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I am 23 years old. I have a daughter who is about to turn six ( I was 17 when i gave birth to her) and i am 3 months pregnant. I have never been married. I would like to let you know that my advice is genuine. I have been through alot in my life. From childhood problems, relationship problems, family problems. I have done my share of experiencing with drugs and alcohol. I have had suicide thoughts as a teenager. I have autistic triplet brothers and a sister with multiple sclerosis. I have not seen or spoken to my father in 12 years. I hope that i can help you and will do my best.

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What iif yur best friend likes the sayme kid as yu do!?! whta do yu do0? im so0 confused riight now! i made out with this kid last night nd so0- did she!!!!...uhh ii dont no but she went to his house 2day nd who nos wuht! i new him for such a long time 2!! - he wanted to get wiht me so0 mii other friend who was there hooked us up! but i was getin tired nd didnt feel to good so0 mii bess friend went nd made out with him right after me! :( ... i dont no wut to doO! uhhh sum1 plz help me i rate good!!!! thanx
...Me...

Even though shes your best friend, theres a competitor in everyone. She may feel like she has something to prove. And your guy friend is probably hanging out with her because shes very willing to do so. HIs true colors will come out. IT might be a good idea to NOT show interest in him, just in case hes a player. If he really likes you then he'll prove it. Just be careful. Even the people you know can be cruel.

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Ok, I'm 13 and I get really bad depression. I've had it for like over a year now. I forgot what its like to actually have true happiness. And I know most teens go throug this, but mines pretty severe. Like I never want to do anything anymore, I just dont care, I hate life, And most of the time I just feel like dieing. And like ver since I got it, its screwed up my life. I lost all my friends and havent really had any in like a year. It seems easy when people just say "start making new friends" or "find an activity you like doing" or try to be happy or whatever, but its so hard. I don't know what to do about my depression. Please help?

Medications arent always the answer. I used to be so depressed when i was 14, that i would stick needles through my skin and give my self eraser burns. I saw a counselor twice. That kind of helped. My counselor atleast got me to realize what it was that bothered me. We talked about every member of my family and what they were like and how my relationship was with each one. We talked about friends and school and relationships. It made me realize that i was depressed because i felt my family didnt understand me and i always felt pressured to do things for other people. I was depressed because i thought i would never live up to what people wanted me to be. Then one night, an old friend called me and said she was on the verge of killing herself. I mean, she was ready at that moment. I talked to her from 11:00pm to 7:00am the next morning. I talked to her about the things i talked about with my counselor. For 8 hours i made her realize how much more imortant life was than she was seeing. I had the chance to chance someones life...and i did. Learn from your experiences, think more about the things you want to do or be. Think about your family and friends and what makes you really happy. Also remember that only you can change things and make them better. So true happiness comes from you. Good luck and God bless you.

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i think i look really ugly when i smile..but everyone says that smiling makes u look prettier but i dont think i do. all my friends get mad at me when i dont smile but i dont know what to do! HELP!

I used to cover my mouth with my hand or sleeve when i laughed because i hated showing my smile and my teeth. Theres nothing wrong with them, it was just a self image problem. But everyone always told me that i looked prettier when i smiled. Even strangers would walk past me and say "smile!" I started to realize that i had no reason to NOT smile. So i had to check it out for myself. I would look at myself in the mirror and smile. This also helped me be a little more photogenic. If your friends and everyone tells you that you look prettier when you smile, then you probably do! Smiling, like the sun, is natures prozac. It makes you feel better. So smile at yourself in the mirror. I am sure you will agree with your friends.

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has anybody been watching the news?? hurricane charlie... is it gunna b near miami?? i really dont think were prepare for a hurricane at my house... i dont think my dad wants to worry about getting ready for it cuz when we do it ends up not hitting us... wut do i do?? i have a dog that is only an outside dog. i think mayb we might b able to put him in the garage but its really hot in there. does anybody have any ideas for any of this?? charlie is already a catagory 1.

My cousin lives in Miami. He is spending the day getting prepared such as making sure he has enough food and water for himself and his 2 cats. His cats are outside pets as well but he doesnt want to risk losing them so he is buying cat carriers.Also make sure you have plenty of blankets and warm clothes. Do you have a basement? This would be the safest place to store all of this and yourselves. My mom stocks her basement with non perishables and gallons of water, along with blankets, extra clothes...and umm...wine. She makes her own wine and saves some in the basement in case of a disaster. Anyways, good luck. My prayers are with you and your family.

