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Hi All, My name is Tara, 22 yrs breathing, and living in Houston, TX. BORN AND RAISED... I am currently a Junior at UH, and work at a school. I am an education major... so as you can see my life is devoted to service and I love watching my students grow in character and learning abilities.... I will try to answer advice honestly and to the best of my abilities....I've been through alot of ups and downs, but they have yet to stop me... I was that go to friend when my friends had problems as well...
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There is a guy down the street, he is over 20 years older than me. I am 16. He is really good looking, funny, cool, calm, and collective. We have the same interests (movies, motorcycles, cars). He sits next to me sometimes at parties. We have had conversations about stuff like Cialis (ED medication, we were joking about it), and once Dirty Jobs with Mike Rowe came on and we joked about the subliminal messaging in that title ;). I took his chair once when he went to the bathroom, and when he came back he laughed and totally pretended to sit on me and put his butt all in my face. I laughed back. Everytime he walks his dog, I go outside for some reason, and he talks to me. Once, I had texted him and he never responded. I went outside the same day, and he cut his walk short (he always walks to the same spot, this time he stopped and turned around waaaay before that) and he came and talked to me. He said he got my text and answered my question about motorcycles, then we talked about age and how I was sick of being young because I needed a parent signature on EVERYTHING. He said the government was just protecting me from myself. I laughed. I have a friend who is helping try and get more friendly with him. Me and her are planning on inviting him over tonight to help us looking for bikes online since he knows more about them than we do. I hope we can be flirty. Can you give me some advice? I want to be able to be flirty with him and be on a more than friend, summer fling, level. I know the age difference is illegal and bad, but I'm not talking about sex or anything. A kiss would be nice. Can you help me? He is single and lives alone, two doors down on my street.
If I am reading this correctly it says the man is 20+ years older than you and you want to kiss him. Are you trying to get the man put in jail???? No bueno! I can understand you being a attracted to the man, I almost started dating a guy who was 10 years older then me, I was 20, he was 30... and let me tell you, he was nice and all, but at the end of the day, us younger girls have a WHOLE LOT more living to do while they are settling in their lives that they have. You can't teach a old dog new tricks and it won't be long before they tell you what you can and can't do and try to be extra controlling. Whatever you decide to do, I hope you just think it through logically and be super careful....
Ok how can i make this short.. me and this guy dated for 7 months.. and i broke up with him because i thought I could have someone better.. and then i got back together with him like 3 times and then i broke up with him.. then just around my bday.. we started gettin all good again.. cause i missed him.. and then i found out from his friend that he had a gf.. well i felt like i could die.. i was so upset i cried everynite and i made myself so upset I threw up.. all the time.. I really love him it seemed.. and it was scary.. but then they broke up and i thought it was a chance for me then he got a new gf.. and i thought i was over him but i totally wasnt i still would cry everytime i thought about it all.. then she lied to him so they broke up.. but he wont give me a chance now and i really love him.. i really no it.. But i have about 5 guys after me now.. and i cant choose because i really love none of them i still love the other guy.. he says he just wants us to be bestfriends.. and its killin me i love him.. but its like he has no feelings for me now after 7 months.. i just dont no what to do* help me out..What should I do?
I guess what they say is true, "You never know what you have until it's gone....". So my best advice to you is to let him ULTIMATELY know how much you feel.... trust me, if you don't, you'll regret it for the rest of your life. I mean if he loved you alot, then he should be able to give you another chance. But bare in mind it's completely up to him.... but at least give it a shot.... and if you think about it, your not gonna loose your life over this or him, at least you'll still have his friendship. You need to let him know how you feel and that your sorry.
Do guys just want girls who are hot? Or something more?
No, they just want sex. It's very hard to find the guys who just wants a girl to love that he ACTUALLY likes. You just have to keep searchin for them!
This guy and I were going out and he gave me 3 chances but I messed up and now he left me with no sympathy! If I try and talk with him about it, he doesn't listen. How do I get over him?
