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ok to guys out there plese help, would it sound all clingy and stuff if i asked my boyfriend if he loves me more than he loved his ex?
please help
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um yeah sorry it would sound a little clingy and needy. maybe not if you guys have been togethor for like a year or more. but in my opinion i think you dont need to ask him this. it might sound like you cant trust him. hope i helped and plz rate me thanks ♥ terri!!!
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What I'm dealing with here is an 8-month relationship with a girl 6 years younger than me. I'm 26, she's 20... I treat her with a lot of respect and am always there when she needs me, and she is always there for me, too, up until this point. Prior to what happened, our relationship really seemed 50/50. Her mother, who is in bad health, has decided that I'm "controlling, possessive, insensitive, lacking all social manners" and has told this girl that if she ever thinks about marrying me, she will not approve, and if she gets pregnant by me, she'll be disowned.
I feel this is totally wrong. My parents would not do this to me, and I am at a loss to understand it. She and I are happy with each other, at least that's what she tells me. She says she loves me "more than you know," but cannot be torn anymore. She says she wants to be friends, and "maybe someday" things can be different. She says she doesn't want her mother to die resenting me, because that would make her resent me. She also says she "cannot function" without her family relationship and needs "space and time."
What's strange is her mother doesn't have a problem (or so she says) with us being friends and going to a movie now and then. I'm totally confused. What are your thoughts on the matter? (link)
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well being married is way different than being friends. i mean being married is being with someone you love and have a commitment to respect and honor them with love. friends is love but not that strong feeling of love. so yes i see why she wouldn't have a problem with you guys being friends. but it is pretty wrong for her mother to do that to her. her mother is suppost to be their for her and respect her decisions in life. after all she doesn't run the both of them. but yes it is true that you wouldn't want your mother to resent her and disown her. so if you really love her you will wait till when she is ready. maybe you should try and bond with her mother. then you guys could get married evetually. hope i helped and im very sorry about your situation and sad at the same tie because her mother should realize that you guys are in love and that you care for one another. ♥ terri!!! plz rate me thanks!!!
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well, my best friend is a guy. here's the deal. you see, i liked him for a while and he knew it. so he kind of led me on because he knows me well enough that i'm willing to do anything for love. (yes, i'm very dumb...) he also has a girlfriend and for a long time, he tried to make her jealous by also hanging out with me. of course, i found out everything that he was doing (a little late). and i was really mad at myself for letting him do that because all he was doing was using me to get her to want him. so now they're madly in love and i've moved on. i even put in my two weeks notice at my job because they both work there. but here's the problem...lately, i've been getting along better with my other guy friends and he has a problem with it. he keeps telling me he doesn't care and it's my life, not his, but i can tell it bothers him. what should i do? it's like he uses me as a back-up "girlfriend" just in case he loses her. what do i do? (link)
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well now you no never to go back to him. it wasn't your fault though about him with his other girlfriend you didnt no so whatever you do dont blame yourself. um i hope you really didnt like your job if your going to give it up all because of him but if you did really like it then dont leave because of him because then hell no he can make you do anything. hope i helped if you need any more help im me at T3RRI2010 thanks buh bye
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There is this boy I have been going with for two months and his mom found a new house and is moving. When they move he will be tranferring to a new school. They keep setting these dates of when it's going to happen. Every time that date comes they don't move. When I found out he was moving I cried for two whole days. I really love him and don't want him to leave. Then he asked me if he actually does leave will we still be together. I really need some advice on if I should stay with him. (link)
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well just call him and write him. or even talk to him online. then maybe you might even get to go visit him if he donjt live that far away on like the weekends. but if you know youll never see eachotha or talk then i think your gonna have to do of what you fear-brake up-which will of course be hard but stay togethor i think and in the end if it dont work then say your goodbyes. afterall youll never know what its like till you give it a try. hope i hellped buh bye &hearts terri!!! plz rate me high thanks!!!
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Well as usual.. Me n this guy like each other... AlOT!!! like alot alot! && well me n him are really into each other but we go to 2 diff. high schools. We talk alott butt I have been grounded nhaven't been able to. I know he still really cares for me, but how can we make this work until I get ungrounded?! Please help! Give me any other advice as you want. (link)
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well like your doing rite now talk to him online until your ungrounded. or you could secretly call him when your parents arent home. or if you have a cell phone call him on that and say your going out with some friends. hope i helped and plz rate me thanks buh bye &hearts terri!!!
