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I am 23 years old. I have a daughter who is about to turn six ( I was 17 when i gave birth to her) and i am 3 months pregnant. I have never been married. I would like to let you know that my advice is genuine. I have been through alot in my life. From childhood problems, relationship problems, family problems. I have done my share of experiencing with drugs and alcohol. I have had suicide thoughts as a teenager. I have autistic triplet brothers and a sister with multiple sclerosis. I have not seen or spoken to my father in 12 years. I hope that i can help you and will do my best.
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About 2 months ago, my friend and I told eachother that we liked eachother. (I'm 16/f and he's 17/m) For some reason, no one has been going for it. I really want to bring it up and see if he still likes me, but I'm scared to either get hurt with him saying no, or to say the wrong thing. I feel like he's been dropping hints, but I don't want to overassume. How should I go along with this, and what should I say?
Is he shy? Sometimes guys want the girl to make the first move. They wont tell you that but its true. If you think he likes you then go for it! I know rejection can be painful but we learn from our mistakes and it makes you stronger. if thats the case, show no grudges or hard feelings. If hes dropping hints, then you do the same. But be careful because this could become a agme without either of you knwing it. Like i said, if you got a good feeling hes into you, then make the first move. good luck
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k i have this guy friend who im really close with named "JoE".."joe" tells me ALOT of his personal shit, and if he ever cheated on a girl, id be tha only person he would tell..but im starting to like him more than a friend and his other best guy friend told my other best guy friend that he liked me too. the problem is he seriously is SUCH a HUGE FLIRT..like hes all over every girl he knows even if he doesnt like them..but hes not like that with me ofcourse cause we are 2 close for that and i dont fall for that shit..he has a reputation of being a player, etc..im scared ill be his next "victim"..what should i dO
Don't let yourself be his "Next Victim". It sounds like he really confides in you and respects your friendship. I know sometimes it can be hard to be friends with a guy and not start to develop feelings but when you find yourself in this situation, you have a few choices. One, just continue being his friend, and if he likes you more than that, let HIM tell YOU. two, you can be honest and open. Tell him how you feel. besides, you are really good friends. Or you can just push aside all these negative feelings and go for it. It might be the best decision you ever make!
ok i really need help my bf dumped me cuz i talk 2 my guy friends and now he wants me back and bad i dont know wut 2 do my friends and fam hate him and he's not the best bf dut i still miss him wut do i do.... help me
What makes your friends and family hate him?? Does he respect you? Alot of guys don't understand why us girls have guy friends. I personally have a lot of guy griends because girls can be scandalous and i am not into all the makeup and pretty sundresses. Guys understand me better. And i understand them better. It sounds like your boyfriend has a problem trusting. Have you two broke up before? I am all about 2nd chances but not to fond of 3rd chances. I think giving too many chances shows your weakness. Be strong. Talk to him and let him know that he can trust you and how you feel about the "guy friend" situation. But make sure this guy is treating you right. Sometimes, although hard to admit, your friends and family are right. good luck!
iight i was suppose to go back out w/ this guy and me and him where on the phone from 11:30 till 1:35...well...when i got off the phone w/ him i was on the phone w/ this other guy...and he as telling me how ppl came up to him at skool and told him that he had a hott girlfiend(they where talking bout me) and he told them that i wasn't his girlfriend...well i was like *Sam ill be ur girlfriend and then out of no where we jst started going out...well i haven't talked to *Doug since then...and then today my friend was like o yeah me and *Doug are going out and i was like since when and she was like since 11:30 last nite! i know i shouldn't be mad but idk wat to do?
Sounds like "Doug" likes to play games. Be thankful that you didnt get caught up in that. If "Doug" breaks her heart, be glad that it wasn't you. Definatley don't be mad. Most likely, your friend doesnt know that he was putting the moves on you over the phone before he moved onto her. If she doesnt know about this, then tell her. Atleast she'll have a fair warning.
