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Alright, well usually I'll agree 'age is just a number' but this situation...
My friend is a 15 year old girl and she's dating a 12 year old boy. I mean, yeah age is just a number but this is weird. People usually say on here 'Remember someone who is older wants a different kind of relationship' and that's true. A 12 year old boy has just left his "Girls have cooties" stage for gods sake!
Well my question is, do you think it's right that they're dating? Or is just me thinking it's wrong?
Also should I just let her be happy, or should I say something? If so, how should I put it? (link)
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I personally see no problem with your friend dating a younger guy. It's their choice, and if there happy then it shouldn't really matter.
It probably wouldn't be a good idea to mention your concern to your friend as it might just upset her.
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I have a boyfriend of a year and 3 months. but, i think im starting to like another guy, and i think he likes me. things between my boyfriend and I have been rough lately and this boy asks how we are everyday and he always tries to flirt with me and even asked me to go to his football game. Although i do have really strong feeings for my boyfriend, i kind of want a change and just be single and flirt or maybe go out with this new guy. BUT, I cannot picture my life without my boyfriend in it and i have a feeling that if i get to know this other boy more i'll just want my boyfriend back. Do you guys think that i should just take the plunge and just go for it? (The new guy...oh, and i havent liked anyone since my boyfriend and i have been going out.. this is the 1st person i've liked since) Or, do you think i should stick with my boyfriend that i have now because he is a sure thing? please help. (link)
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I dont think you should stay with your boyfriend just because he's a 'sure thing' however, just because you like this other guy doesn't mean you should dump your boyfriend for him,he may just be a passing crush and you might not like him for very long either.See if things between you and your boyfriend get rougher, if they do then maybe you do need a change and should date someone else.
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i met this AMAZING guy on myspace a month ago, from just randomly searching. yeah, i know it's not safe but he gave me his cell number after i messaged him. the next day we talked for like 4 hours on the phone! then we text on and on. every night he would call me. one night he told me he was starting to really like me, so i told him the same back. i felt confused because i didnt want to say i liked him because im scared of getting hurt again due to my last relationship a year ago. the next day, he told me he didnt like me more than a friend. i was upset, but i got over it. anyways, me and him met in person a week or two later and i knew right then and there he was so different :). we continued to talk and everything was great. i began to really like him but NOT in love with him lol. i went to his house one day, and we kissed. it was so different because it was a very different like they were alot of feelings between us. anyways, there has been alot of times when we would talk about sex and everything. hes not a virgin and i am. but he told me he would never force me or make me do anything i didn't want to do. it was hard for me to believe that because my ex boyfriend had forced me to have sex and broke up with me because he didnt get "any". the new guy though always say the most perfect things to me, he told me that my ex was jerk and its his loss. anyways, he CALLS ME ALOT, texts, and he always surprises me. anyways, he told me again he liked me alittle more than a friend a few days later. it made me really happy, and so then the next day he told me he didn't anymore. i really don't know why. i mean i DO NOT want a relationship just yet and he doesn't either. i mean i have never had a guy treat me so good like he does. were so much alike, and we've deff seen our differences. but i want to be more then friends in the future. my question is does it seem like he likes me? ive asked friends and family and they all believe he does but hes confused and maybe he just doesnt want to have a relationship so early. ive asked him why he keeps saying he likes me and doesnt and he just says "idk". (link)
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It sounds like he does like you although the way he keeps changing his mind might mean he's confused as to wether he wants things between you two to go futher, if you've both decded you don't want a relationship then maybe it's not the right time but i think you should carry on talking to him and hanging out with him and just see what happens.
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Quick Question.
I'm not use to the whole "relationship" thing. I'm a better friend than a girlfriend.
So my question is, how can i be a better girlfriend? What can i do, and how do i act? Thankss (link)
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don't worry no one really just steps into the role of amazing girlfriend, relationships are hard work so just be yourself and don't try to act like someone else because your boyfriend likes you for a reason and acting differently may ruin what you have and how he thinks of you.
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Hey i'm 17f, and work at a small restrant. The bosses son is about 19/20 y.o. He always looks at me when im at work and comes and talks to me, gets stuff like drinks... (he dosn't do this for any one els).... I like him verry much, he's realy nice and realy good looking.
