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I need to get some!
Alright so me and this girl are together but not dating and shes a very shy girl which means its hard to start doing stuff with her. Im not all in it for the sex but it would be nice to have and get us a lot closer. What can I invite her to do where I can be alone with her long enough to start doing sexual things with her? and how should start? I know making out leads to other shit but like shes so shy and its hard to even kiss her except when I say bye to her so what do I do? also I just want to know what I can invite her to do with me besides watching a movie where we can be alone together please help!!
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bad idea mate
if she wants to have sex she'll tell you, or you could at least talk to her about it. actualy no, you're not even going out. ask her out first, its the right thing to do. ever heard the saying 'guys only think with one thing' well you dont have to be like that. start thinking with your head. you cant expect every girl to just lift up their skirts for you, them girls are called sluts.
dont try to fuck her straight away, if you like her you'll take it slow and start a relationship with her first, and if you do that then maybe you could masterbate more often, it could help release some of your sexual energy.
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You need to grow up and learn that sex isn't something everyone hands out on a silver platter.
This is why girls your age date guys in college. Nothing like a guy who brings out the "boy" in boyfriend.
Its time to grow up, boy. Your goals are at odds with whats best for you. You're so busy scrambling around trying to get laid that you miss the point of what sex is.
You know how I can tell you're mentally still a child?
Your post has nothing about what the girl is like except that shes shy. It has nothing about what she wants, whats on her mind, its just "how can I lure her in"
Which is the funniest part. Children are not attractive, and having the perspective of "I just want sex, I want any sex, I want it now" and treating a girl like an object the way you seem to be doing makes you incredibly unattractive.
You want to get laid? Ask her about herself. Talk to her. Date her. Invest yourself in more than just sex.
If getting laid is your number one priority when you deal with women, one of two things will happen.
a) You'll have a terribly unsatisfying sex life predicated on getting girls intoxicated and getting laid in a way that stands a good chance of landing you in a rape trial down the road. You will feel like a worthless creep who no one wants. You'll pretty much be one too.
b) You will remain a virgin forever.
When all you really care about is sex (which its apparent is the case with you) girls can tell. When you glaze over while she's talking, when you never ask her about herself, when every single time you're with her includes an attempt at sex, you are transparent.
When she knows she doesn't want it and you make it apparent that you do, constantly, you are transparent.
And when you're a few years older than 17, dating girls who aren't so young and stupid that they think that you represent the dating world and that they have to endure the shit you throw their way won't happen. You will become the laughing stock because all of these girls are ready, willing, and eager to have sex, and none of them are having it with you.
That, and if I can smell the desperation over the internet I wonder what the girls who meet you think. Desperation is a stinky cologne.
I'm now going to let you in on the end all be all secret of getting laid and being happy with the results.
Here is is.
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Self improvement. Immature children who don't want to grow up will continue using alcohol and lies to get with chicks well into and even past their college years. I lived with one, he slept with one or two new women a week.
You might be thinking "wow, he was successful!"
Sadly, no, not really. You see, everything was an act. He pretended to give a shit, he sat there one night with a girl and did homework with her, then bitched about it to me for an hour after she left. They slept together the next night, and she never spoke to him again.
Can he fool and lie well enough to get past a girl's defenses quickly? Yeah, with the right kind of girls (the generally stupid, drunk, blonde kind) he could score regularly.
Even these stupid, drunk, blonde girls sobered up in the morning, saw him for the worthless shit he actually was, and walked.
I want you to imagine how lonely this guy is on a daily basis. His friends hang around him for the parties, except one who hangs around him for the same reasons Robin hangs out with Batman. And women avoid him like the plauge.
When he goes to bed at night, feeling alone and pissed off at life, theres no one there to talk to.
When he wakes up in the morning, theres no one looking forward to seeing him.
While he goes through his day, he knows he is going to come home to a house where no one gives a shit what he's been through.
If you spend your time trying to get better at getting laid, you will either fail and not get laid or end up like my room mate.
If you want to portray yourself as worth getting laid when you aren't, you eventually get to learn that looking in the mirror sucks when you realize that you're nowhere near as cool as you can make someone think long enough to fuck you.
Self improvement, on the other hand, does it all.
You become confident. Girls love confidence. You become a more decent guy than you were before. Well, thats a plus. You create attributes about yourself that you look for in others, allowing stronger bonding on more levels between you and others. You draw people in who desire to be around you. This includes women.
I don't know if you can grasp this, but in the real world women want to have sex too, but they are generally pickier (the decent ones, anyway). Lying won't intrinsically make you one of the people these girls want to sleep with. Self improvement will.
And personally speaking, there is nothing like waking up the next morning next to a girl who's thrilled to find herself lying next to me.
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This girl doesn't sound like the type of girl who would do anything sexual with someone who isn't her boyfriend. She also doesn't sound like the type of girl who would give herself to someone who hasn't been her boyfriend for very long.
You say you're not all in it for the sex. So get to know her and try to further your relationship with her before you even think of that. Honestly and truly, sex is not something to be taken lightly.
You have a hand; use it.
But to answer your question, you could take her on a walk. It would not only be a way to really talk to each other, but it could warm her up to you.
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haha alright well if you say she's a shy girl then you probably wont get anywhere unless you make her your girlfriend. You say you're not dating? well let me tell you MOST girls will not do sexual things with guys they're not dating. So yeah you can try to get her alone and start kissing her and all that but what I think is that shes not just shy, but she doesn't WANT to do sexual things with you because you're not her bf. Are you sure you're not in it for the sexual things? You don't just want to hook up? If not, then why don't you ask her out. That's usually the normal way to do things and what most girls want you to do...So i guess if you want to be happy you gotta make her happy first. Trust me, I'm a girl. and I know that doesn't answer your question but really I don't think there's anything you can invite her to do if she doesn't want to do anything.
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