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kay so like.. i really need some ideas on something to wear when im going on a date. like ive been on about 3 dates with this guy.. and like im running out of ideas on what to wear ahah. even though i have a ton of clothes im just like so confused. any ideas?? (link)
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It really depends on where you are going. If you are going out to a nice dinner, to the movies, to a park.
Whatever it is, you can always play it up with jewelry and layering your clothes.
If you are going for a casual date, there's nothing cuter than a simple tank top and big beaded necklace and shorts/or skirt. That is always the cute classic i must say :D
if you want me to be more specific, please let me know with details ill be more than happy to help :D
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Okay so I've been talking to this guy for about a month over the phone and like he is soo sweet and he told me he loves me. Okay well thats not the problem, the confusion comes from him telling me he'll call me and never does or that when he doesnt call i get all "he doesnt like me" and ive never in my life liked someone this much and i havent ever met him in person. Why do i get so upset with myself when he doesnt call? I'm scared i'm going to mess this whole 'relationship' up before it ever gets started and i have commitment issues and i know i do, but i want to be with him. Does age have anything to do with this cause he is 24 and i'm 18? this has got me all confused and worried and upset. any advice would be gratefull. thanks so much.
xox Kim (link)
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Wow your story kind of remind me of myself. Such as getting all worked up if a guy doesnt call when he said he would and having committment issues. But if he really likes you, age shouldn't really matter. That's not that big of a difference anyhow. Also, instead of getting worried about him not calling you, why dont you confront him about it? Don't state it in a hostile manner but in a curious way. Just wanting to know the simple truth. I used to think the same thing and all that with my bf. But after I heard him out, he had reasons why he didnt call me nor picked up his phone.
Him forgettning to call you isn't a real good reason but at least he wasnt looking at another girl. But if that persists, you should tell him that you don't feel you are that important to him. although guys are forgetful naturally.
And really don't worry, I used to go through the same thing. Hope everything works out :D
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Hey guys and by guys i actually mean GUYS(or some well informed girls):
What are some signs that a guy likes a girl?
I just needed to know cause i think this guy likes me but guys are really confusing w/ like there 'signals' (i guess you could call them) fo weither they like you or not.
So any ideas??? (link)
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Okay im a girl but I found this from a website.
DOES HE LIKE YOU?
How can you tell if your crush likes you back? Myjellybean.com has some clues that say he might be into you..
Yak Attack
He might start talking loudly in your presence or start treating you as one of the guys. (Yes, this is a weird way to show he likes you, but it's one of the most common and strongest signals!).
Mumbly Joe
He might also become very shy and mumble when he speaks to you..
Flirt City
Then again, he could behave like a real Casanova, praising you for no apparent reason and straining hard to hold a sustained intelligent conversation, because he's so busy staring at your - ahem - assets. You could also notice that he's acting way more flirtatious toward you than toward other girls who are around..
His Friends Are Friendly to You
If his friends are paying attention to you when he isn't around (often a clue that this guy talked to his or her friends about you)..
There He is Again!
If he always seems to be around (especially if you get the "instinct" that he's there because of you).
Perma-Grin
If he is smiling tons while listening to you, and seems to be listening especially "actively"..
Staring Contest
If he seems to look into your eyes a little longer than normally..
He's Keeping Tabs
If he remembers stuff you said before and brings it up again (asking questions about something you mentioned in the past ) - shows he's interested in you .
TESTING YOUR SUSPICIONS:
If you think a guy likes you (trust your gut instinct, girls) but you can't be totally sure, try this: Give him your best smile. If he smiles back, or his face suddenly lights up, tah dah! He likes you. If he starts sweating and looks all flustered, he likes you even more. If his smile is the polite kind, or if he frowns or looks away, that's a bad sign that maybe he isn't interested in you after all.
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14/f
I don't have a boyfriend, but I would really like one. I can never seem to meet anyone new. all my friends seem to meet new guys wherever they go, and I just don't.
I love in southern california.
any ideas on where to find someone? (link)
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I used to think that too. I was getting used to all the guys at school so i rather preferred one out of school.
Here are some places that guys go to you and where you can meet them.
-Skatepark. That is a deadgiveaway. Always cute guys hanging there. No problem finding a guy there
-Music store. (guitar store, cd store, etc.)
-Mall.
-even WalMart and other shopping places
-Basketball court
-Beach
-Shows (band shows, etc.)