How can I get real good revenge on my ex boyfriend? He dumped me b/c he got too horny and we started to do stuffthen "god" told him to break up with me... which is a load of shit... someone help plz.. thanx a lot.and nothing that will kill him or hurt him too too bad :D thanx
Revenge is a horrible thing to do. Is he normally religious? If not, then maybe he was just trying to break up with you without hurting you. You should respect that. Why dont you just ask him what the real reason is? If you dont believe his answer, than maybe hes just immature and not worth your time. If you let it go, you will be the bigger person.
ok thers this girl that i like and she says that she wants to have sex with me but she is allways saying that but it never happens i would love to have sex with her and i love her alot but she is just shy. is there any way i can make her not as shy? 14/m
14 is pretty young but a common age to start having sex. Is she a virgin? If she is, than give it time. She probably loves you but is nervous as well. Plus, for a girl, having sex for the first time hurts. Start with the simple things like four play. Anytime she asks you to stop..then stop. Eventually she will feel comfortable and ready. Just be gentle ok?
Ok i have a huge problem. See tomorrow i start school and my parents told me that i have to take this other person to school w/ me. Well He is just so happens to be my moms boss's little brother. Unfortunatly he is my age. i really dont want to take because i know my mom and his brother will try to hook us up. what should i do?
No one can force you to date someone you dont want to. But maybe you should try to be his friend. You might get along well. But you can draw the line. Dont overreact just yet. give it time to get to know him (as a friend)
well i have this boifriend and i have een goinout wit hym for over 3 month n i really like hym and people told hym that i have been kissing other guys and i havnt so how do i get hym to belive me
Is it possible to find out who is starting the rumors? If so, confront them and ask why they feel the need to say these things about you. It sounds like there could be a specific person behind all this who is trying to break you two up. Perhaps your man is envied. Hopefull your boyfriend can trust you. What more can you do but tell the truth> Hopefull he believes you
how do u no if a guy really likes u?
Believe it or not, guys tend to have a hard time expressing there feelings as much as girls do. Be an observer. When you talk to him, does he make eye contact with you? Whats his body language like? When you sit close to him does he stay right there or scoot over a little? Try to learn from his reactions. If you are still clueless, than think of your own approach. Something creative but easy. If you know him well, than be honest. if you dont know him, use a line. Guys do it all the time! Tell him he looks familiar, ask him about school or work. Think of the things you like to do and ask him what he likes. Dont forget to smile! (winking works too) sometimes the guy wants the girl to approach first. Try it
what can u do to make a guy go crazy during sex? lol
AS weird as i feel answering this question because i don't know how old you are or what you have already tried, i will tell you that no matter what position you are in, you have access to his balls. They are extremley sensitive so when you ummm...fondle them....the guy goes crazy. trust me
one time my cousin and i went to the beach in florida, and we stayed in the condo. next to ours, there were two guys. so one day they walked up to us and just asked our names. and then they walked away and started laughing. and everytime we walked by their condo they like yelled at us and invited us to their pool and stuff. is that flirting or are they making fun of us???
Maybe when they asked your names, they were expecting more from you. Don't feel pressured. If you got a bad vibe from them right away, than i hope you avoided there invitations. It sounds like they were just looking for some action. Guys can be confusing, and immature.
i wear black eyeliner everyday, but into the afternoon it runs or dissapears.. any suggestions??
Whether you put it on your upper lid or under your eye, try a dark eye shadow to go over it. Take the tip of the eye shadow swab and run it along where the eyeliner is. The powder in the eyeshadow helps seal it in.
i have a boyfriend who i love with all my heart and he always says he loves me and all this and i say i love him back and hes like yeah yeah i know and all this but then when we talk online he like starts all this stuff like u dont love me and i know your gonna breakup with me and all kinds of things like that. how do i make him believe that i really do love him and im not gonna break up with him? please help me!