The problem is next week he's goig away to europ and i wont see him for a month and a half... tomorows the last day i will see him until he comes back, and i would realy like to keep in contact with him.
should i ask him for his e-mail? If so how could i bring it up?... thanks (link)
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well it's obvious the guy likes you i think you should let him know as soon as possible how you feel about him, then he can tell you how he feels and if he does like you the way you like him then he wont object if you ask him outright for his e-mail or phone number, just someway to keep in contact with him.
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I am kind of in a predicament here. Or at least I feel really confused. (It is quite long, I’m sorry)
My boyfriend and I have been dating for quite a while, nearly a year. I love him a lot and I feel that things were going smoothly. However, a few weeks ago his ex came back to NY. (She had moved to VA before) And I felt that it was nothing really. The background is that he had dated her for a long time as well, about two years or so and from his friends, they told me that he really liked her (when they were dating) and the reason they broke up was because she had to move to VA and because she thought she’ll be leaving permanently, they decided to stop their relationship so it won’t drag on.
So I guess that isn’t really the problem but I can’t help but feel queasy when I see them together. They are hanging out together a lot nowadays. They way they laugh at each others jokes and how she smiles at him, is just getting me nervous. But she is a really nice person at least to everyone around her. However sometimes when she talks to me I feel that her smile is kind of forced. I guess it is just an instinct or maybe I am just paranoid. But I mean that her smile is really bright and she seems really happy but her eyes don’t tell me that. They are still and solemn despite her smile. Maybe I am just imagining things but I can’t help but feel…insecure I guess? I know it sounds really childish to be jealous when there probably isn’t anything wrong.
I feel kind of bad to be thinking this way and feeling that there is something going on…but I just can’t help the feeling. I talked to my closest friend and she tells me she understands. (She tells me she doesn’t like his ex either) So I have no idea now. I just don’t know if…my feelings are right or should I just stop thinking senselessly and acting childish? Should I just let things go and pretend to be alright? I don’t want to talk to my boyfriend because I love him and I don’t want to be not trusting him (I feel so guilty inside for thinking and feeling this way, it seems as if I don’t trust him but I really do- I just can’t help…) And it is not that he is neglecting me. He has been really sweet throughout our time together, and despite his ex’s arrival, he is still really nice to me. What should I do? Is it wrong to feel such a way? Am I considered selfish to feel queasy when I see them? Is it considered a lack of trust? I just…don’t know.
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1st off it's not wrong to feel that way, i know i would do in that situation and most people i know would too.
2nd despite how you feel about this i really think you should tell your boyfriend how you're feeling, chances are he will not think you don't trust him. At least he knows how you feel and if he loves you then he will understand it's just your insecurities and hopefully he will be able to reasure you about the whole situation. if on the other hand he does have feelings for the other girl again then at least it's out in the open and you'll be able to figure out what to do from there but i think it is just you being slightly paranoid they may just be good friends afer all.
What you mustn't do is lie to your boyfriend by pretending everything's OK because it might make things worst if he finds out later.
hope you can make some sense out of that and i also hope it helps you.
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i love a girl called grace but my brother makers the mick about her he calles he a slag and all that he upsets me i tell my mum and dad they tell him off but he still does it!
please tell me what to do so he wont make fun of me no more!
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i think you should tell your brother how serious you are about Grace and hopefully he will understands how much it hurts you to hear him talk about her in such away. If he just ignores you and carries on then you should ignore his childishness and dont listen to what he says.
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okay i was dating this girl sammie, then she kissed another guy i flppped and we broke up, she said that that kiss didnt mean anything... then for a month she bothered me and said she wanted me back, now i finally relieze i still really like her, and shee doesnt want me back... wat do i do to get her back, or is it even worth it?
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i dont think it's worth it, you need to move on just like she has and besides who says if you two got back together a similar thing wouldn't happen again?
It's probably best if you find someone else,
hope this helps
xxshandzxx
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How do you get over someone that you lost your virginity to but you have to live with and theres no way around it? (((WE ARENT RELATED OR ANY NASTY INCEST SHIT LIKE THAT))) Basically i fell inlove with this guy we have had sex but hes a man whore and he doesnt love me he was just using me. So like how do i get over him? (link)
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just get on wth your life, i no its hard but it'll get easier trust me,then u can fine a guy who does love u and isnt gonna use u
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I'm a 15 year old girl and I know everyone who answers me is going to tell me that love doesn't exist at 15, so I'm going to say, I " like " this guy named Jon. We went out and my friend gave me this birthday present and Jon was like " Where did you get it" and I said " Brad gave it to me for my birthday" and Jon told me to give it back. Jon is very controlling and wont let me get a word in when he's in his controlling moods. I told him I wasn't going to give the present back because it's rude and Brad might think I don't like it and I do. When I said I wouldn't give it back he got mad and of course left me. I asked him later why he even loved me and he just said " I don't, bye. " I was really hurt and I cried for 3 hours. My friends cheered me up for that moment but I'm still upset. What should I do? Thanks in advance. (link)
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foget this guy u can do so much better. You should never date someone who's that controlling relationships like that hardley ever work.
