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Q: im a 13/f n my bestfriend is 13/m i like him alot and we went to the movies yesterday with 2 other friends a boy and a girl. i was sitting inbetween the girl and my best friend n all during the movie he kept sorta kicking me and rubbing his leg against my leg. i thought it was cute. then he didnt mean to well at least i dont think he meant to, but he moved his hand like in between the seat and he touched my theigh a couple of times. i like him alot but do you think he was making moves on me? well he knows i like him but im sort of clueless right now!! thank you
yea he might like you.. why dont you just ask hiim but if ur chiken get friends to ask him!

Q: my boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago and we got back together a couple of ays ago. I love him more than anything and I don't want to mess things up this time. When he broke up with me he didn't really give an explanation why he did it. And I couldn't get him to tell me, he would just say, "It's hard to explain." He had told me he loved me and we were about to do certain "things" but i don't know if he still wants to do those "things" So my question is do you think he still loves me? Also do you think he still wanys to do those "things". And how should I bring the subject up with him? Thanks a ton! Please help...
you shouldnt do "those things" unless your both ready.. dont ask him just wait til the right time comes.. youll know trust me. and is his kiss still as passionate? does he still hold you? does he still tell you things like i miss you and cant wait to see you? if not the chances are he still likes you but has to put his trust back in the love.. hope i helped!


Q: A few days ago the guy I used to like asked me out... of course I said yes. Last night his friend dumped me for him. Later that night the same friend imed me saying how sry they are that they would do that to me. At first i was confused on what happened, but as they kept talking to me a realized that it was a joke. They made a bet that if i went out with him for a few days he would get money. I'm not mad b/c i still like him (now i hate him), I'm mad at them b/c they were my close friends and they thought it was ok to do something like that. The thing is, is that i'm not sure if i should forgive them, they were my friends and i know i might be sry if i never talk to them again.
thanks for the help
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are you a guy or a gurl...? if your a guy are you gay? im confused... anyway if they realize what they had done was wrong and they said sorry you should forgive them.. but dont let it slide next time... and tell them both that it was messed up what they did and make sure they know it wont ever be the same between you... let me know how it works out!!

..hope i heled...

Q: what do i say? how do i ask him out? when can i kiss him ?
Hey would you like to go out with me some time like to a movie or the mall or something.. kiss him when yall start dating!

Q: i appologize now for this being long...but i just really need some advice!

ima 14 female freshman...
it starts off in 7th grade, me and this guy got 2 gether..we dated for a year. broke up in 8th grade..he messed with sum 7th graders. we were supposed 2 get back 2gther, but he ended up switchin schools. during the summer after 8th grade, we kept in touch..talked on the phone, chilled @ the movies and all that...and yes we were frends wit benefits!!...freshman year started we didnt talk so much, thats wen i met this guy..we dated 4 2 months, and juss a few weeks ago i broke up with him..once my ex boi found owt i was single again..we started talking...(and b4 i broke up wit my boi he told me he would b waiting 4 me!)...so it was true he was waitin 4 me!...we been talkin alot latly! im guessing we do go owt..its juss i dont know if i can trust hiM!..i know how he is..im just scared ima get hurt again!..bkuz he sorta did mess roun wit others back in 7th grade!
give it one more chance.. and if he messes up again tell him whos boss and lay him off.. but while yall go out.. trust him dont get up in his mess when he went out with some friends... or when he chills with other gurls.. if you really feel he is cheating on you ask him and if he says no belive it and when or if you find out it was tru.. DUMP HIM

Q: um there is a guy in my school he is not that hot but ok i like him tho but i dont konw what to do i think he like some one else but he still single so ne advice for me plz help me out here help me how can i get this guy to like me
be u.. dont get him to like you.. LoL if he is single go for it bfore he is taken...THats a no-brainer!!!