Thats a tricky question. It kind of sounds like hes looking for an easy escape out of the relationship. If you love him and he says he loves you, then try to figure out whats going on in your relationship. Do you spend time together often? Is he affectionate? Are you? If you are doing everything you can to show him you love him, than what else can you do? But you dont need to put up with that. Maybe he is insecure. Have a good face to face with him. Make sure to watch his eyes. Either he is trying to get out of the relationship without hurting you, or he is really afraid that you dont love him. If it is difficult to talk face to face, than write him a sincere letter. Explain how you feel as best as you can. Good luck!
y r all guys the same! their all perverted dirty playas! god! i met this guy online he really proved to me that he would never b a playa never do drugs never drink! sounds like the perfect guy right? well wrong! once a slutty gurl walks by or w/e they always ditch the good gurls for them!! why is that? all guys r the same!!!! y can't there just b more sweet and sincere boys! i mean thats all a gurl wants!(well me n e ways)
Alot of guys go for the slutty girls because they are an easy lay. But trust me, all guys want love...it just takes them longer to realize that. Women mentally grow up faster than "Boys". We know what we want, they don't. There are good guys out there, we just tend to look in the wrong places. We go to clubs, or online, or popular hangouts, or partys. Try a different atmosphere. Trust me, there are good ones.
my friend who i have known for 6 years just told me that he is in love wit me.. actually its something out of a love movie.. an something i have always wanted.. only i think i dont love him like he loves me.. i love him so much but i dont know if its as a friend or more.. an i cant figure out how to figure that out. PLus there is another problem - i am in love wit someone else.. or wait.. not in love. but i like someone else. a lot.. an i cant figure out if i should go wit my friend of 6 years an try the fairy tale life.. just for a while.. or wait on this other guy (i have been waitin on him to tell me how he feels for a while..i know he likes me but he keeps too much from me, ya know?!) But i need my heart to tell me who to go for an who i rly do love/like. but my heart just wont tell me.. plus another problem. the guy.. fairy tale guy.. best friends wit for 6 years now guy.. well one of my good friends like him..an she doesnt know that hes in love wit me. but he is gonna tell her but. even though im barely friends wit her an i have known him an been tight wit him longer.. ARgh i dunno.. help plz
Lets start with the guy that you are unsure of how he feels. Don't wait on him. It sounds like hes stringing you along. As far as fairy tale guy, go for it. I have a guy friend who i have known for quite a while. I consider him my best friend. We have done our share of messing around and we even dated for a while. But we didnt want to ruin the friendship. It took us some time to realize it, but we werent ruining the friendship, we were making it stronger. We agreed to marry in 7 years if neither of us were married. Now i am with someone else and very unhappy because i realized how much i want to be with "My fairy tale guy" My point is, you know this guy. You know how he is and what hes about. Therefor there are no surprises and you know what to expect. Dont ever let a chance like this pass you by. It could be the best decision you ever make.
I can't stop crying... 2 more hours until my baby leaves for the Navy... I just want to get strong again and STOP crying. I have cried so much that its starting to hurt the rest of my body. I have heard the figurative phrase saying 'her heart hurts.' But I never knew that this would literally hurt my heart... If anyone has any advice or anything... I just don't know how to pull myself together...
Be proud! Your boyfriend is risking alot by choosing that path. You are going to be sad..its a given. But you need to remember that it takes a heart of gold, a soul of steel, and love, to do what your boyfriend is doing. It's OK to cry, but don't let it effect your everyday life. What an honor it must be! My prayers and thoughts are with you.
(Oops! Sorry about the child thing!)
i could get any guy i wanted last year and the year before that...i thought of myself as ugly but they didnt
now i think im finally beautiful and i cant get a guy at all...its not like i think too highly of myself...whats wrong?
Guys can be just as shy as women. When a guy sees a pretty girl, he is afraid to approach her in fear of rejection. They think the same way we do. So he is probably thinking to himself, "Wow, shes hot, but if i try to talk to her, most likely shes got a boyfriend, or she might not talk to me because they are better looking guys here" When women are beutiful, they are considered unapproachable. Try approaching them. If you have, and they still arent taking the bait, then just gain a friendship first. Its how your true colors appear. First impressions shouldnt be dreadful, but they can be, for girls and guys. If all else fails...remember that being single can be fun!