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so ive been dating a guy for a couple months and he just recently said something really mean to my friend while she was working causing her to run of work bawling. i dont want a guy that talks shit to my friends. is it wrong to break up with him for it? please answer.. (link)
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only dump him if something like that happens again
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what are things you can do for a one year anniversay? (guy who is planning for a girl)
i need to know for my friend so please help asap (link)
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take her out for a meal and watch a romantic movie at home in candle light or something
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I'm gonna keep this short. I started sumerschool today, met a guy there- started talking. After school we went for a bite to eat and before I know it I'm kissing him and he's my boyfriend!! This is no not like me! Sure I had fun with him today but he is so not my type! Ot maybe he is but there is something that doesnt feel right. He is really sweet and nice and likes me alot (after one day, I know..) But I kinda like this other guy too and I don't know if he likes me but I think I have a chance...So now I'm torn. Should I give the guy I now have known for 10 hours and who is ´my boyfriend appeantly or should I dump him and try going for the guy I actually like??
PLEASE HELP ME!
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isnt it obvious, u should ask the guy u actually like out
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My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 months. And while I deeply care about him, that same spark isn't there that there was up until about a month ago. I make excuses so I don't have to go see him when I don't feel like it, and a lot of the time, I don't feel like it.
He started to get on my nerves from not knowing when to stop playing around and being too shy to ever say anything when I'm upset or suprise me with something or be sweet more than on the very rare occasions.
I think its time to end the relationship as it stands now. I still really DO want to remain friends with him though, and I know that usually never happens after a breakup. Especially when the guy is so attached, like it is here. He (although he has difficulty showing it in person, but over IMs and whatnot, it shows -- jeez, computers are taking over our lives and ability to speak, aren't they?) is a LOT more attached to me than I am to him.
How can I word what I want to say to let him down very gently and hopefully keep our friendship? Any other helpful things to add?
PS: School is out for the summer, if that may come into play. (link)
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Tell him exactly how you feel, including how much you would like to be friends with him, and hope he wants the same rather than you two going your seperate ways and all that.
If it doesnt work out that way then at least you know you tried.
luck, Shandi
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Ok well one of my friends is like the hugest flirt ever, and her parents are stricter then ever and she still hooks up with guys. I am starting to get really annoyed because she likes a new guy everyday. See what i dont understand is my parents dont care if i have a boy friend but i dont!! I am soo shy to anybody i like, But i am not shy at all to guys i only like as friends. I just want to be more flirty and have the perfect guy. Any suggestions? (link)
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practice on your guy friends it'll make you more confident so you'll be able to flirt with the guys you fancy
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Okay, so this guy that i`ve been wit` since we met jus` recently broke up. We were together for 15 1/2 months. He took me back everytime I cheated or anythin` like that. But, this time, he broke up wit` me. He said he loves me still, && that we`ll get back together "soon". But, right now he has "too much drama" && "not enough time" for a girlfriend. I love him so much && I want him back. This all happend 4/21. Everytime I talk to him..I cry on the phone..off the phone, or whenever I think about him. I want him back. I feel like no other guy is worth my time, but him. He`s my everythin`. I jus want to know how I would be able to start the "soon" process.
oh by the way..he`s livin` wit` lesbians && he gets mad when I talk to ANY of my guy friends. But i`m perfectly fine wit` that. I`ll stop talkin` to EVERY guy, jus` to have him back.
HELLPPp!!
i rate..GOOD! (: (link)
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well you obviously dont want him as much as you think or say if you cheated on him more than once when you had him, however it takes things like these to make people realise what they had and how lucky they were to have them. my advice is you should give your ex as much time as he needs and be his friend for now. he will appriciate it .
