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whats some cute things to whisper in your sweet boys ear after kissing him? (link)
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Is he your son? I'm not sure whether "cute things" will work for guys you're dating. Unless he's a 12 yr old who loves Hello Kitty dolls.
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25f. for the last two months or so I have had absolutely no sex drive. It is driving my boyfriend crazy. I don't know what the deal is...I never think about it and almost never want it and when I do have sex I just want it to be over. I do not take birth control, I eat healthy, my boyfriend is attractive, and I have not changed my diet. Does anyone know maybe why I am lacking in this department or how to jump start it again? Thanks (link)
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It could be stress related, and your boyfriend isn't really helping.
Being pressured to function is really the worst thing to happen right now. It could be hormonal imbalance, you should try going to the doctor. Maybe sex is painful to you, and these are the withdrawals.
In this case, I feel that you should talk to your boyfriend, and talk about importance of foreplay. But then it could be an infection.
Actually, there's a list of things that you have to personally check. The doctors are the first. They could also help you out in this situation... maybe you give you pills.. relaxant or smth of that sort.
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My ex and I broke up a few months ago. It was a horrible, messy breakup and we aren't speaking. We go to the same school and my friends are also his friends. I think he's over it, but I'm still extremely hurt and depressed. My friends & family are tired of hearing me talk about him, and I'm tired of thinking about him. We had a serious relationship for 2 years, and it's killing me it didn't work out. How do I get over this already? It's ruined friendships and has affected my school work. (link)
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Actually, there's a way, but I need more info.
But here's what you can do. Sometimes, our pride and ego gets in the way, destroying what we've invested and denying how we truly feel. When did you last contact him? Does he know that you're still thinking about him? There are chances that he still do. Modern men are much more sensitive than people think they are. Are you giving him the cold shoulder? Why not talk to him, by his body language and the way he talks you can roughly gauge where he position you in his life? But you should just make a move and talk to him, for two yr's sake. Pride is nothing in a relationship.
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So theres this guy I met this year when school started
Im a Freshamn, 14
He's Sophmore, 16
He's in my favorite class & we talk throughtout the whole class, making the teacher hate us now
So this weekend, we started texting on Saturday like 10am
& we havent stopped since then & its 6:44pm Sunday
{besides sleeping of coarse}
Anyway, today he was like "its amazing that we've texted nonstop all weekend"
Then he was like "your basically the only one of been texting"
This guy is really sweet & cute, but I dont think Im pretty at all
Could this maybe be a sign that he MIGHT possibly just a TAD BIT like me?
Thanks in advance (link)
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Well, when it comes to the matters of the heart, people
don't really know what to expect.
What's ugly to you, may be beautiful to him.
And if it's not about looks, he could be falling for your
personality, which is even better.
I think you should keep it up, hope for the best
and see how things goes. It's far too early to tell.
Could also be an infatuation.
Just enjoy the times you have with him.
And yes, he might possibly like you.
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i was just wondering, how long does it usually take before couples talk about sex? do they even talk about sex? cause i've been dating a guy for almost 4 months...hes such a great guy...the farthest we've gone is making out...but we havent had a "sex talk" yet...and how do you bring it up? i don't really feel comfortable talking about it but i like him so much and i feel so comfortable doing anything but that talk with him....any advice? (link)
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Actually, it depends on how open you are. I talked to a girl about sex the first day we met, but she's very open, and she initiated the whole conversation. You have to learn to be comfortable with the subject, before it pounces on you and give you a bad reaction. You should be able to talk about it with your boyfriend, it's completely natural. Or you should try to hint it as a third person, and maybe you could determine what's his position on the whole subject itself. :)
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what things can girls do when theyre making out with a guy. like, what do guys like. not like LETS GET NAKED but like little tips of stuff like what girls can do
sorry that i worded this very badly.
hope you allll understand haha (link)
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I think the kissing part has been done. You should kiss his neck, too. Necking is awesome as it could bring that sensual feel to the whole making out session. You should lightly moan, too.. drives a man crazy. but please do it lightly, and if you're with an experienced guy, do it like it you mean it. Don't fake the moan. Ears are a sensitive spot, too. A lil' nibble or tonguing.. and you're good to go. :)
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Hi,
I've read a lot of your responses and they seem quite good so lets see how you handle my problem.
