17/M
Hey guys. My friend is in a little situation right now.
A month ago,my friend confessed to his crush that he has a crush on her through text. My friend showed me their conversation and the she dont believe it at first. She said that my friend was crazy and blind. But I think that she only said that because of the shock of what my friend told her or she wants to make sure that my friend wasnt bluffing. A week past,and they gotten closer. But right now the girl acts like the confession never happened. And she doesnt consider my friends feelings anymore.
Is that a sign of rejection??
Unfortunately, it sounds like she doesn't want to ruin the friendship. BUT it is possible she thought he was joking and girls want guys to make the move. He should have done it to her face because texting is so impersonal. So tell him to tell her to her face and be serious about it!!!!! ..because neither he or her can tell how each other means something through text. If she shies away or changes the subject then yeah she is not interested in more than friends. BUT he HAS to try again to her face!
[view]
hey, so I've been dating this girl, long distance. I love her, but I am not old enough to drive yet (14). I just want to do something nice, sweet to her, to show her that I love her, something sweeter than posting on Instagram. any ideas on what I could do?
Send her flowers. You can order flowers for her over the internet or phone. Maybe, if you dont want to ask her address, send them to her school if you know through facebook what school she goes to?? I don't know.. just an idea :)
[view]
Hello,
My boyfriend and I are 17 and 18 years old. We started a long distance relationship a little over six months ago. Back then, I was still a virgin and he knew that. However, a few months ago I cheated on him and lost my virginity to a guy I honestly had no feelings for. I was completely aware of what I was doing and I did it because I really just wanted to get it over with. I made sure there were no feelings attached. Now, the guy still chases after me, but I want no business with him, or any other guy rather than my boyfriend. I love him to death and really have no trouble remaining faithful. I realized it wasn't worth it and he's truly the only guy I ever want to be with. However, I know that he'll want to break up with me and his heart will be completely shattered if he knows. He keeps talking about how magical he wants my first time to be once we finally see each other again. And I believe it will be magical because it'll be with him. I don't want to lose him, but I do think he needs to know. I also don't think it's any conversation to have via phone/text/video. A close friend told me not to say anything '"cause there's no point". I know if we were in the same time zone it'd be easier to confess and try to win his trust back, but I have a serious disadvantage by not being able to daily demonstrate my true feelings towards him. I've thought of telling him in the far future, once we're living together, but I don't know how he'll feel about it after such a long time...
Also, I'm actually kind of glad I did it only because it was extremely painful, and he wasn't the one who caused that terrible experience. The guy was gentle, so it would've been bad either way. Should I tell him when we finally meet again? If so, should I do it as soon as possible, or do I give it some time? If I do choose to tell him, I know I probably shouldn't have sex with him until he's known, but I'm terribly scared of ruining the possibility of a future with him.
I'd appreciate any thoughts and advice,
Thank you.
Yes I would tell him when you meet again or skype (not the best but depends on how long it will be til you see him) ASAP . I would tell him just like you said to me: that you wanted to get it over with and that it was with someone you do not even care about...then also tell him you really regret it because it was really him that you wanted to do it with. Also, maybe say that you wanted to be good when you do it with him in the furture (basically you wanted an expeerience) so that you did not suck and you have an idea of what to do.
You have to tell him. I would say the longer you wait, the worse he will take it. It will eat you up if you never tell him. If he really loves you, he will understand. Just say you had to tell him so that there is no big secrets between you guys and it is eating you up inside. If you wait awhile to tell him, he will not trust you and might leave you. You do not want a dishonest relationship because if there's no trust, there's no real relationship. You will not have a future with him if you lie by omission. It is hard and he will probably get mad at first but it will work out if you guys are meant to be. I promise. Give him space if he needs it. It will be ok! I know it sucks but you will be happy you told him. Good luck !!
