together or chances to talk alot more.
or you can just simply explain everything to him about how you are feeling and tell him you want more from him, tell him that you want him to show you how much he cares.
*meg*
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