I've have a weight problem. I know I do. Everyone one I know tells me i'm skinny and hott and stuff like that and I don't believe it I think that i'm really ugly. I know it's a low self esteem thing but I just don't feel that way. I don't know what to do. I look in the mirror and I see a fat ugly person and I've always made wishes and everything to be pretty and skinny. And then when I go out with friends or something then I get whisled at and get told i'm hott and have even strangers talk to me. I don't believe i'm hott AT ALL! I don't know what to do should I believe my friends and try to see it myself what????? I don't believe it!
-signed lost-
First, throw away all of your girly magazines. Cosmo, Marie Claire, YM, all of them. These magazines are misleading and give you the wrong ideas about what image should be about. You need to love yourself, no matter what you see when you look in the mirror. If your friends say you are attractive, and you get responses from men as well, than girl, you are good looking. It might be a good idea to speak to a counselor regarding the self esteem issue. I am only saying this because i have been in your shoes. Learning how to be confident has made all the difference in my life. And it starts with loving yourself. Don't be so hard on yourself. It doesnt really matter what other people think anyways. Its all about what you think.
heyy i just got my first bf about a month ago but i broke up with him in lyk 4 days! i did not feel lyk i was ready for a relationship and even though my parents said it was ok i knew that they were not thrilled about it! He got mad at me a i felt really bad! What do i do not?
P.S. I am goin to a party later this week and ik he is goin to be there idk what to say to himeven though he knows my reason for brekin up with him! plz help me!!
How old are you? If he already knows the reason for the break up, maybe you could explain it to him again to reassure him that its not him. Hang out with him as a friend. Then you can understand why he got upset. Maybe it is because he really likes you, or maybe he is upset because of a sex realted issue. Guys will feel inadequate if they arent able to go to "3rd base" . If this is the case then he is not worth it. Also, i would hope your parents are understanding of your desicion. Talk to them, maybe they can give you advice. Only YOU know YOU..and if you are not ready, then you are not ready. You make that call. No one else
k..well me and this guy went out for a year in 7th grade...then we broke up in 8th grade..he got wit this 7th grader..then we was posed 2 get back wit me..but he ended up getting wit this other girl..nd then i moved on...then he got with this HOE...i mean..she went out with all of his homeboiz...ALL OF THEM...nd then they even lost it with each other..nd then my the end of the school year...he transferd schools...everyone said theyre were still together..and everyone knew he was cheating on her...then that night of my 8th grade promotion..he was there @ this party..nd then the day after that he started calling me..sayin him & the HOE broke up...nd so we started talking for like a month..then we stopped talking..bkuz i heard he started talking to this girl that thinks she was my friend..and then i bump into him on 4th of july..and then we started talking again..and we started going out...and we stop talking again..bkuz he started ignoring me @ this party..and i danced wit a guy..nd then i find out..he was still with this HOE..and wen i see them @ tha movies...the HOE was there...and this other girl..that was my friend in school!..and finds out..hes still talkin to that other girl{that thinks shes my friend}..and one of his ex-girlfriends- Friend...
and well here is the thing...when we went out for a year..we was in love wit each other!!..but then throughout the months..it took me forever to get over him..and when i FINALY get over him...thats when we started talking again!...and all my feelings kept rushing back...and just recently he came over my house!..and we sorta made out!..and i want to get over him..bkuz i know wut a HOE he is himself..but i mean!..i still do love him!...ADVICE ME PLEASE!
It sounds like this guy is what we like to call, a 'Charmer'. He has a way with words. He knows what to do and say to make you come back to him over and over. If you write all the good things and bad things about him on paper, what would it weigh out to be? Just remember to respect yourself and remind yourself that you are worth more than that. How old are you? You will learn a lot of lessons in your life. It will only make you stronger. Just know when to draw the line. Hes not worth it.