Hi everyone I'm Sean. im 14, very athletic and all of my friends come to me for advice so it gave me the idea of coming here to help everyone I can out. if you need me outside of advicenators you can look up my facebook: sean hoel or send me an AIM...but only if u neeed it cuz i dont want any spam lol.
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hi.
i need some help. i am currently dating this guy. for my situation he knows i like him and i know he likes me. we've told eachoter and we've gone out on a date. but the other night we had a "talk" and he just kinda said that he doesnt think i really do like him...and he went on to explain that i don't show it. well how do i show it? because i don't really get to see him that much. [we go to differnt school and we just work together so i don't wanna be all flirty and shit with him at work] so i'm not sure how else to show i like him.
any suggestions? (link)
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well the majority of the time you do see him (at work) your not flirty and shit. so most of the time he sees that side of you, and he comprehends that as you not liking him. so I would say to hell with it and just act around him at work, the same way you would alone.
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me and my b.f were going for 6 months almost and we broke ( he broke up with me ) and he got a g.f but ( we loved each other soo much ) and he told me he still liked when we were talking and i said i did to but w.e and he has a g.f and i have a b.f but i still love him soo much like im crazy about him and i dont no what to do ????? (link)
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it doesnt matter what you guys used to have, probly not the answer your looking for but 9 times out of 10 if a couple breaks up it will not work getting back together. the same things eventually happen and then one of you goes "oh yea this is why we broke up". now you guys can still be friends and all but you got to remember that there was a reason for the breakup...unless hes a complete ass and broke up for no reason, and in that case, he isnt worth your time.
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14/f
so i like this guy and i dont know if he likes me
how do i show him i do?
and how do i know if he does? (link)
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yea you could just talk to him here and there, but dont come on strong, u gotta play hard to get to find out if he likes u. if you are talking to him and say "well im gonna go" and he says "aww, or "dont go" then he likes u. and it is a good idea to send a friend in to ask him wut he thinks of u.
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Ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a month and he says he really loves me and I really love him, but then all the sudden he decides to go to the movies with another girl? He says they want to hang out cause they haven't seen each other in a long time, and don't get me wrong I totally trust him. But I just don't know what to do I mean why the movies of all places? ughh. this sucks. I dont know what to do anymore. (link)
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this seams like an honest case of just catching up with a friend. but, if i were you i wouldnt let him hang out with her toooo much. you never know what they could be doing. the easiest way to tell is if attitude changes, like if he doesnt talk to you the same way, or he doesnt talk to you as much. hope it helps
peace
Seanx
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for like a year and 3 months, and I really love him, but lately we have been arguing a lot! and it's not like once a week it is probably everyday. and it is over little tiny stuff. and i just dont know what to do anymore. do you have any suggestions? I know it is a kinda stupid question i would just like somebody else's opinion.
thanks. :) (link)
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well he could just be reallllly overtired =P.haha but seriously i dont kno thats not really a good sign. maybe something is bothering him, or he feels guilty about something. if i were you i would dig a little deeper and see if it was something you did, or see if he messed up somehow with someone. if it comes down to it and he hasnt done anything and you havnt done anything either and he still just argues alot...lol just tell him to shut up and cool down for a little bit. you could just not talk to him for a lil while and then hed think about stuff to himself and he could just as easily change. hope it helps, if you need anything else just ask.
peace
Seanx
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the background: about 6 months ago my boyfriend kissed another girl at a party. he said he was really sorry and didnt want to lose me, so i gave him another chance. but since then he has continuted to flirt with her. whenever shes around he pretty much ignores me and acts like an idiot showing off in front of her. i've told him like a bazillion times how bad this makes me feel, and he always promises not to do it again, but he keeps doing it. i know he likes her even though he insists he doesnt.