If he's giving you chances, he's willing to try to work it out, but actually he didn't really care. That's why he probably why he left without sympathy, the best thing you can do is move on. TRUST ME it takes a long time to heal. If you want an estimate of how long, I'd say if you really loved him, about 6 months- 1 year.... so keep your head up high and good luck!
I'm a really shy, boring, ugly girl. Don't say I'm not ugly, believe me, I look awful - frizzy hair, horrid skin, big teeth - you'd be sick if you saw me. I don't have a life. I don't ever go out or have fun anymore because the friends I have are so immature and I don't really like going out with them because they always end up bullying me or asking random guys out for me, it's so embarrassing, and the boys say something like, "No way, she's a minger". I can't make more friends because I hate talking so much and I feel sick just thinking about it. I have 2 best ever friends in the world but I moved house and I can only speak to them on the phone, I want to move back because I hate it here - but my mum won't budge. I really want a boyfriend and I'm lonely but I'm so ugly and boring that no guy would ever be interested. Why is it I'm so ugly, what have I done to deserve this? I hate being me. I don't know what to do because I can't change the way I look and I've always been shy. I'm 14 and never had a bf, and I know I'm not the only one who hasn't but I feel ready. No boy would ever like me :/ I don't really see the point in life because I never have fun, every week is the same, and my grades are slowly going down at school because I can't sleep at night any more. I just want to feel loved.. sorry if that sounds pathetic but that's what I feel like. They say there's someone for everyone out there, but I guess some people were made to be single. I don't want to be single, and with Valentine's Day coming up I feel even more depressed. Also if you can help, I really need to 'let myself go', like I want to have fun but I get worried I'll look stupid so I don't do it, how can I stop being scared of everything Sorry I have so many stupid problems but please help :'(
Wow, your story really did touch me, you sound sooo much like me it's not even funny. You know, I've only had one bf in my life, and that was a year ago, and now I am lonely too. Yeah like what you said, You gotta let go, and also let god. My friends and I call it "Let Go, and Let God" Let god handle things in your life. When he's ready for you to have a boyfriend, then sure enough he'll be right there in your face. You need to go out, have fun...I know it's hard when your alone but the more you worry about your problems, the sicker your gonna get. You need to be concerned about your schoolwork!!!! That's the most important thing! What if a man comes and decides he wants to leave, and you have kids, whose gonna take care of the children??? and how??? You've got to learn to love yourself too first. I don't like my looks and weight and all, but I have to deal with it. God made me like this for a reason, so I tuff it out. Even though it seems like you have no purpose, your here for a reason, and through God's eyes, were all special! So always remember that God Loves You and I do too! *sMiLeZ*, if you ever need someone to talk to, I'm always here! I hope this somewhat helpz! God Bless And Beebyes!
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ok i really like this guy and one of his friends came up to me and he was like your goin out with him ( the guy i like ) and i was like WhAT! so i dont no if im goin out with him or not i dont no what to do should i jsut pretend liek i dont no wats goin on or talk to him about it??? this is so confusing i mean i like him alot!! and i have waited for him to ask me out forever!!! so yeah what do i do beacuse what if i go up to him and talk to him about it and hes like what are you talkin about? id look like a fool!! haha so yeah plz help me im really confused
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Tellem "WHAT'S UP PLAYAH!?!"....no jux talk to him in private and ask him what's going on between you two... what's the worst that can happen your not gonna loose your life over this and if you never find out his response, you'll never know! SO JUX ASK! GOOD LUCK! God Bless! :)
sorry this is so long but i REALLY need ALOT of help...please read it...=(
my friend told me that my boyfriend was cheating on me with TWO other girls..we dont go to the same school but we see eachother ALOT and her cousin goes to his school and said that he has other girlfriends. i love my boyfriend so much and just before she told me all this my boyfriend was on the phone telling me how much he loves me and stuff. i asked his friend about it because hes my really good friend too and he said he didnt know anything about it and he doesnt think my boyfriend would do something like that to me. i dont know. he wasnt home last night when i called so it kind of made me suspicious. i'm going to call him today and ask him about it but i dont know how to ask him. i dont know if i should believe him if he says no either. what if he is? i dont THINK my friend would lie to me, but i never even met her cousin. and lately my boyfriends kind of been blowing me off though to be honest. like hes too busy for me. so i dont know im really confused. i dont know like if he says no im not cheating on you if i should believe him because what if he is? but i dont think he would admit it if he was. not many guys would be like OH YEA I AM CHEATING! you know? please help me..
