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My love life has been a mess recently, and it's turned into me considering giving my ex a second chance. I'm 19, btw. He's 21.
Background: When we were together, emotions ran high and neither of us were really prepared for it. He's struggled with control, and dealing with emotions for most/all? of his teenage life, and he couldn't handle it, so he ended it.
Before he ended it, he was being kind of horrible to me. He unintentionally encouraged an eating disorder I'd been on the edge of for years, he added to my self-hatred, and when he broke up with me, threw me into depression.
On the other hand, before he freaked out about what he was feeling, he was one of the sweetest, most romantic guys I'd ever met, and he loved me. When I wound up depressed, he stayed with me and held me while I cried, if I did, and kissed my tears away. He never meant to hurt me.
We broke up last July, and we're still "involved". There are feelings on both ends and we both know it, but I had the option of being with someone else I developed some feelings for.
When I saw my ex, though, and he kissed me, I felt that he still loves me, and neither of us seem to want to let go of that. We were friends with benefits for awhile, then I stopped it, but now I want to start it again.
Neither of us are ready for a relationship again. I feel trapped and caged easily, and I don't want the "girlfriend" responsibilities.
What do you guys think? Should I go back to being FWB with him with the thought that it could turn back into a relationship? (link)
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To be honest I think that you should be done with this whole situation. You both need to move on with ya'lls lives. I think that there has already been to much damaged caused to both of you and that you will only dwell in the past.
good luck.
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I recently had sex for the first time and I am a girl and 15 1/2 years old. After I had sex(for the first time) do I need tosee a doctor? Is it just for girls that are on the pill? I feel like I need to see a doctor, what do you think? (link)
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wow Im sorry it took me so long to answer this and you might already have the answer but you dont have to go to the doctor. Alot of girls do so that the can get tested for stds or have a paop. to get put on birthcontrol. But you dont have to.
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ok well my boy friend wants to do something today but i dont... what should i do PLEASE HELP (link)
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If you dont wanna do something you should tell him and he should undetstand because part of having a relationship is being able to say when you want to and when you dont without the other one fliping out. Good luck. I hope I helped.
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Ok, i used to talk to this guy david and we seemed to hit it off pretty well. but then he accused me of "having something" with his friend John. But it was total bull. So we stopped talking. then, a couple of weeks ago he called me after i texted his cell. we talked for about an hour and then he had to go. We have been talking since. He told me he still liked me because he knew/knows i still have feelings for him. we made plans to meet at a dance club and hang out. seems good right? wrong. his girlfriend showed up so i got ditched. he barely talked to me all night. i was devastated that he would do that to me. but we got over it. now we are talking again and he is calling me and continuing to make plans to hang out. But he still has a girlfriend. and i dont know what to do because i really do like this kid. please help. i rate high.
~Confused (15/f) (link)
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I wanna say first that its wrong of him to not tell his girlfriend that he likes you. If he really likes you then you shouldnt do anything with him until he tells his girlfriend or breaks up with her so you dont get hurt. Talk to him and tell him how you feel about him having a girlfriend and saying he likes you. If he is really serious about you he will understand and do something about it. Good luck. I hope I helped.
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Okay, well I have been talking to this guy for over a year. We get together almost every weekend. We tell each other everything. Here's the problem ..lol I like him ALOT and he knows it. He tells me he loves me and we talk on the phone everday we can't see each other. (he lives in a diff. city like 30 min. away) He tells his friends he likes me. But then again we fight a lot. But they never last long and we are cool again within a few min.(the fighting has stopped now unless we are joking around)He has turned down other girls because we are *talking*. But he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend yet. Do you think he will or am I wasting my time?
p.s.-a week ago he told someone he was thinking about asking me out...but a week has gone by and he hasnt but we still talk ALL the time? What do you think is going to happen? What do you think he is thinking?
I am 14
He is 14 (link)
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Well it seems to me as if yall both have feelings for each other like you said so chances are he is going to ask you. If you dont wanna wait just be open with him and tell him you really like him and you want to be with him and maybe he will ask then. Also if you dont think he is gonna ask you and you know that he likes you dont be scared to ask him. Good luck. hope i helped
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ok theres this guy i like. hes a friend of mine but i want to be more than friends. he likes another girl. the other girl didnt like him at first but when she found out he likes her she miraculously started liking him. i feel like the only reason she likes him is because she is desperate and wants to go out with someone, so since he likes her, she likes him. i like him too and i want to tell him how i feel but he really likes her. i dont want to break his heart and the other girl is my friend too. so i dont know what to do. i feel like shes using him but i dont want to ruin my relationship with either of them. what do i do? (link)
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I dont really know how to answer this question without thinking maybe someone will get hurt along the way so I am going to try to. I think that if you and this guy are really close you should talk to him and tell him what you think because he should respect your thoughts.While talking to him let him know that your not trying to break him and his girlfriend up you just wanted to share your feelings. As for the girl if you are friends with her talk to her and maybe she will tell if she really likes him or not. Good luck and I hope I helped
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My bf and i (together 2 years) took a break and during the break i had interest in another guy who just came out of a 2 year relationship. Well my parents found out, w/out knowing about the breakup of me and my bf, and stepped in right away telling the other guy to stay away from me. After about a 3 hour talk with my parents they apologized to guy yet still say they dont want me with him, want me to quit my job, cuz thats where i met him (although he only works weekends, and since of late he has quit), and they tell me that there is something about him they dont trust even though they've only seen him once! They also think i am rushing too quickly into a new relationship and that i am not ready when in reality they arent ready! I am still friends with my ex who is tryiin to do everything and anything to get us back together and the other guy and i have agreed to be friends and cool things down until everything is settled! I just dont know what to do! Should i just go back with my ex or try working things out with this new guy?