well the other night we were at a party and he did the same thing. so i broke up with him. he cried on the phone till 3 in the morning, begging me to take him back, swearing that he doesnt like her, that he only loves me. in the last couple days hes brought me flowers, presents, sent me love songs on my phone, and posted bulletins saying how much he loves me and that he doesnt like that girl. and everytime he comes over or calls, hes crying. his friends say he hasnt slept in like 3 days.
i really really love him - weve been going out for almost 3 years and hes like my best friend. i really want to go back out with him, but im afraid if i do, he'll just keep doing the same thing. plus i dont want a boyfriend who likes someone else. but i just dont get it! it seems so obvious that he likes her, so why doesnt he just go out with her now that hes free? (she likes him and he knows it). should i take the way hes acting as a sign that he really loves me? should i take him back? or will he just keep doing the same thing? (link)
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difficult story to deal with for you i know, but you gotta understand there is a reason you broke up with him...and i think thats gonne be the way it has to stay. if you allow him back in, he gets close to you even more, and the he does the flirty thing with the girl AGAIN, then that will just make both of you go through the pain again. im sure you two can still be friends though. hope it helps
peace
Seanx
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Ok so i'm going out with this amazing boy, but there's something missing we just don't talk alot or sometimes we can't hold a conversation. Then I have this bestfriend who also happens to be one of his bestfriends, but with me and him we just click. Everything seems to be right, we can talk on the phone for hours and there's never silence. I just don't know what to do. I love my boyfriend but my bestfriend is also the person who hooked us up, but I can tell he likes me too. Ughh. I know this is confusing, but it there anyone who can help? (link)
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trust me, you never want to go out with your best friend, im talking from experience....it just gets weird and it can ruin yur guyses relationship with one rong move. all the years you guys have been friends would be gone. if you have a best friend, thats were they should stay. now if you like some guy thats a different story, that leaves plenty of room to build for you two. and hell maybe the other guy is just nervous when he talks to you. yah never know...if yur absolutely positive he likes you, and yur sure u like him, but he wont ask you out; just ask for him. hope it helps.
Peace
Seanx
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There are a few things making me super nervous about meeting my crush this summer (at camp) and I need y'all to tell me if I'm screwed or if there's hope for me.
Alright, first thing.. kissing. I read somewhere that the first kiss means everything, if the first kiss isn't great most people will not prusue a relationship with that person. Will that's just great! Does that mean that even if I make myself super pretty, super funny, super smart - but I'm a bad kisser - I'm doomed? That's it! Everything I've worked for.. gone. The guy Ive dreamed about for 4 years now.. will not be mine, just cause I can't kiss? That blows!
I decided to write my second question in a different "question" because it belongs to a different category I think, but it will be under the label "voice = attraction" if you want to take a shot at it! Thank you! (link)
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lol dont worry about kissing its not THAT important for the first time. just worry about your actions around him. if you super pretty, super funny, and whatevr else u said, he wont care about how u kiss, he will just be happy that hes getting kissed.
peace
Seanx
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I POSTED THIS EARLIER BUT THERES MORE NOW..
i reallyreally like him
i talk to him everyday
but yesterday was the first day i didnt talk to him
i commented him yeterday and was like hi.. we barley talk anymore=/
cuase the past few days our conversationts would be like dead and i dont know whats going on
hes the type of guy that would get with any girl for action cuase hes always horny like that
and he commented me back saying thats too bad vagina? and im like um no. then hes like penis and im like noo. ill just stop talking and he never commented back
and he does weed so i think he might of been high at the time or it was his friends saying that
i dont know what to do. cusae i realllly wanna talk to him
but i dont know if he feels the same way?
i dont know if i should text him..or just give him space and let him come talk to me?
but im sure if i give him space he will just forget about me and go get with another girl
and im sure everyne reading this is like wow just leave him hes not worth your time
but he is worth my time becuase i want this to last becuase i like him alot.