Look at your options: You either since here in misery knowing wether or not he is cheating on you, OR, you jux ask him and at least me sure. If you study hard enough, you'll realize your options are limited. If he has been blowing you off, I think that kinda signals it. It's happened to me and yes he was cheating on me. So don't be a fool, let him know what the deal is....Good Luck!
theres this guy and i really like him alot. and i think he likes me too. i dont know if i should wait till he asks me out or if i should ask him out. i really like him alot im like in love with him. what should i do? he seems to like me but im not sure if he likes me like i like him. should i take my chance and ask him out? or should i wait till he asks me out?
Yes! Yes! Yes! Take the chance! Let him know how you feel! If you don't ever tell him or ask him, you'll never know how he feels in return.... and if you think about it what's the worst that can happen? Your not gonna loose your life over this! So take the chance! Good Luck and I hope this helps! God Bless!
ok so theres this guy and hes rele nice and i like him a lot. He has a good personality and is into cross country and on the math team also just like i am. We go to two different schools (i go to an all girls school and he goes to the all guys school rite next door to my school.) And noth schools math teams practice together so i c him every tuesday and thursday. Im always so excited when it comes around to tues or thurs. But i dont have enough confidence to talk to him yet. Any advice on how to talk to him without making it obvious or making a fool out of myself? Anything would really be appreciated!
Thanx in advance
So what's the problem? Jux talk to him! Let him know who you are and that you've been noticing him around. Ask for a number or somthing! Don't be scared to approach him or anything cause what's the worst that can happen? Your not gonna loose your life over this...and if you don't let him know anything, he'll never know you even exist! So don't be shy, just say hi! :D
(16/F) Alrighty then, there is this guy that I've liked since last year. (name is...Frank) I have told Frank that I like him three time to his face, and we are not going out. I was wondering if it would be weird if I got him a Christmas present. I know its not Christmas yet, but I want to figure this out before hand. Please tell me what you think. Thanks in advance.
Signed-
Just Wondering
I think you should!
Okay, here's the thing. I have a friend who used to really really like this guy. She was like obsessed! :o It annoyed me sometimes...well, onto the point. I like him now, and my friend likes somebody else. It's been quite a while since she liked him. Well, now I like him. But I'm afraid my friend might still like him, plus I'm not sure he likes me back, even though I think so. Please answer, and please be realistic. Don't be all like "Forget your friend, ask him out!!11"
Thanks in advance...
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Ummm... I dunno how close you and ur friend is but I would ask how she feels about him and how would she feel knowing you like the guy she used to like, and if she says it's no prob, ask the other guy if he likes you and dun be afraid to ask....and if you never ask, you'll never find out how he felt! Well good luck! Beebyes!
hey, well i went out with this one guy for like 9 1/2 months we did fucking everything together! we spent every day together and its not been a month sense we broke up and i want him bak, but the thing is that i have a new boyfriend...hes a sweetheart and everything, but hes a junior when im only a freshman...my new boy is great but i want my old one bak...i juss want things bak to teh way that they used to b, bc now i dont think i can ever b happy again!!! i miss him so much i still love him and i want him bak to bad...but the thing is idk if he wants me bak...i feel really bad about this whole situation...please help me!!!
P.S.- dont tell me to move on!!! i would if i could trust me, but he is all that my heart wants!!! HELP!!!!
Then TELL HIM! Don't sob over him cause then you'll have to spend the rest of your life wandering if he ever wanted you back.....and if he loves you like he said he did, then he should be more than willing to take you back. But if you cheated on him or something, then I dunno why he would take you back, but if you did, that's how you can really tell he loves you. God Bless & Good Luck! TELL HIM B4 IT'Z TOO LATE! ~Beebyes~
i dunno wat to do i liked this guy alot and he did for a while and i feel like he lead me on and today he asked out this other girl im sooo hurt wat should i do??