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how do i tell a guy i like him?
is it better to just flirt with a guy and see if he likes u or is it better to just be straight forward and tell him i like him... (link)
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Answer to your first question: There are various ways you can tell a guy. Such as writing a note, calling, in person. But try not to do it through your friends. You can just start telling them by stuff you like about them then say something like "I think im falling for you" or something.
Answer to your second question: It all really depends on who the guy is.
What I like to do is, I flirt a little, ask people around for some feedback before actually telling a guy I like him because than I have more confidence
Which I think is the best idea because there's nothing that can help you boost up your confidence than knowing a guy's flirting back to you :D
Because some guys might freak out if you tell them you like them like out of blue just to get it over with. My current bf told me that if I just told him I like him straight out, he probably didn't know what to do.
Also there's was this other guy before I just told him, er my friend told him I liked him and he didn't really do anything after that because he wasn't sure if I really DID like him. Guy's usually doesn't like it if you involve your friend.
But then again, two of my ex's were those guys whom I just told them that I liked them (I didn't tell them at same time btw XD) and they took it just fine and asked me out.
So yeah it really depends on a guy and it's not matter of fact that he's shy or not.
Because you would usually think that shy guys will like it if you flirted with them first but from my experience, it wasnt really. I just told that shy guy i liked him and it worked out fine.
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Well i like this boy right and i we want to meet eachother but mum dosnt let me have a bf but ima teenager so teens lie alot hehe lol i want to tell her im going with my bestfriend which i am but im scared if she dosnt let me go shopping with her what can i say for her to let me go with her shopping my parents are kinda strict (link)
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Alright alright I TOTALLY know what you are going through. I mean previous people who answered just told you not to lie but what do they know? right?
My mom is really strict too. I am not allow to date until i graduate high school. Like that stopped me from getting a bf and all that XD
Well that's pretty much what I did. Basically told my mom I was hanging out with my friend and just chill with my bf.
There ARE possibilities that it will not work so I suggest you to ask your mom in advance so you can figure something out if your Plan A doesnt work.
You always will need a back up plan.
Since its summer you can use excuse like its summer project you have to work on. If your school have mandatory summer reading and stuff.
If you need more help, let me know :D
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Hi, I'm fourteen years old and I'm a girl. My brother is 15. His best friend Mike is 17 and we've always got along pretty well. I've been spending a lot of time with them lately and I'm starting to have strong feelings for him. I'm pretty sure he doesn't like me, but he flirts with me a lot. My brother knows I like him and he's fine with it. I'm just not really sure how to get Mike's attention. Like, how do i make him realize that I like him without being too forward? Sorry if this is long. Thanks in advance. I greatly appreciate it. (link)
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Hey I know what you are going through! I'm 16/f but people always think im at least 18 and all. And my bf is 18.
Well my point is that I was going for a guy that was 2 years older than me(aka, my bf, before we were going out)
Before we started going out, we got along really good too because he was so easy to talk to and nice. But he was nice to EVERYONE, so i was thinking how can i get him to notice me more than a friend, above all the other girls?
Well I would first find out "type" of girl he likes. Well not TYPE per se but you know how guys like certain things in girls? like some guys like it when girls wear skirt (which seems like most guys anyways) and if they smell good and all that.
Also we started talking on the phone. I mean I know asking for his number is bit weird but I'm sure you already have his number or at least your brother does.
And definetly like what other person has answered for you, keep flirting.
If things go well with flirting and you feel brave, try to lean your head on his shoulder when you guys are sitting down next to each other, if you feel awkward doing that say something like you are really tired. That gives you a good excuse ;)
and he will most likely put his arm around you if he wants to flirt back
so hope this helped and if you need more, hit me up anytime
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ok well u say to get to know him...i talked to him almost every nite on aim for 2 hours about random stuff and we laugh and watch tv together...hes like the best friend that is a guy ive ever had...he tends to like be "flirtatious" with girls alot even if hes just friends with him.....i cant tell if what he does with me is true or just him being himself(he puts his arm around me and talks, tells me all eve ngirls he likes or if he is weird, i played chiken with him and he asked me...he grabbed my feet in the pool and pulled me towards him and he was like walking on my feet afterschool--weird huh? i really like him and im afraid to break up with my bf because ive never done it before i dont kno what to do and im nto sure if i shud just say J things have been slightly weird do you like me...what to do?? (link)
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hmm... very similar situation i had gone through!!!