[view]
I want sex with my boyfriend but I'm lucky if I get a kiss of him. Im a girl and I only got my first bra today and I'm not finished with puberty I've snogged and my ex showed me how to have sex but he left my school my other ex dumped me for two girls in my class. My boyfriend isn't that serious and I want more but the ex that is still in school won't go back out with me.
You are going to have a lot of horny feelings going through puberty. I would hold off getting too sexual right now with boys because they are so immature at your age and are only going to hurt you. You also do not want them to start telling everyone you had sex after you break up. Maybe start masturbating? Or get a vibrator? That way you could release some of those feelings without having to force yourself on a boy.
I mean you can do what you want, but I would wait until you are in a serious relationship with a guy that wants to be with you and have sex with you too. Don't do it just to do it because you will probably regret it. Make sure he is a good guy and not a sleezeball that will break up with you after or will go off and tell your class or something because that would be embarassing. Hope this makes sense. You will be fine! Good luck babe!
[view]
My boyfriend's mother has become aggressive towards me and has falsely accused me of being the reason as to why he has been missing school but he has not missed a day of school since his Birthday and she doesn't want me around anymore... But I've been the one to help her since she has such a busy work schedule, I have been providing him with rides to and from work, and to and from school when he has missed the bus... But she's been trying to accuse me of making power moves but in reality I've asked for her permission every time I go to get him and she had acted like it was perfectly fine but wants to turn around and act as if I'm trying to act as his mother, which is why she had sent me a nasty text message saying "I'm his mother, I say what goes" but I haven't tried to disrespect her not once. Currently Will has made me stay with him at his house, and I'm not sure if I should just stay here and wait to see what the outcome is because he said he would stick up for me, or if I should flee before it's too late and she shows up...
I think his mom probably feels insecure and somewhat embarrassed that she cannot do everything or be everything he needs all the time. Sometimes people , especially a mom, do not feel right about having help in doing things they feel like they should be responsible for. And I think that is all it is . I do not think it is anything personal even though I'm sure it feels like it is. Just maybe have a one-on-one and say something like Im not trying to take away from the hard work you do or replace you, I just also care about him too and want to be there for him also. And just reassure her you are not trying to erase her or outdo her etc. I think she will warm up to you. Just give it time .Hope everything works out!!
[view]
Do I have a STD after I gave my new boyfriend a BJ and my throat is a little sore
If you swallowed his cum you could get an infection like strep throat… otherwise no. the only other one you could get is herpes and that would be on your mouth. hope this helps.
[view]
My husband and I's one year anniversary is coming up in a few months, and so is a very close friend's wedding, her wedding date: our one year anniversary. I'm at a loss of what to do. My husband wouldn't be able to come with me to her wedding, and my friend would be extremely hurt if I didn't go. What makes the situation awkward is I knew when picking my wedding date that my friend would be getting married that same day. I had no choice however (my husband is military). I reassured and promised her since she got engaged that I would be there at her wedding. In fact, as soon as I got the wedding invite, I texted her and let her know I would be there and how excited I was. My husband always knew I'd be going, but I guess it just clicked for him I'd be missing or first anniversary. He's very upset, anniversaries are very important to him. I tried reasoning with him that we could celebrate another day, but he's not having it. What do I do? I will always pick my husband over anything, but shouldn't he be more understanding? Should I be present for the most important day of my close friend's life and hurt my husband? Or be there with my husband for our one year anniversary and risk losing my friend? (And I have very few true good friends)
Oh wow. Yes he should definitely be more understanding. Most men are horrible with dates and you have to remind them and usually they are not as stubborn about something like that. I'm sorry girl. I think I would go to the wedding. I do not think your husband is going to leave you for going to your best friends wedding. Just make a promise you will celebrate it every year from next year on on the same day. He should get over it. I would have said celebrate with your husband but I am pretty sure if it was the other way around and he had a wedding to go to of his best friends on your anniversary that you would be much more understanding. You should not be in a situation to have to pick between the two right? Your friend is only going to get married once and your anniversary comes once a year so I think go to the wedding and hopefully he will realize that it is not because you don't care about him but because you would be understanding for him if it was the other way around. And that is what a great relationship is..having to compromise on both sides. He should not make you feel bad about wanting to be there for your friend, especially when he knew about it before. He will get over it. Good luck girl!! It will work out!