Q: PLEASE TAKE TIME TO READ THIS...IM SURE ALL YOU GIRLS HAVE GONE THROUGH SOMETHING LIKE THIS! okay here's the thing...there's this boy...let's say..."Dylan". well me and dylan go to school together and just last year i began talking to some of his friends just sayin how i thought he was cute and all. so at the end of last year that got around to him but we barely said hi. then over the summer we talked alot and he even began calling me cute names. we expressed to eachother how much we liked eachother and everything then rigt before the summer was over he ended up telling me he wasnt ready for a girlfriend. i mean i was okay with that i just felt like he had led me on for so long. well now we're over that but i hear from more of his friends that he likes me again and im sure he can tell that i never quit liking him. my question is how do i get him to finally confess that he likes me if he still does without asking him the question flat out? thanks!!
Okay Dr. Munk is crazy dont listen to him.. dont try killing him! LoL anyways tell some of his friends and it will get to him.. hell find out u like him and if he likes u hell start flirting and stuff and talking to u more... and ull know.. if he doesnt.. then his friends are liers

Q: ok..well on e of my best friends is in 7th grade and the guy I like is in 7th grade and I am in 8th grade I told my best friend [lets say...Rache] that I really liked the guy and she was like awww all that shit and she was going out with someone at the time and then the night I told her that I liked him..she dumped her current boyfriend and asked out the guy I liked..and today I was ganna think hard about when I was ganna ask him out and then all of a sudden her name popped up when me and the guy I like were talking about something and he is like ya me and Rachel are going out and I am like aww kool..like kinda in a obvious way [and he doesnt know that I like him] and ya..and I'm about to cry what do I do and what do I say to the guy/ and or Rachel!! PLEASE HELP!!! i am ganna go under depression.....seriously...
~*Lost N Lost*~ ...again
tell the bitch she is a bitch and thats fucced up!! and move on.. fomr both of them.. neither of them are worth it!

Q: ok well heres the situation i liek this kid n hes on the same sports team as me but i juss dont kno how 2 exactly get him 2 notice me liek as more then a friend cus i realli liek him n i woudl realli like us 2 go out or atleast become realli good friends n yea but my 1 friend thinks i shoudl ask him 2 come bowlin w. a group of us but idk cus then i dont realli want him 2 kinda kno i like him if he doesnt like m bac cus then it'd bb awkward if he doesnt n i dont want it 2 b also a lot of grlks liek him n tahts anotehr reaosn i dont wanna juss come out n b liek yea i liek u n crap cus i dont realli think id have a realli good chance cus of all the ppl that liek him so yea. i neeed usm things 2 talk about n stuff i hope u can help me cus i realli need it! ty if u can!!!!
find out what he is interested in.. talk to him about the game on friday (or anything about the team) and then be like hey me and some friends are going bowling wanna come CHILL wit us.. dont let him know u want it to be more then a friends thing.. and then flirt with him and stuff and see if he likes u after that

Q: ok my boyfriend and me have been going out for 3 weeks now and it seem like we arnt going anywhere. i mean we have gone to the movies 2 times and out to eat twice and then ice skating and we held hands during both movies but he wont kiss me or anything. is he afraid? what can i do to get him to kiss me? his friends and my friends have told him too but he wont. what can i do to get our relationship going. or is he showing me signs that he has no feelings for me? please help me. thanks.
its not that he has no feelings.. maybe he is accually a respectful guy and is waiting for you to be ready... or he may not be ready.. and dont force him.. that will end the realationship.. let me know how it goes! (how old are yall!?)

Q: Hi! I'm 14/f and I kind of like this guy friend of mine. We'll call him Dave. Anyway, as I said, I kind of like him...that way. And he recently told me that he likes me, too...that way. Except I'm kind of afraid of him asking me out because it would be my first real boyfriend, and I don't know what I would do with a boyfriend! It would be SO awkward going on a date to dinner or something with Dave, and I'm not really big on huge public displays of affection. And I think he has a few friends who don't really like me all that much. Any advice?? (I rate!)
ull get used to it... trust me i was the same way.. and im not a public affection fan either so i know how u feel... just let it go..it will work out and ull get used to it.. trust me!

