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How to get over an ex?!
Me and my ex broke up about a month ago, and I'm really missing him. At first it didn't really bother me, I was sad for about a week and started to move on, but just a couple days ago, he came into my work ( local grocery store) and went through my line. Ever since that day, I've become really depressed and have been thinking about him continually. My feelings and emotions have gotten the best of me. I usually talk about this with my friend but she recently met a guy and has been hanging out with him 24/7. It's making me more depressing seeing how happy she is, knowing I was that happy when I was with my ex. Yes, I am happy for her, but its hard for me seeing couples right now. Idk what to do?! I'm really upset, crying. Please help.
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Ooh, ouch. It sucks to have to see him again after a breakup, I'm sorry.
Give yourself time. I've been through several breakups in my life and I've also gone through the phase of needing to emotional unload and vent to friends. I think it's safe to say we all do.
But most of our healing comes from within--it's an internal process. It will be a struggle for a while until time heals your wounds. Even relationship therapists advise us to keep reminding ourselves of two things: 1) All the reasons you broke up in the first place, i.e., reflect on all the terrible things about him that should make you feel glad you are no longer with him, and 2) Reinforce all the great qualities about you that make you a good catch!
Don't fake being happy and let yourself mourn--cry it all out! I basically lied in bed and cried for three consecutive days after my last breakup and then I was so tired and sick of my sorry state--I'm a very active person, so being bedridden is totally not my thing--which propelled me to join clubs and meet new friends, for which I'm now happier than ever. Little things still remind me of my ex, but now I have the hindsight to know that we broke up for good reason!
Each relationship carries important lessons for us all, from the beginning of the relationship to the end. Use it as a way to learn from and move on. Give yourself time. It will get better, I promise.
Hang in there :)
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It took me over a year to get over the first guy I fell in love with. I drove people sick sometimes I know. I agree with the person below as far as it depends on why. When you miss someone you usually remember the good times. However, when they were with you was it not fulfilling? I know for a while I had a thing for the wrong guys. I do not know if that is your situation or if he broke it off or what. I'm just saying it took time for me to find the right person that treated me right. If you were not being treated and respected the way any person should be then try to keep yourself busy and make it a point to throw anything away that reminds you of him, delete him from phone, fb, etc basically delete him out of your life. If you really want to move on that's what you have to do. The more time you spend thinking what if or what went wrong, the longer you will be stuck on the past and you might miss someone even better. Just saying. I know it's hard. Some people are not meant to be in our lives forever. If it's meant to be it will happen. At least seem like you are moving on and eventually you will. If he's really meant for you and he sees you're happy and doing other things, he will miss you more (and be more likely to approach you) than if he hears you are talking about him all the time, etc. I hope this doesn't discourage you. It seems like there will be no one else but there will. I promise you.
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Ok, lets try something here. Try asking yourself WHY you broke up with him, was there more bad times then good? was he cheating? what?? you didnt really give any kind of explanation for why you broke up with him so this is kind of hard to answer.
Its ok right now to feel emotional and all right now but if you broke up with your boyfriend for good VALID reasons then, you simply need to remind yourself of why you broke it off with him whenever your feeling down about it. If you were truly better off without him then i think theres nothing to be real sad about.
Sure you may still have feelings for him and might love him but it doesnt mean that you were good for each other. Another guy will come along and you'll hit it off and if hes not the right guy then you'll know ALOT sooner right??
good luck sweetie ; )
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