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look...i haven't had the best of life and i just want to know how am i supposed to get my life back on track i was but now im starting to fuck off a bit agian and im gonna be going t school pretty soon and i want to at least make it through high skool and ill be happy but as far as i know thats not even going to happen...ive done so much shit it like a habit but i stoppe dbut now i think im gonna or i think i am already starting to do it agian... its like some one else is taking over me... i need help and i cant tell my parents becuz of some reasons... it would probably help if i told you wat ive done but im kinda ashamed of it all but yet i don't wanna stop but i do.... its just comfusing...ill just go now ... someone please help me...

Acknowledging that you have a problem, is a really good start. Now try to think about the things that set you off and make you want to jump back into these habits. How is your family life. Do you have other siblings? Do you have any close friends? I don't want to give you any unuseful advice but it might help if you get involved in other things such as after school sports. I never that i had such a passion for basket ball until i joined. And i joined because i wanted to keep myself out of trouble. Normally, after school, i would get high. I used to go "mailbox bashing" I would start fights with people for no reason. Joining basketball allowed me to release my frusteration and anger (without hurting people) Also, this gives you the chance to earn a scholarship so you can go to a good college. Another idea is to maybe write. Write stories about things you have done in your past or presently. I wrote out my feelings in poems. Most of them are now published. That made me feel really good. It made me want to do better things with my life. Try to focus on the positve aspects in your life to drown out the negative. Recognize what makes you fall back into these habits. Avert your attention else where. Good luck

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About 2 months ago, my friend and I told eachother that we liked eachother. (I'm 16/f and he's 17/m) For some reason, no one has been going for it. I really want to bring it up and see if he still likes me, but I'm scared to either get hurt with him saying no, or to say the wrong thing. I feel like he's been dropping hints, but I don't want to overassume. How should I go along with this, and what should I say?

Is he shy? Sometimes guys want the girl to make the first move. They wont tell you that but its true. If you think he likes you then go for it! I know rejection can be painful but we learn from our mistakes and it makes you stronger. if thats the case, show no grudges or hard feelings. If hes dropping hints, then you do the same. But be careful because this could become a agme without either of you knwing it. Like i said, if you got a good feeling hes into you, then make the first move. good luck

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I know people are going to say do it yourself, but I have my reasons why I cant. Can anyone tell me a website or phone number for Planned Parenthood so I can find one nearby. I would perfer a wesbite. I cant search it on google because then my mom will know I looked it up and ask questions which I dont need. Thanks guys =)

I have a suggestion. I use search engines all the time. But i would rather not let my boyfriend know where i've been looking because bluntly...its none of his business. So on the sear engine i found this thing called the privacy eraser. You can download it for free for like 90 days. When its dowloading, dont add a desktop shortcut. Then after youve looked up your planned parenthood stuff, or anything else, go to the start button at the bottom of your screen, then go to run, then browse, and look for the privacy eraser (normally under program files) run the eraser and it clears all the websites you've been too. it also clears your pull down bar. hope this helps. it does for me.

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this wasnt really underr a category....but what are some cool screen names for a blonde volleyball player....thanks in advance!

Wow, thats a tough one!!
Try to think of words for each one than put them together.
Words for Blonde:
Golden
Gold
Sunshine
Platinum
Sunny

Words for Volleyball
Volley
Ball
Sport
Net
Scores
Hit
Dive

This probably didnt help much but hopefully i could give you some ideas...=)

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i know you guys are sick and tired of hearing about weight problems but i just have to ask if being 13 years old, 120-130 pounds is ok,i feel really fat and i cant help but wish i looked like other people! and i was just wondering what i should do!? am i normal? i need your help!

I just got a similar question so i dont know if you are the same person or not but i will tell you the same thing. No one is perfect. And i dont know if there really is such thing as normal. If you are concerned about your weight, join some school sports like basketball or something. Eat healthy. And dont ever wish you looked like anyone else. Being an individualis the best part of being yourself. If you are truly concerned, speak with your doctor or a nutritionalist. Maybe get some tips. I know it can be difficult feeling overweight because i have been there to. But its whats inside that counts. Remember that, and dont be hard on yourself. good luck!