You are already married and can still celebrate. Maybe try to do something special the day of the anniversary for your husband unless the wedding is out of town? Go to the wedding :-)
[view]
I can't talk to my best friend about this because I'm afraid she will not take me seriously, or she won't know how to respond. I'm having some questions about my sexuality. Are you comfortable talking about this with me?
I will give you a little background first so hopefully its easier for you to see where I am coming from. I'm female, and 24yrs old. I lost my virginity when I was 19 in my first serious relationship. However, when I was about 13, I was in a sexual encounter with a girl. I was unaware of what was happening because I was half asleep, she started kissing me and touching me and when I realized what was going on I woke up and tried to rollover. She then put her arm around my side and tried to touch me again, thats when I got up, left the room and told my parents.
I have always loved men and don't have any issues with being with men. It was after my first real relationship ended horribly that I started sleeping with other men and I noticed that my relationship attempts have been failing. It goes one of two ways, I find someone I am interested in and things are going well and then it just ends, or a guy is more into me than I am into them.
I have had sex with a girl before, it was a close friend of mine and it happened twice. I did really enjoy it and I often fantasize about doing it with her or even other woman. In fact, I mostly only watch Lesbian, or group porn.
I am very attracted to woman, but I'm not sure if what I'm feeling is real or just a temporary fantasy. Am I bisexual? Am I just going through a phase? Should I try dating women to see how it goes?
It sounds like bisexual to me. One of my best friends is bi. Yes I think it would be best to explore a relationship with a girl. Not just physical but date also. Then you will know if it feels right or not. You know? That is just my opinion based on what you mentioned. :)
[view]
how do I tell a girl no to a date and that I'm a gay guy?
Maybe tell her ...
-you do not want a romantic relationship with her
-you are seeing someone else
-you are not trying to get serious or date anyone right now
-you do not think you would be the right person for her and that she deserves someone that can give her their full attention
-you have your eye on someone else (bad timing)
...just a few suggestions if you are trying to avoid telling your sexuality for the time being. probably whatever is closer to another reason (other than your sexuality) so that way you are still being somewhat honest and do not feel as bad. Good luck!
[view]
Is it normal to feel slightly high after been eaten out ?
Yes climaxing has been known to be like an antidepressant so that's probably why you feel awesome :) ...and it just feels really intense during (in a good way) and kind of leaves you in a daze afterwards. I know exactly what you mean!
[view]
Me and my ex broke up about a month ago, and I'm really missing him. At first it didn't really bother me, I was sad for about a week and started to move on, but just a couple days ago, he came into my work ( local grocery store) and went through my line. Ever since that day, I've become really depressed and have been thinking about him continually. My feelings and emotions have gotten the best of me. I usually talk about this with my friend but she recently met a guy and has been hanging out with him 24/7. It's making me more depressing seeing how happy she is, knowing I was that happy when I was with my ex. Yes, I am happy for her, but its hard for me seeing couples right now. Idk what to do?! I'm really upset, crying. Please help.
It took me over a year to get over the first guy I fell in love with. I drove people sick sometimes I know. I agree with the person below as far as it depends on why. When you miss someone you usually remember the good times. However, when they were with you was it not fulfilling? I know for a while I had a thing for the wrong guys. I do not know if that is your situation or if he broke it off or what. I'm just saying it took time for me to find the right person that treated me right. If you were not being treated and respected the way any person should be then try to keep yourself busy and make it a point to throw anything away that reminds you of him, delete him from phone, fb, etc basically delete him out of your life. If you really want to move on that's what you have to do. The more time you spend thinking what if or what went wrong, the longer you will be stuck on the past and you might miss someone even better. Just saying. I know it's hard. Some people are not meant to be in our lives forever. If it's meant to be it will happen. At least seem like you are moving on and eventually you will. If he's really meant for you and he sees you're happy and doing other things, he will miss you more (and be more likely to approach you) than if he hears you are talking about him all the time, etc. I hope this doesn't discourage you. It seems like there will be no one else but there will. I promise you.