OK, I 15/M and have been goin out with my gf for just over a couple of weeks. The problem is she isn't at my school and because it's coming up to GCSEs my parents say i cant have a gf so they dont know and i cant just say to them im going to meet her. Hence, we only get to see each other once or twice a week.
Then there's this other girl. We've been friends for about three years but recently I've started liking her as more than that. We flirt quite a bit and have loads in common, but I'm not sure she likes me back. I decided to leave it when I got together with my gf, but since then we have decided to go to prom together (as my gf could not go with me because she is not at my skwl).
I haven't a clue what to with either girl and would really appriciate any help you can offer.
JD (link)
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I am going to speak yu with harsh reality. It may sound greedly and filled with negativity, but in this world, to each its own.
You are still young(I know you don't think so, but you are)and shouldn't really get too involved with only one partner.
You reminded me of my situation when I was roughly around your age. In fact, it's exactly the same.
Three bestfriend whom I started to have feelings for, and a girlfriend that I just had-but don't really have that bonding the other girl and I share.
But due to me being naive, I sticked it up with my girlfriend, and we stayed on for two years, then broke up because we really didn't have anything in common.
"Having loads in common" in a relationship is essential, JD. I cannot stress the importance enough. It is vital.
I wonder everyday what it would be like if I dumped my girlfriend for my bestfriend till today. Lol.
I suggest you find out whether your friend of 3 yrs have feelings for you. Try to make this discreet so that it would be less awkward for the both of you, if things turned out bad.
Then I would probably choose her instead of the cureent girlfriend.
Then you can go to Prom without feeling guilty,
plus she's in the same school, things are much, much more easier to manage.
Logic, ain't it?
But then again, you have to question yourself, who does your heart belong to?
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OK this is the situation i broke up with my bf we hadn't been going out long. This girl in my class had liked him all the time we had been going out and about 2 days after we broke up she asked him out (which is really lame!)He said yes and they are going out now should i be angry that it had been only 2 days since we had broken up or should i get over it?
Please help!!!
thanx (link)
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A few days ago, I was having a similar conversation with a few of my girlfriends. About how guys could just straighten themselves up and get another hitch within a day or so. Apparently, women, in general, thinks that we are able to do so without remorse or such, but, personally, I would like to think otherwise. Even though, you both arent together anymore, doesn't mean he doesn't think about you. It's just that he has a firm way of getting back his life together and probably believes that the best way to get rid of those sappy emotions, is to get out there and have a good time. Be it with someone else. It helps- through personal experience.
Answering your question.
You should get over it.
From the sound of it, you're probably a teenager,
and my best advice to you. Don't let these kinda' things drag you down. Go meet other people.
The more people you meet, it gets clearer in the future on who to avoid and who you definitely want to spend the rest of your life with.
These are the essential experiences in life.
*sigh* i miss those days. =(
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There is this guy I have a huge crush on, and Im almost 100% positive that he feels that same way too. Only, he has a girlfriend.
They have been going out for 2 months and he barely gives her any attention. I rarely ever see them talking, and we all hang out. But I get the biggest vibe that he has a crush on me too. What should I do?
Wait around? Or should I say something? (link)
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No, Don't back off, girl! Be a go-getter.
If it's obvious that he likes you, then get him to be alone with you and talk to him.
it's okay, we're all human afterall.
You might never know what lies in store for you and him.
I suggest you do it for him and yourself.
Everyone deserves to be happy. And if the guy really has a crush on you, you'd probably doing his gf a favour by ending the relationhip early.
GOOD LUCK!!!
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Ok, so me and my boyfriend[Brent] have been dating only a few weeks. Well today at our schools football game, one of his friends showed up[he doesn't even go to our school] his name is Sam.
Well, I was flirting ALOT with Sam. And then when my boyfriend left, I thought about how cute Sam was and how I actually liked him.