I used to talk to him for hours on the phone, he was my best guy friend, i had a boyfriend, he was bit flirtatious person, etc..
Well what I did was, think about it really throughly. Am i going to regret what i've done by breaking up with my current bf to take a chance of being together with my best guy friend?
I mean lot of factors matter in a situation like this. Such as, it took me over 8 months to finally figure out I actually really like my best guy friend over all the other guys.
Also, we just had these events that brought us closer. Such as Prom, school club field trips, etc.
So one day I finally realized, there isn't any guy who can make me feel so comfortable being around with.
He made me just be comfortable being myself and he made me laugh and all that.
So take a step by step. Figure out what you are going to do about your current boyfriend. Then if you have a question let me know! Trust me, i went through a very similar situation!
P.S. here is to my ending. I broke up with my then bf to take a chance with my best guy friend. I am very glad I did because I am still going out with my best guy friend and I figured out there is no one else who is like him :D
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helloh-
i really like this guy and i'm pretty sure he likes me too but hes kinda a shy person. and i wanna "make a move" but idk how to. i texted him once during school and told him to call/text me if he wanted to hang out that night. and i try little things like smile wheni look at him, joke around with him, touch him etc. but thats just little stuff thats not really showing that i like him. so what are other things that i can do to show him i like him and almost make a move. but i don't wanna come out and say i like you, and i'm scared to ask him who he likes. but we talk on the phone allll the time and he usually calls me and he tocuhes me a lot too. (link)
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haha sounds lilttle bit like my story a whlie back... I really liked my guy friend and everybody else thought we'd make a cute couple, or thought we were going out and stuff but we both were too shy to actually tell each other...
so one day we just happen to hang out, we were sitting next to each other and i told him i was tired so that kind of gave me an excuse to rest my head on his shoulder.
see how that goes... if he puts his arm around you as you rest... GREAT!!!
if he does, then kind of wrap your arm around his waist... that would pretty much be a dead giveaway that you like him and he likes you...
so i hope things go great :D
if you need other ideas, let me know :D
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well im a 16/f and i im indian which means im not allowed to date. but i decided to get a boyfriend and i've been dating this guy for like a little over a month. and im not sure if i should tell my parents because my mom always says they'll find out eventually the things i do. so yah should i tell them? (link)
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Yes like what some of the people say, they wont find out unless you know you are doing something way beyond what you should be doing at that age. I mean I know where you are coming from because I'm Asian and i am not allow to date neither but did that stop me? nope.
And yeah sometimes i felt i should have told my mom but that was a bad idea for me. I told my mom and she got suspicious and everything.
And if you do decide to tell, make sure its the best of times when your mom is in super good mood. and You should prepare for the news in advance as in do some extra chores around the house and do responsible things in advance before telling your mom.
good luck~
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How?
i want to be a better flirt, and i want to know how, what to do, and sont tell me be yourself cause im already doing that and its kinda working but i need bigger and better.
please and thank you (link)
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I had the same question!! So i went out and found this cool site.
http://www.myjellybean.com/flirt/flirt.html
After reading those, here's my bit of advice. Nothing will work unless you smile and make eye contact. That shows the genuinity of the whole deal and you will be able to catch eyes from people who are bit far away from your distance.
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15/f freshman
there's this kid in 2 of my classes & i kinda like him, but i dont kno if it's a fully developed crush yet as weird as that sounds.
i'm superrrrr shy. i don't talk a lot in class/participate, and talking to new people and especially guys is so hard. it's not as much worrying what people are going to think of me after i say something, but i just don't know what to say. (around my friends/family, i'm completely talkative) so anyway...
he knows who i am which is a start haha. (if this means anything: my friend went to florida for a band trip and she was texting me and all the people she was with were like who are you texting? and she said my name, and this kid i like asked if it was me [said my first and last name] :) so he knows who i am. plus this same friend IMed him on my sn, and he knew who i was then too. and i added him on myspace and he added back. so i have all this forms of communication with him, but i feel SOOO weird just talking to him. i don't know what to say. and i'll feel so stupid. like on myspace, he has all these comments from all these other girls (he's not super popular, but he talks to some people who are..he's also in marching band tho lol) so i'd feel so weird if i randomly comment him. what should i do?!?! my friend isn't always here to IM him for me, lol. thanksss! (link)
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Ha its okay I had to go through the similar stuff. Except mine was worser condition because I have never saw him in my school, later to find out he is home schooled. So only time I saw him was when he was working. Anywho, what i would suggest for you to do is to talk to him in person. I know it might sound hard because I can get very shy and that is one of the hard thing to do HOWEVER, if you dont get over your fear, you might end up like some people who only communicate through online and never even talk in person. How awkward is that?