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I have been dating my boyfriend for alittle over a month and we are starting to fall for eachother alot. Last night he told me that he was scared because I have so much power over him and that he was scared that I might lead him somewhere wrong. What does this mean? I really don't understand! (link)
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well i think it means that he is scared to love you because he doesnt want to get hurt. this could have happened to him in the past or to someone he knew well. he thinks your to good to be true. hope i helped plz rate me high thanks!!! ♥ terri!!!
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theres this boy called Aaron i feel alot for him but he doesnt like me and hes going out with one of my best friends i dont no what to do because i want him to like me and i want him to be mine!
thankyou Natalie x (link)
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well if he doesnt like you there is nothing to do you should just be happy that you guys are friends even though you want so much more for you two. you should try and take your mind off of him by hanging out with some other friends. after all you dont want to hurt your best friend by dating this guy. so just keep your eyes out for someone thats single and that you really like. hope i helped and plz rate me!!! ♥ terri!!!
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I really need someones opinion cos i cant figure this out. me and my guyfriend talk more everyday and now we're pretty close and i know i like him more than a friend. But i dont know if he likes me that way. He makes fun of me a lot and says hes kidding when i get annoyed. and he doesnt make fun of other girls that hes friends with. and he stares at me ALL THE TIME. what should i do? It seems like he likes me sometimes but i dont want to do anything that would ruin our friendship especially if he doesn't really like me.
thanx soo muchh (link)
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oh yeah it sounds like he definetly likes you. well @ least from what you told me it sounds like it. so go ahead and flirt back!!! hope i helped buh bye!!! ♥ terri!!!
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14/f so i've been with my boyfriend for half a year.. and umm we made out a little i guess... so we were lying on my bed...watching tv and whatnot. his hand was on my pants playing with the belt hoops and suddenly he put his hand down my pants slightly...then he went farther and i kinda jumped...and told him no so he was okay with it...soo its a couple of days later..and i'm hanging out with him... he has his arms around me from behind and then his hands drop around my stomach and lower..then he puts his hands on my legs and he moves his hands... brushing up against /there/ and then he suddenly moves his hands to my stomach again...then few minutes later he puts his hands against THERE again...and i kinda got stiff...and i told him not to do it again.. i dunno.... so im just confused. in my mind i wouldn't mind if he did it but my parents said that im too young to do anything below the neck so.. yea and thats stuck in my head so i'm just stuck in middle of wondering what to do.. so..
the next time he does that..what do I do? break up with him or seriously tell him 'NO'. yeah..
lately hes getting a little weird..or horny i guess? cuz when we hang out...he's always behind me pushing my ass into him and whatnot... or like..he pushed me up into a table and talked to people while he was between me..then he would come closer and kiss me while leaning over the table a little too much.. almost like the missionary position. yeahhhh. i dunno. i'm just..blah right now. i don't want to have sex because that ruins a relationship...if you dont get enough or if you do it too much. gah. i dunno! (link)
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tell him that when you say no that means no. say your not ready for that type of relationship and that he needs to respect you. if he doesnt listen then your gonna have to tell him its over. hope i helped!!! buh bye ♥ terri!!!
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Sooo along time ago i like this boy jack a whollle lot!!! And now... a year later... me and him started going out.... I dont do any drugs or smoke or anything. Andi knew he smoked cigs.. but i can deal...and then i find out he smokes weed.... once again i can deal...just as long as he dont do it around me. But now im seeing that hes a lil too obsessed with weed ...and now i find out he does dip. I DONT WANNA KISS THAT!!
I really loves him and ive waited so long for this , but the dip and stuff crossed the line .... I dont know if i wanna break up with him, cus i love him ...but it seems a little out of control. PLEASE HELP! (link)
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um tell him that he has to pick between his drugs and you. you are way more inportant than them!!! if he picks his drugs which he shouldnt then youll know that it wasnt ment to be so dont get upset your doing the right thing. hope i helped!!! buh bye!!! ♥ terri!!!
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18/f/ohio
I was wondering if anyone would know what I could possibly get my 25 year old boyfriend for christmas. Its not really that far away and I would like some ideas so that I will know how much i should save up. Does anyone have any suggestions?? I rate high. Thank you for your time. (link)
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well maybe you could get him a watch or you could try talking to his frriends and have them see what he wants. i dont really know. wuts he like? um if you guys dont hyave any pictures done togehtor you could go and get them done together. hope i helped!!! buh bye!!! ♥ terri!!!