Which is pretty weird because he has a girlfriend & I have a boyfriend. But then he would come over and talk to me, and I would catch him staring at me. And then he kept hugging me and patting my back and all of that.
So what do you think? (link)
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Well, it's simple really.
It could be lust. All those sexual frustration comes to no good keeping it inside.
How about both of you get it on? No one has to know. Just the both of you, and once you had it.
It'll probably just ends there. And now, you can continue with your boyfriend like nothing happen.
Or you could just deny your needs.
It's probably an infatuation, I have that like nearly every week.
Just sleep it off and enjoy your time with your boyfriend.
Anyways, you don't really know Sam that well.
Just play some harmless flirting and no more than that.
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My boyfriend and I broke up about a week ago. 2 days ago we began talking again and decided to be friends. We spoke more and realized that we still both have feelings for each other and that the break up was kind of stupid. But he broke up with me cause he said he was afraid he would break my heart in the future and he didn’t want to do that. Should I believe that? And then we decided to stay friends with potential and then decide if we should get back together. The thing is all my family and friends are kind of mad that im even thinking of going back to him cause he hurt me, but I love him. How am I supposed to get closer to him if I cant even see him? Or how are we supposed to get back together? Me and my friends have been planning this thing on sat and we invited him buts it 30$ to get in and he says he cant go cause he’s trying to save up for a car. Is this a hint that this wont work? Thanks in advance (link)
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Alright, people break up and make up all the time, it's usual.
And in relationships, we all get hurt. Whether it's intentional or not.
And this thing that you planned. The one that cost $30 to get in. It's not a hint, babe.
He just trying to save up for a car. Men and their rides are like Chicks and their ...ermm..
Lip gloss or ear ring or smth like that.
It's really important to him. It's good that he is saving and stuff. An important quality in a man.
So yeah, it's no hint.
About how you're supposed to get closer and stuff, it's okay. Love will find a way.
No need to crack your brains out, you both will meet whenever there's an opportunity.
Do what your hearts tell you to do, it's okay.
There's really no harm actually. You're afraid of being hurt, well, i think it's too late for that, he hurt you before. So what the worst that could happen.
Patch things up with him and make things work.
Love is a beautiful thing. :)
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ok.. well my gf thinks that i think she is fat. but she so isnt. and i really dont think so at all. and so she thinks thinks that i called her fat. and now she thinks that since i did this. that i dont love her.. and i know that i do with all my hart. i need help on what to do. how i can do something to let her know that im sorry and nothing will happen again. ive tried almost everything. i just need advice now. (link)
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Alright, the "Am I Fat?" issue with couples are kinda' tricky. It's probably because of your gf's insecurities.
My girlfriend ask me that stupid question all the time.
You know what I told her?
"Yes.. You're fat."
"And if you want to know the truth, I'm here to remind you this everyday."
And nowadays, I only get that question like once every two weeks, which is a total change. Haha..
But of course, I'm not saying you should ever use my method, I and my gf have gone through years of comfort level, and she knows I love her anyway and I'm really not into skinny chicks.
What you should probably do is talk to her in a firm serious face, and look into her eyes.
Try to convince her.
Like "What am I suppose to do when you don't believe anything I say? I wish you know how beautiful you are to me, and "no!", for the last time, You're not fat! Britney is."
Puppy eyes.
3 points for you and the home team takes it.
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I think I may have ruined things between a guy and me. But idk why.
As soon as I go online he'll start talking to me first, and we have been talking since the beggining of 9th grade [we're in 10th now]. And yeah, that particular day I told him that last year I liked him. He didn't say anything really about, he replied 'oh i never knew! 'very neutral. and the next day he imed but then conversation was very different. It seemed very stiff, usually we act like two idiots talking about anything sexual. Then the next day I had to IM him first, which was extremely weird and still! A very stiff conversation. And now he doesn't im me anymore. Hasn't for days.
OH. and we were supposed to go to a haunted house together because he wanted me to be scared and jump all over him, but NOW he told my friend he really didn't feel like going. He said he didn't feel like working hard to make money just to go out for an hour.