i texted him today and of course he was kinda baked but whatever i support him with whatever he does
but there is one thing i want you to know.. he told me he liked this girl like before we kinda got flirty and i dont know if he still does but yeah
we got flirty and then one day he told me he loved.. ididnt know if it was a firend way or a liking way so im like i love you too
and we got flirty and like ways where like he would be watching movies with friends and wed be talking and hed be like id rather be watching this movie you or i wanna come cuddle with you or i really wanna kidd you right now
and then everything just went kinda down hill..
and i dont like it at all!
he just commented this girl and was like im horny
and shes like well go do something about it
and hes like well i have a neighbor..
and then hes like i got some from her
these past nights ive been really down and like crying and everything. i hate boys!
but when i texted him im like we barley talk anymore and hes like yeah i know its weird
i dont really like talking to him when hes with his friends and hes online right now and i wanna talk to him but our conversationts have been dead and i dont know what to say and i dont know if hes with his friends or if he blazed right now
but i just want everything to go back to how it used to be..when i was happy!
its summer now and i dont want this to ruin my summer for me
so any advice?
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well after being intrigued in psychology ive read about it. if your BF is on weed then that is playing a large role in this. it has destroyed his emotional feelings and stimulated his physicals ones. if you got with him he may just like what you give him, not like you as a person. i think if you got him to get off the weed you guys would have a much better chance together, and hey it could even save his life some day. also you can just flat out ask him if he still likes you and if he would wanna go out, its much easier to just be blunt, then just beat around the bush for months at a time. and if he says yes, u wont regret it for a second. good luck
peace
Seanx
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i was watching tv with my b/f haha and someone was pregnant and had morning sickness. someone asked what that was and i told them, then my b/f jokingly says yeah you would know, first hand experience. and i said no?? what? he said dave! (ex bf who pretty much used me) and i said no! again. i know hes joking and all but do you think he means something more by it? and my bf now is kind of shy so it was odd for him to bring up, but im totally not like that i mean in terms of doing anything sexual, im not a slut and ive only gone to 2nd what do i do (link)
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i think you should ask him what he meant by it, im sure he wasnt wondering anything he was just trying to get one step up above your ex. its like a match to see who you liked better....its a guy thing. good luck,
peace
Seanx
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im not a sicko i just want to know what a boys favorite sexual thing to do is, not counting sex. (link)
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like down below, depends on the guy, but in most cases us guys like blowjobs and handjobs.
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all right, it seems like everytime i ask a question about this, i never seem to get a straight-forward answer. so, please.. give me an answer, no matter what the outcome is. Well, here's my story. There's a boy. we went out in 8th grade. (we are now in 10th) When we went out, it was for two and a half months. I still have really strong feelings for him, (i know 2 yrs later, im pathetic) well, i just really want to know if you guys think he still has feelings for me, too. if its possible. When I call him, he doesn't always answer..which is expected. When he does answer, however, we talk for about an hour. When we talk he always makes sexual jokes, and occasionally, he says i love you when i have to leave.In the hallways when we see each other he always gives me a weird look and he does these really weird things, like he'll call me punk, or.. say dweeb.. but i know he's just kidding. Also, one day we were talking, and he said that it feels weird to go out with someone. and i asked if it felt weird when we went out, and he said no. So, my question is: Do you still think he has feelings for me, and is just afraid to tell me? and if so, how can i get him to open up? or do you think he doesnt?
sorry its long. (link)
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i think you both have feelings for eachother, hes signs give it away. id love to answer this more in-depth but why did you break up in the first place? that can play a major role in this. anyway since i dont know that il just answer this based on facts presented =P. if i were you i would just flat out ask him if he still has feelings for you. i mean seriously what have you got to lose? if he doesnt, then he doesnt and you can go back to being friends. if he does, you can build another succesful relationship off of that. hope it helps, peace
Seanx
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i am a 13 year old who hasnt gone out with a guy yet! ugh.. i wanna feel how it feels to be in a relationship and have the guy love me in that way and i'll be able to have my first kiss and all that. it hasnt happened yet and i notice like everyone i know practically has already gotten their first kiss or first boyfriend.. not that im in a race to get one, i just let it come to me and if i see a guy thats cute, i'll say hes cute and stuff.. i just wanna be in a relationship and stuff!!