Let it go! It's not worth the wait, try to find someone else you may like.....good luck! beebyes!
i need a homecoming date and all these girls wanna go with me but i dont no who to take. i like them all but none more then the other. i dont wanna make ne of them feel bad. wuts a good way to pick the right one?
A good way to pick the right one is by not picking ANY! Go by yourslef, and you can dance with ALL OF THEM! Hang out wich cha boiz, and yall can dance with them all. Then they can't get mad cause they got their dance in! Hope this helpz, EnJoY YoUr HoMeCoMiNG!
me 15 boyfriend 17
ok..well i cheated on my boyfreind twice..n he says he loves me alot n i belive him n i really care for him alot...i jst don't know y i did it! but i talked to him tonite about it n he said if i ever cheated on him hed dumb me...so it was jst a plan out emotional convo...n i told him he shouldn't love me cuz i think i might mess up n cheat on him...cuz thats wat happened w/ the last guy that meant alot to me...well i'm scared that i'm goind to cheat on him n i don't want that to happen...but then i don't want to lose him cuz i really love him alot...wat should i do?
First of all, I'd like to congratulate you on being honest about cheating, it's takes a big person to do somthing like that. But now to the bad news. That's not coo, you know that if it was vice-versa you'd have a fit, and would prolly wanna dump him....so you need to let him know what your doing, and let him decide for himself what he wants to do, and if your lucky enough, he could possibly take you back. Hope this somewhat helps! God Bless, Beebyes!
I really like this guy... lets call him M. Well M is SO incredibly nice, and hes cute and funny too! We're good friends, so he's usually easy to talk to. I wanna talk to him, about being more than friends though, because I really like him... Well, everytime I go to talk to him, I can't. I guess he intimidates me because he's so GREAT. How do I approach him without seeming nervous or unconfident?
BeEh YoU! Don't let him go gurl! He sounds like a keeper! Be calm and jux approach him....if you really really think about it, what is the worst that can happen? Are you gonna lose your life over this? NOPE! Boiz come and go but FRIENDS are forever! So yeah, take a chance, if you never ask you'll never find out, but if he says no, who's loss is it? HIS OF COURSE! Take a chance! May God Bless and Good Luck! Beebyes!
im 13 and never had a boyfriend. How old were you when you got your first boyfriend??
I was 14 one month before turning 15....boiz are so complicated! :-D But can't live without them...
okay this guy i love him truly with all of my heart and i really wanna marry him we were together for over 2 yrs. and well we broke up last thursday.. and well he told me that he truly loves me that he wants to be back with me but he dosen't want me 2 hurt him anymore which i admit that i've done some stupid things but i'm truly srry for them and it would never happen again. but the thing is their's this other girl that sorta like him and he likes her a little bit but i can't stand seeing them together and i told him that i can't seeing them together and well he said that' he's doing it for us to see that i'm really the one for him i don't know what to do
and to make matters worse i think i'm pregnant
If he said it's his test, then your jux gonna have to accept it. Love takes time, Love is Patient....but you think you pregnant? You need to get it confirmed first and then let him know if you are or not. I hope this somewhat helped...God Bless! Good Luck! Beebyes!
i am in 8th grade and i never had a b/f and no one has ever asked me out!!! is that normal or am i like idk weird or sumtin
Yeah it's normal....nothing is wrong with you. Love is very blind....so just keep on smiling cause you never know who's falling in love with it. I promise you it works. I finally got a boyfriend at the end of my 9th grade year but we broke up. Now I can't get one either. But I say stay true to yourself, and be independent! Then later in life you'll be more successfull! Good Luck! And God Bless! Beebyes!
does age matter cause im 13 almost 14 n i like a 17 year old n a 18 year old n my friend is bout ready to get me n the 18 year old out..plz help me
That's not bad as long as he respects you and your body (as a friend I mean). I liked a guy who is turning 21 and I am 16, but he won't mess with me because we are 5 years apart, and because he respects me and my family. So we are so-called jux friends. I hope this helps. Age ain't nothing but a number but beeeeeee careful! Good Luck! God Bless! Beebyes!