So did I do something wrong? How do I say something?! (link)
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Alright, I think you might have freaked out the guy. He probably thinks you want to get it on with him or something like that, and he's not really sure how to say.. "Ermm...eeuu.. not thanks.." in a nice way. So the only way to say it in a discreet way is to disappear till both of you forget about what had happened.
Anyways, some guys do not like the girls to do the first move, so maybe that could be one of the problem.
I suggest you clear things up, and have a slow chat with him, saying that the feelings are passing cloud, probably reached the other side of the world by now, and is not coming back anytime soon.
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P.s: Or maybe, he's gay.
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OK well u see iv been talking to this girl over for about 10 months we have so much in common i have only seen her twice i really have feelings for this girl but ppl always seem to bud in like on of my best friends practically was trying to get with her and it caused this whole arguement between him and i.i had just recently had surgery and he came over to argue with me well didnt turn out as an arguement we basically got in a fight so i end up hospitalized surgery again and i didnt get to see her that weekend and things just happen when im about to go meet up with her so what should i do???
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Hahaha... Dude, Are you sure he's your bestfriend? Coz bestfriends don't do that to each other.
Anyways, You should be more spontaneous.
If you feel like meeting her, why wait for the weekend? Meet her now, not in a "Stalking" way, but just casual meet ups to Starbucks or smth like that.
As for your bestfriend, what is up with him?
You got to sort this out first actually, I mean if you have to settle this real quick.
Honestly, there's no point fighting over a chick. Relationships are unpredictable, the usuals probably last about a month or two for most, but friendship, they last forever. If not, well, at least longer than relationships.
But that's my point of view. Lol.
Dude, you have to start going out with the girl more often, ten months and you met her only twice?? COmon..
Snatch her before somebody does..
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my friends say that i look like a guy that they could take home to meet there family is that a good thing or a bad thing (link)
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Alright, this could go two ways.
1) It's a good thing for those girls, who are into settling down and stuff. They have the confident that you have what it takes to impress the parents. You're a "homely" guy. A good thing!
2) It's a bad thing because, not all females like "homely" guy. They like those Bad boy dudes. The ones that excites them in those Naughty, Naughty ways.
So, you may not really be that Super Casanova every chick wants. But at least, the majority, most women wants to bring the bf/fiance home, that's where you come in.
:)
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My girlfriend and I have been dating for just over a month now. She had been a very touchy feely person, not in any sort of sexual sense, but always holding or playing with hands, or hugging and such.
Up until this week. She has been in an absolutely horrible mood since Sunday, really hasn't talked to me or returned calls or anything, and hasn't been fond of any sort of physical or social contact from anyone. I would chalk it up to PMS (sorry about the stereotype, girls) but it's literally been all day all wee. I had asked her earlier in the week if she was okay, and she said yes, that she was just feeling weird and didn't want to be around people. Today at lunch it was awful. I asked her again, walking to class (just to note, the first time she didn't hold my hand walking to her class) and she said she didn't want to talk about it. She didn't say anything else, and I hugged her an kissed her goodbye, but still.
I've treated her very well, and I've been giving her space. I'm pretty sure it as absolutely nothing to do with me, but nonetheless, what am I supposed to do? (link)
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Alright, here are a few possible explanations. Some of which might not be easy to relate to, due to denial, but we should cover all grounds.
1) Your gf might be cheating on you.Monitor her movement, if there are times she goes missing that seems to be real "fishy", I think you need pay a little more attention.
2) Your gf might be freakin' out. If she's nvr been in a relationship before, she's not familiar with the "drills" of a relationship. And she might need to have some space, to let her breathe, and adjust to her new status.
If your gf had been in rs before, she might be nervous and afraid that she might get hurt again. Work on trust. Tell her that you're willing to take it slow, and patiently follow her pace on the rs.
3) Your gf might have family/friends/personal problems, she might be the reserved type. Keeps everything to herself, but it all takes a little bit of initiative to convince her that confiding in you would do no harm.
4) The usual period around the corner. Mood Swings, Bad temper, cold shoulder.. lethargic..
That should last about a week or tops, two.
5) Depression- Find a nice,calm spot. Bring her flowers. Tell her that you love her and let her cry, most people feel better after they do.