and i've been asked out by guys about 5 times but i dunno if they're being serious or joking. how can you tell? only three of those 5 times i knew it was a joke... but i really dunno! i reply "no" to them because i dont see them that way like romantically or anything.. ugggggggggghhh what do i do and stuff? thanks (link)
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dont worry about it. if a guy is serious he will call you or come see you or give you actions that he likes you...or he will just flat out tell you. thats how you know. but dont be in a hurry to get a BF-and please heed this warning- whatever love you get out of it, will be 10x the amount of sadness there is when you break up. its difficult but its a fact of teenage relationships. they are tough. enjoy it while you can, but keep waiting because that special guy will come to you. peace, hope it helps
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ok i have a boyfriend he is always tellin me to call hime back and when i call his friend to see is he there he say no he outside with 5 girls and 3 boys i'm his girlfriend i have no i =dea what he is doin out there with them girls cause i not with him so i;m not goin to accuse him of doin somthin that i didn't see
please help me with this cause this is becomin a problem (link)
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his friend is probly just messing with you. ask your friend to tell you what yur bf is doing with the girls. if he says "oh hes making out with them" its probly a lie because his friend wouldnt rat him out like that.
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there's a guy named logan. and last summer, we started hanging out even more and got really close.. most would have even called us "lovers". we both said we liked eachother.. and i waited for him. he never asked me out. 7 months of waiting, i went on to another guy. that didn't work out and i realized i still wanted logan. he and the guy i was dating didn't get along and were both jealous of eachother so i had to confess to both of them. (**he just called me :)**) but yeah logan was upset about it and the other guy didn't mean anything to me... so back in march we were coming home from a party and we ended up telling eachother we loved eachother.. and i believe we do. after almost a year of pretty much being together just not TOGETHER i think most people would be. he pushes my buttons, knows what ticks me off, but still leaves a smile on my face. i just know what its like to be IN love and i'm scared i might be for the first time.. we;ve been hanging out alot more again now and alot of people are thinking we like eachother again. i think we do, and i'm scared cause i don't want to wait for him again.. i just CAN'T do that & i've told him before that i couldn't just wait. most people think we act like a married couple too :) we're cute but i just don't know what to do to not have to wait.. and if i'm in love... HELP! (link)
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haha...i totally agree with the previous answers...but to give you some confidence ill tell you a personal story of how easy it is for a girl to ask a guy out. im a guy. i liked this chick for a while. she confused me because she always talked about stories with others guys and stuff so i thought she didnt like me back. for a whole month we talked every day like that. then a couple nights ago she said "im trying to figure you out" and i asked why, and she said "cuz i wanna know when the hell your gonna ask me out" so i did and we are together happily. she knew i liked her but i didnt know she liked me. moral of the story, tell him you cant figure him out, when he asks why, say why the hell wont you ask me out. if he doesnt ask you out still or he says "idk" then you say "fine then I'll ask you out" and if HE says no....thats just sad.
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I really have been wondering why guys like the 16 year olds and not me? I mean I know I'm 14 and that's 2 years younger but what's the big deal with me and all the other 14 year old girls? (link)
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well im a 14 year old guy and i like girls that are 14, guys just like 16 year olds because of the age and they think they are hotter but i know alot of hottie 14 year olds that im satisfied with. so its not all guys...maybe you just dont have good luck when it comes to guys being attracted. all of the guys i know like girls and dont really care about the age. o well hope it helps
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I’m 16 and I’m upset about (Girl), who is 15.
I understand I’ve already messed up any chance I had with her, and I don’t deserve her because of that. But she doesn’t even want to talk to me. She won’t even let me tell her how I feel about her, or explain why I never asked her out.