So I would suggest for you to say hi to him but if it's bit hard, I have a planned out something for you... ( dont have to follow, this is just a mere suggestion XD)
Cmnt him... something like...
"hey wuts up? I havent seen you around school in a while... ya know what? i;ll say hi to you next time i see you"
then when you see him say..."Hey _____(fill in his name) hm... told ya i'd say hi..."
then casually ask him about band competition or whatever...
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im confuse i like this boy alot and i mean alot and every time i see him in the hallways my whole body just heat up and i feel so wierd at times. And i think about him everyday and he has a myspace and i go on it and look at his profile everyday. and when i see him with another girl i get jealous real easy even though we dont go out. i dont know if its a crush or is it realy love because i dream about him and daydream about him everyday and i even made wedding plans huh call me crazy. so plz what is this that im feeling. (link)
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Aww its okay i've gone through same. I asked the same question but it's not love. It's Infatuation. It's something that I believe every relationship starts out with. You must have to be attracted to them in order for you to get to know them and find out their real side. Then you find out more about them and you will love who they are as well as their faults but you accept their faults and thats when you know when you are in love.
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My bf told my friend that he was gonna kiss me tomarrow!!! I am excited, but scared cuz this is my first time. I don't want to make out with him, but i do want it to be hot and romantic lol well anyways i could use all the tips i can get (it will come naturally doesnt help) Also we are going out with a group of people. How can we get away from the crowd to kiss. Also I want to hold his hand, but I want it to look casual. How can I just hold his hand without like grabbing his hand. P.S. We are going to see a friends hockey game.
Thanks for your help :)
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Ha yeah i know what you mean, I was wondering about the same question before my first kiss and all people would say is..."dont worry too much, its a natural thing."
yeah like that helped... So here's what you do, you don't probably want to make out because that might seem too forward, or whatever. So just look into his eyes, and he will look back... Getting closer now. Slowly close your eyes... so will he. Then just like your lips touch.
Thats about it. No more big deal than that.
As to holding hands, that is a tricky one. I have noticed that guys are bit afraid to hold girls hand if they are bit shy because they dont know how the girl would react. So here's what you do. You are walking alone side by side. Gently brush against his hand with yours. Or just you know how you like whole bunch of girls walk together? like having their arms locked? like casually???
well do that... just like poke your arm through his arm and lock it kind of thing... Playfully... then slowly move in clsoer to his hand. That works EVERYTIME for me :D
hope this helped :D
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Hi! :D im hailey, and im 15. (freshman) and i like this boy in 10th grade, he likes me back and we are sapposed to go to the movies this weekend. I am realllly sickk with this really gross virus =/ and i've missed 3 days of school this week.. i rdont wanna cancel because i REALLY like him and i dont want him to get discouraged or go and find someone else.. is there a posableity (sp?) that he coudl move on and find someone else over the weekend while im sick? i know im rpbabaly over reacting but i'm jsut owndering. your honesty is REALLY appreciated, no offence will be taken from ANy answers1 thanks soooo much =)) (link)
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No need to worry about overreacting because there are lot of girls out there who would wonder about the same thing. I for one know that oh so well because I over react to so many things :D
And no I strongly doubt that he will move on in that short amount of time. Besides like what others said, he won't move on if he really liked you. Besides it wasnt like a serious serious meeting for a serious date so don't take it too seriously. He should understand how you are and what condition you are in. Maybe it will make you even more intriguing because guys are kind of weird like that :D
hope this helped and get well soon!
PS you can call him personally and tell him that you would much like to reset the date as soon as you feel better.
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I love my boy friend tons and he told me that he has strong feelings for me i wanna kiss him but i'm afraid of what my parents and friends would say.
My friends would probably say i'm a slut but i am worried about my parents as it would be my first kiss
I really need help (link)
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Wow, how old are you to be called such a strong word like slut to kiss your own boyfriend? Frankly, i believe that is your own choice when you think its right so I would most likely say go for it. However if you are afraid that others will mock you in such a vulger way, then you dont have to tell them you know?