[view]
seriously, is it okay to shave the hair on your vagina?
definitely :).. since were not in the seventies anymore, bushes are not cute. and I think its better than going through the torture of getting it waxed ;)
[view]
Okay so the boy I like asked for my number the other day and that evening we texted for about 3 hours. Anyway, I'm not sure whether to text him again - I haven't seen him since we last texted so there's not really anything for me to text about :/ I don't know if he'll be expecting me to text though because he started the conversation before.
You can just keep it light..say something like how's your day going or what are you up to. Dont stress too much ..when you just start talkin to someone you can get nervous but if he likes you he'll keep the conversation going. Guys arent usually big texters so don't worry if he doesn't talk to u everyday you know.
[view]
Me and this guy started the same time in the company that we're working for. We go on the same floor but he's on another depertment, more on the far end of the floor. We became instant friends since he's my seat buddy on our orientation.
We have settled on each of our units, and have our own set of friends, but we regularly have lunch and dinner together. Even go home together. We even always talk and flirt over our communicator system.
We have never really defined our relationship. But I really like him, cause he's really funny, sweet, and nice to me.
I have this friend of mine, who also belongs to the same unit as I am, who also have a secret crush on him.
I know that I shouldn't have any issue about it, and there isn't any issue about me and my friend yet, but it really pissed me off. I also discovered that they're chatting as well on the communicator.
I really felt jealous, like my head is going to explode, and my fingers is getting numb, and like my breathing goes heavy.
They've been chatting regularly and it's just breaking me apart.
I tried to ask him if he's alrady seeing someone, or flirting with someone. For which he all denies. I cannot ask him about her, and I can't ask her about him, because I know it's not my place.
We still talk regularly, have lunch and dinner, and go home together. Nothing actually changes, though maybe there is, me.
I don't know what to do, on how to deal with all of this? On how can I remain at least friends with both of them.. I want to trust him that nothing's going on. But I can't demand any assurance from him. And I can't really stop him from seeing someone. How can I do this and carry on?
You should pull him aside and ask him if he sees a relationship, other than friendship, with you. If he says yes,which I think he might by the way you guys spend time together, then ask him if you guys could talk about it in private later over dinner or whatever. Tell him how you feel. I dont think theres anything going on with your friend and him, and if he says he wants a relationship, or to date, then let go of the worry you have about him and her.
If he says he doesnt see a relationship with you then just say good I like it the way it is now too. He might not want to date someone from work ...but I have a feeling he likes you!!
All you can do is try otherwise youll regret it. Prepare yourself for either answer but dont let it get you down if it doesnt turn out how you want because at least you tried. Then maybe you could make him jealous by spending time with another guy :p ..or maybe you guys will actually start getting more serious. But you wont know til u try. Good luck!
[view]
i like a guy named josh and he likes me too. we dated last year secretly and only my family knew and a few friends from school. i broke up with him and he cried allday and i got sent to the councilers office. he also got in trouble by his mom for having a girlfriend.when i wanted to come over to hang out with his sister. he would end up in his pastor with me trying to kiss me but i wouldnt let him. he tried to kiss me on the bus but i wouldnt let him.!!! i really kliked him and this year hes at a differant school because hes a special ED kid he gets in to trouble a lot theres a problem his sister is dating my older brother.i really like him and i want him to touch me without telling him.!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If you let him kiss you maybe he will touch you...but you gotta let him :p
[view]
19/F So my best friend and I both realized we're attracted to each other about 4 months ago. After some complications, we started 'seeing' each other, and then became official a month ago. We've both said "I love you", and the relationship is going REALLY great. It may or may not be fast for some, but I feel like since we were best friends before, we have more of a head start than other couples. Anyway, I love him so much, and it's obvious to me and other people through his actions that he loves me too.