if You would like to know the WHOLE story then just email me and ill email you...
Boriquenlyfe@aol.com (link)
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this sounds like a messy situation. The best thing I can tell you is to not get with either one of them right away. I think you should stay friends with your ex so yall dont lose what yall had and at the same time get to know the other guy somemore. You should try letting your parents sit down and talk to the new guy so they can have more trust in him. I do agree that you shouldnt rush into a relationship with him until you know its really what you want to do. Good luck and I hope I helped
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i have a guy friend that i like for a while and i still do like him and he likes me one problem is that he gots a gf and we close and he always tells me that he loves me and we can talk for hours and not worry about who knows we talking but my question is is it a bad thing that he has more feeling for me and not his gf? plz help! (link)
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I dont think that its bad that he likes you more because its not really something he can control. I think that if he wants things to not get really messed up he should tell his girlfriend so she doesnt get hurt. I wish yall the best. Hope I helped
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well i have this really gud friend thats a boy and we are really close. everybody knows that he has liked me for ages and gets really upset when i go out with other people but i just didnt like him in that way. ive recently (as in 3 months a go) broke up with my long term boyfriend of a year and he has been really supportive. i was really hurt after we broke up bt my friend helped me throught it. now i think im falling for him but i dont know whether i should. am i just pretending that i like him because he is so nice to me? or do i reali like him? what should i do? i mean im 16 so it would be serious if i went out with him. i just need some advice! (link)
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If you have feelings for him just talk to him about it and see what he has to say. He likes you so you really dont have that much to worry about. Hope I helped
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I like this guy and his sister and his best friends tell me that he likes me too he has also told me that he does. anyway, I tryed talking to him and he was just acting like a total asshole!After we hung up I started to cry because he just seemed like he didnt care about me and he didnt care about what I had to say. I want to talk to him again but then I dont because I dont want to feel like I do now. He's never online and I live a long way away from him.. What can I do to like talk to him and tell him how I feel? And by telling him how I feel is also including that hes being a major asshole to me. (link)
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If you feel that you really need to tell him how you feel just call him and tell him not to say anything just to listen and after you tell him everything that you think needs to be said ask him if he will tell you what he thinks. If things dont turn out how you want them to just remember it wasnt meant to be and someone will come along. Good luck
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Do girls ever go for a younger guy? I'm 17 and going into grade 12 this year, this other girl I know is 18 and going into college. I met her at the beginning of the last school year, and at the time I thought there was NO way. She was VERY good looking, a year older than me, basically just out of my league. But over the year we talked a lot, and then this summer we've hung out quite a bit. I can't tell if this is just a friend thing or not, I've never known a guy that dated an older girl and was just wondering what your opinions on it were. Thanks. (link)
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well i know girls who have dated younger guys so i guess some girls do and some dont but if you feel there may be something there that could be good then maybe u should talk to her about it and ask her how she feels and just maybe yall will get 2gether..good luck hope i helped!
-Haleigh ~~plz rate my advice~~
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OK i met this boi n the problem is hes 19 n im 14 n we really really like each other but we have a problem its my parents n he goes well babe listen i no your parents dont like the fact that where talkin but we really like each other will u date me n i said i dunno..should i cause u n ohe might be the right 1 (link)
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well i dont think its right to do things behind ur parents back but if u feel he may be the one then i guess u should go for it but before u do think about how long u have known him and things such as that..age is just a number and he might be the type that cares for u and stuff but then again he might be using u so be careful! GOOD LUCK!!
-Haleigh ~~plz rate my advice~~
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ok recently i've been going out with my bestfriends brother. She doesnt' kno and if she did she would kick my ass! i don't kno wat to do. WE really like eathother. and she knows that he's all i think about! but she still doesn't get it.. im always feeling guilty! should i tell her or should i keep it a secret? i don't kno wat to do... i dont' wanna lose her as a friend and i don't wanna lose him as a bf. i dont' wanna be a bad friend but he really is all i thnk about and talk about she just doesn't understand.... but wen it comes to the same situations with her she doesn't care wat i think and she does her thing wiht them... if she can do it and doens't care wat i think then why can't she except wat i want?? (link)
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You should talk to her and tell her how you feel because if you dont then it will just make the problem alot worse...good luck...hope i helped.