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i agree with Lexy but i am over wiehgt i am over 40 pounds of my average weight and i am 13 and you are normail supposed to be like areound 103- 120 or something like that and i just dont know what do to please help me school is starting soon and i just dont know what do to do get at leave 20 pounds off of me! -Andrea

Because you are only 13, i wouldnt reccomend a serious diet. School is right around the corner.I can only tell you to be confident no matter what. Once you start school, get into some sports. How tall are you? When i was in middle school and high school, i wanted to do something that would boost my confidence so i started playing basketball. Once you are active on a regular basis, and you are eating healthy and drinking lots of water, you will start to feel better. Also, people will respect you because you will be a very devoted person. If you are really concerned, i would talk to your doctor or a nutritionist and maybe get some tips from them. Good luck...and dont be hard on yourself. No one is perfect.

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Hi. I noticed your married so you could probably help me more...im 17 and my steady boyfriend for 4 years asked me to marry him. im a strict catholic but i love him and want to marry him. my parents dont approve although his family does. i love him and i am ready for this. how can i convince my parents?

Actually, i've never been married before. But i can tell you this...you may feel like you love him enough to marry him. But stay engaged for a couple of years. See what it feels like once you've started to live with him. Marriage may seem like a bonding experience but it can be bad too. Things change when you start to live with someone. I was with this guy for 8 months, then we beoke up. 3 years later we got back together. I swore that i couldnt wait to be his wife. It sounded so wonderful. Then i lived with him for 4 months and i am SOOO glad i did not marry him. He ended up being a slob, insensitve and not a very cool person to live with. So dont throw away the idea of getting married, but give it time..please.

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How old do u have to be to have sex?

You have to have already had your period. And then, of course, if you are under 18 make sure the other guy is under 18 also to avoid any issues with the law. But only YOU know when YOU are ready. Just make sure its with someone you really care about. Make it special.

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16/f

k i have this guy friend who im really close with named "JoE".."joe" tells me ALOT of his personal shit, and if he ever cheated on a girl, id be tha only person he would tell..but im starting to like him more than a friend and his other best guy friend told my other best guy friend that he liked me too. the problem is he seriously is SUCH a HUGE FLIRT..like hes all over every girl he knows even if he doesnt like them..but hes not like that with me ofcourse cause we are 2 close for that and i dont fall for that shit..he has a reputation of being a player, etc..im scared ill be his next "victim"..what should i dO

Don't let yourself be his "Next Victim". It sounds like he really confides in you and respects your friendship. I know sometimes it can be hard to be friends with a guy and not start to develop feelings but when you find yourself in this situation, you have a few choices. One, just continue being his friend, and if he likes you more than that, let HIM tell YOU. two, you can be honest and open. Tell him how you feel. besides, you are really good friends. Or you can just push aside all these negative feelings and go for it. It might be the best decision you ever make!

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WHAT IS IT WITH ALL THESE GIRLS CONCERD OF BEING FAT!!! ....103....120!!! those are all really good for your height and age!!! soo stop worrying were still kids!! live it up!! eat icecream for breakfeast!!!! make milkshakes for dinner!!! Dance the night away!! have a fun time and be a kid!!! heheeh ( im not saying DONT watch your weight b/c you should..just dont let it worry you sooo much!!!)AM I right Ladies?



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LExy

Some girls are concerned because of what others think. They are influenced by skinnier girls and magazines. Alot of young girls have concerns with their weight nowadays. I say, continue giving them advice and feedback. They want to here that there weight is ok, or not ok. But i do agree, just love yourself and live life to the fullest

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i need help..i really feel like im fat..my friends say that im not but i really think i m. i am 13 years old nd i weigh 120 pounds..my sister is 14 nd she weighs like 90 pounds...nd shes super skinny..she eats so much more than me nd shes still skinnier!! sumtimes i cry at night cuz i feel so fat...ive tried exercisin nd dietin..i even went on a starvation diet for two days but then i stopped cuz it wasnt healthy..even tho i lost 10 pounds...i hav a pool nd i go swimmin alot but i dont like to be seen in a bathin suit..i always go swimmin alone..i really need help..can sumone please help me!!
xOxO unc0mf0rtable xOxO

It doesnt sound like you are overweight to me, it sounds like your sister is underweight. But if you are truly concerned, ask your doctor. They have a chart that shows ideal weight depending on how tall you are and how old you are. Then you can discuss some healthy ways to get in shape. Don't ever feel bad about yourself though. This creates low self esteem and people can sense that. Love yourself and be good to yourself. Don't do the starvation thing again. You need nutrients that are essential to stayng healthy and losing weight.