Thing is, we work together, go to the same college, and most of the time I'm his ride to those places since his car is busted. Not to mention I sleep at his house all the time. So we see each other A LOT. But when we do have a day or two apart, I miss him. A lot. It's not like I feel empty or anything, I just really, really miss him. I don't like being apart from him, and he's said that to me too. We laughed about it.
Is that normal? For me to miss him that much even though we see each other all the time? It's like, I'll go home after hanging out at his place or something, and an hour later I miss him. I haven't been in many relationships, and I want to make sure I'm not making the relationship unhealthy or anything. It seems to be going great and I want to make sure the relationship's not doomed. Input would be appreciated. Thanks!! :))
It's not unhealthy at all. That's the best kind of relationship when you were friends first. You guys are excited to be together ..enjoy it. It's the honeymoon phase. It will probably last awhile but eventually you might want a little space but you guys will figure that out later. Enjoy the time together now and cherish it :) and I hope all goes well.
[view]
Hi,
I am a 19 year old male who just moved out of my house to start college. I live alone and lately I've just been feeling kinda lonely and sad. For some reason I just feel the need for a companion, a girl, just somebody. Whenever I see people at school who are really happy I just feel like I need that and want a girl to love me. I don't know. Like when I'm at home, I just feel so bored and apathetic, like nothing to look forward to.
To have somebody, you have to be somebody to them. A lot of people actually feel the exact same way as you, but the only way you are going to find someone is by putting yourself out there. And by that I mean ,for example, start a conversation with a girl in class. Maybe ask a question about the class or ask for help on some homework or project (cause that would be a slick way to get her #) Ask questions ...girls love that..if you seem interested. It might be awkward at first but the more you put yourself out there, the easier it will be and the closer youll be to finding someone. Go out with friends. But yaa just share yourself with others so one day soon someone will want to share themselves with only you :)
[view]
I am married for around 8 yrs, but just after my marriage my wife has started creating issue with my family. We were a joint family and just because of her high Temper, she never looks where she is standing in the house or outside, when she is angry she will just burst out with very high volume. Also i recently came to know that she has been physical with 2 to 3 guys before we got married. It came to my notice that some one msg her and I read it. She told lies that she dont kneow, but she use to get the msgs mostly daily so when I focused her she confused that she dont know who is the guy msg but yes she has been physical with some guys and that to 1 night stand. My whole life is gone for toss. I cannot tell anyone about this nor can do anything becuase she is not raedy to leave me. I know she is not telling me the whole truth. She is still hiding many things. I dont have anyone with me so that I can share my feelings. I have started drinking and even I am spending more time in office. Please advice.
If you are providing for her in any way, like financially, that's probably the reason why she is not ready to leave you. Otherwise, I would be curious to know why do you think she is not ready to leave you? Are you sure it is not that maybe you aren't ready to leave her? By staying with someone like that, who's walking all over you and taking you for granted, you're putting yourself in a depressing, unhealthy place to be. She thinks she can get away with it and right now you are letting her. You cannot believe anything someone like that (a cheater) says. Trust me I have been where you're at. My ex cheated on me for two years. There were so many signs, and when I would ask him about my suspicions he would be very convincing and I would believe him. Cheaters are very good liars. You need to get away from her! I had to walk away from my ex and it was the best thing I ever did. I was in a miserable place with him, as I'm sure you are with her if you are drinking a lot. It's not worth it to stay in a relationship like that because you are just going to keep hoping she changes and she's just going to keep disappointing you. Walking away is scary, but I'm telling you from personal experience it will be the best decision you ever made because you will find someone else that will treat you way better. Yea you might have to be alone for a little bit but its better than where youre at now. Don't stay with her...she does not deserve you!!