-Hal (((plz rate my advice)))
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Okay.im 13,im 5'5 and I weigh 120 lbs...i have a nice tummy and everything and i have good arm muscles.but my legs just don't work.When I wear a bikini,if i put my legs close together,at teh top they touch!and it looks kinda wierd.What are some leg work outs i can do?Please answer..thanks.bye (link)
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Well I have the same problem and I so leg lifts and squats..u can also go to a local store and buy a fitness tape for your thighs..Hope I helped.
-Hal (((plz rate my advice)))
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Now I have this friend (boy) who i tend to like a lot! and sometimes it's weird we see each other a lot but in not the right places and we barely really know each other...but we do...i know this is kinda confusing..lol..but anyways, he asked my friends if i like him and they asked me...i mean i would say yes but the only thing is i dont really "trust" these friends...because they could come out and tell EVERYBODY! and i dont want that..you know..i think he figured out that i like him...i dont constantly stare...he does sometimes...does that mean he likes me? is it wrong for me to like him when i barely know him? should i ask my friend to ask him out for me? HELP!
Signed,
Confused Cupcake (lol) (link)
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lol well i think you should tell him how u feel and if he feels the same way then maybe yeha u know u could hook up but if u dont wanna tell ur friends because u think they will tell everyone then u gonna have to talk to him urseld and maybe u should just get hims number and get to know him
Hal (((plz rate my advice)))
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Do Guys like to get clothes as birthday presents from their girlfriends? (link)
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lol well it depends on the guy because some do and some dont so u should ask the guy if he wants clothes..
Hal (((plz rate my adivce)))
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hey, i dont know y but every since i turned 12 (im now 13) i have lost a lot of my self confidence. i think im pretty and all but i dunno sometimes i just wish i could change a lot of things about myself. ne ideas of how i can boost my self confidence back up? (link)
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well lets see first off i think u need to make a list and comapre and scratch things off and then compare and then u need to think that u are pretty because thats the first key to have self confidence!!
-hal (((plz rate my advice)))
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HI Im a 14 year old girl and i told a guy I liked him right before graduation. we aren't very good friends but a friend of mine told me "he didnt want to ruin the friendship" and im pretty sure that is just an easy term for the words "i don't like you" but then at the dance two days after my friend told me the news he wouldn't stop convienently running into me and kept walking up to me like he wanted to dance but then would just say something sweet and walk away then he asked me to dance and kissed my hand. Was he just being sweet? Do I have a chance with this guy in high school? Is there a chance that he is thinking about me? And if so in a good way? My friend who asked him if he liked me keeps telling me that he doesn't like me and i should get over him.... (link)
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well it seems to me like he was flirting and if he was doing that then there must be something there and if you think that you have a chance go for it but if you dont it would be best u just move on. good luck
-Hal (((plz rate my advice)))
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ok. i am 13. and just recently i fell in love for the first time with this guy but then he moved a few months ago to like the opposite side of the U.S.A.! Before he moved we went out like 10 times on and off. I was so in love! and after he moved i was very very heartbroken and I still am. and we still talk on msn messenger and AIM all the time. and we are still really good friends. but for a while he has had a gf. since he has moved he has gone out with a few girls but sadly their relationships didnt last that long and now he is really in love with this girl. And even tho i am happy for him it still hurts me and it kinda seems like he still likes me but i cant be sure. i know i still love him but i told him i didnt bcuz i am really trying to get over him. but i cant tell if he likes me or not! and now he is coming bak here to visit in a few weeks and he said hes going to come to visit me. and i dont know whats going 2 happen!!! bcuz i still really like him and he was my first love and i dunno if he likes me or not ne more...i think he probly doesnt but we have never really hung out as friends cuz we were basically always gf and bf. i dont know what to do!!! Plz help! (link)
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well when he comes down just talk to him as friends and dont let him see that you like him alot but if you get the vibe that he still likes you then bring it up ask him if he still likes you and if he does then tell him how you feel and see where that takes yall good luck and let me know what happens.
-Hal (((plz rate my advice)))
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I've been with my boyfriend, Steve for about a month now and we barely talk and i haven't seen him since school ended. But will be seeing him all the time when school starts. And lately i've been having feelings for this other kid Peter, who i see more often and talk to alot more. I also share more intrests with Peter. Although he's a year older and once school starts up again i wont be seeing him as often cause he's going to high school. Some of the girls in his grade who im friends with say they think he likes me and one said i should dump my boyfriend and go out with him. But I really like my boyfriend but im also really starting to like this other kid. I flirt with Peter alot probably more than with Steve. And I think im more comfortable with him. What do you think i should do?
And please don't tell me to follow my heart cause it pretty equal and i've got no idea what to do. (link)
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i think thay you should go with peter it seems to me that he is better for you in alot of ways
-Hal (((plz rate my advice)))
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