Q: Darrel, this guy I like, likes me back. Except...he's black, and I'm white. And my mom has already told me that she wouldn't support me if I were to date a black guy. Not because she's racist, but because of the "problems" it causes, and everyone will look at you differently. But she isn't going to forbid me from doing it, because she knows that I have to do what's right for me, not for her. And anyway, I think that the things that go along with dating a black person kind of are problems - other black guys will look at you and think, oh, she's into black guys, and other white people will look at you differently, and if they don't know Darrel they won't know what a sweet, funny, smart guy he is, and how he wouldn't ever get mixed up in the wrong crowd. But I think I might really like him. And it's wrong not to date someone just because they're black - that's racism! I guess what I'm trying to say is, I need some comfort and someone telling me what the right thing to do is, lol! Sorry about the long story, but I rate! (Oh, and I'm 14/f, by the way.)
if u like him screrw what ppl say.. take him home and watch save the last dance.. it works out for them!

Q: **hey guys! ok im 14/f. ive been friends w/ this guy since like 6th grade, and we r in 9th now. we have become better friends cause we have a class together, and we hang out sometimes on weekends w/ a group of friends. he talks to me a lot more now, and we r good friends. he even tells me like who he likes and stuff. recently he told me he stopped liking this girl cause he needed someone he could be himself around (his crazy...crazy self... lol) he'll call me babe and stuff like that sometimes 2 (im not sure if hes joking or flirting...?) what do u guys think? and... how can you tell if a guy likes you or not? for guys: what do u do to show a girl that you like her? thanks all**
Yep.. he likes you... and the only way to know (cuz guys are wierd like that and dont feel comf. showing it) is to ask! hope i helped

Q: my bf and me go to diff skools and we see eachother mostly lyke ery other day or something but we havent seen eachother for a week...well hes at the mall with his frends...and the mall is about 6 blocks away from my house...and hes walking around with his friends and hes like @ this church thats 3 blocks away frmo my house..he knows where i live n stuff but he "cant cmoe see me bc his friends will only come if i hav friends for them" and none of my friends r home....so ther goin bak 2 the mall....it really hurts my feelings bc I ALWAYS go 2 his house hes been to my house TWICE and i go to his EVERYTIME...so he called n was like uhh idk ill call u later if something comes up n we happen to go by ur house again and iw as like watever have fun at the mall bye nd i hung up on him...im realllly mad at him.....wat do i do? hes gonna b online tonite i kno that for a fact n hes gonna b all sweet 2 me....and if he calls bak....do ii answer?? wat do i say? =\
soy... YOUR PISSING ME OFF... who is more imp ur damn friends or me... and be like if u never wanna hang out with me b/c ur friends dont.. then im not hangin out wit u.. see how he takes it.. but if he gets all sweet and tries the whole "im sorry baby..it wont happen again" remember..your madd at him.. and dont let ur gaurd down til he proves it! let me know what heppenes

Q: (16/F) Alrighty then, there is this guy that I've liked since last year. (name is...Frank) I have told Frank that I like him three time to his face, and we are not going out. I was wondering if it would be weird if I got him a Christmas present. I know its not Christmas yet, but I want to figure this out before hand. Please tell me what you think. Thanks in advance.

Signed-
Just Wondering
it wouldnt be weird at all... it would be just like giving someone else a prez...but dont xpect anything if you dont think he likes you... also dont get him anything lovii dovii.. he might not know how to react... hope i helped!

Q: 14/f
okay, this weekend i was at an academic kinda thingy...there was a dance and i met a guy there, he was really sweet and we had an awesome time....when it was over he walked me to my hotel room and gave me a kiss :o)
the next day, i saw him again. long story short we made out...well, know i'm back home and i could shoot myself b/c i didn't get his AIM email or anything! what should i do to feel better?
nothing...you'll prolly never see him again.. and although u like him a lot.. you should let it go for now.. move on... there is nuttin u can do babe! sorry!