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Ok Me and My boyfriend broke up yesterday due to he liked another girl! It broke my heart, I was mad, and I could have pinched his head off. But now he acts like he likes me AGAIN! Like when I was sitting at lunch today with some girls he kept looking at me for long periods of time. He does that even when I pass him in the hall. And when he sees me on the bus he will look for me and when he sees me he will smile. So Whats going on???!?!? Signed Confused! (Smarty Pants will be reported.) (link)
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well maybe he regrets breaking up with you or maybe he looks over at you to see how your taking it and that your okay! hope i helped!!! ♥ terri!!!
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Flirtingg...
Okay..so on saturday my best friend is having a party and her cousina nd I met over the summer and I had a crush on him but theres this other guy that I wanna make jelous and soo do you have any ideas on how I can flirt with the guy from the summer.Btw 13/f and my brother will be there
Well I dont really want him to get jealous..I dont really know how to say it..I realllllly like him ALOT and have for 3 years..but he likes another girl so I was just kindda thinking that like I could try to flirt with another guy to kind off makee him think im not wrapped around his finger or something...sorry this is really confusing and if you atleast try to help you get a 5. (link)
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well just hang wit him and kind of keep talking bout him when around this guy and give hima hug itll really make him jealous!! hope i helped buh bye!!!
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This is going to be long... BEAR WITH ME!
I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half now, and we are very much in love. Just like any other couple, we have our fights and our ups and downs.
A few weeks ago, at my homecoming dance a friend of mine was driving me and a large group of my friends back to a girls house for a sleepover. (Don't worry, there were no guys sleeping over) In the front seat there was a guy sitting there from another school. He used to go to my highschool but was transfered out, not sure why though. Anyway, we were tall talking in the car, and I said something and the kid in the front seat turned around and turned on the light and said "I want to get a good look at you". We were talking about random things for about 20 minutes then we got to the girls house I was staying over at, and I left.
A few days later, he added me as his friend on myspace, then we started talking alot online. We realized we had SO much in common. We like the same foods, have the same aspirations, he lives RIGHT next door to my aunt, alot of the same beliefs... About after a week or two of talking online he said to me "I'm so in love with you". I figured he meant the kind of I love you that you'd say to your close friends. And I was said "Yeah, I'm sure". He said "No, I really do. You're the most amazing girl I've ever met. I talk to you more than other girls. You're beautiful, sweet.. Everything I could ever hope for in a girl". He does know that I have a boyfriend and that we've been together for a while and that we love eachother. He says he doesn't want to get in the way of our relationship.. But he is.
I've found my self slowly but surely falling for this guy, and it sucks. But I've noticed a few things about him.. Everything he says doesn't seem sincere. He tells me how much he likes me yadda yadda yadda... But then he goes and says the same thing to other girls. So, at this point I'm thinking to myself that I'm just another girl to him.. Nothing special. I'm trying to not think about him because I DO love my boyfriend dearly.. But I keep thinking about this boy. And I hate it.
I need help to stop thinking about him.. I don't want to stop talking to him completely because he's really nice and a great person to talk to. I'm so confused... What do I do? I'm not about to ruine my year and a half relationship for something I don't know is going to even last... I'm tired of taking chances. (link)
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i think he likes you not loves you because you say he says this to other girls too. definetly dont ruin it wit your boyfriend, youve been togethor for a long time. its not worth it to ruin it with your boyfriend. well for this other guy tell him that you like him as a friend but you dont feel the same way about him. tell him that you love your boyfriend and im not going to give it up for some fake love that i know wont last long. hope i helped and good luck!!! buh bye!!! ♥ terri!!!
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hello, i need help. guys just dont like me anymore. and im depressed, my best friend tells me things will be ok but i feel so alone. all i do is cry. its not looks, because guys hit on me and stuff, just like once they get to know me then run, if you have any advice please help.. (link)
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well show them the fun and exciting side of you and always be yourself!!! if they dont like you then they arent worht your time and they probably like you better as friends. dont worry though hope i helped buh bye!!! ♥ terri!!!
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ok this is my dilemma.there is this guy called rick in both my english and history clases.he looks at me a lot.and when i say something in class.he at times smiles at me like his proud of me or something.its wierd cause now am thinking about him A LOT.him and me as a couple and am not really sure if i even like him.DO I LIKE HIM OR DO I JUST LIKE THE ATTENTION HIS GIVING ME OR BOTH./AND DOES HE LIKE ME ANYWAY
i am so confused.help me out here guys.