Find some private places and keep your mouth sealed. Kissing is a wonderful thing to do to express the likeness for one another. nothing to be ashamed of.
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15/f.
This only started this year...is it normal to get a sudden attraction to EVERY guy that passes by? (He has to be Okay looking though :P lol)......and getting a sudden urge to talk to that person or communicate to him? :O (link)
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Wow...!!! I am glad you asked the question, because I am EXACTLY!!! the same way!!! No worries, lol its just called boy-craziness XD At least to know you are not the only one right ??
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if my boyfriend tries to put his arm around me at the movies, how do i react? do i put my arm around his shoulder or do i just sit there or do i look at him? ahhh, im so scared. (link)
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Hmm... That one just usually comes naturally but you can kind of lean towards him, kinda like cuddling way, or you can put your arm around his waist.
and don't be scared. I was the same way but you will get used to it and enjoy the moments you have :D
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ok ive had a crush on this guy and i didnt even know i was that obvious but obviously he found out, and he told one of my good friends whos practically neighbors with him that he didnt like me and only liked blonde girls. now im confused.. because i didnt even tell that many people, and the people i told, like more than half of them didnt even know the kid (they were in different teams) and the others i know wouldnt tell. otherwise.. how would he have known? also how would i act tomorrow? my mom said to act like myself but its kinda awkward since now i know. should i just act like nothing happened? im new at this, lol. like last year the same thing happened too, only i knew i was being really obvious, so it ended up with the guy knowing i liked him too. this is kinda a.. um flexible answer so just give me the best advice you got for my situation. (link)
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Same exact thing happened. Except my case was bit worse because the guy who found out I liked him happened to be one of my good friend. No clue on how he found out but he told this friend of mine that he didn't like me like that. So next day I was all worried and already feeling awkward but best advice is just ignore the situation as best as you can. Remember, I said ignore the SITUATION, not the guy. That might make it more obvious and might make you seem childish. So just go through a day like normal, even though we both know that inside you might be very nervous because that's how the case is with most girls, including me. But give some time and let things settle down and it might even help to keep you occupied with other things like having friends around you to distract you or read a book or something. Hope this helped!
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ok well im 15 n its so sad n embarassing but ive never had a boyfriend or done any thing with a guy. in grade 8 i used 2 hang out with other ppl but we kinda grew apart n now i have new friends. so last year (grade 9) my new friends asked how many boyfriends i had and i came clean and said none. i no that u dont like fakes but i lied and i said i had 1 before but we only went out for a week and i dont really count that as having a boyfriend. well my friends arent geeks or anything and 2 make it more embarassing for me they always have a boyfriend and theyve all had sex before. outside of skool i dont have a lot of friends and i dont go to parties because my mom is wierd like that so i cant meet guys that way. also my confidence is really bad since i think im so ugly and im not really fat but i have a bit of fat on my stomach. also i dont like attention drawn to myself so i dont dress like i want to so that people will pay attention to me. my eyebrows arent really bad but i dont get them waxed so they are a little on the bushy side. i always think that if i fix those things that guys would like me but i never do.well srry this is so long of a problem but i would really appreciate help and thanks in advance (link)
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I had the similar problem so don't worry about it all. I can relate to you. Maybe I have it worse because I am not even allow to date until I graduate high school but like that has stopped me :D
Well first of all, about that boyfriend thing, don't worry about it. You are seriously going to find a guy when you least expect it. As to me it has always happened like that. I had never ever dated when I was in middle school. I started the whole "dating scene" when I got into high school. Nothing wrong with that. So you have to let that one come in its own way. Unless you make your self go out of your way to befriend with guys. I didn't before because I was shy and self esteem was down to bottom (i still have pretty low self esteem) but now I introduce myself to guys and whatever because I have found out that guys aren't any different than girls when it comes to making them your new friend. Also more importantly, they are less gossipy and more trustworthy than girls. Now I have more guy friends than girls which I am glad. Also they can help you to be more comfortable around new guys.
Lastly, you don't have to meet guys at parties. I don't get out much neither (in parties because i am not allow to go due to strict parent) but now I don't really care because I have met so many awesome dudes pretty much everywhere.
Such as mall (that's one of the best place)
Wal mart
Events going on in your town or something
If you have more question let me know and hope this helped :D
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