Q: My boyfriend, Matt and I have been going out for 9 months. We get along great, and I love him more than anything in the world. The day that he asked me out though another boy, Kevin was going to ask me out (ironic, right?). About 4 months ago I started talking to Kevin after me and Matt had a big fight. I realized that it was so much easier talking to Kevin then Matt, so I started hanging out with Kevin a lot. This summer Matt and I had a huge argument and broke up for about two weeks. I called Kevin crying and ended up going over to his house (he lives in my naiborhood). We talked and ended up kissing, which led to making out. After the incident Matt and I got back together, I told him what happened, and Kevin and I stopped talking. About September I ended up calling Kevin again. I went over to his house and we talked, he gave me a hug and I went home. A week later he calls me and I sneak out to see him. We talk, watch a movie, and end up making out. Matt and I are still strong, but lately I have been spending a lot of time with Kevin. I have such strong feelings for Matt, but at the same time I can't stand the thought of not being close to Kevin. They are both wonderful guys, each having thier own particular trait that draws me to them. To add the problem is that Matt and Kevin know each other and HATE each other. I'm just really confused right now and would like a little advice. Thank you for anything. -Confused
Which one do you think about more.. when your with matt... is kevin on your mind? when your with kevin is matt on your mind (besides guilt) which one do u laugh more with.. which one do you feel comfortable and protected with.. whick one do you know will never hurt you.. who do u think will make you happier... put the pros and cons on a sheet and figure out which one you wanna be with and who you want in yout life more.... BUT WHATEVER YOU DO dont rub them into eachothers face even after u and matt break up (should you chose kevin) try and get along with him.. if he is too immature to let you be happy.. just dont talk to him it aint a friendship worth keeping!!hope i helped...rate pls

Q: how hard is to get pregnate at the age of 37? ia there any helpful method to make pregnancy happen? my husband and I want to have a baby and we are afraid because , as i said, I am 37 and he is 41. Thanks, ceci
i know im only 16 and all.. but i think you should see what your dr says... ask him for helpful hints and yall aint old or nuttin so there is no reason you cant have a youngin!

Q: My boyfriend is always putting his arm round my waist and touching me but I never know where to touch him. I don't want to be really outragous or anything, I just want to know how I should touch him.
put your arm around him!

Q: Im 15 male and from scotland. Currently i am in a long distance relationshop and i am confused!
I love this girl, im sure of it. And she loves me too, but i dont know, things seem hazy, its not that i dont trust her of course i do. But like she has a load of male friends and is rather shall we say "close" to them. I dnt mean anything goes on or that jus im not sure what goes on coz i cant be there and see. Like i sed i do trust this gal with my life i jus dont know wot 2 think at the moment, plz help me sum1.
Youres anon
if she loves you you aint got nuttin to worry about... she dont want no one else..!!! no sweat... but.. since you cant be there.. she is prolly hangin out wit guys just to feel like someome she can talk to ... maybe she is confused... but listen.. if you have that many questions.. let it go for now and see how she takes it.. then if she comes back.. shes yours... THATS HOW YOU'LL KNOW!!

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Hey Everyone!! Its Me..Quizzle!! THats my nickname... I Live Spring hillFL!! Its not too xciting..but its good.. i have a lot of ppl i talk to but not too many GOOD FRIENDS.. only on.. and thats HIZZLE!!!.. i love to help ppl... everyone..with anything i can.. I am a bitch.. and i will help you.. but if you dont like my advice.. then dont ask me anymore!! i will tell you what i think.. i wont paint a pretty pic..but im the good columnist cus im not gonna tell youoOo do this and that.. nope its what i think you should do strate up...Rate me!!

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