Consult your school counsellor. Or smth of that kind.
I hope those few advice should help.
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This might be long, but please read and help. My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago. He was my first real boyfriend and we learned so much from eachother. I lost my virginity to him, and we had more great times than bad. He said the relationship wasn't the same and needed to start focusing on himself. It was a complete shock to my heart. We hadn't talked for weeks, but finally I made the first move and called him. I wanted to just catch up and see if maybe we could be friends. He seemed up for it and we hung out together. The only thing he seemed to want was sex and he was just being mean to me. He was never like that before. I held my own, but I'm even more hurt. I just can't seem to let him go no matter what. I wake up depressed and go to bed depressed. I can't believe that this boy has control over my happiness. Is there anyway you can be friends with someone you had a really intense relationship with? How do I even go about moving on? Nothing is working. (link)
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Alright, I haven't really read the other answers, so I' afriad there might be repetitions, but that's good majority wins. :)
Anyways, here's a cuple of ways of looking at it.
1) Things have changed. I don't really know how old both of you are, but if he's still young, then I guess he just needs the space. Most male do. He wants to fly, curious about the world, be independent, wants to learn the world by himself. I guess it might sound selfish, but honestly, dear, you would be selfish, too, if you don't let him be.
2) Heart Broken, Love Sick, etc.
This is an essential phase for all. We all need go through the stage of getting hurt, healing yourself and falling in love again. Though it might sound impossible now, but you might just end up laughing about the whole episode in the future. One door closes, another opens.
3) It takes time to heal. Nobody said that fixing a broken heart is easy. It's your first time, and I guess it's okay to mourn about it for a few months, but remember, life is too short to be upset all the time. You will be fine, my dear.
Go out with your friends. Keep yourself occupied, get a part time job. Go exercise. Go spoil yourself on the things you're deprived off when you're attached. Now you're free as a bird.
4) And yesh, you can be friends with him, but not now. Give it a whole generous period of time.
He is your first anyway. He laid out the bench mark for the other guys. You have to get over him first. Thoroughly.
5) just remember. You're not the only one who have their hearts crushed. There are mainly survivors from that Broken-Heart disease.
:)
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I just got my heart broken.he didnt reject me but i realized, he has no interest, which was a huge,hard step. i am trying to get over it as best i can,but its hard because hes about to ask out one of my best friends out and we hang alot with him. He uses me all the time and still sends me mixed signals, which i now know ( as much as it hurts) they r not mixed he is just breaking my heart every time he does it. I need to get over him. Im becoming deppressed and i just cant live with it anymore. i need a way out. i cant keep this up and all i want to do anymore is live and be happy again. please help (link)
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Hey, Cheer UP! One Door closes, the other one opens.
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I have a boyfreind who is really really sweet,like the perfect guy, but i dont think i like him that much anymore.
Theres this other guy who i really like who might like me, im not too sure, but hes a major player.
what do you guys tink i should do? (link)
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The fact is.. You and I have the same problem. We're never contented with what we got. Not really a good thing. And another fact is, what makes you think that he got what it takes to make you like him for the long run? You have to put it on a scale and consider these two guys.
Your bf- Whom I bet majority of the chicks are looking for. In the market, it's hard to get a perfect guy kinda thing.
Or Yr Major Player- Probably a dude, quite a good league, have many fishes in the sea to choose from, ditches you after a few runs, and forgets your name after the next play offs.
Hmmm...tough choice.
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This kid on my football team, when me and him get in arguments he calls my girl ugly. and it makes me wanna deck him. now my ques is, next time he pulls that crap should i just deck him? Cause this pussy, right when we're bout to fight always apologizes. in a fight i don't know if i'd win bu i wanna deck him so bad. should i? (link)
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Nah, no point deckin him. Just pop him a few come-backs.
Boy: Your girls ugly.
You: So is your moma, but i aint sayin nothin'.
Boy: Your girls ugly.
You: Yeah? Imagine how you feel.
Best come-backs to the face. And make him a laughing stock and he'll quit disturbin you for sheezie.
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