I’m really worried my friend (Guy), who is 15, likes her. The reason I never asked her out has to do with my previous girlfriend, (Slut). Long story short, I messed up with (Slut) and she ended up with my best friend. I was miserable for two months. It took me two years to be able to like another girl again, I then I met her, (Girl). I really liked (Girl). I wanted to ask (Girl) out, and I knew she would say yes. But every time I tried to ask her out, for four months, the feeling game back. I kept thinking, what if I mess up and she ends up with my best friend? It was a stupid thing to think, I know. Finally, she got tired of waiting for me and moved on. So, after all, I did mess up, and that’ll set me back another year. But if she ends up with (Guy), one of my best friends, I don’t think I’ll be able to ask a girl out until I’m out of college. She and (Guy) have been flirting like I used to flirt with her.
What should I do? (link)
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yea man just relax and breathe for a moment, if you had enough time to talk to her before then explain to her what your feelins were and tell her the long story. then at the end of it tell her that you stil like and and want to go out. good luck
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so im not the prettiest apple on the tree. But I think I have a really good personality (corny, i know)
I'm really into theater. Obsessed with Broadway.
Yeah, are guys into that stuff and wouldn't mind my looks. Or am I a helpless case destined to be a nun??
14/f
I've never had a bf or someone to like me.
so what should I do?
guys answers very welcome! (link)
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well my answer as a guy would be a personality is the most important part about a girl. looks come second, so what if your not the prettiest, you may be one of he most fun to be around. the easiest way is to make people laugh. sorry its not much but hope it helps
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Ok I this guy that I used to like wants me to go out with him but the reason I stopped was because he use to pick on me(big sign of love)Now I think I should go out with him but the school years almost up and he isn't going to be at the same middle school that we were in last year so what should I do if he decides to ask me I mean we talk on the phone now.But we have been friends for so long what if it doesn't work out and our friendship is ruined by this little feeling.What should I do? (link)
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i think that you should cool your feelings for him down, what ive learned is that if your TOO good of friends with someone, it gets weird cuz they are like a brother or sister to you. you could be one of his best friends or you could just say to hell with it and pursue him as a BF. if it didnt work out you could tell him "cant we be friends like we used to be" or somethin like that. im still friends with some of my Xs...just not all of them =P. you could still maintain a frienship after you broke up...it just depends on why you might break up in the first place. or you could last a long time with him and have a great relationship. i would just go for it if i were you because you dont have much to lose. in most situations you will remain friends anyway. good luck.
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My ex got a summer job at the same camp I'm working at. Last week was our first week working together and he kept flirting and said to me "you know you want me back" right in front of other counselors. He's been calling me at night but I've been avoiding his calls until I figure out what to do. I like him so much. We were together eight months and we broke up in March. We met at this camp last summer. He knows I go out with someone else now and he keeps asking me what he can do to make me like him as much as I like my current boyfriend. So far I've just smiled and gone on about my work. The guy I go out with now is great!!!! Almost too good to be true. We don't argue and he treats me like a princess. Life with my ex was drama filled. My current boyfriend knows we are working together and he has no problem with it. Should I stay with this guy that is wonderful? or should I follow my heart because my heart is telling me to get back with my ex? Either way the rest of the summer is going to be hard...seeing him everyday. Yesterday he started flirting with some other girl but made sure I was around to see it. It hurt so bad but I didn't let on like I cared. What should I do? How do I sort this out? (link)
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this sort of thing your have to just let go. you have to remember that you broke up for a reason, whatever the reason was it may probly come up again if you went back to your ex. maybe you arent ready for any BF tho if your still having feelings for your ex. now too the answers: i think you should see if you can get a transfer as far away from yur ex as you can. you can sort this out by doing your absolute best to forget about the past and to remember that hes an ex. or if it gets way too bad, tell your boss either he leaves or you leave, the only problem with that is youd have to find a new job =/. well best of luck through the summer, im sure youll do fine tho.
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