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What does one do when their best friend has a new best friend? We used to send letters to each other and we signed them "your best friend, -------" Now this best friend is hanging out with one of those people who is known for clinging to people. I've been this person's best friend since I was only 5 years old. What is the smartest thing to do?

If this best friend of yours is a true friend, then she will not forget about you. If you are not spending as much time with her as before because of this "new best friend" than you need to talk to her. How do you feel about this other friend? Is she nice? If so, then give her a chance. If this other friend has a problem with you and is trying to break up your friendship than you need to point that out to your best friend. Hopefully she will see that. But my advice is to be friends with both. Spend time with them both. Have you ever heard that saying, "twos company, three's a crowd"? Well its not true. I have 2 best friends. My sister who is 2 years older, and another girl i have known for 7 years who is the same age as my sister. I couldnt imagine my life without either of them. You said this other girl (girl right?) is known for clinging. Maybe she just needs a friend. Try it. If this girl becomes a problem, then discuss it. I hope this helps.

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okay... i've noticed that in alot of people's responces to these questions it says rate me and then at the bottom they have the rating scale thing... how do you get it there? and how do you rate someone? i've tried to rate a bunch of people but i can't figure it out! :-X i sound pathetic... i'm sorry but i'm fairly new to this site!

On the left side of your screen, go to "Your questions" Then choose a question youve asked. Under everyones responses, you can rate from 1-5 by clicking on the number

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I was randomly reading answers to a question, and I saw your answer and for whatever reason, your answer seemed to stick out, and then I read your profile....Wow, you're one tough cookie, aren't you? *lol* I'm not feeling sorry for you if thats what you think, actually, I'm quite proud that you have made it thus far, and you don't seem to let whatever happened in your life get you down. It seems like you give truly genuine advice, unlike most the people on the site who just want ratings, and for that, I salute you!
Much Love,
Victoria
P.S. whats it like living in Alska, I had a friend who moved up there in 6th grade, perhaps you know him, his name is Lewis Partaka?

First... Thank you. I appriciate your feedback. It means alot. I am not sure who Lewis Partaka is but I can tell you that Alaska is awesome. I have lived here for 18 years. The winters are sooo cold but right now during the day its in the 80's. So pretty much you get really cold winters and really hot summers. Again, thank you for your comment. I'll keep that in my heart!

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hi i came 2 u becuz it seems to me u give GERAT advice! 1st can i put u on my fav columnists list?
ok now the real questions..my cousin (8/m+ only child) my uncle ( his dad) commited sucide a few months ago ** my cousin was the 1 who found him** every since his death he seems to be more mature..do u think its from the death? sumtimes im nervous to b around him becuz out of no where he'll tlk about his dad or im afraid ill say something that reminds him of his dad..How do u think i can stop being nervous?
p.s sry its so long>> thank you ~*Rebecca*~

I actually had these neighbors who lived a couple houses down. The father hung himself in their shed and his son (6 years old) found him. Anytime this little boy hung out withmy little sister, i felt nervous about it. I didnt want my sister to accidently say something to hurt his feelings but i also didnt want him to say something to traumatize my sister. But..things worked out fine. We talked to my sister ahead of time and let her know what happened and gave her some ideas on what to say if he mentions anything. Well one day he said something about it and my sister clmy told him (she was 8 at the time) that his father chose to be with God so God would take care of him. She told him that he is in Heaven and not too worry. They ended up being very close. My advice to you is..if he wants to talk about it, than talk about it. It will make him feel better. And yes, he probaly is more mature because of it. Not many 8 year olds go through what he has. If you are afraid of upsetting him, than just remember to always be positive. Some people don't believe that people who commit suicide will go to heaven, but i believe that if something pushes someone so far as to kill themself, then God will be right there to catch that person when they fall and to take care of them because they couldnt do it themself. Make sure to remind him that is father is with God. Time will heal his pain. Just be there for him. If you need anymore help, please let me know. I'm here for you.

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Was it hard to be so young and be a mom? What did tohers think about that?

yes, it got hard, but her beautiful smile kept me going. and we learn so much from eachother. People didnt agree with me keeping the baby at first but i proved them wrong.My daughter is smart, health, and beautiful.

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