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k so heres the problem. i like this guy..he likes my best friend as much as i like him which is ALOT! my friend said that i could have him cause she just wants to be friends with him but then him and her text message each other all the time. i wanted to know what the texts said so when she was in the shower i read them. he asked her when he was gonna get the first kiss from her and he called her beautiful and things like that. she replyed that he is gonna have to work hard to get and she called him sexy. she knows i like him. i liked him before she started talking to him. but one thing i dont get is why she still lies to me when she clearly knows that i know she is starting to have feelings for him. she send him the texts right when im sitting next to her. then on friday night me, her, him and his friend hung out. and i could tell that he liked my best friend ALOT! so i decided that if he really wants her im not gonna get mad over it even though i am jealous. but i could see that if they did go out then it really wouldnt work out just because there way too different. like she flirts with EVERY guy that she comes across of and he is one of those guys that like long relationships. so i think once he finds out what she is REALLY like then he wont like her. i feel really bad for saying this but idk. i just really like him. she and her bf just broke up last night so i think he is gonna ask her out real soon. but if they do go out i dont know how that would feel for me. i dont know.. what should i do?!?!?
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just so you know i don't do this for the rates and stuff, i just like helping people. right anyway, i think in this situation you should tell your friend how you feel about all this, trust me it'll help, and if she genuanly likes him too then i think you should let her go out with the guy when he likes her back.
i know it seems suckish but its the right thing
hope this helps
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15/f- Okay so theres this guy, Ryan. Hes one of my friends cousins, and Lives like 2 hours away from me. I met him last summer, and ever since then, we hang out everytime hes in town. Well usually when we hang out, theres a little flirting and stuff, like we bicker back and forth and stuff like that, but when we hung out time before last, he wrote me this big long not on my cell phone about how he hoped I didnt think he didnt like me because of the "fighting" because he did. Well I didn't know whether to take that as he liked me as a girl friend or friend. Well he was over here last night with 2 of his friends, and we were all hanging out. We started cuddling and holding hands and stuff. When he was leaving, we were standing by his car and he had his hands around my waist, and we almost kissed, but my mom ruined it lol... well anyways, neither of us will really take the first move. I would, but its been like a year and a half since I've made out with anyone, so I'm afraid I'm gonna suck at it again. Its like starting all over for me. And I'm scared he'll pull away, because I misread the signals or something. I don't know. But I'm starting to like him a lot, and he said he liked me when we were laying outside. So I just dont know what to do. He'll be here in 3 weeks again. Any advice? Please, anything would help. (link)
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when you next see him just ask him out, im sure he'll say yes and that way he will know you like him and will know its cool with you if he kisses you
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I like a person named Travis now and he is younger than me....we get along fair...but not as well as i want you know i mean not to fast but i don't want to be friends all my life either. Anyway the other day trav was over at my house and we were jumping on the trampoline and he gets a rope and whips me on the legs with it...could he be flirting with me? anyway so were talking and i kick him and he jumps on top of me and starts like squising my face cheeks and stuff like he's hurting and tonight...he said you really hurt me and so i kissed my hand and put on his cheek and he just looked at me and smiled....then i took his hand put it on his mouth and put it on my cheek and he just smiled and looked at me for like 2 minutes and i said what are you looking at.....and he took a minute and said the window.."from what i told you do you think he likes me?" "do you think he's gonna be a wife beater." please tell me your advice.
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It seems like he really likes you but you should tell him not to be as rough with you, as he probably has sussed you like him he will be glad you brought it up so he knows it hurts you and he knows to stop.
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Okay, theres this kid. Lets call him JAR, now jar really likes me; a lot. And well, I don't really like him. But the thing is that he would pay someone $10 for my phone number or beat up anyone that said something mean to me. He offered to buy me a new phone .. and got my chocolates, and a bear and calls me ALL the time.
Okay, now my boyfriend. Lets call him AREO(don't ask) now, areo never says things like that. I've gotten chocolates before, and cute little love notes from him like "From the first time I saw you .." kind of notes. He just doesn't give me a lot of stuff. But does that mean he doesn't care? I mean, he loves to skate he's out skating most of the time and he doesn't have a cell. So sometimes its hard for him to call.
Thats the thing. Who likes me more? Theres a 99% chance that I'm not going to go out with JAR, but I feel bad for him. For all I know his room could have my face all over it. He really likes me. But so does AREO. Nobody really likes JAR. So it would be kind of embarrassing to go out with him, and I don't want to. I like AREO, but sometimes I have my doubts of him.
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if you don't like 'Jar' then you shouldn't dump your bf for him, just because your bf isn't as obssessed over you it doesnt mean he doesnt care and his popularity shouldn't really come into it.
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