If you need someone to talk to, you can talk to me. I just went thru something similar and it helps to have someone to talk to.
[view]
I am friends with this guy for whom we have some recent history.
We were never official, but at one point, we became the center of each other's universe. We've begun to drift apart because he's "starting" to see someone else. Well, I guess he started to really date someone.
I was always the best friend that he had, and at most we were always there for each other.
I guess, what I wanted to say is, I really miss him. I also miss the way we were before. But I don't want to interfere with his relationship, and I don't want to lose him as my friend.
Right now, I am keeping myself at a safe distance with him. As much as I can, I am trying, to fight the struggle within me, to reach out to him, and demand.. no, BEG for his attention.
I know I really sound pathetic, but it's really hard for me. All the changes. And even the realization that he's seeing someone else.
I like him, and I guess I lost the chance already. I wanted to be as supportive and as a good friend as I can be. So I can't do it now and I don't know if I can do it. I can't see him just as a friend anymore. And at times that I'm seeing them, or just him, it always breaks my heart.
Cliche friend zoned. I know.
I just don't know what to do.
Please.. I don't know what to do..
I can definitely feel your pain. You don't sound pathetic at all. Most people have been there including myself. It sucks when people don't feel the way we want them to and unfortunately there's no magic way to make them. But I can tell you the best way is to keep distancing yourself away from him. By trying to hang around at all you'll just torture yourself (it's not pathetic, everyone's done it) because you do have feelings. It's not to say you guys don't have a future or cant be friends later but for your own sanity right now you need to focus on anything but him. Of course you'll still think about him and if he says hi or somethin you don't have to ignore him but I would not initiate anything and keep busy with anything else (school,work,other friends,etc) . Because if you can stay away thoughts of him will become less frequent and eventually you will actually move on even if it doesn't seem like it now. If he didn't see the potential relationship you guys could've had before then he's probably not the guy for you anyway...you need to be a priority and have your feelings returned instead of just hoping for them to be returned ..you know? You should try to meet other people and distract yourself bc the less he's around or in the picture, the less you will think about him until you don't anymore. You gotta focus on yourself and protect your heart for now so you can find something better for you. I hope this helps. This was the best advice I got when I went thru something very similar. It is possible I promise.
[view]
So, I'm dating this guy that I have been in absolute love with for nearly five year now . We just got back together finally and I'm very haph to be with him. I've only seen him a couple times this year, because of certain situations we can't get past right now in our lives. I really and truly love him.. I wish to marry him honestly. But there's this guy at work, and yesterday I was walking from the back, back to the front where the counter is, and he stepped in front of me, and said "Do I have a chance with you?" I just started stuttering and said "uhm, I don't know." And chuckled and went around him and walked off. Later during the day when I got off work, I went not the office to get my jacket and he walked in there and I said "I mean, I just never really thought about it." And he said "well think about it now. Off the top of your head." And I said "yes, you have a chance with me." And I walked away. I haven't stopped thinking about him hardly! What should I do about this?
Well you just got to be honest with yourself. Are you entertaining the idea of getting with the guy at work because you dont get to see your Bf that often and are feeling lonely and like the attention from someone you see all the time (which is understandable if you and your Bf have only seen eachother a couple times this year) ? Or do you really like the guy at work and are not sure if you and your current Bf are really gonna work out because of whatever situations you can't get past? After you ask yourself those questions then you will know how you truly feel. If you really do want to be with your Bf then you'll have to be honest with the guy at work and tell him you have someone else that you just really miss. Or if you don't think you'll ever get past the certain situations in you and your bfs lives then you shouldn't hold yourself back from experiencing something new that could be great.
[view]
|