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well yeah i think he does like you and i think you do like him too!!! you still also love the attention from him too. ♥ terri!!!
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my boyfriend is sort of moving too fast for me. we've made out but he was trying to really touch my the whole time. i liked it for a while.then is just got annoying. i love him more then like..i think¿ what should i do? (link)
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well the next time this happens tell him that your not ready to go this far and you wanna take it slow. if he respects you and cares for you then he will go slow but if he doesnt listen then he doesnt deserve you and you need to tell him its over. hope i helped and good luck!!! buh bye!!!
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Hey advicenators! =P
What do you think should be the curfew for a 15 year old girl? I'm asking this because I'm going to the movies with my guy friend and my parents want me home at 10pm. I'm a very trustworthy person and I WON'T have sex with him, that's for sure. He's only a friend. I'm kinda pissed about this because I want to stay out later, but they're strict & say only 10pm. I know I'm lucky because some kids can't even go out with friends yet. But, what do you guys think? Thanks. (link)
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well in my opinion i think it should be at least 11:30 or maybe even midnite. you should try having a talk wiht your parents and be like im very responsible and im not going to have or do anything with him because im only 15 and sex is something you do when you love them. somehting like that. hope i helped!!! buh bye!!!
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Hey. I'm 13/m and I accept none of that "teenagers don't know love" crap. Maybe most teenagers don't, but I'm not most teenagers. I had a friend from science class. Long story short, over the summer, I realized that I loved her, I told her, she didn't love me back, I experienced The Void, and pretty much every new true emotion, I couldn't get her out of my head, and then when school started, things were awkward. I can't think of any other way to describe it. It just felt awkward. Anyway, I talked to her about that yesterday, and she agreed. So now we just forgot anything ever happened and we're back as regular friends now. I had felt like crap for a really long time, and I seemed to screw absolutely everything up. Well, now that all this pressure is off of me, I feel a lot better and I'm back to my regular happy goofy self again. Which is good. Except I feel strangely empty inside. Just a tiny pit of blackness in my happy heart. It feels nothing like The Void at all. Just... emptiness. Why? What is it? What's all this about? Thanks in advance...
By the way, here are my standards on your answers: I will NOT always rate a 5, I will rate whatever I find appropriate. I will not always rate anyway, but I will try. I will not hesitate to give you a 1 or report you, I have been responsible for a number of permanent bans. So no smartass answers. And just a matter of personal interest, try to use proper grammar. Please. (link)
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well its a feeling thats telling you that you cant love her and so your feeeling empty and lonely. personally i think you were a little too young to be feeling these emotions it was probably a feeeling of just liking her more than any other person. well what you should do is give yourself some space from her. dont be mean about it by ignoring her but just try hanging out with some other friends. this will make your feeeling of emptyness go away because you should probably forget these strong feelings for her. hope i helped buh bye! IF YOU NEED MORE HELP ABOUT THIS IM ME SOMETIME AND WE CAN TALK MY S/N IS T3RRI2010!!!
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I went over to my boyfriend's house yesterday and everything was great except for when he was out working he said something about manpower and I (jokingly) said "where?" He didn't realize I was joking and we got in a fight about it. I told him I didn't mean it and I was joking and everything, but when we were on the phone later he said even though I said I was joking and swore to it that he still took it seriously and it really hurt him. (He works alot and he doesn't have a great homelife.)
So today he called me and we were gonna go to the mall with my friend and her crush even though he was supposed to watch a race with his dad at 6. When I got off the phone with him to go up the street to my friends to ask if we had a ride he called me back and said he couldn't go. Later, after calling his house phone and finding out his line was disconnected I called his cell phone and he said that he couldn't go because he was grounded because when his dad said he wouldn't take him to the mall he went off on him. Now his line is disconnected and I'm not allowed to come over or anything.
The thing is, I think Justin's still a little mad about what I said yesterday. He's acting different and upset or sad or something. I don't know what to do about it, because when I ask him what's wrong he'll just say nothing. I feel so bad about what I said and it's really getting to me that he's not acting the same. Anyone have any advice on what to do or such? Thanks, sorry this is long but I will rate all answers! (link)
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look him in the eyes and telling him that you were joking and that you know he is upset about what you said. if he doesnt believe you then maybe he is just a little stressed and needs a little space. hope i helped!! buh bye!! for any more help im me at T3RRI2010!!!
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