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no sex drive
25f. for the last two months or so I have had absolutely no sex drive. It is driving my boyfriend crazy. I don't know what the deal is...I never think about it and almost never want it and when I do have sex I just want it to be over. I do not take birth control, I eat healthy, my boyfriend is attractive, and I have not changed my diet. Does anyone know maybe why I am lacking in this department or how to jump start it again? Thanks
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It could be stress related, and your boyfriend isn't really helping.
Being pressured to function is really the worst thing to happen right now. It could be hormonal imbalance, you should try going to the doctor. Maybe sex is painful to you, and these are the withdrawals.
In this case, I feel that you should talk to your boyfriend, and talk about importance of foreplay. But then it could be an infection.
Actually, there's a list of things that you have to personally check. The doctors are the first. They could also help you out in this situation... maybe you give you pills.. relaxant or smth of that sort.
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Women and men, go through cycles where they don't just don't seem as sexually active, or have the want to. It's normal, it could be just a phase, or it could be due to stress. Most likely stress. That can cause you to loose your "sex drive". Or maybe since you haven't had sex, or done anything sexual in a while, you could try having sex with your boyfriend, and that might bring it back. alot of the time if you go without something for a while you get used to not doing it so you stop thinking about it. But it is probably due to a stressor.
Hope I helped!
-Kristen
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Well from what i know about women it's usually something going on within yourself that's preventing you to enjoy sex.Maybe it's a stressful event,or a moment of unforgiveness toward him for something he did,or it could be a medical issue also.At your age you should enjoy sex it shouldn't be a chore for you at all.Either way try to search your heart and get to the bottom of it.For example,men relieve stress,anger,frustration etc through sex.Where a woman usually dont want to even hear the talk of it.So if there are any issues you need to deal with,deal with them because he will start to have wondering eyes before too long.
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Women at 25 do not have the same sex drive as men at 25, but I would look back to when your sex drive stopped, what happened then. For women, the sex drive is more thought then anything else, for men it's visual. If there is nothing you can trace this back to, try reading something racy, a romance novel perhaps. If it helps, you know you haven't been stimulating the pleasure center. This is the only part of the brain that is stimulated during sex for women, where with men, two other parts of the brain are stimulated as well. This is why porn works better for men then women. Also, see a recent post in my advice column about this same subject, consider the other option that I gave her to consider.
My advice to you is to get your boyfriend to slow down and let you warm up those hot thoughts in your mind, or maybe have him tell you a sexy fantasy story if he has a good imagination. Maybe even try a little fantasy of your own in your head, maybe someday you can share one with him.
I don't feel comfortable with saying much more on an open web site that is read by children. I'm 49 and have been married for over 30 years. I have many more "insights", if you will, tricks to keep play time fun. Feel free to write me if you find any of what I have said helpful. Also, you and your boyfriend should read up on the female playground so you know the equipment you haven't been playing on.
Good luck and have fun.
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It could be your hormones are out of
balance. You should see a doctor and
get some blood work done. Don't be
embarrassed to see a doctor about the
problem.
It cuold also be s simple as the fear
of getting pregnant. Don't let it ruin
your relationship. See a doctor. :)
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